Posts by beingiansmommy

At 18 most people lack the ability to make a lifelong committment. A person changes a lot between the ages of 18 and 25. There is no way to determine if the changes you will go through and the changes your spouse will go through are going to be compatible. I have a friend who married her high school sweetheart at 18 and 10 years and 2 children later are still happily married. They are definitely the exception and not the rule.

I got married just after I turned 19. I continued to mature and become more responsible. My spouse felt like he was "missing out" on being young and became less mature, expecting me to pick up the slack. We eventually just became too incompatible to continue living together and called it quits. I was 25 when I got married "for real" and it was great that I waited until I really had become an adult on my own.

I rarely wear makeup, only if I'm going to be presenting for work or for a special occasion where I'm going out somewhere. I do however shave at least every other day (daily in the summer when I'm wearing shorts and swimwear).

I don't like to wear makeup because my skin feels like it can't breathe when I wear foundation, my eyes will get irritated and/or I will wipe it off without thinking, lipstick rubs off and doesn't do a whole lot to keep my lips healthy. My skin is much healthier when I'm not putting makeup all over it, then using remover to take it all off. I just use my normal cleanser and a moisturizer with sunscreen.

I use lipgloss pretty regularly. I really like all of the CO Bigelow line (from Bath and Body Works) and Vaseline. I don't use chapstick because it ends up making my lips more dry and flaky. Vaseline is awesome for keeping your lips moisturized and looking great.

Occasionally I will throw on some mascara just to brighten my eyes. I use baby wipes to take it off. Maybe once a month or so, more often if the occasion calls for it, I will do eyeliner and/or shadow with mascara, a little cream blush, with colorstay lipstick or just my normal gloss. I've got a powder type foundation but I think I've used it twice in 8 months.

I find it interesting, and a little insulting, that someone would insinuate that just because a woman doesn't care for wearing makeup that they would not be feminine in the way of keeping their legs and armpits shaved. I am a very feminine woman and feel that I look just as pretty with no makeup as I do with a face full of it.

Original Post by jenmcc:

1) So if you don't want to just shrink down into a smaller version with same proportions, add weight training.

4) In the meantime, wear SKIRTS!!!

Tops are very VERY easy to take in at the waist. Actually, often easier than a hem! If you can sew, you can do this yourself in minutes and without much skill.

I have 2 pairs of jeans that I love that have stretch - one by Lucky and one is Grane (wearing them now). They're not cheap though and I'm a jeans girl. Work clothes are really what i struggle with because it's harder to find fabrics that are as sturdy as denim that still look tailored. Skirts are a good idea, but I have huge scars on both knees so I tend to be a little self conscious and long skirts are no good on me because I'm too short to pull them off and look professional.

I guess you're right on the tops though, I just hate buying a 2XL and then taking the time to sew in the sides. I'm lazy, I want to wear something off the rack dammit!!!

Very good tip about the weight training to reshape though. Thanks!

Original Post by ohio45:

I can't afford to have anyone do it for me.  i wonder if I use a tiny zigzag stitch if that would work.

Yes a tiny zigzag stitch would work. Also if you stretch the material as you're sewing it you can usually get away with just using a straight stitch. All depends on how much stretch is in the fabric but regular old sweats you could totally work.

Original Post by xahhxitsxmex:

have you ever heard of torrids?

you should check it out. :)

I used to shop there, when I was younger. Now I tend to be a little more conservative than most of those styles are. 

Original Post by cellulitedelight:

This is why I took up sewing.  I learned how to make clothes that fit, in styles I wanted even though I had to live with a few adjustments, but in the end I found a cheaper alternative to dressing how I want.

Funny you should say that because the reason I was posting is I went to put on a skirt I had made for myself this morning and it didn't fit! hahahahahaha

Original Post by angiethe1_2005:

I dont know about losing more weight ifyou will have a nicer shaped bum bum. I think with toning and lots of exercise the better our bodies look no matter where we hide our weight.

Well my bum is in good shape, the only thing out of shape and where I carry ALL my weight (plus apparently the weight of several other people) is my stomach.

I've got 2 unnamed betta fish. I find if I don't name them, they live longer. Ha ha ha

One is really pretty red and the other one is a blue-ish purple.

Original Post by angiethe1_2005:

Over a yr ago when I first started calorie counting I decided to go to a all organic grocery store that was over 2 hours from me. The cashiers and most of the employee's were all of asain descent. Since I dont speak the language I didnt have a clue what they were so chatty about once I got my cart up to the checkout line.

So the next time I went their I brought a friend with me that could interpret the language for me because it got me curious I must admit im a glutton for punishment. The first thing out of the cashiers mouth when in line was " Oh the fat american girl is here trying to be skinny again" with a large giggle. So I had my friend politely say to her yes my overly plump friend is here buying your rather expensive merchandise shall I ask for the manager or will you keep your trap shut the next time she is here? She turned about as red as can be and never looked either one of us in the eye hehe.

Oh my gosh that is funny! I am going to stay in the dark about what my nail girl says about me when I'm there. It's probably along the lines of "Oh the neurotic girl is back again"

 I was a cashier at a grocery store a lifetime ago, too young to worry about what I was eating, but I never judged a person's purchases. If they were overweight and buying twinkies, who cares. If they were underweight and buying diet soda, who cares. BUT I did do a lot of "Dang that looks good, I need to find some of that."

That's me! I'm struggling in a big way, but working hard. PCOS is a big PITA.