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The Lounge My sister steals from me. Jul 14 2009
05:08 (UTC)
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Unfortunately, she is your sister. Your younger sister..still a child, really. You live at home...it won't end until you have your own place.

I have three younger sisters. I speak from experience.

The Lounge Need a new Vaccuum - any suggestions? Jul 11 2009
06:15 (UTC)
6

If you really want a Dyson, wait around a little bit (maybe a month or so) for the next sale. I always see Target and Walmart offering $50-$100 gift cards w/ purchase. I bought my Dyson for $399 (I think) and then I got a $100 gift card for the store...which was really nice.

You'll like the Dyson, I do. And, I have three cats who shed like mad.

Pregnancy & Parenting How do you know if and when you are going to develop stretch marks Jun 21 2009
08:52 (UTC)
3

you know, my skin was stretched so tight that I didn't see them until after the baby was born...it wasn't a good moment.

Pregnancy & Parenting Another potty training question...... Jun 20 2009
02:34 (UTC)
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the only idea that came to me is sitting her portable potty in her 'alone area' and see if she will use it there. Of course, it kind of has to be her idea, to prevent any struggles and all...but maybe just seeing the potty there will make her decide to try it one day?

Pregnancy & Parenting things to avoid during pregnancy.. Jun 19 2009
21:00 (UTC)
1

Also, if you are at a pharmacy, you can always ask the pharmacist if something (cold medicine, etc) is safe to take while pregnant. They are usually a pretty reliable source, if you don't already know what you can/can't have before you get to the store.

Motivation My Ex Is Sabotaging Me... May 30 2009
09:01 (UTC)
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It turns out he's still pretty manipulative and lies too much for me to date him, but we're trying to be friends. He's good company when we're not beating the hell out of each other (a tempestuous relationship to say the least). I don't want to give up his friendship.

People don't change :( I know you didn't ask, but once you move away from this (him, the 'friendship' of maniuplation and lies), it will be easier to take control of your self and avoid sabatoge.

Forget about the pie!!! Drink some water, and start over tomorrow...total clean slate.

The Lounge allowances May 26 2009
08:19 (UTC)
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My son is only three and I am trying to get him to help out with little things like carrying a small bag (grocery size) of garbage out, cleaning up, carrying the laundry detergent.

I think he is too young for allowance, I think four is too young, too. I don't know that they would really grasp the concept. What works with my son is singing about how he is being such a big boy helper, and praising him for helping me get things done.

When he doesn't want to help, I tell him 'this is your chore, you need to help me, it is your responsibility' and I don't back down, even if he whines and throws a mini-fit. Heck, if it went into a tantrum (which it hasn't) he would be punished and then he would help.

I think at this age they are striving to be independent, which leads to power struggles, but they also want to make us happy and be our helpers.

The Lounge horrible break up... need help;( May 15 2009
17:52 (UTC)
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Well, lets see...just because the father of the child isn't ready to have a child, or because of the fact that they were only together 4 months...those both seem like idiotic and selfish reasons to have an abortion. As do, 'I don't want a kid right now' and 'now just isn't a good time'.

Caverlady, I know that it is a medical procedure. I also know that, in most cases, it is an elective procedure.

The Lounge horrible break up... need help;( May 15 2009
08:59 (UTC)
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Original Post by cpontifex:

I think that it was pretty naieve of you to choose to have a child with a man you had only been dating for four months. You didn't really give him a choice when it came to being a father. Did you really expect it to end up happily ever after?

Like you said, you wanted to do it with him, or without him. Looks like you have to do it without him.

I think that it is admirable that she chose to have the child, even knowing that the father and her parents were not on board.

In this world of instant gratification, abortion is so quickly chosen for idiotic and selfish reasons.

He had every choice in the world when it came to creating this child: he chose to have sex with her.

This woman is going to nursing school and working to support herself and her child. Naive is not the word that comes to mind. Perhaps idealistic, but who isn't?

God works in mysterious ways and this baby (and all others) was planned and has a purpose!

Kudos to the OP: keep your head up and stay strong.

Pregnancy & Parenting To medicate or not to medicate? May 08 2009
17:08 (UTC)
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Bier: I didn't chime in with any advice because I didn't really have any! I just wanted to tell you that I hope your little man is feeling better soon!

My son had a horrible chest cold when he was six months old and we did the Alberturol, too. I don't believe that it does anything to remedy the cause of the cough, but it is supposed to make their breathing easier for a period of time. The antibiotics should have him on his way soon :)

 

Weight Loss Lost 13 pounds/Still wearing same size. What's wrong with this picture? May 05 2009
20:31 (UTC)
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But instead of busting out of a size 12, it fits sort of loosely, but not falling off. What is wrong?

The answer is kind of in your question. This happened to me, too. I was wearing a pair of Levi size 15 jeans when I was at my heaviest of 245. I was crammed into them, really. They were tight all over...in the thighs and waist. I think they ran a little big, too.

Now those jeans don't fit me, but at 195 I am wearing another size 15 pair of jeans.

Fifty pounds later, the scale and the pictures are evidence that I have lost weight. So have you.

Have you had a kiddo since your size 6-8 days? Sometimes that changes our body composition, and it takes more time and effort to get back to were we want to be.

I have more fat around my midsection, but it is slowly fading away.

Give it time and keep up the good work! Your scale is not lying to you, I promise!

The Lounge Stepmoms and Mother's Day May 01 2009
17:07 (UTC)
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Original Post by kthompson92:

I want to say, "Yes, and I'm the female who does more parenting than her mom."

Being a step-parent is a damn tough and often thankless job.

From what I have experienced, parenting in itself is a fairly thankless job. Any parent, biological or otherwise, knows that when a child throws up on you...they don't thank you for being there to catch it and clean up after them.

Part of being a parent is knowing inside how much you are worth and how valuable you are. Children would not make it far without us, but they don't always thank us verbally. The thanks we receive on a regular basis is more subtle, yet powerful. This sporadic hugs, hearing them use 'please' and 'thank you' unprompted, watching them laugh.

And I agree with gi-jane, you've got to drop the attitude about the kid's mom. No matter the issues with her, your step-daughter loves her. That is her biological mother. If she senses your dislike (which she probably does) she will end up resenting you for the simple fact that you don't like her mom.

Fitness New Runner May 01 2009
02:28 (UTC)
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Thanks for that link! I did something similar to the C25k last January, but I didn't enjoy it much. I am actually having fun running now, which is really odd...but that is besides the point.

Fitness Why is my stomach so F-A-T!!??!!?! Apr 26 2009
17:44 (UTC)
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I think that my stomach holds the most fat on my body. While losing weight, I have lost it all over....but since I have so much around my waist, it still stands out.

As we continue to lose weight, the belly will go down.

 

The Lounge Favorite Book? Or author? Apr 21 2009
08:01 (UTC)
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Anything by Dean Koontz, especially Odd Thomas.

Pregnancy & Parenting I seem to have sprung leak...or two. Apr 05 2009
02:37 (UTC)
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I'm with Drea...around 22 weeks I was leaking, but I never ended up soaked...thank goodness! Breastpads work, but I always used a piece of papertowel (always on hand) because I wasn't leaking a lot...just enough to be an annoyance.

Yay! A baby :) Enjoy your pregnancy!

The Lounge Calling all Social Workers… Mar 18 2009
21:25 (UTC)
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Not an expert by any means, but what the heck...

What do you mean by some history of marijuana use? When she was 17? Or, in the past few years? Drug use plays a huge role in a parent's ability to raise children. It seems to me that a drug-free loving home would be better than a loving home in which there is a history (or, continued use) of drugs.

 

 

The Lounge changing privacy settings Mar 18 2009
05:33 (UTC)

Go to the 'community' tab....down under 'My Journal' is privacy filter.

eta: Then, when you journal, underneath your title you can choose the privacy you want.

The Lounge Anyone else having a HORRIBLE Day?????? Mar 13 2009
03:36 (UTC)
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Yikes, BB....being busted by boss is never fun. And to the op, that really stinks. I hope that somethings can be recovered, especially the pictures of your grandpa :\

I saw my ex at the store and he didn't even stop to say hi to his son. It was weird and embarassing, because when I said hi he mentioned something about it being a 'small world' and he kept on walking. Idiot.

Pregnancy & Parenting Handling comments about appearance Mar 13 2009
03:15 (UTC)
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Just stick to your guns. They will learn.

When dealing with strangers, just remove their hand or step back or walk away.

Stupid coworkers. Mine would talk about how big my thighs were getting....

Foods My mom is going grocery shopping... Mar 11 2009
17:41 (UTC)
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a wholefoods would be more likely than an asian grocery, I would think

Foods My mom is going grocery shopping... Mar 11 2009
04:43 (UTC)
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quinoa....but, it can be kind of hard to find. It is a grain, so I found it by the rice (cooks the same as rice). High in protein, fun to eat....

The Lounge On-Line Learning - Anyone done it? Mar 10 2009
18:29 (UTC)

pg~ I wouldn't feel comfortable being isolated for four years and then thrown into a classroom as a teacher. No way! I have only taken my basics online, stuff that seems like high school anyway. Courses such as history, government and English. For the next two years, everything will be centered around my actual degree. As nervous as I may be, I am even more excited :)

 

The Lounge On-Line Learning - Anyone done it? Mar 10 2009
04:25 (UTC)
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I haven't taken the time to read any of the other responses, but....

This is my last year taking online classes. I have taken my entire first two years (excluding art) online and I wouldn't change it for anything.

It does take a lot of self-discipline and a huge chunk of time. There is material to read and assignments to complete...these things cannot be avoided.

It is not easy or less work, but it is less interaction with the professor (in most cases) and less interaction with your classmates.

I am transferring to a four year university where I will complete my degree in special education. I would love to continue online, but my degree requires some hands on learning.

The Lounge question about racism Mar 09 2009
05:01 (UTC)
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Check out this site to help you think of some words that rhyme that aren't going to be offensive.

 

Pregnancy & Parenting Stay at home moms... Boredom snacking? Mar 05 2009
18:14 (UTC)
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My only trick is that I don't let myself snack. Period. I eat breakfast, lunch and dinner (sometimes dessert) but I don't start the snacking because it is alwasy mindless eating (for me).

Bier had a ton of great tips for snacks, especially pairing protein with fiber.

Also, I do have a few things that are sweeter (such as granola bars) for my son, but I avoid them like the plague because they don't do anything for my hunger and I feel like it is a waste to eat them :)

The Lounge dove ad. Feb 26 2009
17:28 (UTC)
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Haha, I thought it would be an ad for Dove chocolate :)

It was a good commercial, though.

Weight Loss Darn You Girls Scout Cookies!!! Feb 26 2009
00:42 (UTC)
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I bought two boxes (to support the cause) and gave them to my mom...who doesn't have a weight issue and can control herself around cookies :)

Pregnancy & Parenting Matt Logelin Feb 22 2009
06:17 (UTC)
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Bier, thanks so much for sharing this with us! I just finished reading a good two months worth of his entries. They are so touching and well written...you were right!

Anyone else, seriously...check it out.

Motivation i WILL go to the gym! Feb 19 2009
00:35 (UTC)

Sounds like a good plan! Once you get there, I am sure you will be glad that you went to the gym instead of home to the food :)

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