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Starting weight(Jan 15): 285

Weight last weight in(Feb 05): 281.3

Weight this week(Feb 11): 281.8

Weight lost(1 week): gained 0.5

Completely frustrated. Can't figure out why I can't lose anything. I've monitored my sodium, have been drinking 8-16 glasses of water everyday, have done cardio and strength training, sleep regularly...

Reminds me of my mom. When I found out I was pregnant with my son (the only grandson of hers at the time and still today) all she said was oh. No gushing, no clapping for joy, just oh. It really hurt.But then I thought to myself, "Why should my happiness depend on hers?" And when I asked her why she's not excited she didn't have a good answer, oh well.

I think that it would be wonderful if your mother were excited for you as much as everyone else is, but unless you ask her why she's not seemingly happy for you you'll never know if she really is or if she was preoccupied. Maybe her friend at work just found out she has cancer...I don't know, but I know that there are times when I don't show complete enthusiasm for something my husband or children do, not because I'm not excited, but sometimes changing from one emotion to another is too difficult. If this is a completely out of character thing for your mom, ask her if there is anything bothering her. IF this is a completely normal thing for your mom, tell her how it made you feel. She may not be aware of your feelings.

As for staying motivated, it seems like you have a great support from others, even those of us on this post. Share your successes with the people who offer you support, and don't share it with those that have not offered you support. I know it will proaly be hard to not share your successes with your mom, but it will be so much worse if you keep sharing and your mother keeps her feelings bottled up. And, maybe your mom is feeling a bit put out because you are making progress in your heath and she's not. It's true, parents do feel petty emotions, usually at the expense of the kids (no matter how olde they are).

Just whatever you do, don't lose sight of your goals, don't feel like it's not worth it, don't let her dampen your success. If you are losing weight for reasons that are your own, and not because she wants you to, then you will continue to find the motivation you need to continue.

Good luck!

Hello all,

So, i am really struggling. I gained back the five pounds that I lost and probably more (I have to buy a new scale today). I think I'd be doingmuch better if I had the time to figure out the claorie count for everything I like to eat. I also struggle because my husband likes to eat out A LOT and of course the kids make choosing meals difficult.

Does anyone have meal plans already written out with calorie counts and all that I could sample for my family?

Also, how do you lose the water weight? I know I'm supposed to drink lots of water (but how much) and avoid salt (but what's an acceptable limit) and I'm sure there are other things that I'm not doing that I should.

I could really use some help, guidance, advice...

Congrats to all of you that have lost weight...your stories are inspiring

Here's wishing us all the best in our healthy goals

chicken ~ enchiladas

My husband and I are the exact same height and I outweigh him by 100 pounds. It's not fun, especially when I was 20 pounds lighter than him when we were married. He doesn't seem to mind the weight, but I do. I see the looks of others when they see us together, when they see that I have to squeeze into booths or chairs at restaurants. I hate it. That's part of the reason why I'm here. My main reason I'm on this site is to get the support from people that know how I feel, because my wonderful husband doesn't, so that I can turn this eating right and healthy choice into a lifestyle.

I want to feel sexy when I'm with him, and right now I don't. Thanks for posting this thread, at least I know I'm not the only one.

I don't believe there ever was or will ever be a time when I have felt or will feel ready to have another child. I've just had a nagging feeling that there was someone missing in our family. I constantly looked for more children than I had (when I had one I looked for two. When I had two, I looked for three. I have three now, but I always look for four) when we were out at the playground.

Even now, as we are actively trying to conceive, I don't feel READY. I look at the chaos that consumes my life and think to myself, "And I want another one?" Yet I cannot shake the feeling that someone is missing.

As far as age differences go, my girls are two years apart and my second girl and my boy are three and a half years apart (he's five and a half years younger than the oldest). The first and second used to be best friends, choosing to play with each other than with the other kids on the playground. But as they got older, they started fighting more. The first and third used to get along the best, but now they argue just as much as the first and second. And the second and third get along more often now than they ever did.

My point, and I do have one, is that I don't think that age alone will determine whether children will get along with each other. My sister and I are only 14 months apart and until we became adults we never got along and were always arguing. I think that no matter how far apart your children are in age, as long as you teach them to love and respect each other they will play well together. Of course they will argue as well, but that's when you step in and teach them love and respect for each other.

I wish you and your husband luck in finding out if a second child is right for you and your family at this time. If you are religious and believe that God answers your prayers, then pray to him and have faith that He will answer you.

I will tell you that whether I felt ready for my kids or not, and whether I feel ready for them now or not, I would not go back to life without them. 

I just wanted to join this group. I'm 29, 280 lbs, want to lose 150 as soon as possible and am having a hard time with accepting that the healthiest way to do it is going to take about two years.

Also, I wanted to reply to these comments. Being married and uncomfortable with your body ain't no picnic either, especially when you only weighed 125 lbs. when you got married. And even though he's been married to me this whole time that I've been gaining weight, I still feel like he can't possilby like the way the fat feels.

As for a guy entertaining himself to pictures of other women, please don't tolerate it as "a guy thing." I had to deal with that and my husband, and all of the emotional crap that comes from it, like you're feeling/ you've felt. If it helps any, my therapist has gotten me and Hubby to talk and I have come to realize that his addiction (because that is what it is) had nothing to do with me or even with the way the other women looked. It had to do with association and feelings of pleasure. He at one time found pleasure when he looked at a naked woman, continued to seek it out and after a while became addicted....much like anyone addicted to drugs, emotional eating, etc. It really isn't about you. If it bothers you, ask him to seek help; recovery will take time. If it doesn't bother you, let it go. But it is not "just a guy thing" and yes women can be addicted too.

On a lighter note, I am excited to have found this site and the wonderful support here. I've lost 5 lbs since my doc said to count calories (although I think most of that was because I had a stomach virus for 3 days that didn't allow me to eat anything while everything else came out) and I may have also gained some back (see journal) but I am determined to stick this out.

Let's go people, WE ROCK!

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