Posts by c8yleeca

Okay, just another random thought. All these stupid, inconsiderate people that are saying things to you, are not paying attention to you. If they were they would know you have a heart. They would know that it hurts your heart to hear such things. Perhaps instead of people making random comments to you , they should try to get to know you. Then they would see you are trying to gain weight in many circumstances. Perhaps then, instead of making hurtful comments, they could be doing helpful things, like being supportive.

It is my wish to believe that people are not all mean and inconsidderate. (Some are I know) I really think most of the time people are just not thinking about what they say and how it will impact others. Perhaps we should become the authority and teach them how to be civil?

Please tell me what you think!

C8

I am wondering, not out loud, already did that, but in writing. Perhaps people do not know how to say what they are thinking. "Hey, you look like you might need someone to talk to  and I am here?" IN my experience, and I am as old as rocks, MOST, People are not mean. Especially when it comes to peoples feelings. I am not sure what I would say to a person that was real thin. Except, I do truly envy them. Please note, I have had a weight problem all my life. I have never been able to fit in clothes. I have even been to the point where I did not fit in chairs. I know I have a problem, and I think I was waiting for someone to help me. ( I think this is the big difference between over weight people and others.) It seems to me that people that need to gain weight are in such a strong place with their self control. I know I can do anything, but I do not know I can loose weight.

I have looked at some of the diets that people are prescribed, I have never ate that way, and can not see where people would gain weight, and actually think if I had to eat like that I just might loose weight. With me Dr.'s prescribe an boiled egg for breakfast, a piece of lettuce for lunch and an egg and a piece of lettucefor dinner. Oh and any health problem, is because I am over weight. You have a cough.... you need to loose weight. Your hair is turning purple, it is because you need to loose weight.... well not that bad, but almost. 

I think people that are having issues with gaining weight, or maybe loosing too much weight , are such strong minded individuals, who tend to accomplish so much. The one thing I can identify with is , I do not see myself, as others do. I hardly ever look in the mirror. When I do it is just to see if I am putting makeup on okay, if I am dressed neatly. I never see me. From what I have seen and read, neither do people that need to gain weight.

I am not here to offend anyone, and I do not want to hurt anyone feelings. I just really need to understand. Any comment back is good. I am hoping to loose the rest of my weight and learn how to keep it gone. Any question you might have for me. Ask away. And thank you so much for allowing me to not only read your blog, but participate in it.  

Well , I might have exgerate a little bit with my age. Well... lets just say I exaggerated. I am glad you heard what I was trying to say. I hope to one day hear that it all worked out fine for you, and you are a happy healthy man!

How funny you think that Mini. I have read where people that are skinny, get as many comments, or second looks as a fat person. I have always been over weight, and so is everyone in my family, except my children. Ten years ago I lost all the weight. I was so over whelmed to hear how people really talked and felt about fat people that I went into a shock and then depression. I slowly gained the weight back and really did not care for a long time one way or another. Now I care. I am loosing weight again, this time for good. I really do not care what people say, I have dumped all the people that were not supportive of me, and choose to leave behind people that feel that it is there place in the world to judge people on their weight, or other things. I think there are people that struggle with many things, and to each of us a struggle is a struggle. It does not matter what that may be. I go out of my way when I can to help as many people as I can. Can you imagine what the world would be like if we all did that?

C8