Posts by kittyisaround

Actual vaginal intercourse? Every other day is fine and happening.

The rest of the time anal sex and all other fun activities :)

Get it when I want it. ;)

Original Post by armandleg:

Original Post by kittyisaround:

Original Post by huggitbear:

Well, if you are really sure and serious about never wanting kids, have you thought about sterilization?  I am not talking about doing it to "stick it to him," I mean if it's something you really want, maybe that's something to think about.  If you're really serious and it's a decision you want to make for yourself, it would send a very clear message to him, there would be no hoping on his part.  He would have to accept it or leave.  That is a decision you would have to make with only yourself in mind though, not to solve this problem only.

@Hug - I like your answer but I s'pose the TO isn't over 35. I don't know how the rules are in other countries but in the two I lived you either had to have kids already or be over 35 to get sterilized.

But it's possible for men to get a vasctomy earlier (not fair but oh well..), and it is reverseable.

But I guess her hub-to-be wouldn't agree to that

With enough shopping around in the States, one can find a doctor that'll sterilize you even if you are younger than 35 and have no kids. In fact, many of the childfree have managed to do just that--or get IUD's placed (which a lot of doctors won't do if you haven't had a child yet). It would take quite a bit of work, though, to find a doctor that was completely comfortable with the idea of sterilizing someone young.

It all depends on the area she's in, too.

Oh ok I hadn't know that. I tried to find someone in both countries I lived/live in (Germany & Australia) and they all refuse to... maybe I should give the US a try ;)

[But we just came to the desicion that BF getting a vasectomy is much easier anyway, so woot for that alternative]

Original Post by huggitbear:

Well, if you are really sure and serious about never wanting kids, have you thought about sterilization?  I am not talking about doing it to "stick it to him," I mean if it's something you really want, maybe that's something to think about.  If you're really serious and it's a decision you want to make for yourself, it would send a very clear message to him, there would be no hoping on his part.  He would have to accept it or leave.  That is a decision you would have to make with only yourself in mind though, not to solve this problem only.

@Hug - I like your answer but I s'pose the TO isn't over 35. I don't know how the rules are in other countries but in the two I lived you either had to have kids already or be over 35 to get sterilized.

But it's possible for men to get a vasctomy earlier (not fair but oh well..), and it is reverseable.

But I guess her hub-to-be wouldn't agree to that

Don't ask if you can't stand an answer that isn't what you expected!

(Phew, thanks for that thread, I needed to say that somewhere )

Religion is something people need to comfort themselfs.

They either have religion ingrained from their families or had trouble in later life and "found to god". Alot of people don't understand that science isn't definite, so they rather believe contradicting stories of "holy" books. Some people say they lack "miracles and wonder" without religion. Because they never researched how amazing science is.

I trust in science and reason, therefore I am an Atheist.

Easy.

Tell him again - no way will I get a kid. If he doesn't get it, don't marry him.

Tell him that he can't spend money frivoulously. If he doesn't get it, don't marry him.

For his need of something to play with - get a dog. I'm not mocking, I'm serious. A pet takes responsibility and is a playing partner. Will have him satisfied in that area and make him more responsible.

But really, think about if you are totally sure you want to marry someone irresponsible, not agreeing with you on major desicions who can't handle money. Ask youself if you want to marry him because he is really the right person or because you got used to him. No offense.

Best of luck.

Original Post by huggitbear:

I can't sleep for more than a couple of hours at a time because I have to get up and pee or eat or turn over.  I can't get to sleep, I can't stay asleep.  I'm exhausted all the time but can't get any rest.

I get itchy all over my body.

I'm so frustrated and uncomfortable it makes me cry.  How do you get through it??  It wouldn't be so bad if I could take care of myself and do the things I need to do to feel better (i.e. nap, rest, distract myself), but I can't do that at work.  It's getting to where I absolutely dread going.

You are aware that you are pregnant and that you'll soon have a kid that will keep you awake, take most of your time, keep you from resting all of the time?

I don't wanna say "get used to it" but really, if you think your problems aren't just normal pregnancy issues, see a doctor. If he tells you that it's pregnancy specific, well, ... deal?

Original Post by jblarghp:

Soooo, I just got back from the club...

Ugh, I HATE CLUBS.

Yea, I'm a little tipsy/more than tipsy..so excuse my grammar....I know how hardcore some people are about grammar on these sites.

I'm just annoyed. Whenever I go to clubs, I just get looked up and down, and then some nasty -A - guys try to grind w/me...which I'm completely NOT interested in.

Where do you go to find the guys that want to talk about quantum physics, GOOD music-like punk rock/OLD school punk rock. Someone who knows a thing or two about m-theory...I mean, I'm just FED UP. Maybe I'm too cynical, but I just think there has to be some guys out there that have 1/2 a brain. There has to be a guy or 2 that are more interested in personality than how much cleavage I'm showing right???? This is just depressing.

blargh....

This is a rant, a horrible rant, I appologize to ANYONE that has read this.

SORRY :).

Very simple, you visit the wrong clubs. You are into punk? Why the heck do you go to a normal club then? Ever visited a Demo? Well you should!

And there is that loverly new invention...the internet ;) Get on websites concerning your interests and and discuss a bit with some people, it isn't that unlikely that you find someone that is what you are looking for.

I found my current BF by accident on a musicwebsite. He lives on the other wisde of the world - who would have thought?

Another important tip: be yourself, don't costume yourself, don't put heaps of makeup on, don't wear highheels if you want a guy who likes you in his big tshirt, fluffy hair and makeupless in the mornings. Also don't do sweettalk if you want a guy to love you for your intellegence. I found that with my female friends, that is their biggest mistake.

Original Post by p0nda:

Just on the subject of the top 7 countries, I don't think it's fair to use BMI on Pacific Islanders; I see them as the other end equivalent of using BMI on Asian people. Where the Japanese BMI cut off for overweight has been shifted to 23.5, it is my opinion that Pacific Islander "healthy BMI" should have a higher cut off than white folk. Pacific Islanders are big people. Like, really big.

One of my good friends is Nuiean, 6'4" tall, 300lbs and is not what I would consider fat. My high school was over 50% Pacific Islanders and they were bigger than the rest of us, not necessarily taller, but just bigger. Don't get me wrong, there are a lot of overweight Pacific Islanders, but they also have bigger bones and greater bone density than Pakehas, so they are naturally heavier people. Also the top 7 countries represent less than 500,000 people combined (Nuie has a population of less than 1,500).

Just my 2c.

It might be true that they have bigger bones but it is very very true that the new generation of pacifics are unable to eat well since coca cola and such invaded their diet. When 94% of them have a BMI over 30 (!) it can't be just because of their big bones.

It is because obesity stand for wealth in those countries. Every second (in younger years every thrid) citizien of Nauru has diabetes. That isn't because of their big bones, that is because they eat very big portions and very very fatty.

The reason for this high diabetes rate is the fact that alot of hunger was present throughout its history and the genetic code of the people changed to "alarmed for the next hunger period". So their genes make them become fat easily.

But the people don't suffer hunger anymore and still eat alot and very fatty so they gain very easiely and constantly. Nauru is the country with the highest diabetes percentage in the world. Closely followed by the pacific countries on the list.

Bones arn't the explaination for everything.

Original Post by gurlywurly:

 And don't even get me started on the potatoes! Our national food, they seem to be eaten by the bucket load in every house!

Another thing that contributes to the growing rate of obesity here (and in many other countries), is the fact that kids have replaced playing soccer and GAA with computer and playstation games. There is a huge field by my house. My dad, who grew up around here, said that 30 years ago, when he was younger, this field was packed to the brim with kids playing. According to him, you would not go home to have your dinner until you had finished playing for the day, otherwise your 'space' would be taken over. Now, this field is virtually deserted. It's sad! Sometimes I wish I lived in the 'old days.'

The potatoe thing we totally have in common... (I mean Ireland & Germany) I just realized by my Irelandtrip (btw GREAT COUNTRY! I just didn't understand the accents :P) that you guys don't drown you potatoes in gravvy. We tend to do that...

And I t5hink the videogame thing is a good point. When I think about how much I played outside as a kid (and I'm only 23) and how damn less my nephew (6yrs) plays outside...a serious difference and my parents already told me that I "hardly went out" as a kid, compared to them.

Well I guess it really depends on the um...space a country has. Australia, as it was used as an example above me, just has really less people for so much space and I don't see that much obesed people there, probably because of that.

I'm in germany atm and the interesting part here is, that more men than women are obesed. It's the opposite in the US as much as I know.

Well anyway, I believe with no doubt that in (a lot) of countries the obesityrates are high but really SEEING seriously obesed people on street, seems to be an american thing. I never saw somebody using a scooter to get around anywhere else but in the US, but I realized that countries with a lot of space have a higher percentage of fat people - probably through the fact that you can't reach places without a car so easily.

But well the point of the video was the acceptance of fat people, and I still don't see the use in that...

sorry for rambling

Original Post by alibsam:

Can't agree. I see various chubby people but really FAT people? Real obesity? No. If every third person crossing my way would be obesed I would call it common but that isn't the case.

Regardless. It's like some 75% of Americans are overweight. I'd say that's a problem.

True - sure I can still say that I don't see that, since I'm not American :)

I would post pictures about my definition of what overweight, chubby, fat and obesed is...but that would be tasteless.

Original Post by alibsam:

Accepting something that isn't common never worked in history

I'd say obesity is running rampant... It IS common.

Can't agree. I see various chubby people but really FAT people? Real obesity? No. If every third person crossing my way would be obesed I would call it common but that isn't the case.

1. What time did you get up this morning?

You mean afternoon, right? 2pm Central European Time

2. What did you wear today?

blue skating pants and a giant XXL t-shirt with a lime green zombie on it

3. Who did you talk to on the phone today?

I wasn't on the phone at all today :)

4. What did you make for supper tonight?

a healthy version of spaghetti bolognese, even though I used some red wine *coughs*

5. What one show did you watch on TV today that you love?

Scrubs! WOOT!

6. What song did you sing to today?

the DUCKTALES theme song :D (no I'm older than 12 :P)

7. What did you learn about good health today?

that red wine has HEAPS of calories!

8. What did you put off today until tomorrow?

cleaning my desk :/

9. What are you going to do different tomorrow about your health or healthy eating?

I plan to invate the supermarket to get some new veggies (used all up) and I will NOT use redwine :)

10. Who did you hug today?

Elisabeth, my best female friend.

The problem about those topics is - it won't work. Accepting something that isn't common never worked in history and especially won't work when it's about unhealthy things. It might be possible to accept someone for his personality but not for his unhealthy bodyshape. That is like trying to accept drugabuse.

And the two groups - skinny and fat people, will never come on one path since both argument with them being "at least not a ..." (put in "skeleton" or "whale"), people with a healthy weight will always be seeing only "he's fat" or "he's skinny", because that is true compared to them.

If tomorrow people with green hair would be walking around because they drank too much orangejuice and it would be well known that this is unhealthy, they would try to find acceptance too and it would fail in the same way.