Posts by makettle

akgal is right. The Republicans have no room to talk. Where was all bipartisan stuff while GW was in office? Have you seen the latest Gallup poll that gives the Republicans only 5 solid states in their favor? Changes will be made either with or without them, they can get on board or atrophy and become irrelevant, they have a choice. All Repubs voted against the stimulus bill in the House today; bipartisan my aunt Fanny.

I was greatly disappointed to find that Obama had given in on the contraceptive issue. Funding for contraceptives is a type of stimulus even if the right wing does not believe so. A woman can never be financially stable nor secure until she has full control over her reproductive ability. When we as a country remove this stability from women in poverty we are in fact further endangering the very economy we hope to save. Contraception is not shameful but normal and necessary. Those funds also would have provided health care jobs that are now either non-existant or will be soon. It took less than a week before the Republicans brought back this class warfare/wedge issue BS they are so famous for.

It would be both foolish and dangerous to appoint people without the knowledge and background to get the job done. I think Obama is neither of those. Reaching out to the people who could make this administration run smoothly and efficiently only speaks to Obama's enthusiasm for bringing people together and his hope for moving forward in a positive direction.

As has already been stated, there is little point in bemoaning what Obama has done; he is still not president. If you feel the need to get upset about politics, go ahead and take a look at all the garbage the current administration is trying to shove through Congress in their last few days, that should keep you busy.

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I think HG also has a fudge recipe that is chocolate, but still uses the pumpkin. I made her chocolate brownies and they were awesome!

I don't think it's a "dirty word," but I also do not like people encouraging me to do it either. I will not work out in a gym, ever. I do have a gym membership, I have only ever gone swimming though. I enjoy swimming, and so do my kids, so to me it isn't a "workout," it is a fun family activity. I cannot sweat and not produce something, to me that wastes my time and energy. I understand the lawn mowing thing, in fact I try to mow my yard every other day, (I have a HUGE back yard and have to mow it in sections). I have a park like back yard though, so I am producing something when I mow. People just walking on treadmills strikes me as funny, what are you making with all that energy? Why be an indoor sportsman/woman when you have the beuty of the great outdoors? That's just me though, and not everybody is as lucky as I am, to live an hour from the coast, or to have long beautiful summers and mild winters.

So I understand people not liking to be told they need to exercise, I can understand how that might be taken as an insult. That does have a connotation of judgement in some eyes. I am self confident enough not to be very insulted, but others may not be. Anytime you suggest something that others should do, you should ask yourself how you would feel if some person walked up to you and said the same thing.

This comment was meant with no ill will toward anyone.

Nameste!

I agree with hamburger. Log it and face your fears, that is the only way to deal with them. Not knowing is always scarier. Once you have a handle on how much you ate, then you know where to go from there. Move forward. Everyday is new, no mistakes. Tomorrow you will do better.

How long have you been at it? That hungry feeling is your body alerting you to the fact that you are doing a good job of dieting! It will take time before you see any results. Remember the slower the weight comes off the more likely it is to stay off. Leslie is right. Your body was used to a certain amount of calories, and it is telling you that you have not given it the same amount it had before. You can't swim without getting wet, you can't lose weight without feeling at least a little hungry; it is a natural and appropriate response. I have lost more than 40 pounds, and the day after I overeat (put more than the usual calories in), I am starving (my body wants those extra calories back). Also, you may be building muscle through your work outs, and muscle weighs more than fat. Try measuring your waist to see if there is any difference there. Have any of your jeans felt looser? Again, if you just started then you may not notice any difference for the first few weeks. Stay strong and consistent and it will happen for you! Good luck!

I have decided that as I age I must change my expectations of my body. I weigh about 5lbs more than I did in high school, and I am not going to kill myself to get those last 5 lbs off. I have lost altogether 41 lbs. So, yes I agree with you!

Thanks for trying to help. I click on the little advice thingy, and it keeps telling me 1200. Isn't it supposed to change itself? Why do I need to tell it how many calories I should be consuming? If I have to tell it, then who is going to tell me? I put in my goal weight, made sure it was set on maintenance, and it still tells me 1200. Arrgh! Frustration. Should I just be using the burn number?

Zena-

Being honest with yourself and your SO is where to begin. That relationship is out there for you. However, you can't find it if you stay in a relationship that isn't working because you do not want to hurt her feelings. You will find the strength to do the right thing.

"Aditionally and maybe more importantly--this person loves me SO MUCH...really..........I haven't made it sound that way ...but I have been honest"

That is not the point. Do you love her? Honestly, if you are talking about getting what you need from alternative sources, then maybe it is time to re-evaluate. From your description she sounds emotionally needy, yet your needs are more physical. There has to be a point where the two needs meet. She loves you so much, yet how do you feel about her?

I have bad news, you will have to work on things for the rest of your life if you plan to spend any part of that time with a partner. The work will NEVER stop. I have been married 18 years and we are STILL working on things. I love him, and because I love him, I will continue to work on things.

OK-I have got to add my 2cents here. Look, we all do things for our partners that we may not fully enjoy all the time ourselves. My partner and I have sex about 5-6 times a week. That is not my inclination, but I love my partner. He would want twice a day if I found that acceptable but I don't. I figure, it takes maybe 1/2 an hour out of my day to make him really happy. I do not always have an orgasim myself, but I don't need to that frequently to be happy. So, if your partner doesn't make you happy you need to deal with the issue.

Cheating is wrong. You spoke to your SO about having other partners. He went off. So, yes, this is how it is going to be for the rest of your life potentially. If you can't continue this way, explain that to him. Don't make it a medical issue, make it a quality of life issue. If it is an ED problem, get a vibrator and try something new WITH HIM. Who knows, this may turn him on. Make it a no penetration thing. Sometimes we do this and it is really fun. If he says absolutely not, then your course is set. Between the two of you figure out how long it will be before he is on his feet alone and work toward that goal. Set a date certain for him to be out of your house, and back to a good friend only. Make sure that everything is on the table, open, honest and transparent. Once he realizes how important sex is to you, he will either work with you to satisfy your needs, or work with you to help you get your life back, that is if he really cares as much about you as he says he does.

By the way, I have no shame. Talking about sex should not embarass people. It is part of being human.

NAMESTE!

I understand what you mean. I lost 12 pounds this summer by exercising every other day. As a teacher working two jobs, that is just not a possibility for me during the school year. I am lucky if I get one or two days in per week. I still make the effort, but try not to beat myself up when it doesn't happen. This is probably why maintenance has always been a big issue for me.

Yeah, the boob swelling wouldn't be so bad if they didn't hurt so much. My hubby sure likes that part tho, but he can be a pig. Sorry to hear about your allergies. I prescribe one light beer for you, it will make you pee, and thus feel better.

I order my monthly splurges online. Usually a couple of truffle or duck pate's, and a couple of artisan cheeses. I used to get hand crafted salami online too, but I just can't handle the nitrates. Every once in awhile I will order a couple of duck breasts, or some kelp caviar, or some wild game sausage. I go to igourmet, or justcaviar. I check what's on sale/clearance first, usually some good cheeses are hiding there.