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| Weight Loss | 5'6 | Jul 19 2008 03:10 (UTC) |
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I'm 18, 5' 6'' LW: 111 lbs CW: 121 lbs HW: 124 lbs
I know my weight hasn't really changed that much, but I had an ed when I weighed 111 lbs and I was told that I didn't look good or healthy. Gaining back so much of the weight so quickly though hasn't made me happy so I'm aiming to be in the middle at 115 lbs, because I know that's a weight that I can healthily maintain. I was actually doing fine maintaining 117 lbs but then I went on birth control and gained 4 lbs in a week! Yes! Well, I know a difference of a couple pounds may not sound like a lot, but I can really see the difference on myself. It's difficult though figuring out how to lose a few pounds in a healthy way... especially because I think my metabolism is slower now as a result of the ed. |
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| Health & Support | New member/ED related? | Jul 15 2008 02:39 (UTC) |
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If you want someone to talk to PLEASE send me a message!! I'd be more than willing to give you advice, or to just listen. |
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| Health & Support | New member/ED related? | Jul 15 2008 02:33 (UTC) |
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I'm a little confused why you first asked for advice on whether or not you have an eating disorder and then ended your post asking for a weight loss buddy? I don't know whether or not you have an eating disorder, but I can tell you that your weight loss techniques aren't healthy. I know exactly how you feel though when you say that you feel too heavy to deserve help or to be considered at-risk. At my lowest weight I was 111 lbs and 5' 6'' and I told myself I was too heavy to have anorexia... I thought I needed to weigh 108 lbs at the highest to be considered anorexic, otherwise I was just being overly dramatic... Don't let yourself feel that way! I later accepted the fact that I did have all the signs of anorexia (loss of 3 consecutive periods, being technically underweight, all the thoughts, etc...) and therefore was anorexic. What matters though is what's going on in your head; day after day after day... it gets REALLY tiring doesn't it? It exhausts me beyond belief to think about living with these food thoughts every day for the rest of my life... if you feel the same way then you too deserve help and freedom from this. Don't worry about needing to be "sick enough" to deserve help. You don't need to meet all the requirements of a specific disorder to feel justified in being unhappy. If you aren't completely happy you deserve the help you need to be happy. |
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| Health & Support | period troubles.. | Mar 01 2008 18:59 (UTC) |
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| ok somehow my account got messed up and my username changed a bit? anyway thanks for all your advice and i agree that i think esp with the increase in exercise i need to be eating more so i'm gonna try to start eating more.. it all seems so simple and easy, but i anticipate it won't be quitee so easy.. i'm going to really try though so thanks everyone | |||
| Health & Support | period troubles.. | Feb 24 2008 03:18 (UTC) |
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| for a while i accepted that i wasnt eating enough but now i'm starting to feel like i'm actually eating a pretty normal amount.. i dk, i read posts other people write and what they eat for the day doesnt sound that different from what i eat? i'm starting to lose perspective on this.. i really want to know if it has affected my period or if it jsut has to do with the travel thing however.. i guess i will have to wait and see what happens next month to find out? | |||
| Health & Support | period troubles.. | Feb 24 2008 03:07 (UTC) |
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| well my calorie intake has been pretty constant for the past few months.. ranging from 850 to 1300 on most days.. obviously on the higher end (the 1300) when i'm excessively exercising.. but recently its been tending more towards the lower end. but so far i haven't lost my period.. i'm currently 5'6'' and 112.. and my weight has also remained pretty constant. i'm now starting spring sport season though so i dk how this will change things.. normally i ice skate for 30-60 minutes 3 times a week plus go to the gym 2-4 times a week and work out for an hour or so.. now i have a sport for 2 hours after school in addition to skating. which means i only have 1 free day to go to the gym.. and overall ill be working out every day.. for 1-2.5 hours | |||
| Health & Support | body image confusion: 5'6'' girls!!!!! | Feb 06 2008 02:53 (UTC) |
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| i know this post is old but i came across it and thought i would reply. i'm 18 and 5'6''.. 2 weeks ago i was 111 and pretty happy and now i'm 113 and not happy anymore.. i know i have an issue but my first goal is to be 110... i noticed that my boobs were getting smaller and i was unhappy with that so thats why i decided to gain a little, and i know 2 lbs seems like nothing, but it's made me unhappy so now i'm trying to lose again. =/ i guess my point is that if youre pretty happy with your weight try to maintain it, because if you make yourself gain a little you might be so unhappy that you revert back to even worse habits than before.. and if you lose too much then youll look back at your old weight (that you were once happy with) and be disgusted by it. i think you are at a fine weight, everyones bodies are dif though and fat and muscle are distributed differently so try to just like the way you look in the mirror, thats the healthiest thing | |||
| Foods | Salad Dressing Debate! | Jan 29 2008 00:32 (UTC) |
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| theres this brand of dressing thats like 1 or 2 calories per spray.. depending on which kind.. i love the asian silk flavor, and you only need about 10-20 sprays on your salad (depending on how much dressing you like) and so thats only 10-20 calories! | |||
| Health & Support | Eating Disorders resources & information thread | Jan 28 2008 22:11 (UTC) |
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| no problem.. i'm glad that youre going to give it a try, let me know how it goes! | |||
| Health & Support | Eating Disorders resources & information thread | Jan 26 2008 16:31 (UTC) |
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| i think you should try talking to the counselor at your school.. some of my friends told my counselor that they thought i had a problem so then i was asked to go talk to her but it was really not bad at all.. i mean i dk what your guidance counselor is like but mine is really cool and a lot of people go in to just talk to her about random things in their lives haha so it wasn't too intimidating.. but if your mom isn't there for you and you don't have a therapist to go to i think it is your best bet, and its a free resource so you should make use of it! | |||
| Health & Support | Are these posts actually sent by someone suffering from an ed? | Jan 07 2008 22:27 (UTC) |
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Original Post by fittynfit: well first off, my username is the title of a song i like by the band 311 haha. and honestly for a long time i really really did enjoy my life! i still do, i just haven't been that happy this year and i don't really know why. i guess with senior year there's a large amount of added stress with colleges and all of that.. i didn't get into my first choice school and i'm still having a hard time moving on from that. and a lot of people who were important to me already graduated so i feel kinda isolated. but i do want to enjoy my life more which is exactly why i came on here to vent about how i was feeling to people who i assumed would get it. and i have gotten feedback that's been helpful to me. |
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| Health & Support | Are these posts actually sent by someone suffering from an ed? | Jan 07 2008 22:20 (UTC) |
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| i agree with oink420 that the point of this website is to help other people and get help, which is not the aim of this post. and i completely get what people have been saying regarding people who want to look like they have an eating disorder to make themselves stand out or something.. i have a friend who one day went up to this guy and was like "wanna be ana today?" and he didn't understand so she was like "you know.. liek anorexic.. not go to lunch.." and that really frustrated me. but in all honesty i think it would be pretty obvious to the friends of these people if they were doing it for attention, maybe its harder to tell on here. but two of my friends have made comments to me about my eating habits and really, its embarrassing. like it's embarrassing for me when i have to eat around then and i know taht they're watching what i eat, and i know taht they know i'm thinking about it and caring about it. its so so embarrassing and i wouldn't choose that. i'm sorry if i'm not anorexic enough for you to care, and i'm not asking for anyones sympathy, i actually came on this site to talk to people who ARE worse off than me, so that i could get advice and make myself realize how much i need to keep this under control and not let it get worse. i'm pretty offended by this post, and it has been discouraging me from posting on this site because i don't know how much i can trust it anymore now that i know people are judging me based on whether or not i'm sick enough for them to find my problem legitimate. | |||
| Health & Support | Are these posts actually sent by someone suffering from an ed? | Jan 02 2008 06:50 (UTC) |
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| as someone with disordered eating who posted about my eating habits asking for advice, i can see how it would frustrate people for me to say i'm not going to change my ways.. but what you have to understand is that i posted here because i JSUT started to come to terms with the fact that i may have a problem.. i think everyone would agree that no one changes overnight.. recovery for people with anorexia is a struggle. sometimes we just need to hear things over and over until they finally get through.. i think the first step is asking to hear those things. the more people in my life who make comments to me about my weight or eating habits the more i start to question whether or not i am being healthy.. i don't know what it will take for me to decide that i'm unhappy with what i'm doing or that i want to change but i know that sitting back and keeping my mouth shut isn't going to get me there. the more you keep things inside the harder it is to let them out later.. and the more isolated you feel. | |||
| Health & Support | Are these posts actually sent by someone suffering from an ed? | Jan 02 2008 06:41 (UTC) |
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Original Post by oink420: wow i 100% agree with you.. that's exactly how i feel.. i think that because i don't fit the criteria for anorexia i tell myself that it's not that bad.. and physically its not, i'm underweight but not dangerously underweight.. and i've realized that i think about food/eating almost every hour of the day and its crazy! i can't remember what life was like before when i didn't think about this |
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| Health & Support | Are these posts actually sent by someone suffering from an ed? | Jan 01 2008 20:59 (UTC) |
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| a lot of people, like myself, don't really know what they're experiencing (an ed, disordered eating, or something in between) so they are trying to get feedback from people like yourself who have experience. so i'm sorry if you find them annoying but they aren't trying to undermine what you experienced or make your feelings less significant, they are just trying to find out what's going on with them! i don't categorize myself as anorexic because i would need to lose 5 more lbs to have lost 15% of my weight and i haven't missed any periods... but i think about eating every hour of the day and it doesn't go away, so i know that is not normal. also, eating disorders kinda start somewhere.. for a lot of people they start from disordered eating, so wouldn't you want to help someone get better before it gets worse, and help them avoid what you went through? | |||
| Health & Support | diet diet diet, anorexia, anorexia, anorexia. | Dec 26 2007 20:20 (UTC) |
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| wow i can relate soo much to your post! i think this is wayy too common for girls our age.. i'm assuming you are similar in age to me- i'm 18 and a senior in high school.. its frustrating because the amount of girls who make comments about what theyre eating etc.. made me feel for soo long that what i was experiencing was just normal for girls my age.. and it blinded me from seeing that maybe i actually do have a problem. i still find it hard to believe that i'm obsessing more than the people around me- it makes me feel illegitimate for thinking i have a problem.. really just try to realize that they are doing this all for attention.. people who ACTUALLY have problems do NOT talk about it that much!! i would NEVERR tell people that i wasn't planning to eat lunch.. i feel soo uncomfortable if anyone points out that i'm not eating much, like it makes me really embarrassed and i want them to just kinda go away. so you should just raelize that these girls aren't going through what you're going through, they don't actually think they're fat, and they just want attention. i think the slang is "wanorexia" for people who eat very little in public but go home and eat very normal amounts of food.. a lot of your friends prob skip lunch in large groups to be dramatic but go home and eat a normal sized lunch.. just rememebr that they're probably putting on a show and it should i no way effect how you see yourself | |||
| Health & Support | Guilty thoughts of GAINING! | Dec 26 2007 19:53 (UTC) |
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| Linny, i was looking at your pictures and i think that you are so beautiful! and to be 100% honest i think your worst picture is the one from your lowest weight! and i struggle with eating issues too, much more minor than yours, but i still think that you looked much much prettier at healthier weights. i think in your recovery you shouldn't think of it as "gaining weight" you should try to think of it as transforming back into the beautiful person that you were. youre only gonna notice yourself getting prettier, healthier, and happier in the long run as you continue to recover.. your nutritionist, therapist, etc.. are not going to make you gain more weight than you would be comfortable with. trust them, they're not going to let you get fat! once you've gained enough weight to be healthy you will be able to just focus on maintaining and you will see that you are still thin! but thin in a good way.. just keep believing in yourself that you can do this, and that it will be a very very good thing | |||
| Health & Support | my sister is triggering! | Dec 26 2007 19:40 (UTC) |
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| i agree that your sister may be struggling with an eating disorder also.. and i think its ironic because while you may be jealous that she has gotten so thin, shes probably jealous that you have exhibited the strength to recover! the silly thing about eating disorders is that after a certain point youre faced with a decision: die, or get help.. thats basically what it will come to if you have a serious disorder.. and then its just a cycle that keeps going.. this is what i alwasy try to tell myself to make sure things never get too bad for me.. really really try to just focus on YOU and making yourself the best and happiest you can be.. maybe try to avoid eating around your sister, cuz i know its really triggering to eat around people who don't eat much.. like when i go out with my friends, even though they don't struggle with eating, if they don't eat lunch for whatever reason, i definiitelyy can't.. i would never be caught dead eating more than someone i was with.. it really is silly how it can be so competitive in your head when the other person probably isn't thinking about it at all.. i also hate it if i go to the gym and the person i'm working out with burns more calories than me, so i always try to get a head start.. all of these things are so silly but try to avoid putting yourself in situations like that with your sister. maybe you should talk to her about it.. if shes really struggling with something too then the silence will probably just make things more uncomfortable for the both of you.. if you talk about it maybe you can gain a better understanding and be more sensitive to each other | |||
| Health & Support | Inpatient, hospital or otherwise | Dec 26 2007 06:17 (UTC) |
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| i can totally understand why you are scared.. i mean you've lived with your eating disorder for so long that you probably can't even imagine what your life would be like without it.. its like a safety net for you thats actually just depriving you of everything out there.. its tricking you into believing that you wouldn't know who you would be without it and that you wouldn't have anything to put your time into.. but those are all lies.. you won't be able to prove that wrong unless you try to. its a really good step though that you say you really want this to be the last time you go inpatient, cuz i don't think you can ever recover unless you commit to it and want it. | |||
| Health & Support | binge eating and calorie counting disorder (but thin and healthy eater...help!) | Dec 26 2007 06:12 (UTC) |
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| i don't know what other people in your house eat but try to fill your cabinets/fridge with healthy snacks.. so that if you do turn to a snack it will be something thats good for you and not of a high caloric value.. 100 calorie pack popcorn is good and pretty filling, fruits and veggies are always good for you.. maybe if you were just eating healthy foods you would start to feel better about your eating habits and would feel less of a need to obsess over the calories, easier said than done though | |||
| Health & Support | My Story Of Anorexia | Dec 26 2007 06:10 (UTC) |
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| since you struggled with anorexia it might not be best for you to try to lose weight by restricting calories.. even if it is to a healthy amount (like the 1500 that was suggested).. i think 112 would be a good, healthy weight for you. maybe just try to increase your exercise and eat healthy foods without obsessing over the exact fat and caloric content.. and try to avoid snacks and empty calories in drinks, etc.. i'm sure you know all of this.. i think its really hard to go form an eating disorder to just trying to eat healthily without it turning into something more obsessive.. so try to steer clear of counting numbers liek calories and fat grams or you could risk getting too obsessed.. maybe you should see a nutritionist or a personal trainer. and i agree in that you slowed down your metabolism by having anorexia at a young age. try not to skip meals because it slows down your metabolism.. it may be a good idea for you to have like 5 small meals throughout the day as oppose to 3 normal sized ones.. that way you can keep your metabolism going and make it as fast as possible by feeding your body throughout the day | |||
| Weight Loss | when you lose weight, do your boobs have to get smaller?? | Dec 26 2007 06:04 (UTC) |
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| wow i didn't realize so many people had responded haha i usually wait for the email telling me that someone responded to my post, i dk what happened with that.. anyways, to whoever asked my height i am 5' 6''.. and to whoever asked about my eating habits/diet i'm not anorexic, but i'm also not on a "diet" i'm still kinda trying to figure out whats going on.. somewhere between disordered eating and ED-NOS is where i am i guess.. and i guess you are all giving me the answer i was afraid of haha that you can't control where you lose it.. what if instead of eating less i ate more but increased exercise as well? so overall i was taking in the same amount of calories, but just by eating more and burning those off.. if that makes sense... would that be a possible way of losing weight but not from my chest area? | |||
| Weight Loss | What size pants are u wearing-- 5'6" 120-130 pounds | Dec 24 2007 19:01 (UTC) |
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| i'm 5'6'' and weigh 112.. i'm a pant size 0/2 or 25/26.. it really depends on the brand, i find that the more expensive brands are cut smaller! haha probably because those would be the brands models would wear.. like for example a size 2 in AE jeans is pretty huge on me, yet i have a burberry skirt thats a size 2 and its really small.. in Seven jeans a size 25 fits perfectly, not too loose and not too tight | |||
| Maintaining | why is it bad to be under 18.5BMI? | Dec 24 2007 18:52 (UTC) |
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| wow so you sound exactly like me! haha i was thinking for a second, when did i write this post?? i too have "disordered eating", am 5'6'' and weigh just under 112 lbs haha.. i definitely don't think we are at an unhealthy weight since we are pretty close to the border between underweight and normal weight.. also bmi isn't 100% accurate as it doesn't account for the fact that muscle weighs more than fat and the fact that people have different frame sizes.. but i think what we are at risk for is.. well, an eating disorder. i wrote a post on this site a little while ago about that and that was basically what i was told.. some said that i was ED-NOS (eating disorder not otherwise specified) and others said pretty much that i was really at risk and needed to try and get better before it got worse. people have started making comments to me about what i eat and my weight which is concerning but i think for our height/weight we are not at risk for health problems. i have noticed that my boobs and butt have gotten a little smaller, i dk if you have noticed that too.. i really want to be 110 lbs and then i am going to just try to maintain that weight because i don't want to lose my boobs and everything that makes me feminine! i think in evaluating whether or not you are at seriuos risk for a disorder you should reflect on how much time you spend each day thinking about food.. and what your deeper probelms are that you take out on your body. i don't know if by being "obsessive" about foods like you say, you mean you make sure to only eat healthy foods, or you literally add up your calorie content for the day.. i would strongly urge you not to count calories, and instead just make sure youre eating low-fat, nutritious foods that make you feel good about yourself.. in the past few days i've really tried to refrain from counting my calories and its kinda hard but its a bit of a relief at the same time not to be wasting so much time thinking about that. message me if you want to talk ab it more cause i can really relate to your post | |||
| Health & Support | can someone who has experience with eating disorders tell me what i am experiencing? just to warn you, this is VERY long | Dec 12 2007 00:57 (UTC) |
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| funk98, you are also right in that i need to figure out why i'm doing this.. that's what my one friend who i was talking about it with kept asking me.. because she said i was "always one of thinnest of our friends" so she didn't understand why this came about. but i dont know, i don't think you have to be overweight to begin with for this to happen.. i guess that just proves how much it really isn't just about food | |||
| Health & Support | can someone who has experience with eating disorders tell me what i am experiencing? just to warn you, this is VERY long | Dec 12 2007 00:39 (UTC) |
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| yeah that is what i was afraid of.. i keep telling myself that if i wanted to i could go back to my old eating habits tomorrow, but then if i try to i fully regret it and promise myself i won't do it again the next day. so yeah i think you're right that something is wrong.. i still can't believe that it would be an eating disorder though, i feel like it would be more obvious to me if it was? i've been talking to 2 of my friends, one who is someewhat going through it but not as much i don't think so hopefully itll get easier! | |||
| Health & Support | can someone who has experience with eating disorders tell me what i am experiencing? just to warn you, this is VERY long | Dec 08 2007 23:31 (UTC) |
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| thanks again to everyone who has taken the time to respond. i think one of the things i feel out of control with is the whole college process.. now that i've sent in applications its not in my control what happens with them. i really hope that i do get accepted and that i can celebrate it and be happy. i'm scared that if i don't i'm not gonna get over it =/. i guess i will find out pretty soon ! | |||
| Health & Support | can someone who has experience with eating disorders tell me what i am experiencing? just to warn you, this is VERY long | Dec 07 2007 20:56 (UTC) |
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| haha yeah i definitely agree with/relate to a lot of what you are saying. it seems its always easier to help a friend. and i dk why it bothers me, but sometimes when a friend tries to talk to me ab something thats wrong and it appears that she believes she will be able to "fix" me, it makes me less willing to open up.. its kinda hard to explain but i guess it just makes me feel like they think that they've figured me out and that it's that simple when it's really not. and i agree that it's def a lot easier to help otehr people than to help yourself, i think my problem right now is that i'm pretty confident that i would never get to the point of having to go to the hospital or any of that.. i'm not sure why but i have this belief that i would be able to keep it from getting that dangerous but i'm sure i'm wrong and i know you guys are right. it helps to jsut keep hearing it sometimes from people who have been there and know, as oppose to people who like read about it. every day i wake up and have one of two thoughts; today i'm just gonna eat normally and forget about everything, or today i'm gonna do better than yesterday. no matter what though i'm never able to forget. i don't know how i'm suppose to jsut "forget" about what i eat when i already know the caloric content of everything i come in contact wiht.. its impossible to ignore those numbers because they're jsut there. any advice on how to forget about that? i really don't want this to develop into a full out eating disorder because i definitely do understand the damage after seeing it in my friends.. and i don't want to be isolated from people. i can't tell if college next year will be a good or bad thing. i think i'll be less bored so ill be happier, but i also fear that ill get away with eating less because i won't have my parents looking out for me.. they have no idea what's going on, i think my mom jsut thinks i'm trying to eat healthier because she is too. like she will buy something and be like yeah its only X calories, like in a positive light because she knows we both don't liek fattening foods.. but i don't think she knows how much of an obsession it really is and last year on spring break i threw a fit and accused her of being anorexic because i hated seieng her eat less than me, but i was wrong she was not anorexic at all and now i feel i can't talk to her about my own problems because of that awkwardness about food. also another problem i am having (like that w/my mom) is that i HATE it when someone around me is eating less.. it drives me crazy and makes me want to stop eating. and i know its stupid cuz some of my friends def don't think ab how much they eat AT ALL yet if they arent eating much i feel fat for eating more. and one of my friends, i'm not erally sure if she has a problem or not, but shes going through a lot of family stuff right now (parents getitng divorced and her moms abusive to her).. and i know its unfair but i can't stand the thought of her being thinner than me, its liek a competition in my head | |||
| Health & Support | can someone who has experience with eating disorders tell me what i am experiencing? just to warn you, this is VERY long | Dec 07 2007 04:19 (UTC) |
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| Thanks everyone for responding, it means a lot. I find it too awkward to share things with my friends, especially now that they have confronted me about it i feel really uncomfortable eating around them. i told one of my friends (my best friend) that i tried to purge the other day when i felt i ate too much (it was like 5 hershey kisses but it just disgusted me that day) but i didn't end up throwing up, partly because i don't think i had enough food to throw up or maybe i just didn't know how to do it properly.. but i also jsut started crying when i was doing it because i was realizing i was starting to have a problem beyond like just watchign what i ate.. thats only happened twice though and i never ended up throwing up. i remember two years ago after a party my friend came back to my hosue and we were both very intoxicated (neither of us drove).. and she threw up like everywhere in my house and i was really jealous that she did and i didn't and i didn't understand why because i was just as drunk as she was. i think all these bad thoughts started because one of my close friends was anorexic 2 years ago and i was around it so much. then another friend of mine was anorexic last school year.. and over the summer two girls on a trip i went on suffered from bulimia. i've jsut been around it so much that my own eating habits seem like normal by comparison. i did tell my best friend that i wasn't planning to lose any more weight and that i just wanted to maintain and she was ok with that.. but that isn't true and i just want to lose a little more. it sucks beacuse siince my habits aren't quite yet that bad, i don't really feel i'm doing any damage and i therefore am not ready to stop.. which i know is bad because once it gest worse it will be harder to stop. but i'm jsut not ready to move on now. thank you for the support though, i'm really thinking abotu what each of you has said and it is helpful | |||
| Health & Support | Eating Disorders resources & information thread | Dec 07 2007 01:54 (UTC) |
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| Hi, i'm new to this. i'm unsure if i have an eating disorder or not and was wondering if anyone could help me determine if i do | |||
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