Posts by e-runs-with-scissors

Good for you! Have a good time! And congrats on the med school ;) I am also a health care provider here in the states...

How much more time do you have in shcool? Party it up!! I know you must be stressed!

Original Post by caloricat:

Maybe I've just never been so devoid of friends that I ever humored the idea of trying to make friends with half naked old men at the gym.  Maybe if I were in that situation, I'd be the same way.  Hard to say.

There is only one guy at the gym that I''m happy to see...that I actually don't mind talking to...and that's this guy that runs laps.  I think he's gay becuase he looks gay.  The only reason I like to talk to him is we both run and he's been running alot longer than me.  Last time I saw him he sort of brushed me off.  Maybe not.  Or maybe he was in a hurry.  Or maybe he realized I was hetero and his whole "friendliness" up until that point was to try to hook up.  I don't know.  I've never seen myself as a person who gays would find attractive, but maybe he's desperate.  He looks kind've desperate.

Holy cow! I was on your side till I read this! I am laughing at your words, cause I can't believe you actually wrote this. Sounds so insensitive! Wow... but at least you admit someone would be desperate to want to talk to you hahahahahahahaha!

I despise Vicky... she's just awful in every way. And I agree her husband is a douche! Yep the game is quite interesting these days... I hope Vivki gains all her weight back after she leaves the show!

Are you saying you're not good looking? If that's you in your pic I beg to differ ;)

It was funny how you said it was easier for women because if a woman connects with a guy, then that guy met someone... right? So for every woman connecting a guy does, too. Don't know if what I'm trying to say makes sense.

I also think it's the same for wome, too, though. Since internet is looking at pics first, I think people definitely go toward the more attractive woman, too. And because it's internet, and people feel more able to be open and honest (and thus sometimes rude) they are more willing to go after someone they find more attractive they might not feel comfortable going after face to face.

I hope that all made sense. Anyway, I am a proponent of online meeting, though, since that's how I met my future husband... we're two years and going strong!!

I understand the self-loathing. Definitely comes and goes for me. Even just in a day, I can go from feeling good to feeling like s*#!. It's not as easy as "just getting over it". Wish it were.

I think you look amazing, and you should believe me when I tell you you have a great body :) Hope that helps some...

Right on, toewilson.... way to take this post and make it about yourself.

98lb at 4'11" is actually NORMAL BMI, not underweight. If I told you I was counting calories at 140lbs that would be ok? What is I was 6'0"? (that would put me at an underweight BMI, hint hint).

I guess you can say one doesn't have to count calories if they're 98 lbs, but if she doesn't, how do you know she won't balloon up?

And you can't possibly know how serious someone takes life just from one post. We obviously don't all read the books you do, so we're not all knowledgable about the "comedians" you are.

That being said... let's all have a drink ;) *cheers*

I met mine before, and I'm glad. I was unable to run very well (used to be marathon runner) due to a fracture and surgery with lot's of hardware in my leg. I recently got the hardware out, and am back to competative running, and now he's gotten to see how disciplined and determined I can be. And how fast I can shape up when it's the right motivation ;)

I actually wrote enter your support team because I thought I might get internet jumped for writing again.

I'm not saying you can't understand because you haven't been fat enough. I'm saying you can't understand because you have never had an eating disorder. People have a very difficult time understanding- or even attempting to understand- someone with disordered eating. They want to blame them for jsut not knowing how to eat, when most people's real issue isn't really about the food at all. 

People with disordered eating many times have had severe problems with depression, anxiety, panic, abuse... etc. It's about finding control over something in a world where we can't control extreme stressors. So, it isn't someone jsut being an idiot slob that refuses to put down a fork, or can't figure out how. It's just more complicated... thus we don't make it complicated... it already IS.

coach, this is exactly what i was trying to say.  i think it's pretty clear that i just wasn't fat enough to have anything useful to contribute.

Not inflammatory at all to say something like this. Poor, PG, everyone's picking on you! Cause you're not fat.

Original Post by pgeorgian:

i'm not telling you what to do.  you said this isn't helpful.  no sweat - it's optional.  go somewhere that's helpful.  you want a different kind of support, right?  so why wouldn't you go find it?

if you don't want a response, don't quote my posts and respond with mini-essays critiquing my argument.  i believe what that i say is true for some people {shrug}.

Exactly! Shrug! Like I said you shrug comments off that aren't in agreement with yours. I thought the point of a forum was to share opinions. My mini-essay was just that. I guess I didn't realize this was an "agree with me or else leave" situation.

I am glad you have gotten so many pm's thanking you for clarification of the obvious. Actually, this is becoming quite entertaining for me. So, instead of thanking you in a pm, I will thank you on your eye opening forum.. so thanks! For the entertainment, I mean ;)

Original Post by pgeorgian:

 

buying into the idea that you're powerless over food is not helpful!  listen, we all have the tendency to engage in self-destructive behaviours when we're stressed, unhappy (happy), lonely, etc.  some of us eat; some starve ourselves; some over-exercise; some don't get out of bed; some drink or use drugs; some isolate; some bury ourselves in work. 

we have a choice to make: call that a disease and decide it's who we are, or call it a bad habit and exchange it for something else.  the way we think about things has immense power.  why choose the thought pattern that describes you as powerless?

Wow, I really wanted to quote just about everything you've said on here and comment, but that would take too long, and I can tell you wouldn't really take anything to heart, as some people have made some great points and you continually shrug them off.

I am amazed you would say that you don't imply to understand others' struggles, but you ARE implying that if you're going to tell them their "choice" is easy. If you know their choice is easy, then you imply you understand their struggle, or else you wouldn't say it was easy. Of course we all have a choice and free will. Doesn't make it easy to do the things we want or know we should, or we'd all be perfect.

Also, if you've never been addicted to food, then you can't say it isn't an addiction. And there's nothing wrong with saying it is. That doesn't give people an excuse. Instead it gives them reason to realize they can seek support, which is what this forum SHOULD be sticky-ing threads for... not nonsense "advice" like yours. The first step in an addiction is to admit your powerless and reach out for a higher power... and it works for millions.

Telling people they should be smarter than to keep eating is not what works, and certainly not supportive.

There's so much I dislike, but I like this site more than I dislike it. And I do avoid subjects I don't like.

But the thing that I just can't get over is the improper spelling of "lose" (ALWAYS mispelled loose). I just can't get over it! I guess that makes it my problem... get over it, right?!

Original Post by meredithmilner:

Hey -- Finally got around to searching for PAs on this forum too!  I'm proud to say I am a PA! (Graduated a month ago-- been a long road!)  Currently job searching.  Where ya what, what ya doing, hows it going?!

Awesome! Glad to know there's at least ONE other. I live in Phoenix AZ and I work specifically with liver disease. I graduated one year ago. This specialty can be depressing, but there are certainly rewarding days, too. I work for the underserved and illegals at the county hospital... what are your plans?!

Sorry about things... can't you go back to school? Would put your loans back into repayment.

I'm sure someone already suggested that, but I didn't read the replies :P

Glad you're still on here for the weight loss. I guess this is one of those times you say "Things totally suck so I'm going to go bust my a*# working out and losing weight and taking control of the things I can!"

At least that is what works for me ;)

Good luck to you!

Original Post by megsambit:

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This website is the absolute best! I have used it for a few years now, and highly recommend it.