Posts by tani24

Im having an attack of guilts, I started taking an over the counter pre natal multi vitamin as soon as I found out I was pregnant but stopped after about a week of them resulting in an aaawwwfuuul metallic taste in my mouth making my morning sickness 10x worse.  this was at around 9 weeks (Ithink?).  I am now 15 weeks, no more nausea and metal mouth only sometimes (worse after sugary foods) and thinking I should start them again but Im really scared!  I wonder if or what damage I may have done or may continue to do if i dont take them though

I am 6 weeks pregnant with nb2.  with my first I remember having rock solid and huge boobs, this time round they are barely changed, but what i do have along with horrible nausea, is a bizarre metallic taste in my mouth.  I did some research online and it turns out its fairly common.  its absolutely disgusting, all i can compare it to is sucking on pennys that have been in between tinea toes for two weeks.  Not helping the nausea at all.

also very tired and emotional.  I cried at so you think you can dance last night for gods sakes.  husband thinks its halarious.

i wonder why this time my boobs are fine? does anyone think different symptoms respond to if your having a boy or a girl?  our first was a girl and we are now hopeing for a boy....

I wish I had a photographic memory to respond to all those REDICULOUS comments tia.  I cant say I am offended, they are sooo way off I actually giggled through them.

I am sorry that this has seemed to affect you so deeply and has troubled you to this extent.  Perhaps you should look into some form of stress relief, I find yoga really helps me.

I am horrified to think you believe I owe everyone an appology.  I distincly remember THANKING everyone for their loving caring support.  pro choicers and pro lifers.  what I didnt appreciate was people attacking me and other people and making rediculous assumptions, threats, and using emotional blackmail and provocative words such as being called a murderer etc.  I think those are the people that owe an appology.

Im not going to say im not immature and self centred.  I am going to say I am the LEAST immature and self centred 26year old I know though.  While all my other friends are out there pleasing themselves, travelling wherever in the world, partying as much as they like, seeing whoever they like or dont like, eating or not eating when they like, spending as much money as they like (as every 20somthing should) I on the other hand cannot indulge like that anymore, I am part of a team.  A family.  I cant remember the last time I did something simply FOR MYSELF.  (Actually, this reminds me, on one hand you call me self centred then the next you say I am dependant and reliant on my husband? isnt that contradictory).  Everything I do, every move I make, I am thinking about how it will effect my daughter and my husband.  and he does the same, its just a natural part of being a family and a marriage.  I talk about my husband in this decision because he is a huge part of it.  as a team, we need to be on the same side in order to be supportive and get through it.  Of course I cAre what he thinks, just as much as he cares about what decisions we make are going to hurt or affect me.  Its none of my business how other peoples marriages work, what is good for you may not be good for me, but my husband and his opinions and his happiness is an enormous part of my life.  I should never be made to feel this is wrong?!

In terms of being self centred for the post, well yeah.  Im sorry I am.  I didnt ask for a huge debate, I havnt been following it every minute of every day, I tune in and catch up when I can but I have a business and a family to run.  So when I ignore much of the debate and let those who want to know about my decision, if thats being self centred then i dont care.

Lastly, I would challenge you to read a little closer to my posts.  At no time have I ever claimed this all to be an 'ooopsy'.  I have always taken full responsiblilty for what has happened.  I do this as a mature and responsible adult.  nOt an immature and self centred whatever you call me.  I think its funny that you think we are rulled by our loins!  My husband and my sex life is none of your business!  Please dont make public assumptions about it.  I never said I was on the pill.  For 3 years we have successfully avoided conception, I know exactly when we are ovulating, and at those times we use condoms.  There is however a risky period before ovulation, where it is possible for sperm to live inside, in wait of a release of an egg.  its unlikely but slightly possible.  Its at this point, a week before ovulation that I took a calculated risk of not using a condom.  It is my fault, completely (well, hubby could have insisted so not entirely) and I take responsiblity for it.  in my mind taking responsibilty for it means facing my options head on.  I believe I did that in a mature and selfless manner.

Once again, thank you soo so much for those who have given their support.  it really does help me not feel so alone, in a subject I havnt shared with barely anyone else.

to all those that are going waaay off topic and are becoming hurtful, please give it a rest, go and examine and attack your own life.  Have a cup of cammomile tea and a peice of chocolate.  Go for a walk in some nature.  Have sex.  Read a good book.  Relax and let it go.

Arohanui, kia ora

thanks so much again.  (This topic will probably be locked.)

woa woa woa Im sorry guys, I didnt mean this to become a pro life vrs pro choice debate.  I just figured, there may have been someone out there in a similar situation.  i find it hard to believe that every pregnancy, (even married and parents already) is desired and would have liked to hear from anyone else experiencing or having had experienced the same doubts and what they did and how they feel about it.

I have never been to the lounge,  but perhaps that would have been more appropriate.

PG, I thank you for your posts and support for what seems to be the evil of the day.

for everyone else who is trying to convince me to keep the baby, i completely understand and I would probably do the same.

but its different when its you thats going through it and you have little support from husband.  who, by the way, doesnt think abortion is the right thing to do, but he would be relieved if i chose it.

please, everyone has a right to their opinions, every woman should have a right to chose, and she isnt evil if she does not make the same choice you would.

enough with the cruel digs.  fightinginsanity, that was horrible what you wrote about pg.

I am 26 and have a 2 and a half year old.  She was a big suprise, and being pregnant at 22 when all my friends were out partying and travelling the world wasnt much fun.  I was nothing but doubts, insecurities and my (now) husband was pure terror.  There is simply no way to describe it though until you are a mother yourself.  Sure it IS hard work.  You sacrifice loads and I will never give up my right to moan about the woes of parenthood.  BUT, I would never ever ever trade or go back.  Our daughter was the best thing that ever could have happened to us.  I really believe your not really living until you have had a child.

So, in response to feeling ready, you are never ready.  Thats the whole thing about children.  THEY teach YOU.

Any doubts will completely vanish the moment you hold your brand new baby in your arms. Its beyond magical.

I wish you luck!

hmmm.  This topic caught my eye cause I have been wondering the same thing myself.  On more thought though, I tend to alternate.  I get up in the morning before anyone has woken up and go for a 30 minute run. Except when I cant get out of bed! Those days usually see me packing up my 2 year old into the stroller to go for an hour walk.  My body feels equally tired from each option!  Alternating lets me sleep in occassionally and allows my body to rev up and rev down.  And not get bored.

I say do both. And Yoga.

brilliant post.

Lets try to be that girl with the lovely curves who doesnt give a dam and has far more important things to worry about (like our friends and family and LIVES) that counting boring calories.  Obsessive people are boring.  Lets just "rock it"!

oh come on!!!

If you are in touch with your body, eating when hungry stopping when full and have the ability to LISTEN to it then yes, of course you will get cravings for what you need!

Im not talking about Pica here, and im not talking about people out of touch with their bodies driving into Maccas to get their next round of bigmacs but when I crave meat, its instantly fixed if I eat something with a lot of protein in it.  Sometimes, shock horror I crave something like CAKE- usually when I have been eating very little fat or calories for a while, so I eat some avocado or nuts and feel better.

When I was pregnant I ate three grapefruits a day.  I hear this massive citrus craving is extremely common in pregnant women who all of a sudden have a higher need of vitamin c.

Try closing your eyes and imagining if you could eat ANYTHING out there, what would it be.  If your in touch with your body and hunger I bet it would reflect what you need.

just try listening.

hmm, i breastfed for 12 months and stoped in September.  My breasts have definitly shrunk back and beyond pre pregnancy size but am still able to lactate a little.  I find this so bizzare, I know it takes a while to completely 'dry up' but this long?!

25 (one month off anyway), 5'6 and 3/4 (they count), and sit up and down and around 127 with 1500 cals (1300-1400 during week, 1600ish weekend.)  At least two 45mins jogs, two 60mins walks and one 1 1/2hr yoga p/w.

Maintained for twoish months now. by default (see post)

bah ha ha ha I thought it didnt look like many calories either but I added it up and I guess its about 1500 which is about what I eat.

I liked the exersizes, I am going to try and do two ab workouts a week.  I figure running for 45mins two or three times a week and walking for an hour twice a week and doing 1 and 1/2 hrs of yoga can take care of my butt.  My arms get worked out carrying my ever growing toddler around but I shall make a conceited effort at abs!

Thanks for the post though potter

ps. what are dinosaur sprinkles and where can i get me some?!

please check out my post, http://caloriecount.about.com/forums/post/912 16.html

help for bingeing

xo

of all the different types of disorded eating I have experienced i would have to say binging was the most damaging and volatile.  Of any it makes you feel the most depressed, guilty and out of controll.  I think I finally have it under controll, after years of living with it.  What helps me is to have a little of what im 'not allowed' every day.  Even when I was underweight starving and still losing weight, I would eat a little chocolate every day (chocolate and sweet things being my downfall).  Knowing that I was allowed some, and would again eat some again tomoro kept me from having the all or nothing mentality. 

Its hard to know what exactly is a binge and when to stop sometimes.  I had trouble this easter, I 'let go' and ate what I wanted. I think a binge becomes a binge when you eat something just for the sake of not being allowed to eat it tomorow (or once the binge is over).  So by those desciptors, I did binge, eating lots of chocolate easter eggs when I was drunk just to get rid of them!  But then at the same time, I ate the same amount as my friends over the same period of time so maybe its just a binge to me.

Not binging is the main thing I focus on.  I can overeat, ie go over my calorie allowance but the moment i sense its becomeing a binge thats when I HAVE TO STOP.  It takes time, and the main thing is eating more when your not binging.  The more you starve the more you want to binge.  balance it out helps.

yup over boobs.  Unfortunately im 33 at the fullest part of my bosom. Not much of a bosom. oh welllll.  pretty similar stats otherwise.

I went over nipples, at waist (where you crease when bend side to side) and at fullest part of hips.

not much has worked in the past.  When I recieved help for one type of disorder it just seemed to change into another.  The only time I have been healthy is when I was pregnant and breastfeeding, it was as if the health of my baby was far more important to me than being thin. Now i have my body back to myself and its all turned to s%&t again.

I have actually gained weight, I was classified as underweight a few months ago, but started to gain weight as I started to eat a little more.  Now I am freaking out and trying to get back to where I was but to no avail.

Something in me makes me want to wait until I get down to that weight again until I seek help.  Then I could feel justified.  If I went now I would just feel silly.