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Because of the misalignment of your spine, hips and neck, I would suggest seeing a physical therapist if possible for an exercise routine. This is the only way I can think of that doesn't risk doing more injury because they can develop a program centered around your specific problems. Be careful and take care.

yesterday

Breakfast

mini-wheat cereal/milk

snack

pears, multi-grain cheerios

Lunch

cajun red bean soup, 1/2 peanut butter sandwich on whole grain bread

Snack

dilled wheat bread/cheese

Dinner

grilled west indies chicken, grilled corn on the cob, marinated cucumbers, peaches

snack

Fiber one chewy bars

Common recommendations are that to loose weight you have to exercise about 1 hour a day most days of the week. However, that advice also states that you start slow and work your way up to this. It looks like you are doing about 50 minutes 2 times a day 7 days a week. That may lead to an injury as you state you are just starting out. However, the very best person to ask is your doctor. I am not sure anyone who hasn't assessed your fittness would be qualified to say whether or not this is too much. Right now it seems you are able to endure this and you didn't mention any injuries so it could be fine for you. My gut says that you are doing too much because you aren't taking a rest day. The other part of me says ...WAHOOOO you are able to do 1 hour 40 mintues of exercise a day you go but seriously it could lead to an injury that could put you out of commission for 6 weeks ....yep I did the same thing when I first started out [like you I wanted to loose as quick as possible and figured more exercise=more weight loss] and ended up with a foot injury that was so painful that I couldn't hardly walk for 6 weeks. After 20 months of working out (minus the 6 weeks), I can do the longer workouts on most days of the week. So just be careful and consult your doctor to find out what is recommended for you. 

I completely understand. I have been doing 40 minutes of cardio during the day (my workplace has a gym so I take advantage of that at work) pretty much 5 days a week followed by fitness training sessions which involve circuit training 3 days a week and on the days I go to the trainer I also do an extra 30-35 minute cardio before my session. I forgot to mention,  we are clearing our property on Saturday and Sunday which involves rolling large chunks of tree (35-50 lbs per chunk) uphill and stacking them along with pulling vines out of trees and chopping undergrowth.

Like you I am exhausted, so I have cut out the cardio at work this week but plan to pick that back up next week. I think we all need a break from working out at some point.

Enjoy a day or 2 away from the gym that doesn't mean you have to quit moving...just walk for pleasure rather than for intensity ...actually look around the neighborhood as you walk for things you've never seen before.

While it is true that fat cells mostly develop in utero as well as during adolescence, I think it is much to early to worry about "making this baby huge".  There are a lot of things your body does in order to prepare and support pregnancy. I'd say a lot of what you are seeing is hormonal ....just like the weight gain and bloating a lot of women (myself especially) get when it is close to that time of the month. I have only been pregnant one time and being short in stature and running out of room (doctor's words exactly) for my stomach...ending up throwing up on 1/2 glass of water and having to have IV for dehydration...I didn't gain much at all and it was NOT healthy AT ALL because I couldn't eat and the developing baby didn't get what he needed...now he's disabled. Sorry, I cannot supply a don't worry pregnancy story for you but I think it is safe to say you are going to gain weight! You need to think about what you are putting into your body though. Think about natural non-processed foods and divide up your food so you are scheduled to eat about every 2.5 hours. Get an idea of the caloric need you have from your OB-GYN or some other professional and find ways to eat within that caloric budget. In the end, you may have a few extra pounds to get rid of but I bet if you follow a daily calorie goal it won't take much to get back where you are now.

I'd wager a bet that if 1/3 of your snacks...or mini-meals were based on salads you'd not feel guilty and eating fresh, raw, leafy greens allows you to eat more volume so it takes longer to chew and you will hopefully feel a bit more satisfied and don't forget it gives developing baby a lot of natural folic acid for healthy brain development. Also think about eating homemade healthy soups like vegetable soup..again it is high in volume but low in calories and IF you make it at home you get to control how much salt goes into the pot. For snacks and that incurable sweet tooth, check out kasha granola or soft fruit bars. Kasha products as a general rule have fiber and protein both which keep you feeling a bit more full for a little longer. And by eating natural whole grain based sweets, maybe you can get rid of some of the guilt you are feeling.

In the end, being pregnant is hard work and your body needs energy to do it. Enjoy it and embrace it...be thankful you can eat and nourish your unborn with the things it needs and try to keep the things it doesn't need to a minimum....like salty/fatty quick meals from mcdonalds or from hamburger helper or nitrates from cold cuts.

Good luck.

My personal trainer graduated with a degree in sports medicine and is an ACE-Certified Personal Trainer. Actually all the trainers that I work with have a degree that is relavent to their job. A degree is one way to measure if a trainer is appropriate. It tells you that they have taken the time and are serious about physical fitness. Other industry certifications support their knowledge so I'd look for those too. These were the criteria that I originally used when I was looking at paying for a trainer. I refuse to pay $45/session for someone who has "always trained and has enjoyed physcial activity throughout their life". Just because somone has always trained doesn't mean they know the correct form ...likewise you have to put things into perspective...someone that has always trained may be more passionate about it than someone who went to college in order to make money from this field. And...through that passion they have perfected all the moves and all the forms. Ultimately, you will have to find someone that you can work with that motivates you that you can believe in. Ideally this person will help you believe in yourself as well.

I agree...this season is much better without Vicki, Brady, and Heba!!! I am hoping that Tara wins. She's come so far and won so many challenges and then she was the first woman to bet on herself by taking the money not the pound. I am proud of her. She's stepped up and won so many challenges---I would hate to see her not win the grand prize.

As for Ron, I don't like him at all. I think most of his whinning about knees and shoulders was game play. He's been a snake all along. Then to tell his son to vote for Kristin after telling her he'd talk to Mike leading her to believe that he'd convince Mike to keep her. I am a little amazed he didn't coerce Mike into voting for Helen since she tried to vote him off a few weeks back. Based on this, I do not want brown team to win anything! I am amazed at Mike's success though and I do feel sympathy for Mike's brother Max. I hope that Mike and Ron help Max get in shape and slim down.

I was just like you until I decided that I didn't want to be heavy anymore. I don't have dessert anymore and I am ok with it if I either brush my teeth or chew a piece of strong gum like extra spearmint. For my last snack of the day, I take cereal bars made by Kashi...the soft baked apple and strawberry and I half them and eat only 1 half. It really seems to do the trick for wanting sweets. I just came inside, my company is having a picnic today to celebrate its 40th anniversary, they had pecan pie which is my all time favorite dessert. I stood at the table where it along with brownies were lying and then I walked away without either. I cannot believe I walked away from pecan pie. But you know what, I want to be thinner worse than I wanted the piece of pie.

While I have always wanted to loose weight, I started making an effort 19 months ago and for 18 months I got almost no where...I was exercising every day...but not seeing any results. I finally gave up and saw a dietitican and after talking to her I realized how few calories I should be eating each day and I had to face up to what I was eating each day. After talking with her, I realize now that even though I was making an effort to exercise I was sabbatoging my efforts by eating sweets and drinking soda. I also learned it was just as important what you eat. Now that I have a good clean healthy diet and I am eating every 2.5 hours, I am not hungry and I don't have sweet cravings. It is so weird I have never been like this before...never before in my entire life have I ever walked away from pecan pie. It is just all in what your goals are and how fast you want to reach those goals.

You can still have sweets after each dinner and you can allow yourself cheat days...these are popular amongst dieters but just weigh that against the fact that a 130 lb woman can walk at 3.0 mph on a treadmill for 30 mintues and burn 120 calories while 1 snickers bar is around 240 calories. After I started weighing the costs of sweets, for me, I just decided that I wouldn't partake of the sweeties makes it easier for me.

I wish you luck---It is a hard journey!

It is so common in older marriages that the communication that sews the 2 of you together becomes frayed. It is a mine field loaded with crap from the experiences that you've shared together. You don't have to tell her you aren't attracted to her anymore...she knows...she sees it every time you are out together...those looks of lust for other women that pass you by scantly clad on a warm summer day in the wal-mart parking lot (you think she doesn't see that? it is rather sickening and a totally male thing to do). Actions speak so much louder than words! She's been with you long enough to read you like a book. It is rare though, that a man ever develops the ability to read a woman like a book.

Sex being a chore to her is more about the lack of closenss and communication that you have in your marriage. When is the last time you touched her in an passionate way where sex wasn't demanded? When is the last time you told her thank you for spending her time with you? When is the last time you looked into her eyes and felt the fire that brought you two together in the first place? Do you guys talk at all? If your goal is to have a more active sex life, then she needs to know that she is attractive to you. The only way she's going to know that is if you say so...but here is the downfall for that...women are very good at knowing when men are lying. You need to figure out what feature you are still in love with and tell her that is beautiful. Something like, "you know hun, you have the most beautiful eyes in the world and your smile is so wonderful, thank you for being with me." is nice to hear. And there was no mention of the stuff you don't like.

If weight is a problem, then start cooking and don't buy cookies, chips and other junk that contributes to the problem. Start asking her out for walks, "hey hun, what do you say, will you spend some quality time with me? lets spend 15 minutes together and see what we can find in our neighborhood" or "I would love to spend some time together, what do you say, just you and me? Lets leave the kids here and go for a nice stroll it is a beautiful day." If all goes well, you guys will start recalling wonderful experiences from the past and before she knows it 25 minutes has past and you guys would have walked a little over a mile.

I just ran my first 5K yesterday (April 18). It was much shorter than I expected! I just had a banana on the way to the race. I was fine during the race then after a group of us went out for brunch. I didn't do anything special the night before. I didn't feel sick (well the uphill run/jog got to me but that is more about me being out of shape than about what I ate---the proof of that was once my heart rate returned to semi-normal the nausea went away).

I have a friend that does 1/2 or full marathons and he has a special diet that he sticks to days before a run, but he is running a minimum of 13 miles and it takes much longer to complete! Trust me, the 3.1 mile 5K will be over in less than an hour...you will be fine!

Mine are 36D and I don't like them. They have always brought me unwelcomed and unholsom attention. I am sincerely considering a reduction in the next few years.

before your 3 pm snack, go brush your teeth then eat what you want. After brushing my teeth, I don't really want to put anything into my mouth...

No matter what you are really like, your post sounds very overly controlling. Perhaps you could change your tone and offer to do something you know he loves. Grab a basketball and when he gets home ask him to shoot some hoops with you. You'd be amazed how many calories you can actually burn this way (basketball adds a little resistenance, thowing things above your head takes extra calories, and running either full court or half court will definitely burn some calories). You might not like playing basketball but you could learn for hubby?

You and your hubby need to be team players and for motivation instead of telling him how fat and awful he is to be fat and to tell him you're not sleeping with him because he's fat ...well....I'd say that from his standpoint...motivation and depression couldn't get any worse. You should lift him up...we all go to work...we all get torn down at work...home should be a sanctuary not a hell. And...we all go through cycles in life...sometimes we are fat...other times we aren't. It is the ebb and flow of life. So, instead of asking him to the gym...start out gradual...ask him to go for a walk (outside after he's done with the treadmill)....let the walks progress to hilly areas, play basketball with him often, take some water with you on your walks...ask him to carry it (adding weight), if he eats what you fix...then don't buy cookies when you go to the store....add fruit and veggies to your menu...there are so many things you could do to help him fix his problem that would be fun for the both of you rather than your harping on him. Maybe right now he's gained weight so he is frightened of the gym...may sound weird but I am not motivated to go to the gym in my current condition so I have a private trainer in a private studio --if you have the money, perhaps you could do that for him if he doesn't want to shake his fat in front of lots of people at the gym. Once he looses some weight, he will most likely be more motivated to go to the gym since he has a past interest in working out every day. Other ways you can help is getting some weights at home and work out in front of him and after a few days ask him to join you. You can find used gym equipment pretty cheap at yard sales. Have a friend that has kids? Perfect...get together and you and hubby play hide and seek with the kids. If not, in the summer invite a few friends over buy a cheap slip and slide and watch the adults having a great time and burning lots of calories (add a little alcohol and it gets hilarious) ...yep adults still like to play...especially men who are around women dressed in bikinis! Think of other ways to just have fun and not harp on weight and the gym! As someone else said, having sex very frequently also helps....it lightens the mood, reduces stress and tension and burns calories....it creates a closer bond between husband and wife.

Lastly, if you cannot love him fat....then perhaps you cannot truly love him at all. Trophy marriages rarely make it to the 7 year mark. Marriages based on friendship and teamwork, intermingled with really good communications seem to have the best odds of surviving in our society. I'd ask you really think about your situation because if you ever plan to have kids things will change and you will need a friend...a partner....a companion...NOT a trophy.

I second the tzatziki it is WONDERFUL