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| Health & Support | Group for parents of children with autism | Sep 15 2009 20:02 (UTC) |
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Hey! Thanks for the reply and especially for sharing some of your story. My sone Eric was diagnosed at 20 months or so and he just turned 5 in July. He is considered "high-functioning" and is mostly mainstreamed (not entirely yet) but his social/communication skills still have much room to grow. He was in a preschool program specifically for autistic kids for 3 full years with lots of time integrated into a regular preschool class as well. I'd guess that about 90% of what he says is echolalia, but he's a charmer. He's been reading as long as he's been talking (although he would rather read the phone book or a cookbook over a kid's book anyday). I worry about how he'll be when he's older. When Eric was diagnosed, even though I suspected it and initiated the referral, I was royally pissed at the world. I was a special ed administrator - don't I get a "get out of jail free card" to not have a child with a disability?!? Now, I realize that my knowledge and background turned out to be the best thing for Eric. I'm able to be a great advocate and it makes me better at my job (I'm now a school principal). Every day I wonder...will Eric ever live independently or hold an independent job? Will he ever fall in love? How old will he be before he is teased at school for the first time and "gets it?" My husband and I are great co-parents. He's a part time stay at home dad (we also have a 3yr old). Raising Eric definately adds strain to the marriage, but I think we are luckier than most.
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| Health & Support | Plus size speciality bras?? | Sep 15 2009 13:14 (UTC) |
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Call your local bridal shops, even though you aren't the bride. Bridal shops carry dresses in all sizes to meet the needs of a variety of clientel. They also carry undergarments or can measure you and order one that will be just perfect. It will cost a bit more, but you will have perfect support and get exactly what you need to deal with boobs, back, and belly.
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| Weight Loss | I'm sooo jealous, but shouldn't be | Sep 11 2009 14:00 (UTC) |
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I just want to say a HUGE thank you to everyone who replied yesterday and supported me through my crappy day yesterday. After a healthy dinner and a solid night of sleep, common sense has kicked in and I'm feeling better. I am definately realizing that: 1. I'm not angry about the lap band, just that one of my best friends kept the secret from me (totally her right, and I think I understand why, but it still kinda hurts) 2. I rock! I lost 48 pounds through hard work and the slow loss is more likely to stick. 3. Even if lap band was an option for me - I wouldn't want it for a number of reasons, so I shouldn't be jealous anyway. After I posted yesterday, I really expected to get a ton of replies telling me that I am a bad, evil, jealous person and not deserving of a friend like her anyway. I expected attacks, not support. But...on the whole everyone was super supportive (even the person telling me to "snap out of it" did it in a supportive way). Thanks for understanding that I just needed to vent. Today is a much better day and I am back to being myself. THANKS A BUNCH FRIENDS! |
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| Weight Loss | I'm sooo jealous, but shouldn't be | Sep 10 2009 18:36 (UTC) |
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I just got back from lunch. I was feeling so bad about this whole stupid thing that I gorged on a gigantic gourmet grilled cheese sandwich and a humongous helping of french fries. Sometimes I just really hate me. |
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| Weight Loss | I'm sooo jealous, but shouldn't be | Sep 10 2009 16:13 (UTC) |
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We have a coworker who lost over 100 pounds with the band in a matter of months. I guess I feel that if she gets the same results, she'll be a "smokin hot and healthy babe" and I'll be the "blob." As a kid I had some ED issues and truthfully, I am concerned that this rediculus immature jealousy could re-trigger some of those issues. The competative and jealous part of me want to prove that I'm more successful and turn to drastic measures to prove it by "beating her" weight loss. I'm not saying I should, or will - I know I am stronger than that - I'm just trying to describe how I feel. The 48 I have lost have not all been healthy. The first 20 came off very quickly because of some unhealthy behaviors on my part before I got medical help to continue appropriately. That "episode" started with jealousy over another friend's weight loss, and I just feel that my sudden onset of more jealousy could set me in motion again. I have already called my dieticion to see if she can counsel me by phone to give me a pep talk before I go nuts! ...and yes, I think the bigger issue is feeling betrayed that she hid it from me. |
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| Motivation | Trying to start over | May 27 2009 15:30 (UTC) |
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I want to give you a great big hug! A similar thing happened to a friend. Both husband and wife were obese. She had weight loss surgery and did a great job keeping up the follow up. She looks smokin' hot at 55. She just divorced her husband and told me that she left him, because now she can "do better" and select from "a higher caliber of men." I am trying to be as supportive as I can to her ex. He is an awesome guy and deserves a fabulous partner who is not a superficial you-know-what. You deserve that too! |
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| Weight Loss | Vacationing from the Scale? | May 27 2009 15:22 (UTC) |
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Original Post by oddfunk: I think a bit of a break is probably healthy. Unfortunately because of a weight loss clinical trial I am currently in, I have to weigh daily. This means that tiny fluctuations are causing me anxiety. I've only lost 2 pounds in the last 2 months. Grrr...no one toblame but myself though.
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| Foods | What color is Your banana? | May 21 2009 15:31 (UTC) |
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Here's a sure fire way to slow down ripening for those who like them less ripe...as soon as you get home from the store, detach each banana from the bunch and keep each one at least a foot away from its "friends." The gases released from bananas cause ripening and will accelerate ripening if touching or near other bananas. My hubby thinks I'm nuts because I will buy a bunch and stash them in different places in the kitchen...I just need to remember where I put them! Also, for banana baked goods, use ripe, nearly brown bananas. Trust me, even if you prefer the taste of less ripe raw ones, baked goods are much better when they are more ripe. |
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| Foods | favorite tea?? brand and flavor | May 21 2009 12:58 (UTC) |
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Stash Tea...I like their Chai and the Double Bergomot Earl Grey. Both totally rock with a little sweetner and milk/cream/ff half and half, etc. Totally dessert for me! |
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| Foods | cereal combinations! | May 20 2009 12:39 (UTC) |
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Honey Nut Cheerios (1/4 cup) and Kashi Go Lean (2/3 cup). Totally yummy, plus fiber and protein. I always sprinkle on a little Splenda because I like it on the extra sweet side. |
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| Health & Support | Daughter's eating habits... what to do? | May 13 2009 14:03 (UTC) |
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Okay...my two cents... I am a high school principal and a parent of a child on the autism spectrum. Some positive suggestions that may work: 1. focus on positive reinforcement; everytime she does something right related to eating behaviors, provide an immediate non-food reinforcer (something age-appropriate and motivating) 2. take temptation out of the house; you are still allowed to treat yourself if you feel you want/need that, but don't do it in the home 3. walk some of those 7 miles with her; fostering a shared interest will give you time to talk and grow closer; also if (as some other posters have implied) she is trying to indicate that she wants the rest of the family to be healthier, this will demonstrate understanding and committment 4. If you want to encourage additional positive physical activity, perhaps focus on an individal, rather than group activity, such as swimming; group activities can be particularly challenging for kids on the Spectrum I think generally all of the advice that others have given you is outstanding. Rachel |
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| Health & Support | Does anyone else faint while on during their period? | Apr 15 2009 12:51 (UTC) |
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What you are experiencing may be a vaso-vagal syncope. At least, in my case, that's what the issue is. Talk to your doc about it. While I don't undergo any particular treatment for it, I have learned how to delay or avoid the syncope, which is critical when I am doing things like, oh, say, driving a car at 65mph on a major highway. For me, the syncopes are triggered mostly by abdominal cramping. Historically for me that has included period related cramps, childbirth/labor, a hard ab workout, and even...POOPING. I know, probably TMI, but there's nothing like passing out on a bathroom floor while in the middle of a bowel movement. I'm sure you can find some info on vaso-vagal syncope online. Check it out and talk to your doc.
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| Weight Loss | How often do you weigh yourself? | Mar 23 2009 15:31 (UTC) |
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I weigh every morning after peeing before taking my shower - naked. Sometimes daily weighing can be frustrating when the scale creeps up a tiny bit. I used to weigh 2-3 times a week, but I am now involved in a weight loss clinical trial and am required to weigh daily. |
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| Weight Loss | losing weight, clothes and irritation | Mar 23 2009 15:29 (UTC) |
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Original Post by igottapi4: OMG, That is totally my thing too! I am at 177, down from 213 and still wearing the same size shirt, yet 1-2 sizes smaller in pants. Ahhhhh. |
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| Foods | white food, starches question | Mar 23 2009 15:25 (UTC) |
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I work at a facility that provides lunch for staff. It's "jail food" so most people pack lunches, however, my understanding is that there are some federal guidlines out there that require a certain balance of carbs/protein/fat and a caloric range in cafeterias of any kind. In other words, if they are serving pasta, it will have a meat and veggie based sauce, likely some type of bread on the side, and fresh fruit or a side salad. If I chose to eat work food, I could always omit the bread and have an extra piece of fruit. That being said, I've eaten work food twice in the last 3 years. What kind of a place are you working in that provides meals? This might provide some insight into why the menu seems so unbalanced. |
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| Weight Loss | Surely the scale MUST be lying | Mar 23 2009 12:33 (UTC) |
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Original Post by themassageguy: I need to respectfully disagree with you. Actually, I am not eating too much on a regular basis as your reply suggests. Of course, based on my original post you would have no way of knowing this. I simply had one very bad day. In fact, as I look over my food diary for the last 6 weeks, this was the only day I had exceeded 1350 calories. Normally I am making balanced choices which explains why I have been losing weight. My starting weight was 213. If you want to know more about my history, check out my blog which is posted as "my website" on my profile. Thanks anyway, I know you meant well with your advice. I just wanted to clarify a few things. |
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| Weight Loss | Surely the scale MUST be lying | Mar 23 2009 12:28 (UTC) |
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Thanks everyone for the feedback. As of today I am back to a smidge below 177. I had my hubby read and record my weight for the last couple of days. This is the first day I peeked. My next weigh in for the clinical trial will be 3/30 so as long as I am below 177 for the weigh in I will feel successful. So, here's to a week of healthy eating, meeting my caloric minimum, going to the gym a couple of times, and continuing to drink my 2 gallons of yummy water. |
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| Weight Loss | Ketosis - Is it really that great? | Mar 20 2009 14:47 (UTC) |
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Clearly at a whopping 103 pounds you have a huge mass of fat to rid your body of. You must be way too heavy to function. Get to that 99 ASAP or you are in serious risk of complications like diabetes. I'm so glad you found CC to help you lose weight. Oh...I am under the assumption that you are only 3 feet tall... (Sorry for the sarcasm, but REALLY, you are fretting over 103 pounds!) Original Post by neslis:
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| Weight Loss | Surely the scale MUST be lying | Mar 20 2009 14:14 (UTC) |
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Original Post by gi-jane: Unfortunately I am currently involved in a clinical trial which requires that I weigh myself daily, so as much as I know I should avoid the scale, I cant. Maybe I'll enlist my husband's help and have him read the scale and record the result for me on my chart for a few days without me peeking. Actually...that's a great idea and totally do-able. |
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| Weight Loss | PCOS | Mar 18 2009 18:08 (UTC) |
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Metformin worked for me...and still does. When i was diagnosed, I had been trying to get pregnant but only had 1-2 periods a year. Within 2 months of starting Metformin, I got my first and one again a couple of months later, after that my periods were regular (32 day cycle for me, not 28) and I was pregnant within a year. Incidently within 6 months of starting Metformin I lost a noticable amount of weight without changing my eating or activity habits. I am now at an even lower weight, 2 babies later, and I still take Metformin becuase I know I have insulin resistance issues. I don't plan to have more kids, and frankly I am a bit scared that if I stop Metformin I will gain my weight back. I told my doc that I feel I have a bit of a psychological dependency on it, but he said that the drug is not harmful and I am taking only what is prescribed, so he is willing to prescribe it until I want to stop or I drop below a normal weight (hahahaha...that'll never happen - I'm still obese at 180 pounds and 5'3''.) |
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| Weight Loss | i want to lose weight faster. | Mar 18 2009 17:58 (UTC) |
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Please slow down - for your health. On the Biggest Loser they are doctor supervised, have no distractions, no jobs, no household obligations, and no personal time for other matters. Please be safe and try to lose 1-2% of your weight per week. You will lose more at first and it will slow down. When I started to lose weight, I was angry that I was only losing a couple of pounds a week, at most. After many tears and feelings of wanting to throw in the towel, it finally occurred to me that I didn't gain the weight so quickly. I told myself that I could do anything for a year (which seemed like forever) and no, I didn't meet my goal during that year, but I did lose over 30 pounds and didn't gain any back, now I'm at it again and I've set a goal for 25 pounds this time. I still won't be at a healthy weight, but I think slower loss is healthier for my mind, body, skin, and sanity. Please don't try to meet the same goals as the contestants on TBL. You will not be successful without the same degree of support, supervision, and butt-kicking. |
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| Weight Loss | does anyone else get made fun of for eating healthy? | Mar 18 2009 14:36 (UTC) |
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I have definately been the target of comments sometimes. Here's a link to a post I made earlier when I was being seriously hassled for eating a grapefruit! http://caloriecount.about.com/evil-grapefruit -rant-ft128071 |
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| Weight Loss | Gastric Balloon anyone? | Mar 05 2009 12:47 (UTC) |
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Okay, tomorrow is the big day...I will find out tomorrow if I am selected to get the balloon! |
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| Health & Support | complete loss of appetite, need advice | Feb 25 2009 17:58 (UTC) |
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Thanks. I was bright enough to take a mild dose of a women's laxative last night to help move things through. I definately am keeping very, very hydrated. I did manage to each a tiny bit of food at lunch. |
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| The Lounge | Selfish little @£$!!s | Feb 25 2009 16:17 (UTC) |
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My hubby used to have a huge E-Bay problem. Lots of small $2 and $3 items add up when you shop daily! Since I am the primary income provider in our house (75% or so is from my income) I took CONTROL! We cut up our ATM cards and made all of our paychecks automatic deposit. I have the checkbook and I do the online banking and bill paying. We decided to take a chunk of money from savings and put it into a Certificate of Deposit. The interest from the CD is set up not to roll into the account. Instead we get a check every month. He takes the check, usually around $70 and that is his "play money" for the month. When I get the bill for paypal, he then pays me cash to deposit to cover the cost. He also has still not completely cut the apron strings with his folks, so he frequently charges things to them, which they support. He's their 40 year old baby/only child, and I will say that his folks have always been very generous with us and our children and I am extremely grateful to them and love them very much. I adore my husband, so we have found a compromise that works for all. The other secret to our success is having a basement. I only go down there to use the treadmill (I have that corner blocked off with painters' tape on the floor and he is not allowed in the perimeter except to use the treadmill or kill a bug). He puts all his crap that he buys from ebay and all his other hobby related junk in the other 3/4 of the basement. That's his zone. |
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| Weight Loss | Could that be a collarbone I see? | Feb 18 2009 14:17 (UTC) |
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I totally get the leg crossing celebration. I think I hit that at about 197 or so and at first could only cross right over left. In the low 190s I was able to comfortably cross left over right. |
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| Weight Loss | best way to lose 30lbs in 2 months | Feb 18 2009 13:54 (UTC) |
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Original Post by cream204:
limb amputation (I assume by "best" you meant "guaranteed" or "effective") |
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| Weight Loss | Guesstimating calories/portions on vacation | Feb 12 2009 17:56 (UTC) |
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I am in a weight loss clinical trial that requires that I keep a written record of calories and fat for the next 55 weeks. I carry a paperback version of a book I picked up at the pharmacy that lets me look up info without having to use the internet. It gives me calories, fat and carbs. The book only cost me about 12 dollars. |
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| Weight Loss | Weight Loss Surgery: Would you have it? | Feb 12 2009 17:50 (UTC) |
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I am actually in a US clinical trial for a procedure commonly done abroad, called the gastric balloon. It's evasive, but technically non-surgical (no cutting) and a temporary tool to help change behavior and habits. The effect is similar to getting a short term lapband. There's more info regarding my situation posted on my profile if you're interested in learning more about my experiences. Bottom line, if medical intervention is seen as a tool to help manage behaviors and not viewed as a magic cure, then they absolutely have a place.
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| Pregnancy & Parenting | Here we go...Vaccines! | Feb 11 2009 13:27 (UTC) |
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Bier, Again, I really commend you for making decisions based on thorough reading and reflection. You are correct about few vaccines containing mercury these days. In fact, the flu vaccine is currently the ONLY one in Virginia that contains thimerisol (the mercury preservative) and our pediatrician always give the single vial, preservative-free version to children under 4, so neither of my children have had any preservative in their vaccines, yet I still have a child with autism. I will say also that my son with autism is somewhat atypical of most autistic children (each one is so very different anyway). Eric has very limited social skills, behavioral difficulties (repetative motions and noises) yet he has some incredible strengths. From the moment he started to talk (which was late) he was reading. He is hyperlexic and at age four can read any word he sees (doesn't mean that he understands the meaning), he's been telling time on an analog clock to the minute since he was 3, and he can repeat the side effects of any prescription medication he has seen an add for on TV or read in a magazine. Funny story: Last week he told a stranger at the store that if she had an erection lasting more than 4 hours, whe needed to seek immediate medical attention...ahh, funny now, not so funny in the moment. Eric's memory is near photographic. He is already fairly proficient with a computer and loves to type short sentences and silly words on a word processor. He is definately a puzzle and a great joy for the general educators and special ed teachers/speech therapists he works with. I do wish his communication skills were better. About 90% of what he says is simply delayed echolalia - repetition of things he has read or heard sometimes days or weeks later, like reciting an entire episode of Blue's Clues that he has only seen once. Everyday I count my blessings that Eric is considered to be "high functioning" autistic, although whether or not he will ever be able to be independent remains to be seen. While I wish autism on no child or family, I will say that I feel lucky to have Eric just the way he is, quirks and all. In a way I think Eric is also lucky to be in a family of educators who are prepared to address his needs and advocate for him to the degree that we do. |
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