Posts by ladyscorpiana

I've also found that men sometimes choose women who are thinner..not necessarily because they are attracted to a thinner woman, but because their friends may give them a hard time about a heavier women.  My experience with this was when I was a bit younger.  (Yes, I've had relationships with men and women over the years...lucky for me...I have experience with both sexes!)  I've always wanted to be with someone who wanted to be with me for me...love handles and all.  I didn't want someone who would "tolerate" my love handles because I was cute..or nice..or whatever. 

On the lesbian side of it...I've found that women have been more forgiving and lucky for me!  I'll take that!  I have someone in my life who adores my curves and wouldn't have it any other way.  No worries...I'm losing weight, but I'll never be a size 10 and I'm okay with that.

Best!  =)

I've definitely found if there isn't good tasting goodies in the house, I binge a lot less..but it happens nonetheless.  Yesterday, I binged on candy like crazy...so bad that I got sick and couldn't eat dinner.  It's an awful feeling.  But, I still managed to lose a pound!  Go figure!

It is hard to see others losing weight.  As women..we always look to our friends and peers in comparison to ourselves.  We are all unique and have to think of ourselves that way..even if it is frustrating.  My sister is my rival..so to speak.  She's always been thinner..by a long shot.  Now..she's on her second round of liposuction that missed some spots she wanted to have done and her curvy figure irks the heck out of me.  I can't help it.  But, I know I'm trying and I've accepted that I will never be at her weight (130's or so).  I started this journey at 283 pounds last November and am now down to 258 pounds.  I'm starting to get more comfy in my skin.  I just want to be where I was when I got pregnant with my daughter 6 years go..250.  That is my goal and once I reach it..maybe another 10 or 20 pounds more.  I'll never be a thin woman and I'm okay with that.  =) 

I try not to weigh myself everyday because if I see a pound or two increase, I get discouraged.  I usually go for every other day or every 3 days.  This way, I rarely see the increase and if I do, it doesn't bother me as much if I would see it daily.  Weight fluctuates on a daily basis because of body fluids and what not, and I've heard most doctors recommend weighing in once a week.  I began to become obsessive about weighing myself and feeling bad or good based on the number.  To keep my mentat health in track, it just doesn't work for me to weigh in daily.  

Congratulations!  I know the feeling of fitting into something that was once too small.  I bought a t-shirt at gay pride 2 years ago too small, and this year i will be able to wear it!

I've had threesomes and those times were the last time.  I've heard many people say it works for them and their relationships, but for me..it just ruined it.   There really has to be a huge level of trust and honesty between partners, and I did not have that with my ex-boyfriend.  It caused major "damage" to quote deedus between my ex and I.  I lost trust in him and felt he always wanted to have sex with other women.  I learned that sharing my partner is not something I can do and am very happy to be with a woman who wants me all to herself.  :)

Hi everyone...I'm a 31 year old woman who happens to love a woman.  :)  I have a hard time saying lesbian because I do find men attractive.  I have a hard time saying bisexual because..well...I don't actually know why.  I guess maybe I'm still working on accepting myself for who I really am, so I'm having a hard time "labeling" myself.  I hate labels.  I love my partner very much and most of my relationships that have been positive have been with women, so for that reason, I tend to gravitate toward women.  Not that I'm man-bashing..but I've had some crappy relationships with men..and I feel most comfortable and safe with a woman.  :)