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| The Lounge | Sober fun? | Jul 17 2009 14:25 (UTC) |
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oh my gosh spoons! okay my trick is, until the last round, don't even look at the cards in your own hand. I completely ignore my cards and just watch the pile of spoons. then when an opponent sneakily goes for one, BAM you grab one too. Seriously, it's fool-proof and you'll make it to the last round every time. |
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| The Lounge | super stressed out... | Jul 17 2009 07:00 (UTC) |
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You are also not obligated in any way to stay with him. This does not have to be his decision. YOU CAN WALK AWAY TOO. And perhaps you should. It sounds like he is majorly taking you for granted. But (and I'll say it again) you are young and you have a responsibility to yourself. Betsybz is completely right, you should be spending your time with friends and family being happy. It may seem like a scary step to take, but it will get better. Just to make sure this point is clear. IT DOES NOT HAVE TO BE THE GUY WHO WALKS AWAY. If you are unhappy, YOU can leave too. |
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| The Lounge | Sober fun? | Jul 17 2009 06:45 (UTC) |
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helloo! I'm also a young, poor college student. It is quite expensive to have the usual drinking fun of the college life, I know. Lately I've been spending my Saturday/Sunday afternoons at a nearby lake. Just laying out and relaxing with some of my friends. It's actually really nice and a lot of people don't even think to do things like that anymore. There's also a place around here (I live in NC) with hiking and picnic tables and things like that. Are there places like that near you? Take some friends and just chill outside from time to time. |
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| The Lounge | super stressed out... | Jul 17 2009 06:39 (UTC) |
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hey girl, life is too short to not be happy, and you are so young! I know I am only a couple of years older than you (I'm 21), but my experiences with relationships has taught me that if you aren't happy, you need to make the necessary changes that will MAKE you happy. You can't be attached to someone if it hurts you to be, even if you love them. I'm not saying that I think you should break up with your boyfriend, that is your own decision to make completely. However, I do think it would be a mistake for you too keep fighting through this relationship if you aren't 100% sure that this guy is the one who is going to ultimately make and keep you happy. And I repeat, you are so young! You may not think so, but your preferences and values may change drastically over the next few years -you might end up wanting someone completely different. So to spend these precious young years stressed out and frustrated over a guy who isn't taking you seriously is a great tragedy. I was with my last boyfriend for over 3 years, we started dating in high school and kept it going until our sophomore year of college. It was not an easy relationship, I wasn't happy, but I was soooo in love with this boy. So in love that I couldn't see that he was completely wrong for me, and that he didn't care about me the way I deserved to be cared about. But I fought and fought and dragged it out and ended up really hurting myself and him with a painful and messy breakup. I'm not sure exactly what my advice to you is, haha but from one young woman to another, sometimes you've gotta step back and do what is good for YOU, without thinking about the guy. If that means giving it one more shot, great. If it doesn't, you'll be okay. But it has to be about YOU. You've got to be honest with yourself, always. That's the surest way to keep the hurts to a minimum. If you aren't happy then you aren't happy. You can't wait for happiness to come to you, sometimes you've got to actively seek it. And sometimes that means a hard decision. |
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| The Lounge | saying I love you...how long is appropriate to say it and feel it? | Jul 17 2009 03:32 (UTC) |
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i was with my last boyfriend for 2 months before we said it - and I thought that was WAY too soon for us because we both grew to be entirely different people and went through an incredibly messy and painful breakup. Is it possible that he could ultimately end up as a different person? how old are you guys? I believe that you can love someone as instantly as you like, if you're certain about who YOU are and what your values are. Does that make sense? Meaning I could fall in love with someone today, at the age of 21. However, I know that I still have a few more years to grow and mature and figure out my take on life, so in the end I might want something completely different. hm, don't know if that's helpful haha but that's what I think. |
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| The Lounge | sex problems | Jul 08 2009 00:22 (UTC) |
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girl i also had a boyfriend a few years ago who was like that - he wanted to do things that I was not completely ready for/comfortable with and he also had a way of making it "seem okay" I am telling you now - you cannot bend the way that you think about things in order to make this guy happy. I was with my boyfriend for 3 years, and I also was afraid of pushing him away, and he would make me feel so guilty when I said no to him, so I'd always end up caving and he'd always win and get what he wanted. it's a real real bad situation to get yourself into. Because somewhere down the road it could all catch up with you and no one wants regrets. At the time, i loved him so much and therefore was willing to put my own preferences in the backseat for him. Looking back however, those were probably some of the worst decisions of my entire life and I can't go back to change them. And now I absolutely cannot stand him (he's now my ex, obviously). So i'm telling you you've got to be honest with him and do not be afraid to say NO if you don't want to do something "Nothing beats being really honest about who you are and what you need. The rest just works itself out" |
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| Young Calorie Counters | too young to know if you are bi/gay? | Jun 22 2009 02:26 (UTC) |
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Original Post by max298: max298, Don't you think it's a little presumptuous of you to declare that those with homosexual preferences are confused or had been abused? Have you spent any time with anyone of an orientation different from your own, tried to get to know them, to understand them? From the looks of your post, I'm guessing not. I am a heterosexual young woman with several homosexual friends, close friends who I love and would do anything for: including defending them from high-horse riding people like yourself. You have no idea what is in their hearts and minds, the love they experience is in no way unlike any love that a heterosexual person might experience. To look down and cast judgement upon an entire population of people is fruitless and stupid, and just makes you come across as ignorant and hateful, which I am sure is not what you were going for. I get that you think this is a wrong in the world and maybe you'd like to change it. That's alright, everyone is entitled to their own thoughts and convictions. What I suggest is that you seek first to understand. |
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| Young Calorie Counters | How to be assertive...? | Jun 22 2009 01:45 (UTC) |
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"No, thanks." and let that be that. If you make a big deal about refusing, then they will latch on and make it a big screeching "EAT SOMETHING" production. But if you just calmly and nonchalantly say, "No thanks." and leave it at that, I don't really see how their tantrums will have any fuel. I really wouldn't lie, or make up excuses, because then what will happen after you've used them all up? They'll see through it and call you out. |
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| Health & Support | When ED rears his ugly head...what do you say? | Oct 03 2008 03:24 (UTC) |
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Michael Jackson - "Beat it"
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| Health & Support | Extreme lows and how to pull yourself out of them. | Oct 01 2008 19:15 (UTC) |
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Hey lalabanana, I can sort of relate to your story, I've had a few really low spots in my life so far as well. One thing that I have started to do, and it really helps me, is writing in a journal. I have a big purple polka-dotted book and in it I write anything and everything that I want to: song lyrics that strike a chord with me, quotes that apply to my life or situation, all of my thoughts/wishes/regrets/worries, and the list goes on. I don't call it a diary, because it's more than that, it's EVERYTHING that gets me through from day-to-day. So when I'm feeling down, I can just flip through it and read those quotes/lyrics/realizations that had helped me before. And it doesn't have to be a chore to keep up with - I've gone months at a time without writing a thing, and then one night get the urge to write 5 full pages about whatever is bothering me, or what I'm thinking. It is very helpful to me because it is ME spilled out onto a page. So when my life seems like a huge jumbled mess, I can see myself on paper, and say, "okay, it's not so messy, I've gotten past this before, and I will again" And it's also really cool to have a record of how you change and evolve as a person. If I were to look back at things I'd written 5 years ago, I would see how much I have grown and adjusted to being an adult. When I read my journal, it's as if I'm receiving guidance from myself, which is kind of awesome if you think about it. Alright well I wrote much more than I thought I would, sorry about that! But anyways, the simplest advice I can give to you is to always remember that the sun WILL come up in the morning, and you WILL make it to the next day, and the next. one of my favorite quotes is this one : Just when the caterpillar thought his world was ending, he became a butterfly. |
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| Foods | If you could eat only one type of food for the rest of your life... | Oct 01 2008 18:29 (UTC) |
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1) Turkey - Thanksgiving style 2) Stuffing to go with it
Can you guess what my favorite day of the year is? hehe |
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| Foods | Holiday Food Survey! | Sep 28 2008 15:53 (UTC) |
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New Year's Drink: sparkling cider Valentine's Day Treat: sugar cookies with icing St. Patrick's Irish Bread or Stew: I've never really celebrated st. patty's day, so I don't know Easter Dinner Dish: honey baked ham 4th of July American Cuisine: my mom's apple pie Halloween Candy: anything chocolate Thanksgiving Side Dish: my mom's stuffing Christmas Treat: my mom's cinnamon pull-apart bread |
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| The Lounge | My Grandma | Sep 27 2008 13:40 (UTC) |
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Just hang in there laurieellen. I agree with the other posters that even though it's hard to see her like that, the best thing for you to do is to visit her as often as you can. My great-grandmother passed away last October with cancer (she was only in her 80's). She hadn't been well in a long time, we're all pretty sure that the cancer had been working on her for months, possibly years, before it was noticed. I'm almost certain that she hung on so long just for us, her family. We are a very close-knit bunch. When she finally did pass, she was surrounded by the people who loved her most. That weekend, the entire family got together for a big bar-b-que. We sat around and told stories about the things that Nan used to say or do. She liked to tell us all that she graduated from the "School of Hard Knocks," and she always had a stash of sweets by her recliner chair. It was a wonderful opportunity for our family to just be together and enjoy eachother. I'm a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. I was always a very shy child, and I never really connected with any of my cousins. After Nan passed away I realized that the people you love won't be around forever. I am now best friends with all of my cousins, and I email my aunts and uncles, and I write letters to my grandma from school. things are sucky now, but always remember - "Just when the caterpillar thought his world was ending, he became a butterfly." |
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| The Lounge | What are you listening to? | Sep 26 2008 20:14 (UTC) |
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The Format - one of the best bands everrr |
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| Young Calorie Counters | 5lbs by Thanksgiving (totally attainable!) | Sep 26 2008 17:07 (UTC) |
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I'm feeling pretty darn fantastic =P i'm probably going to go to the gym later this afternoon to work out/weigh myself again. I won't be able to do it this weekend. Wish me luck =P |
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| Young Calorie Counters | Teens: What do YOU do when you're home sick? | Sep 25 2008 21:07 (UTC) |
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i keep a journal and write down my thoughts, my favorite poems or song lyrics, etc... it keeps my mind off of sad things.
and i video chat with my mom and dad =P |
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| The Lounge | Help me name my bunny! | Sep 25 2008 17:19 (UTC) |
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how about cyclops? hehe it could be cute! |
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| Motivation | What makes you feel awesome about yourself? | Sep 25 2008 15:10 (UTC) |
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i love my eyes. they're big and round, and the colors reflect depending on what i'm wearing. my guitar hero capabilities - i pretty much rock the amazing group of friends that i have assembled over the years the jeans that i am wearing right now - they make my legs look longer my homemade chocolate chip cookies (i've received many compliments... they're fantastic if i do say so myself) my lacrosse skills - i played 3 years in high school, and once again, I freakin' rocked at it. averaged about 3 goals per game, oh the glory days =P
ajde - thanks for making this topic, it's nice to remember all of the things that are wonderful about yourself. you've given me a great start to my day! |
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| The Lounge | College nutrition class teaching old, now false, info | Sep 24 2008 19:51 (UTC) |
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whatever you decide to do, I would strongly advise you against putting your teacher on the spot during class. wait until after to voice your concerns one-on-one, or visit her office hours. you would only be considered a smart-you-know-what if you raise the issue during the professor's lecture. |
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| Young Calorie Counters | 5lbs by Thanksgiving (totally attainable!) | Sep 24 2008 19:46 (UTC) |
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haha that's okay babyboo-kate how about we each just check in once a week to record our weights. i know everyone has different schedules and stuff. so just whenever you can, log in to update once a week. |
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| Young Calorie Counters | 5lbs by Thanksgiving (totally attainable!) | Sep 24 2008 03:54 (UTC) |
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Sundays are fine with me, is there any other day of the week that people would prefer? |
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| The Lounge | just feel awful | Sep 22 2008 23:29 (UTC) |
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you all are amazing for sharing your experiences with me. they truly are helping. I just got of the phone with one of my best friends, who also helped to put things into perspective. it's nice to know that i have so many people to turn to - even kind strangers on CC |
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| The Lounge | just feel awful | Sep 22 2008 20:27 (UTC) |
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thanks everyone for replying. deep down I think I know that I did the right thing. I just need the reassurance. I'm just trying to keep myself busy and not think too hard about. i'm also worried about him, I hate knowing that I am breaking his heart. |
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| Weight Loss | Achieved my goal weight today! | Sep 22 2008 15:35 (UTC) |
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that is fantastic! go shopping!!! |
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| Young Calorie Counters | 5lbs by Thanksgiving (totally attainable!) | Sep 21 2008 21:05 (UTC) |
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Okay it's Sunday! Our first Weigh-In Day! I guess I'm going first haha. I was thinking how about for our first one, just post with your age, height, and weight. For example: MJUSTINE |
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| Fitness | Body For Life | Sep 21 2008 15:43 (UTC) |
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my parents did body for life when i was younger, and they'd take my brother and i to the gym with them (good family bondnig by the way haha). My mom gained a lot of weight when she had me and my brother, and Body forLife helped her to get most of it off. I'd guess that she was maybe around 150 when she started, and now, about 6 years later, she's still only around 130. (we're a short family, she's 5'3) she is a very healthy woman now, and is at ahealthy weight for her.
in short, I think Body fo rLife is a very effective program, it helped my mom to get off the weight she didn't want, and keep it off for 6 years and running. Good luck to you guys! |
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| Foods | young calorie-counter going grocery shopping... | Sep 19 2008 18:20 (UTC) |
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thanks lalabanana i didn't see that thread before, I'll definately check it out. i definately like the raw veggie ideas.. because it's definately true that a lot of snacking goes on around here haha. baked tostitos and salsa is SO going on my list.. i forgot all about that, adn it's so yummy.
thanks guys!! |
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| The Lounge | Virginia people? | Sep 19 2008 18:03 (UTC) |
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Hey I'm from Northern VA, but currently going to school down at UNC-Chapel Hill... so nomoreexcuses, I agree, GO TARHEELS! haha |
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| Weight Loss | Going on vacation...should I throw caution to the wind? | Sep 19 2008 17:49 (UTC) |
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"Eat what you want, when you want it. But stop when you're full." fool-proof =) HAVE FUN! |
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| Young Calorie Counters | fancy dress party - movie characters | Sep 19 2008 17:27 (UTC) |
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my best friend in high school had that same exact movie theme for her 18th! It was so fun! My boyfriend and I went as Peter Parker and Mary Jane Watson (I'm a huge Spider-Man fan) so got to wear a cute little dress that I thought was MJ-esque. We also had 3 girls who were the "Plastics" from Mean Girls. That was cute. I like the Miss Congeniality idea too.
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