Posts by gingerkabureck

thanks guys =)  It's so hard to believe that I finally reached my big goal!!

thanks =)

harmonpl- Congrats on the 40lbs!!!  It feels like yesterday I was saying the same thing!  I know all about the plateaus.... trust me, you can and will conquer them.  My best advice is to not weigh for a week or two... switch up your intake and do different exercises.  I stuck with a pretty standard diet, always eating the same things... when I got to a stopping point in the loss, I would eat less starchy foods and more veggies and fruits... play around with the calories, too... try a 1500 cal day, then a 1300, then a 1600- my logic was that my body expected a certain amount and tried to level off and not lose anymore weight, so I'd eat more and exercise more.  Just keep up the good work, it will pay off in the end!!

thanks hotharmony!  angie- I know what you mean, I tried so many quick fixes I could be their poster child.  However, not only did I get moody and make irrational goals, but I didn't feel healthy.  Exercise made me feel GREAT and full of energy, rather than feeling tired and depressed from not eating enough.  Plus, if I ate within my calorie range and exercised each day, it was one small goal accomplished every day =) sometimes I would think to myself, "ugh, another 50-60lbs to go" and it was hard to stay on track... but after spending 2 years of working towards losing weight and getting healthy, I now know that each day was definitely worth the struggle!  It does get easier...  some say that the last 10-15lbs are the hardest, but I think they're the easiest!  Sure, it took me almost 4 months to lose those pounds, but I already knew how to do it and didn't have crazy expectations.

Take each day as it comes and remember, tomorrow is a new day!

Wow.. that has got to be hard.  I'm sorry you're dealing with such a tough situation.  You can look at this in a couple of ways:

1.  You will lose the weight, he will be way attracted to you and never have a problem with the other girls... but then you will always hold it against him because he couldn't accept you for who you were.  Might end up causing a lot of tension in the relationship.

2.  You don't lose the weight, he will end up staying with you and being unhappy, because afterall, he wants you to look like the girls that are going after him. 

3.  You lose the weight and he starts picking on other things you need to "fix" like maybe he wants you to be burnette, wear heals, come home at 9pm every night and fix his dinner... etc.

4.  You don't lose the weight, he gets distant from you because he's just not attracted and you suspect him of cheating (whether he is or not) and then you guys end up breaking up because of the tension.

Basically, what I'm trying to say is:  this is not going to end good.  I understand you love him and it's hard to end a relationship with someone that can easily find someone else.... I know that's harsh, but it seems that with his "celebrity status" and all, he can easily have a rebound which will cause even more pain for you... but you need to decide what is right for you.  Constantly struggling to be approved by your significant other is going to drive you insane!

My suggestion... go to couples counseling.  If he is willing, I think you guys may be able to work through this issue and if not, then you know what was meant to happen.

I wish you the best of luck!!

Original Post by kelleigh:

Just to keep it short and simple: if you doubt the child is yours, request a paternity test as soon as the baby is born. This is the only way to settle your doubts and find out the truth.

I totally agree, you are not going to feel comfortable always wondering if this child is truly yours.  If you & she decide to go through with the pregnancy, you can always get a paternity test without her even knowing (google Orchid Cellmark).  Therefore, you don't upset her & it will give you ease of mind.

That being said- is it going to make a difference if the child is not yours?  You obviously love her and want to be there for her, so maybe you may ease your mind in deciding now that it doesn't matter who the biological father is, you are the dad and that is what matters. 

LOL that's too funny!

I agree with the others- you probably won't have too much of a problem if you slowly lose the weight and exercise/eat well at the same time.

I have lost 75lbs and unfortunately have some pretty loose skin in the abdominal region.  I have also had a 10lb child though =)  Most of the skin on my body has bounced back without any difficulties... but my arms and my tummy did not do so well.

The way I see it:  If you lose the weight and are able to keep it off, and STILL have loose skin, maybe go see a doctor/surgeon and see what their take on it is.  I think everyone should feel they are beautiful and if fixing some loose skin eliminates the problem, then why not?

sometimes "goodbye" is a second chance

Original Post by silentdeadlyrose:

That woman needs to dump that loser and get with Sir Mix Alot!

 LOL

My son is a monkey this year =)  Cute!!!

Ha, Ali- maybe you should read what I wrote.  I didn't make fun of anyone/nor did I say anything condescending about their religion or whatever you would call their practice. 

And one other thing, read all my last threads that I have posted before you want to say that I talk down about other religions.  I have only started threads about crazy diet pill ideas, measuring waist lines... and I don't know the rest, but I do not make fun of religion.  I am happy that people find a higher being and do make peace with having their own beliefs.

Maybe you should stab yourself in the face =)

hey, speaking of the biggest loser show, when does season 7 start?

I would take it... but I'd like to get the higher number.  Good point tho- I'll try and bring it up early as to decide if I want to stay or not.

so how much weight has 1,000,000 people lost?

53 here thanks to CC!

Original Post by bebhinntm:

It's funny, whenever we plan to do something or have expectations for a big event, like getting married, anniversaries, etc., it never seems to turn out to be that "butterfly- feeling" moment. Our moments come when we least expect them, like having a great weekend together at home or going shopping at the mall. It's almost like having an expectation for something kills the thrill of it. at least for me.

 100% agree too - dancing in the kitchen while cooking is what makes me feel the flutters... not the planned romantic stuff =)