Posts by kayo

Wow! Thank you all so much for celebrating my B day! I ate every mouth full right along with all of you. I passed on the water bottle, but went wild on the fruit cup!

And good news! I called in sick again today (Do you get it management?) and took myself to the walk-in clinic where a lovely female doctor heard my complaint and graciously gave me something for anxiety (short term, only) and wrote me a doctor's note for my last two days out sick AND another note that specifically says I am to be given a vest in size large that fits me comfortably. So if the situation isn't righted when I go in tomorrow, I will simply pull out my note and request calmly, of course, due my my short term meds, that I be given a larger size. 

So I am eating the BRAT diet today: Banana's, rice, applesauce and toast and just not counting. My gut is still a wreck from all this stress! Time enough for counting when my gut settles down.

anndjoe: Try getting out there and kicking the ball around WITH the teenager. I will bet you any kind of Euros that after about 15-20 minutes of you trying to play with him, he'll go inside. I predict he will simply hate that!  He'll go right inside and play video games alone. Try it. And if it comes to words, well you can say, with all compassion, that you tried your best to settle it peacefully. He just needs attention, and if you give it to him, he will most likely choose to get it from another source. If he stays and plays with you awhile, you can say, thanks for the game, but I gotta go inside now etc. Once he discovers you are a human being, he might think twice about how he's behaving. His father is, obviously, unreachable and unteachable. But you could try with the kid.

Best to all and thanks again for all your support and vicarious indulgences. If anyone wants to indulge again, you can say you are still celebrating my birthday. "it's OK, it's Kayo's Birthday. . . 

Monica: jump right in. I have felt so welcome ever since I joined!

Way off topic I guess.

I've been off the forum for (it seems to me) a very good reason that I need all your input for:

My job is requiring me to wear a form fitting vest. Now I know that isn't a big deal to some people, but for me, with my muffin tops hanging over my waistband, I feel sooo horrible in it. I feel like I have to suck in my gut every minute I'm wearing it,, can't breahe, and since I was taunted and harassed all my childhood about being Horton Hatches the Egg, neenie neenie etc. (Horton being my last name), and just treated so badly (for an elementary kid, you know, it hurts BIG Time to be a fat kid and singled out for it) I burst into tears at work when I had to wear the vest. I begged the HR woman for a size large, but no go. My manager had pity on me and sent me home, tears and all, but tomorrow I have to go back there and wear the gd thing! 

What do you all think? Can I sue? Do I have a case here, or should I just get over it? But I can't seem to "get over it."

Input please. Are any of you outraged? I'm devastated. I love my job as a ticket counter agent at the airport, and have been perfectly content in the white shirt and skirt or pants I was issued when I was hired. But now the company is adding this g-d vest and I'm just too poor to up and quit over a stupid vest. I feel so vulnerable, exposed,  and well, I might as well be wearing a bathing suit in the middle of the airport!   It feels that revealing!

So the rules are we can't have anything showing, boobs or thigh, and yet they put us in this gd vest that shows off every curve! AND it has to be buttoned! Every last button!  I might as well be parading around in a girdle! Give me strength here, strong wonderful women! Tell me I can wear this thing. Or tell me to sue. Or tell me some fracking words of encouragment! I'm a mess over this. Eating and smoking and just not staying on track at all! HELP!

and BEB, 2% is fine instead of soy milk. Sorry I've been so out of touch. I feel like it will take the entire day to catch up. I guess this isn't too off topic. It's a weight issue actually that anyone, over 40 or not,  who is aware of having extra pounds might feel. Jez, it's my job! and I have to conform or get fired I guess.

What do you all think?

Whew! Leave this forum for a couple of days and there is just too much to catch up on! But, it seems that we are all progressing toward our goals with the usual bumps and lumps. 

alysonm: congratulations on your naked adventure. I'd be happy to get to a gym clothed. 

anndjoe: yoga is not hard at all to do. I go to a class that is a version of what is called Iyengar Yoga, named after the guy who sorted it out from the ancient practices. We begin the class with our legs up the wall and go from there. It is all supported with pillows and blocks and chairs, but gives a great stretch. You could try to find a class near you. Just be sure to mention you are a beginner and try to see if you can get a class where they do a lot of supported poses, just so you don't overdo at first. 

And then there is the wonder colonoscopy experience

I'm off to my yoga class right this minute actually. Today begins my "week-end!"

Everyone have a great day!

Kayo

HI! I know exactly what you mean about sugar! I "went off it" for about 30 days a couple of months back but got hooked again. When I was turning down sweets, people said, "Oh it won't hurt. You can have just a bite." And looked at me like I was from Mars. There doesn't seem to be an awareness about the addictive qualities of sugar and refined carbohydrates.

I'm trying to teach myself restraint toward ice cream, most recently. I feel simply miserable until I've cleared the house of the entire carton. And then on my way home from work, I begin to think I simply have to stop and replace my stash. It's embarrassing to admit this here in public. But your admission inspired me to try once more to get off it, if I can get the courage. 

Multitudes of congratulations on dropping down. Once you're closer and closer to the goal, it begins to get really exciting to get on the scale. Instead of dread, it's like your birthday. Every day!

I'm really curious about the "Artist's Way" group. Do you see any cross-overs in the philosophy of creativity and mastering your weight? I did when I read and worked through part of the book. I didn't keep going on it though. Didn't find a group near.

Congrats again and have a wonderful mid-week!

Kayo

Hi and welcome!

I know just what you mean about being accountable. I have just returned and now understand that the last time I was here (briefly) I just was dabbling and wasn't too serious about really keeping track. Forums are new to me, but I'll try to add you as a friend. 

I gained three pounds by just not paying attention, and my goal has been postponed now another 4 months for those stupid 20-25 pounds I've had dragging me down for over 5 years! Time to get more serious, and having someone to be accountable to will really help me too. 

Just count. I'm beginning to plan every thing before I eat it and log it in in the morning. If the calories go over I knock the junkiest stuff out. Yesterday I even printed out the day's plan to make it more concrete. The advantage to this might be that on a day I'm too busy or tired or discouraged to figure out what to eat, I can just go back to a successful day and eat what I had a couple of days or weeks ago. 

I live alone, and so there is no excuse at all for not sticking to it if I had some encouragement. So that's why I'm here and I'd bet that speaks to you too.

Keep up the good work. Let's vow to visit this forum and encourage each other! I haven't visited enough yet to get to know people, but I'm working on that. The crowd seems so friendly and warm.

I am going to my first knitting class tonight! I'm excited. And I don't think I can balance a mixing bowl of ice cream and knitting needles at the same time either!

Best for the day to you and all.

Kayo

Hey there successful women!

I hope ellenneckman had a great day away from the poisons and congrats moosie1985 for getting shed of the habit as well. And hey, you are "Good" already. Just try thinking that you are doing wonderful things for yourself, versus that you are bad or good. The guilt thing really gets me going off the track, I guess. I hope you both have a great day on Weds and feel motivated and proud of yourselves for all the hard work you are doing. 

I had a goal to refrain from smoking yesterday morning for the first 30 minutes after waking, because that is a big trigger for me, and waddayaknow? I did it. I did yoga instead. And then got up and did it again this morning. I'm celebrating my two days and will do it again tomorrow. My quit coach says after about 30 days things become habits, so ellenneckman in 30 days you are going to maybe feel a lot more normal about not smoking. Keep at it.

Kayo 

Hi everybody!

I just got home from work. It's my "Monday." I just want to thank everyone for their welcome and comments and thanks bdmullaly for adding me to your friends list.

luvtraveling, I'm from Indiana and understand how hard the mid-western winters get. I'm getting your weather tomorrow 2/22 I understand from a co-worker. 

I gotta say, there are so many great comments and so many of you, I can tell it's gonna take awhile to get to know you regulars.

I have been measuring and logging everything I eat. I did stop and pick up a happy Monday pint of ice cream. I guess I still need the sugar to give me that comfort. BUT I also bought ice cream cones! A half cup serving looks so scrawny even in my smallest bowl. But maybe the method of eating ice cream ( light of course) will change the way I feel about treats. A cone is just a slower way and you have to pay attention not to let it drip, and paying attention, not just glomming in the food is a real part of what I have to learn. I just need to understand what ENOUGH is.  Knowing you all are out there is really helping me this time around. I just never have had any support for the good things I know I need to give myself. Got up and did 30 minutes of yoga this morning, again. I think I'm on to something here. I wake up on the mat, and don't have time to talk myself out of it, nor the sense. I'm half a asleep for the first 15 minutes. All day long I can tell myself: Wow! I did 30 minutes of yoga before a lot of people were even awake. It gives me a feeling that I can do the things I set up for my self. 

Have a great evening and think of me with that solitary ice cream cone. Wish me luck. I'll let you all know if it worked or not.

Kayo 

Thanks. After I had my baby, some 30 years ago this month, (Wow! I'm old) a good friend took me under her wing and taught me a lot about treating myself with respect and care while I lost the 25 pounds I gained with the baby. We live far apart now, but I treasure what she taught me. I tend to beat on myself big time, so I have a lot of practice trying to avoid it. Anything I say is more to myself than anyone else.

Hope everyone is having a good Wednesday and just remembering that we didn't gain our extra pounds over night, so it isn't going away over night either. Patience. 

Kayo 

Yippee! count me in. I'm 56 and would really like to hear from other women and the issues we have. I live alone and most of my co-workers are 20 somethings, so I don't get a lot of support from women my age. 

I am new to online forums so be patient with me and if anyone has any tips for using forums let me know.

Thanks,

 Kayo 

Hi. I've been watching my foods and calories, or points or carbs for years, and I sometimes feel like I don't know what I'm doing either. The point is to be aware and notice what and how much you are eating. Your keeping track today is a great start. It takes awhile to see how you eat and what substitutions you might make, but definitely don't eat something you hate. If you like half and half, well have some. Just don't have a donut with it. You are making changes in your habits that you need to learn to live with, not just until you lose the weight, but for the rest of your life. 

Try fat free half and half by the way. Keeping track will come like second nature after awhile.

Good luck and do not stop trying. Just remember you didn't learn to walk all at once either.

Kayo