Posts by tmck99

gi-jane - you always inspire me, you're quote is so true.

I don't know that I am as busy as you - but here is how I do it.  As a result of "streamlining" the process for awhile, I have been able to fit back in a lot of my favorite hobbies ect that went by the wayside.

1. I make a weekly menu of 6 healthy dinners which I scribble down on the back of my grocery list each week
2. Every dinner I make 2 servings for myself and I pack one away for my lunch before I even serve dinner
3. I've been eating a lot of frozen veggies recently because I can add them to dinners without chopping or washing
4. The core of my exercise program is a 3x week spinning class which I go to on the way home and before dinner.  For 3 hours a week, I get quite a bit of energy and exercise.
5. I'm trying to pick up active hobbies vs. inactive ones and active social situations vs. inactive.  This way I can fit more exercise into my "fun" time, "social" time and "me" time.

Have you ever heard the quote - I think it is "exercise doesn't take time out of your life, it puts life into your time".

You can do it!

You are not ugly and fat!  You are probably much prettier and fitter than you give yourself credit for.  Don't worry, you will look gorgeous in your wedding dress.  I tried to lose weight for the wedding and it just didn't work with all the stress.  As soon as I was married everything worked much easier - so don't be too hard on yourself now.

Dieting / Food / support is a sensitive issue and sadly many people break up over it.  Don't overreact.  You should let him know how you feel and that you would like him to be more supportive, but don't expect him to change overnight.  He obviously has very strong feelings about health vs flavor and loves to cook, there is nothing wrong with that, just challenging for you.  Eventually you should be able to teach him that it's not true - healthy food can be just as flavorful as non.

One trick I do that helps is I take 1/2 of the portion my husband makes for me, save it for the next day and fill the rest of my plate with fruit (if it's breakfast) or veggies.  This seems to be the perfect solution so that I can eat healthy while he still feels valued for his cooking and helping out.

Also, maybe you can get him to add the butter/cream last and serve you before adding it.  I have my husband add sausage to the eggs last so that I can take just some. 

Good luck!

1) I am a 27 year old engineer living in Washington.  I am female, married for 1 year and have no kids yet.

2) After getting married and getting settled in washington I joined a gym and started watching my diet (again).  I gained a lot of weight in the first few years of college (132 to 195) and have spent the years since trying to get it back off.  My motivation is to get down to a "low health risk" weight and develop a healthy lifestyle and healthy relationship with food so that I can pass my good habits on to my future children.

I would think that not actually wanting to gain weight is one huge obstacle to recovery.  And what is sucess other than overcoming obstacles?

Sounds like you are doing great!  Keep up the good work.

I am actually doing great, thanks for asking.  I had such a setback with october parties, but I am working out again and controlling myself on the weekends.  I am not looking forward to thanksgiving and december temptation wise!  I don't even plan to resist everything - but I would like to stay in maintenance at least.

Motto #1: Went bowling and had 1 1/2 drinks      &nb sp; 10 pts

Motto #2: Played frisbee golf with josh        ;       &n bsp;    10 pts

Motto #3: Ate at BB mcgraws, had a 1/2 a burger no mayo, a salad and split a cheese dip, not wonderful but not bad at all             10 pts

Motto #4: Read my book for an hour        ;       &n bsp;        ;  10 pts

I did good this weekend - not great, I hope to do better.  I averaged maintenance over the three days, which is good for me!

I'm sorry about your family - that is really hard.  People are very insecure when it comes to other's sucess.  Be sure to encourage them and support them whenever you can. 

My strategy is to stop mentioning my weight or weight loss.  I turn down the cupcake because I "already ate", or "I'll have one later" instead of because I am dieting.  Eventually they will forget to be resentful and accept the new you. 

I like your cut veggies always in the fridge I think I will try that.

My faves are:

google calendar reminders (I guess I am too much of a geek for sticky notes)

plan meals and buy groceries every week, buy lots of fresh fruits and vegetables

light ice cream

Make goals often

optimism

My friend started it, so I borrowed the book and read through it, but not in depth.  Also, I looked through the recipe book.  I also get, and read, Jillian Micheal's newsletter every day. 

From what I've read, I'm impressed.  It looked to be a very sound plan, based on solid nutritional principles and I didn't see any red flags.  I enjoyed the books and the newsletter, they have a very supportive and inspirational attitude.  I feel like the focus is on "You can do it!" rather than "Our system works". 

cellar-door - I totally drink when I am nervous too!  It sucks.

Hi all!  I did so great this weekend, I am so proud of myself.  Actually, I ate close to maintenance every day, but I logged everything and that is great for me.

Motto #1: I went to TWO bars friday night, with tons of people I didn't really know and I drank just one beer.  I had a great time, I don't think anybody even noticed that I wasn't drunk like them.

Motto #2: I played frisbee golf with my husband. 

Motto #3: We went to IHOP and I really wanted a cheeseburger.  Turned out it wasn't very good.  I ordered a side salad, ate that, half my burger and half my onion rings.  I felt I did pretty good.

Motto #4: I played sims, it was fun. 

It is definitely a solution to not participate in situations that are challenging. 

The real challenge, and I believe you can do it!, is to practice going out and clubbing with your friends, but being DD and having fun without a lot of alcohol.  That is my goal for myself anyway!  I don't want to sit at home just because I am dieting!

Members so far for this weekend:

• tmck99 (me)       ; 40 points
• cellar-door       &nb sp;  40 points
• intothevoid
• mamarose
• tosamira       &nb sp;      40 points
  
  

Let's do this!

Alcohol: For this weekend, there are no parties or social events to worry about, but we did just buy the yummiest hard cider in the world so that will be a challenge. 

Treat: My treat this weekend is going to be 1 hour playing "The Sims" guilt free.

Social: I want to go hiking or play frisbee golf with Josh, but it is supposed to rain so I still have to think of something. 

Pudding sounds good to me.  How do you fill cupcakes?  Do you sqirt the filling in after they are done? 

I'd tell myself that you're not actually fat - that the scrawny girls I compared myself to were not as pretty as I thought and were really just underdeveloped.

If thinking about something causes you to be depressed or unhappy or feel even worse about yourself, then DON'T THINK ABOUT IT!  It's not your job to solve all the world's problems, it is not "deeper" to be unhappy. 

Just because you are different doesn't mean that it matters!  You have lots of similarities with people if you look for them. 

It wouldn't kill you to be friendly!  You spend so much time expecting people to reject you - really, most people are decent people and they probably won't mind if you talk to them.  Assume the best from people.

I have lost 42 pounds since January 2007, and 31 pounds since January 2008.  I did it with a lot of hard work and a lot of plateaus.  I constantly had to rework my entire plan every time it wasn't working anymore - sometimes because I stopped losing sometimes because it was too hard to follow or it didn't fit into my life.  I think I owe my sucess to knowing when to back off - but never giving up.