Posts by mrskeith

Welcome to Viczan and Damsell300!!

I haven't been on CC in a couple of months due to family issues, but I'm back now.... and with only 2 1/2 months to go before the wedding!!!!  Yikes!!!

Viczan - Good luck with the maintenance.... sounds like you've been doing great the last few years, so it shouldn't be too difficult.....  plus the costs of alterations should be plenty of incentive to keep you on track!!!

Damsell300 - Seriously... Please don't stress so much about the size of your gown... from personal experience, most gowns run really small anyways.... and once you get it on, no one is going to know what size it is so don't stress about it... it's just a number.... as long as the dress makes you feel beautiful that's all that should matter.... I did a lot of shopping before ordering my gown and it was the next to last one I tried on and I knew it the moment I stepped in front of the mirror cause I started crying so hard I couldn't even see myself!!!  talk about an emotional moment!!!  lol

as I said before, I've only got 2 1/2 months to go and I honestly haven't lost ANY weight like I was planning to  ... well maybe about 5 pounds, but it's not like anyone can really tell..... I've also worried about looking like a fat cow on my special day, but I've had to make myself understand that I've always been overweight so as long as I keep working at moving in the right direction I'm on the right track..... for me, it's more of a mental thing and learning to accept myself for who I am is the first step I have to overcome.....

I wish everyone lots of luck in reaching your goals!!!!!

quick question for everyone..... since we're paying for the entire wedding and reception ourselves, money is obviously tight.... does anyone have any ideas on cheap (and I mean like less than $10 cheap) gifts for the groomsmen?  We got my bridesmaids necklace and earring sets real cheap from this great website I found (they are gorgeous!!!!), but we can't come up with any ideas for the guys... any thoughts?  by the way, we can't go with anything alcohol or tobacco related since my hubby-to-be is an ordained reverend.....

Thanks everyone for your suggestions on indoor exercise ideas for these incredibly cold days!! 

 Josette - I so totally understand what your saying and agree that all the numbers, food, fat, etc are just the symptoms of much deeper issues.... I can't speak for everyone on here, but I know that I have personally suffered from depression more than one in my life..... add to that a traumatic childhood and a grandmother who would push food on me and make me eat it (you know we all grew up with the "clean your plate" mentality)..... I do believe that there are deep rooted emotional issues that need to be dealt with before I can truly get my weight and health under control.... otherwise, I'm just going to end up falling off the wagon and or just giving up for whatever reason.... who can honestly admit that they haven't beaten themselves up emotionally for eating something they shouldn't have or binged on something and then later regretted it??  I believe that until I can understand the emotional cause of why I eat so much, I will never be able to completely take control of my life and my health..... gee, I think I just had a breakthru right then.... it's a control issue and I don't seem to have any!!!!!! 

Congrats lemntwist!!!!!!  that's a first big step.... I've now learned from experience that you can never get something arranged too soon!!!  trust me, don't wait until the last minute for anything!!  I've got 4 1/2 months left and really thought I was doing great with all the planning.... my coordinator has been out of town with a family emergency... she called to explain and told me that we were good with everything.... all I had to do was get my bridesmaids to the shop and pick out what they would be wearing.... I about fell over when the saleslady looked at my wedding date and said "oh my, we'll have to order next week to have these in time".... I about fell over since I really wasn't expecting to have to decide everything so fast... I really hate being rushed about major stuff like that!!!  But luckly the saleslady was extremely nice and helpful and my bridesmaids actually picked something out and agreed on it... and I approve!!  we were there for just about an hour and I'm really happy with the dresses we picked!!  My coordinator is back in town now.... Thank God!!!!  and we're going to sit down next week to make sure we aren't behind on anything else... just to set my nerves at ease!!!!!

How's everyone else's plans coming?  everyone has been so quiet on here lately!!

Happy Weekend to everyone!!!

so I haven't done so great the last 3 days.... I've been eatting whatever is around and not really worried about much of anything.... and let me tell you it's been terrible!!!!  I've been so stressed and frustrated.... every little thing has been sending me over the edge!!  But I finally had a healthy, decent meal for dinner last night and I woke up in a much better mood this morning!!  It's amazing what junk food can do to you without you even noticing... I'm really shocked!!!  I had been "off" all week and I just couldn't figure out why... I was cranky and irritable and frustrated with the littlest things.... but I just couldn't put my finger on what the problem was.... my fiance and I were discussing it while we were making dinner last night and I honestly couldn't explain to him what I was going thru, but we did determine that we hadn't cooked dinner ALL week... that's extremely odd for us since we usually cook every night.  Well, I can't really explain it but after a great home cooked, healthy dinner I woke up this morning with more energy than I've had in days... and in a MUCH better mood!!!!  I'm not sure if it's entirely because of the food or not, but that's the only thing I can think of that has changed.  Has anyone else ever noticed this kind of pattern?

Anyway, I'm glad that everyone seems to be feeling better and getting over your illnesses.  And I agree that winter is going to be hard for all of us... but we can keep each other encouraged and we WILL get to our goals!!

Ginny - at least you have the right attitude regarding your hubby!  just hang in there and keep reminding yourself that it will all work out.... not sure when or how, but it WILL work out!!!  Also, consider yourself lucky that your hubby at least seems to care and is probably trying as hard as he knows how to "fix" everything... speaking from experience, a lot of fathers/guys just don't care and wont' even try to understand how difficult it is trying to raise a special needs kid... I agree with Val that venting to your friends is always a good place to start when it comes to relieving stress... so vent away... we're here to listen!!

 Congrats to everyone!!!

 I'm not recently engaged (have been a little over a year now), but our wedding is FAST approaching.  We're getting married in March 2008.... only 4 1/2 short months away!!!!!  The last year has been crazy... if I had it to live over again I would have started planning a LONG time before we did... that and start making payments on stuff!!!  geez everything is SOOOO expensive!!

I'm 5'8" and currently weigh around 225 or so (not sure since I don't own a scale).  I've been in the 200s since high school and really can't even picture myself any smaller... guess I've just gotten used to it.  But my short term goal is to be under 200 by the wedding... I'm hoping I can make it!!  My long term goal is 160 I think.... I'm not really set on a specific number as long as I think I look good.

I agree that we can help keep each other motivated so that we can meet our goals by our weddings..... anyway, who doesn't want to look super sexy on that big day?!!?!?!!? 

Thanks for the encouragement Ginny!!!  I know our situations are different, but I completely understand what your feeling with Trevor.... you want to provide the best help available for your son, but you don't want him to feel like you are abandoning him.... I've been thru it with Zak... I had to hospitalize him about 2 years ago for about 3 months.  It was the hardest thing I've ever had to do in my entire life... and he still won't let it go.  I know it was for the best and they did manage to get his meds under control, but he still feels like I did it to get rid of him.  He's only 12 now, but his "episodes" seem to be getting worse and worse and I just know in my heart that eventually it will get to the point where I just can't give him what he needs at home....  I've cried myself to sleep numerous nights just thinking about it. 

I guess I'm saying all this to say that I can understand what your going thru.... I don't think that being the mom of a special needs child was ever meant to be easy, but here's a little something that I try to tell myself when I'm feeling down.... I'm not sure if you are a religious woman or not, so if you aren't I hope I don't offend you....

God doesn't make mistakes!!!!  God knows each of us before we are even conceived and if He gave you a "special" gift as a child that just means that He knows that you are capable of handling whatever situation comes your way.   And if He says you can do it... who are we to question that?

Call your local hospital and ask to speak to a dietician.  Those are the people who work with the patients when they need to be put on special diets or whatever.   Explain your situation and see what advice they can give you.  They should either be able to answer your questions or at least point you in the right direction.  Regardless, DON'T GIVE UP until you feel like you get the answers you need!!

If that doesn't get you anywhere, most larger cities have a Nurse Help Line or Ask-A-Nurse number or something like that listed in the phone book.  They might have some ideas on where you could go.

I'm sorry that your parents don't seem to understand.  I've never had an eating disorder, but I do know how serious they can get.  I have a 14 year old daughter and I would do anything possible I could to help her if she was in your situation.  It sounds like your school nurse is concerned and willing to help, too bad you just kept getting the run around.  Just hang in there and don't give up!!! 

I don't really have much of an exercise plan, but I try to get in as much exercise as possible... even though that hasn't been working all that well lately because of scheduling.  My fiance and I have been sharing a car for the last couple of weeks since his died... and he works really weird hours so between my own job, my kids and getting him back and forth to work, I haven't been able to find time to get much in.  But he just made a down payment on a new car, so life will get back to normal next week. 

However, I have been faithful to using my hand weights and working on my arms and shoulders... gotta get the arm flab under control for that strapless gown I have picked out!!!!

Thanks for all the welcoming encouragement!

Lacy - I'm glad your boyfriend is there for support, but I know how you feel.  My fiance and I are both in this "lifestyle change" together also... trying to get super sexy for the wedding... and the honeymoon of course!!!   But I think being on here is going to help a ton also.  We've only been on CC for a month today and my fiance is already already doing so much better than I am.... it's so discouraging sometimes since guys have a LOT easier time loosing than us females.... it's just not fair!!!  But as long as we stick together, we will eventually get to where we want to be!!!

Val - Thanks for the enouragement!!!  I got a question for you though (or anyone else who might want to chime in) - how long did it take your daughter to "love" the healthier food choices?  I've got 3 kids (2 of whom are significantly overweight) and I really want them to make these changes with me.... but they just won't give up all the junk food.  Everytime I make something new a meal they just turn their noses up and won't even try it... it's such a struggle!!  For 2 weeks now I haven't bought a single item that would be consider junk (pop, chips, cookies, candy, etc) and my kids complain daily that "there's NOTHING in the house to eat!!!"  I always suggest a piece of fruit or yogurt or something, but they just get upset and go to a friends for a snack.... any suggestions on how to get them on the bandwagon?!?!?!!?!

Hi everyone!  I'm fairly new to CC and I'm still trying to figure out all of this stuff.  I found this website while searching the rnet trying to find a better, healthier lifestyle... I so hate the word "diet"!!!!   I'm 5'8" and currently about 227 pounds... at least that's where I was about 3 months ago when I went to the doctor... I don't own a scale and really have no desire to buy one.  My goal is 160 maybe... not really sure since I've been over 200 since high school... my highest being at 278 when I was pregnant with my first.  I'm so used to seeing myself as fat that I don't even know what I would look like that small!!!  My doctor says that I'm in good health except for being overweight... but since diabetes, high blood pressure AND heart diesease run in my family I decided that it's time for me to make some changes before it's too late.