Posts by j-fizz

Hey, I thought I'd share my story with you, when I was 15 something bad happened to me and at the time I was suffering from anorexia, i was under weight but it wasn't deadly serious, then in the space of 3 years I went from being 112, which for my height 5'8 was underweight to being 230 pounds...which is a lot to put on in a short space of time, but it was my way of trying to deal with what happened to me. I got stretch marks badly upon my arms, on the top bit on the sides mainly...but they've faded a lot and they're difficult to see unless you look closely. I used to HATE them and reuse to wear strappy tops or anything that would show them off. Now I've made peace with my body, through treating it right and losing weight. I realised in the process that the marks I have whether stretch marks or scars make me who I am and I see that my body tells a story. I refuse to see my stretch marks as ugly, they're just a part of my journey. Also there is not 1 person i know whether overwheight or skinny who doesn't have a blemish/scar/stretch mark on their body. I think it's so easy to get caught up in a society that expects perfection when there is no such thing.

As for it stopping you being in a relationship with a man, then this is to do with your self esteem and not your body. Until you really start to love you then your not going to be able to be in a relationship with anyone. value yourself, make peace with your body and realise that your a catch for any man. Seriously, men love women's bodies whatever form they take on, and most importantly he should be into you as a person as well. 

I hope this helps you...

Ok, first off I think your concentrating FAR too much on your weight. Friends that have known you for years are not going to judge you for putting on weight...and if they do then they're clearly not good friends. 

I think you need to realise 1) your sooooo much more then what you weigh, and people never look at you/criticise you as much as you do yourself

2) whatever anyone tells you on here it's your mental attitude you need to change. skulking around the house isn't going to make you happy

If you had 1 year to live i bet 30 pounds would hardly bother you. so look at your life like that-you only havw 1 to live so you need to make the most of it. 

also you could buy some clothes that accentuate and highlight your new clothes in a flattering way and make you look amazing!

ok...forget the shape of the mirror. my basic question is....does a thin mirror make you look larger from further away?

sorry neckchin is meant to read neck/chin

yes...at the minute i've got back into cycling. and i love the bodytrecker (ski machine) because it works out my whole body. so today for example i did 20 mins in the body trecker and went for a 40 minute cycle over a hilly track. 

sorry meant to say 300 cals not 3,000- that would be weird...and also tried solving the 11am hunger with a breakfast bar-but i'm still hungry- so end up eating like 600 cals of food because i am so hungry at that time

interesting post! I can tell I've lost weight if i look at old and new pics, and because my clothes have gotten bigger. Sometimes I think it's more noticeable then others. BUT I've had 3 people in the last week comment that i've lost 'a lot of weight'...which is strange...i think i have but i don't think it's that ntoiceable. i get confused. anyway i'm just happy that i've lost weight and im actually enjoying it and love working out n feeling good, im so much more pro-active then i used to be!

thanks for the advice gi-jane! i'm not going to beat myself up about this...and i will make sure i take good care of myself today!

I read the book about a year and a half ago, and yes whilst the tone was infuriating at points, it did actually have some enlightening information. I'm already a vegetarian, I have been all my life, so I had no problem reading the section on meat, I have to admit it was still disturbing though! 

I think that most meat eaters prefer not to dwell on the concept that what they're eating was once an animal, I mean bacon isn't called 'insides of a pig' is it...? 

I could totally condone people eating meat if they were prepared to raise the animal and kill them humanely themselves...so much more natural and less hypocritical...

I would just like to suggest for any women out there, especially with bas PMS soy milk is a godsend, it helps with PMS symptoms and is much less fattening then drinking cows milk!

I'm going to reinforce what Gi-Jane and Lynnhaslost have said about seeing someone like a counsellor to help you, and i'm also coming from this on a similar level as you because I too have been sexually assaulted, i'm not going to go into detials, because i don't feel it's appropriate, but the best thing to do is to go and see someone who specalises in victims of sexual assault. you need to realise that sexual assault is about power, more then it is about lust, and that it's ok to be attractive no matter what size you are, just because people are attractive it doesnt give them the right to be sexually assaulted. You deserve to see yourself as a beautiful women, and achieve your goal weight and not let what happened to you stop this. After my experience I decided that I was not going to be a victim, and that I would prove to everyone that I could come out of the situation better then ever, it's a hard thing to do though....if you want to send a message to me about your issues then please feel free too...I still somtimes struggle with male attention directed at me, so i do understand.

thanks so much cjeka and geminisun, you both put the whole thing into perspective and I feel so much more motivated and willing to get my healthy regime back in place! You both really helped me!

hey guys, thanks for all your advice, some of it made me laugh! i decided to text him and got THE nicest text back, so im glad i made my decision...yay!

You know what? Don't feel guilty at all, it's not like as you described it, you were shoving it down your throat. Evidently your body wanted some chocolate and you satisfied that craving...and it was not a binge. Maybe though, your regime is too strict, do you allow yourself treats? because if you don't then your body will end up craving and you could end up eating more the next time. I say add more treats to your diet like one cookie and one chocolate bar a week or something?? 

Yay, I love everyones meessages of female empowerment. I am deff going to take your advice when it comes to men and believe I am hot and beautiful and that they'd be lucky to have me! Thank you ! 

that's really interesting illisa, it has drawn light on my own eating problems when I was fifteen, I was half a stone under weight and therefore under my BMI. This was deliberate, I would eat 800 cals a day and burn off 200 running. So I guess I was anorexic for a while...I never really thought of myself as being labeled with it, although i knew I had a problem.