Posts by pahpi

Mine is icecream, chocolate, or brownies..

The odd time I will have a really bad craving for McD's or pizza.  I usually get a happy meal from McD's if I really crave it that bad!!

Yeah i dont know about granola bars, I used to eat nature valley apple before, but there is alot of stuff in it that I dont think would really help with weight loss.  I used to eat one almost everyday for breakfast to work, since I thought it would a quick and easy way to eat breakfast in the morning especially when I am rushing.. I wouldnt recommend that personally though.  Something that is better/healthier for your and his body would be better.. is the granola bar for breakfast or a snack?  For breakfast, I would usually pack bran flakes in a tupperware the night before and then add the milk at work (we have milk here at work which i sneak a little for my breakfast and eat it at work) otherwise he could put it in the morning and take it to go if he lives close enough to work.. or just eat it quick in the morning at home..  otherwise i would make a 12 grain bread sandwich with PB or just plain.. with a fruit or yogurt cup.. activia yogurt also keeps you full long.. as a snack pack some fruits or veg's instead or again a cup of yogurt..

roast beef and turkey for sandwiches are good.. load up the meat for him so he stays full. Also add alot of healthy snacks like pita w/ hummus or fruits/vegs..

If he really likes the nature valley bars, then stick with those, I dont know any other bars that are healthier.. I dont know what they are called, but there are these bars you can buy, which are solely made from nuts and seeds.. You wont find it in the huge grocery stores, but maybe in the international foods groceries you could find them there.. my mom buys these bars for my dad (i dont know where  she gets them from, i think its from an indian grocery store?) and they are made from nuts, seeds, and dried fruit (mangos, pineapple, apriocot etc.).. those seem like a good choice that would keep you full.. without any additives/perservatives..

I say put alot of whole grains and high fibre foods in his diet, so he is not that hungry.  Thats what I did. Lots of bran flakes, whole grain bread (not whole wheat, but the whole grain breads, they have way more fibre and are alot more filling) for the PB& J (I'd say no jelly, just PB, maybe with bananas instead if he likes, try crunchy PB instead too, for a more filling sandwich) sandwiches, eat lotssss of fruits that contain high fibres.  That would keep him fuller during the days. Also, from the foods you mention he ate recently, could mean he's not just hungry but really thirsty.  Its really easy to confuse thirst with hunger.  Tell him to drink lots of water.. Pack a bottle water with his lunch too.

Isnt it sexual harassment if I was a guy? A girl cant do that harassment thing on other women? I have never heard of such thing.

I honestly think they THINK they're being nice.  But in reality, they are just really annoying and embarrasing.  Lately, since I have posted this, I just ignore them and Ive been trying to not go to that area of the company when I can.  I think they think I'm their friend and all that.  but since the weightloss the stares its just so gross.. if i wanted to be looked at like that, i'd wear a skimpy outfit and go to a club. 

jeanyfitz - they are sooo nosey! I dont want to joke and say the sexual harrassment thing, b/c to tell you the truth i'm not sure if they would know what that means.  Lately I have been giving them looks and just ignoring them.  I just dont talk to them anymore because it's really getting to me.  And they are making fools of themselves, they are all at their desks working then head up and stare at me and holler.  I mean COME ON! They can hear me coming b/c I wear heels so they look up.  I just hate it.  But hopefully it will die down soon, they really look so stupid you're right. Like I told Lynn , i really do believe they are jealous! And I mean i didnt want to say it , but you're probably right, i'm making them look fatter.  I hate to say that.  But in reality I think thats part of it.  I feel that one of my supposed girls wont even hang out with me anymore.  Shes all of a sudden more busier then usual .  I'm not sure if its me. But everytime we talk she has to say something like you're too skinny, you've lost too much weight.  When in fact I think I am perfectly normal, I dont still have alot of fat on me.  I'm about 10 pounds away from my goal too, and my bmi is 22.5 now that is not bad all all! And I know it, its just what goes on in my mind is that " why would you be happier if i was fatter" and it kind of hurts that my own friends, or so who i thought were my friends, would think this way, and be jealous.  I do admit I feel that I look alot better, and I am dressing a whole lot better, and that may also have a part in it, but its like they are happier w/ me looking worse then them.  But they would never say it.  I just feel it.

LMAO clairesty - that was jokes (cat walk and the muttering)

Yeah I hear you on the drinking thing, I barely drink anymore either.  For one b/c its too many cal's and two b/c I cant drink as much as I did before.  which I guess is a good thing b/c we can save money then!

I can see how that can be hurtful by what the client said about the old you.  But I mean you should also try to take it as a compliment although it would hurt b/c its still you.  But in reality you were a little bigger right, but you lost weight now, you must also feel better too right? which helps.  I find that before i lost the weight (i know it wasnt alot ) but I feel 100 times better.  My confidence has just boosted so much.  And I feel better, and I actually WANT to go out, as before I would just want to hang out in old bars where no one would see me or recognize me, but now I dotn mind going out to a nice/trendy place b/c I feel better. My b/f has also seen a huge difference in my personality, and I know he can tell that I am happier now than i was before. 

lol - i still cant get over that ..... "dried up old hags" LOL. oh man, if someone heard that muttered.  that'd be bad.

lynnhaslost - Yes I totally agree with everything you said! Regarding my friends, most of us are just a little overweight like maybe 15 pounds or so, not too bad, but I was one of the ones who put on the most and now that I am skinner I think that they might find it hard to see me doing so well that they are like, oh you're too skinny.  But i'm not!!! I really am not.  But in then end I am doing this for me and my health since my family has an overweight problem all the women are overweight, especially my mom and grand mother so I dont want to fall in that boat.  So i'd rather take care of it now.  But just the comments they make, it just upsetting, not all of them are like this just the few who actually want to lose the weight but are having a hard time, I have tried to help them but they dont listen, and their comments, they dont sound bad, but its the tone they use.  Like well i need to lose weight, but i dont want to be THAT skinny.  And then they look at me, and my body. But I dont look skinny and I believe I dont look bad.  Everyone else has been giving me great feedback, its just so hard to hear it from people you think are your friends.  But I do feel great.  Before I could barely walk for that long, when me and my b/f went on vacation i would always stop walking every 15 minutes and tell him I need to take a break.  But he is more athletic so he has no problem.  But now I feel great and I can walk for hours.  Thank you though, youre right I shouldnt let it get to me. Its just hard to ignore.

Wow you're definately not the only one Infinateheart!  I know exactly what you mean.  EVERYTIME my b/f and I went shopping together I would walk out literally crying.  We went on vacation one time, to Montreal and I wanted to shop there, and i felt the same way there, and I stopped walking, and walked over to the side and was crying to him about how they are so skinny and I feel stupid walking in there.  To make matters worse... most girls find comfort in shoes. but with me i have wide feet so all the sexy shoes i want to wear and other girls my age (mid-20's ) wear , dont fit me. 

The suggestion given were great! Honestly for me, one day I was like you know what I dont want to do this anymore.  I want to feel good and shop like everyone else instead of walking out crying.  So I just didnt go to the malls or stores. and I concentrated on ME.  This is when I decided to join the gym, eat right and get support from CC.  Since then i've lost 15 and now when I go shopping I feel great. And I dont care anymore that i'm not skinny like those girls.  i feel so much better now, that i have that confidence back.  that I can walk into ANY store at this point and not feel like an idoit.  I still find clothes that dont fit right , that may look better on a skinner body but its come to a point now that it doesnt matter, b/c  I have come to realize that I cant look like them even if i tried, but why would i want to now anyways, I like the way I look.  So I think building that self confidence up first would help you out alot.  I have a friend who is a size 0 i could never go shopping with her b/c she looked so skinny and i felt fatter than ever.  but now we are still alot different in sizes ( I only dropped 1 size), but i'm okay with it now, i dont feel like i did before. So even if you may never look like these women.  its okay.  b/c you would have that self-confidence..

Thanks Cowenc.. i have to put myself back on track... your advice was helpful!

Good question! One that I have been meaning to post too! I have lost 15 pounds and i have about 7 or so more to go now.  None of my pants fit me at all! My tops fit, some are too big, but most still work, although with pants, NOT ONE fit.  I've been wearing skirts to work, and leggings when I go out.  But I wasnt sure if i should wait a certian period of time too see if the weight is maintained before i buy the new clothes.. I think the thrift store is a great idea or like Winners (Target) would be a good idea... I bought a pair of really fitted jeans about a month ago and now they dont fit! That was a difference of only a few pounds...

I'd say thrift store would be best until you're at your weightloss goal and its maintained for a couple of months.

Now i need to find a good thrift store!

Thanks guys.. that really helps.. i think that I need to stay on track now.. and not splurge too many times.. because it has gotten to that point now where every other day i'm like well its okay to have a peice of cake, or a slice or two of pizza, or whatever it may be, b/c i've lost this weight, i still go to the gym.. but..  Variety is a great idea.. I need to try new things, to make it more appealing to eat.  and I hate those mythical people you speak of that eat sooo much and not gain a pound.  I have this one friend who can eat a whole big mac meal, and it wont effect her. The other day we went out for dinner, she ate a large bowl of creamy pasta and bread, with ice tea!! I have known her for about 10 years now and she eats alot, she doesnt have an ED either.  But she is soo skinny, its ridiculous and she can eat whatever... I have to remember though that I am not like her and that i cant eat just anything i want!!

When I was a kid, my parents had all these married friends and their kids and we were all family friends.  This boy (family friend who was one year older) used to call me Wally when I was a little kid.  (short for walrus) and I used to hate going to family friends birthday parties and get togethers and bbqs and i would cry and cry and tell my parents I dont want to go, and I wouldnt want to go anywhere where they were, but I was kind of forced to go.  My parents didnt know what was happening..  I will never forget that.  On top of that.  The girls in the group were ALLL skinny skinny girls and wouldnt be my friend, b/c that boy was the "cool" one so if I was a "Wally" no one would talk to me.  And it really scarred me even to this day.  As we got older I never talked to him, and we still never spoke a word to this day.  I dont think I could ever confront him or even speak to him b/c he hurt me so much as a child and i know now that he probably wouldnt even remember even if i did mention it.  But it hurt my self esteem so much and took a real tole on it until i was about 14 years old.  I still thought about it and still sometimes do after that.  It was a really bad time when I was a child since we all went to the SAME school, the SAME church.  So no one would talk to me b/c he would make fun of them for playing w/ "Wally". it hurt so bad. :'(

Hi Feanor - thanks for that response.

Well i told him sorry i didnt mean to. and the thing was the beginning of our convo was good.. so i dont know.

right now he and my boss are talking. and i hope it goes okay so that i dont loose a friend , especially one i see everyday.

I really wish i didnt say anything now :(

I dont really like her THAT much b/c i find shes rude on the phone and she acts like shes better than everyone which I hate. and so i get angry when she calls the office ( I answer the calls) and then shes so rude? and then he talked to her yesterday and she was sooo FAKE nice. and i was just like why? I dont know. I just dont want to be on bad terms with people

Thanks guys! So that really helps me out.. Right now I am about 134 (I have lost another pound since I posted this thread.

I do agree though, I guess it does really depend on your body size.  I still have some weight I would like to lose around my mid-section, abdominal area.  So i think around 125-130 would be a good weight for me.  Its just discouraging when people are telling you, that you're over doing it.  I thought it could be either because of jealously or maybe because they are just used to seeing me a certian way and they dont want me to change.  I dont know.  But just the fact that 3-4 different people friends, family, and from work, were literally telling me " no thats enough"

But it is really good to see that people have the same goals as me, and not only that but we all have goals that we would like to attain in order to be happy with our bodies and the image we project. 

Keep at it everyone! :)

Wow thanks for your posts everyone! Well here is the reason why I am asking this question. My highest weight at 5'5" was 156, when I started CC i was 150-ish. So far I have lost 15 pounds and am now at 135. Alot of people have noticed my weightloss and when I tell my family/friends that I have 5 or so more pounds to go they think that I shouldnt. but I still have fat on my body that I would like to get rid of.. In high school i was about 120 or so. So I mean I would like to get down to at least 130 maybe a few pounds less than that even and then tone up more. I just wanted to see if others had similar goals as me. Its just frustrating when you have goals and you want to look a certian way and then like 4 different people have told me not to.. all in ONE day!! I was like why not?? Just a little frustrated. Anyone have any opinions?