Posts by freshbakedpi

Original Post by nikebowler:

You need at least SOME whole grains in your diet.

No you don't.

Yes, low carb should be high protein high fat.

So parenting is crazy. Everyone has ideas & their either validated when it works for them or it doesn't work and they continue to do it & hate parenting or they try something else. I'm in the latter boat.

I am sure you are going to get a million peices of advice.

Mine is to tell her "no hit" just like you are & then redirect. If she keeps us & throws a fit, then it's time to have a "time out" in a safe place where she can calm down.

For us, that's her bedroom. We totally ignore our kid when she screams & go in when she's gotten it all out, but she's older (almost 3). When she was younger we had a 1-2 minute rule depending on how out of control she was.

Also, if there's a way to move the dining room chairs out so she can't climb up them then you might prevent that problem before it starts. I totally know you can't childproof everything. My daughter was really creative.

My daughter is almost 3 and sometimes she does like timeout. I don't see a problem with it, because she's still calming down just like she should. She's figuring out ways to help herself calm down & feel better = win for all of us.  I used to make her sit on her bed as punishment, but then I changed my mind. Now she just needs to stay in her room until she's calm.

We don't use it as a punishment per say, we use it as a tool to help her calm down when she's defiant, out of control and we can't reason with her. We try those 3 first so we can encourage her to use her words when she's upset.

She's also older, though. When she was younger we kept it simple. "Don't hit, hitting hurts" etc are easier for babies to understand.

Anyway, good luck. I'm of the philosophy "do what it takes." Try different things, see what works, when it stops working change it.

Yeah, they print whether it's "unsweetened" on the front of the carton. The calories are also printed on the front of the carton. 40 calories = unsweetened (Splenda) 60 calories = sweetened.

I buy mine at Rite Aid for $1, but until I suggested it they only offered the plain unsweetened. Now they have Vanilla & Chocolate unsweetned too, & apparently it's worked out for them because they have a high turnover of it (with old stocks of the sweetened version) 

Anyway, it's about $3 at my grocery stores. I couldn't justify that budget wise.

I don't know how it is by you, but produce in my regular grocery store chains is totally inflated. I cut my produce bill by almost 75% by buying at a produce stand/ethnic market. Bananas are $.07 per pound there. We eat a LOT of bananas.

The majority of shoppers at the market are ethnic minorities in Seattle. My neighborhood is pretty "crunchy." I bet most of the people in my neighborhood are spending a lot on produce, especially organic produce, whether that's at a chain market or a co-op.

Also, whole grain breads here are much more expensive than wonderbread. I can only speak for Seattle, but a good whole grain bread is 3x the cost of generic bread.

I also buy my bread at the ethnic market, but man. Most people don't.

It's not just diet products, you know? I could buy a box of frozen pizza for less than I would spend on the ingredients.

I did an "experiment" last year to see if we could "survive" only buying local. I ended up spending less, but it was quite an adjustment. The produce & products at the farmers market cost more than their supermarket equivalents, but since there are no convenience foods or discretions available I saved the amount I would spend on them.

It also meant, though, that we consumed less all around, to the point we felt deprived. When you pay $7 for a dozen eggs, $10 for a lamb shank and $5 for a loaf of bread, you don't exactly want to eat through it.

Regardless I'm tempted to retry the experiement in a different ratio (maybe 50% local) now that we're already used to "going without" discretions. Those eggs are the best eggs I've ever had, but um... we go through a lot of eggs.

Yeah, I could totally feel it. They said I'd notice it less, but I always noticed it. I never noticed it any less. I'm sure everyone is different... because otherwise nobody would have the things.

The good news is that when I had enough, I had it removed. 5 seconds = done. Expensive experiment. Would have been nice if it hadn't been... um... invasive. But yeah. Try it, you can always take it out.

I had heard weddings were expensive, I just didn't know figures. I can't even begin to imagine accumulating $15-17k & spending it on a party. I guess, on the other hand, it will be one hell of a party. And you'll have pretty pictures of it, apparently.

I guess in this economy & housing market, you might as well blow through what could otherwise be a house payment. Whatever, right?

You can also cut down your guest list, though I totally "get" that some people are big wedding people.

My husband & I were big honeymoon people. We got married with 7 people present, went on a month long stint in Central America & had a "reception" when we got home at our place. Friends & family brought food & my mom got us a nice wedding cheesecake (mmm).

Everyone is different, I'm not hating on your choices... but man. That's $10k. I'd be totally freaking out too. 

Do you guys have a house etc? Planning for kids etc? Do you really have that kind of cash laying around to blow on one nights party? If you don't & you're doing this via credit, seriously consider your prioities. Pay off your car or something, you know?

Original Post by peaches0405:

 But some parents do everything they are supposed to do and the child ends up out of control anyway,

 Yeah. Sad but true.

In Europe it's common for "kids" to have a few years "off" after they graduate high school to travel & explore themselves before they're off to college. I think that's a great idea.

Here that idea is totally rejected. I think it leads to some serious problems.

Anyway, yeah. My husband & I totally plan to support our kid for a few wild years off and then throughout college.

We're not having any more kids so we'll hopefully be able to afford it.

Bottom line: I think it's different to financially & otherwise support your kid into "adulthood" (I don't know about you, but I didn't even start feeling like an adult until my late 20's... it was pretty much a scramble between 16-25) and killing your kids with kindness.

Giving kids money & love does not equal spoiling them as citizens.

LAST WORD FTW!

Original Post by pgeorgian:

edit: listen, the point is, just because something gets published doesn't make it absolute truth.  pick a subject; do the research.  you'll find plenty of contradictory information, not just over time but concurrently.  you can't just believe everything you read.

No ****. Hence everything you've written that's come straight out of your ass. People on the Internet aren't even subject to peer review. It's amazing what will surface.... yet people still ask questions to random Internet people! Talk about maladaptive!

Anyway, yes. You can't believe everything you read. I think I've heard that somewhere before. Well said!

Original Post by pgeorgian:

 i deny psychiatry all the time.

 Well that says it all.

Original Post by yaza:

in many countries in africa people eat more than americans... when i was in africa...

 You saw Seychelles on that list, right? 

Original Post by pgeorgian:

and in my home, food was a non-issue (it was good; my mom was a great cook and knew more about nutrition than most people on the planet.  it just wasn't an issue).  i had a tiny appetite, and that was fine at home, but elsewhere it was a different story.  people would count my ribs (which is kind-of intrusive, if you think about it) and constantly comment on how little i ate.

it just makes no sense to think that we have physiologically determined set-points, because if we did, the vast majority of us would maintain healthy weights (because an unhealthy set-point wouldn't be adaptive, in evolutionary terms).

You are totally missing the point. If people listened to their bodies people they would probably maintain their weight. People restrict or overeat for personal and social reasons, not necessarily because their body drives them to.

Fat storing is totally adaptive for survival. It seems adaptive that people would have a set point that provided enough body fat to allow for times of famine, hence many people struggle against this point because of the social importance on thinness. 

You say you're rib sticking skinny by nature. You're fighting that with junk food and fatty foods for personal and socail reasons. Your psyche is what's at work there. Not the absence (or presence) of a "set point."

Anyway, clearly nobody knows for sure. Certainly not social workers or stay at home moms. We don't have the expertise to say one way or the other, and clearly even people with the expertise don't know for sure.

If you are 100% confidant you have the answer, maybe you should change the topic of your thesis. You would make a lot more money.

It's not just America. I am really tired of that cliche. Clearly it's not "junk's" fault either, or Ronald's.

I know you're having a hard time here, but it's not because you're in America.

ADULT OBESE POPULATION

Nauru 78.5%

Tonga 56.0%

Saudi Arabia 35.6%

United Arab Emirates 33.7%

United States 32.2%

Bahrain 28.9%

Kuwait 28.8%

Seychelles 25.1%

Seychelles 25.1%

United Kingdom 24.2%

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/7151813.stm

LOLZ!