Posts by sszcar

Squats and deadlifts would help those areas. 

Another way to tell is do the exercise without weights and feel the muscle area you want to tighten/tone.  If you feel the muscle tensing then you know that muscle will be worked in that exercise.

Well thats not entirely accurate.  It depends on what your goal is.  If you goal is losing weight then what birdy22 said will work.  From what most people believe on this site you can not build muscle and loss weight at the same time. (I dont believe this but wont get into that discussion on this thread).

There are a number of different goals you can have weighlifting.  Tone, build, overtrain, etc.  Each requires a different weight and repatition combination.

On average since you are losing weight you could do 3 sets of 8 to 12 reps.  You can get an idea of the right weight if you can do 15 or more reps at the end of the 3rd set you should increase the weight until you can only do 8 to 12.  This can be difficult to do at first but gets easier.  Use a weightlifting log this will help you remember what wieght goes for what exercise.

BTW, I use machines as I work out with my wife who doesnt want to use free wieghts.  Machines work great (not as good as free weights but still good enough for the average person).

Good luck on meeting your goal.

I understand what your saying.  I am in my second month of getting back in shape (exercise and eat right).  I normally do around 2 hours 4 times a week starting at around 3 to 4pm. (hour elipitcal, 1/2 weights, 10 minutes stretching).

I dont get sore (stopped after the first week but I increased my protien after working out) but I am more tired during the folloing day than I was prior to working out.  I always thought exercising would give you more energy but right now I dont see it.  I do notice changes in my arms, chest, legs, and stomach so I am willing to deal with less energy.

Does anyone know if this goes away or if this is what we have to expect for people like us?

As for a single song "Lunatic Fringe" gets me going but I use to wrestle.  When I watched the Vision Quest movie it became my most inspirational song.  Sounds stupid but man it really gets me going now.

Original Post by sszcar:

Men and Women just dont have anything in common to become friends.  My friends hang out with me and talk about things that we like and do things we both enjoy.  I dont like shopping, clothes, shoes, or women type items.  Why would I want to sit and listen to a woman talk about this type of stuff? Because I want to sleep with her Duh.  Same goes for women who want to talk about sports and cars.  Its a sure sign that a guy or girl wants more.  Plus I have never once seen a guy and girl who were really just friends ever.  They always endup sleeping with each other or never talking too each other.  Sometimes both.

 I was going to leave it alone since its not that big of a deal but I had one more thing to say.  Some of you are upset about the generalization that I used.  I appologize if I offended people, it was not my intention.  I was using generalizations to demonstrate my opinion (should have worded it more carefully but hey I am human and make mistakes).

Yes I have met men who dont like cars but love clothes, I have met women that love paintball and hate shopping.  Everyone is unique.  I dont think of myself as a sexist and the people who know me (friends and family) dont think so as well.  These are the people who's opinions of me matter.  Hate me if you will its a free world and I will survive. 

Plus by calling me a sexist you generalized me.  Sexist is a generalization.  Does that mean you believe that anyone that says women like shoes or men like cars is a sexist?

I have heard so many women say men are Dogs.  In the generalized meaning I agree.  Do I believe everyman on earth is a dog?  No.  Again from my experiences in life most of the men I have known I would classify as a dog.  (before you flame me again) I have met a number of men that are not dogs and I would trust with my life. Now do I get upset when someone says this? No.  I am intelligent and confident enough in who I am to understand what they mean.  I dont take it litterally or draw conclusions on it.

Now, how do those of you who let generalizations upset you do anything in this world?  Democrat and Republican (generalization), Most magazine articles and movies (generalization).  Surveys of anytype (generalization), marketing (generalizaion).  Everyone generalizes (before you flame me again) it has been proven by science.  When you see a person slap their child in a mall you think bad parent, scum, vile, horrid (this is what I think).  That is a generalization you dont know that person so do you flame yourself?  Like it or not you generalize whether you want to amit it or not.

So let the one who has no sin cast the first stone.

Smoking: I really do want to quit.  I think I just get depressed and use "the death sentence" as an excuse. Maybe "Jack" would help.

 Been down that road once.  It was a very interesting time.  I did a number of things I should not have during it and regretted a number of things but I also had a lot of fun. 

In the end it didnt solve my problems and I ended up with a DUI for a sovenier but I must say it was a very interesting time for me and I am glad I experienced it.  I would never do it again though costs too much.

Ok, I'm going to be the unpopular one and give his side:

You are watching a TV show that is selecting the best model.  Models are a certain size (just open a magazine or watch a modeling show).  So in this compatition the bigger model stands out.  This model is quite a bit larger than the others (thus the cow remark).  That doesnt mean your BF believes she is fat.  I would bet money that if he met her on the street he would be quite ok with her look.  He must think your beautiful (you are BF GF) and you are around the same size.

It has to do with competition.  Males normally are very competative (not every man is but the majority).  So he sees this girl in a competition with others and she doesn't fit and thus cant win so why is she there.

It was an insensative thing to say but men (including myself) see the world differently and talk differently.  Sometimes we forget that women dont understand what we are saying so it looks like we are being an ass but really we didnt mean anything bad.  We just didnt say it in a way a female would understand us.

Now if he makes these kind of remarks all the time then he may be an ass and then ditch him before you get too attached.

Does it ever stop hurting?  Well yes and no.  If you stretch really hard for a month and then go back to where it used to first hurt it will no longer hurt.  However, unless you are a pro gymnist (which I love their flexibility) then you can always stretch more so it will hurt.  I just started stretching again after too many years of neglect (got a career and wife and kids and forgot about fitness)

You are not going to damage, injure, tear, or hurt a muscle by stretching.  Muscles and tendons are extremely tough.  You have to really do something dumb to hurt yourself stretching (which does occur because there are some dumb people in this world, for example jump splits are not a good idea especially off the bench press bench).

Keep it up and you will be impressing people in no time with your flexibility. 

Well than be glad. 

Unlike you I dont limit my conversations to only my own opinions.  I enjoy talking to people with differnt viewpoints because who knows I may actually be proven wrong or learn something.  It has happened before and will again I am sure.

Just because I don't believe something doesnt keep me from talking to others who do.  I don't believe in vegitarian diets, but I have friends who are.  I don't believe in hunting animals but many of my friends go hunting all the time.  I guess I was brought up differently than you and was told that it was ok for people to believe differently.  I accept people who have different opinions and dont trash them or put them down.  But hey I am a nice person.

Wow, you are very single minded.  No I am not a sexist.  I hold women in a very high light.  I think women are exceptional and I enjoy talking to many women in bars or at work or at events.  This dont make them my friends just acquaintances.  Again read my definition of friend.

Now my second guess is both of you flaming me are around 16 to 25 and not married.  Hmmm would be interesting if I could talk to these so called friends without them knowing who I was I would be quite a bit of money that most if not all would say they woud sleep with you given the chance.  Just my opinnion so do get to bent out of shape.

The topic of the post about wome was headings that would get a response.  I seemed to have been correct that this heading would get a response.

The topic of men and women as friends is based off my experience.  You dont have to believe me I dont really care if you believe me.  Maybe you know the most extraordinary men that I have yet to meet.  Could be possible but I dought it and I would not believe it unless I saw it with my own 2 eyes.  Oh, btw my friends, wife, friends wifes all believe the same thing.  They have all had so called friends of the opposite sex who really just wanted more.  So now its not just my 25+ years but add in another 1000+ years of experience.

My wife is my wife.  She is my soul mate and partner in everyting I do.  I dont sleep with my friends.

You are getting pretty defensive and flaming me for what I have seen over and over for 25+ years.  I must have hit a truth with you or you would not have attacked.

I am in my late 30's and have experience quite a bit in my life.  I would love to have a female friend but the honest truth is it just is not possible.  I have tried on many occasions and it never works out.  I don't know one man in the thousands of people I have know that ever had a true friend that was a girl.  This is a fact not something I made up.  I dont make the rules I just live by them.

Not my fault that people are the way they are.

Gay women are only good for one thing. Sex, it seems they do better with another women. wierd.

Men and women cant really be friends unless your under the age of like 12 or 13.

My defition of friend is: a person you are not attacked too in anyway.  You like them for who they are and what they say.  You go do things often with this person and invite them to everything special occasion (birthdays, weddings, etc).  A person who you can trust with your most sensative issues.

Men and Women just dont have anything in common to become friends.  My friends hang out with me and talk about things that we like and do things we both enjoy.  I dont like shopping, clothes, shoes, or women type items.  Why would I want to sit and listen to a woman talk about this type of stuff? Because I want to sleep with her Duh.  Same goes for women who want to talk about sports and cars.  Its a sure sign that a guy or girl wants more.  Plus I have never once seen a guy and girl who were really just friends ever.  They always endup sleeping with each other or never talking too each other.  Sometimes both.

It can be proved.  The next time you think you have a friend of the opposite sex who you dont want a relationship with (this tells you that they are the one wanting more) tell them you are starting to fall for them.  A true friend would be freaked out and tell you that they dont have those feelings and never will but they would still be your friend (because friends stick with you no matter how stupid you are).

The only exceptions are if the guy or girl is gay.  A real friends (someone you wouldn't betray for anything) wife or husband. Then there is no sexual tention or ideas thus it never is going to go any further.

I would take this as weird and then look for collaborating evidence.  Is this the only thing you have seen?  If so not a big issue.  If this is a reoccurring theme then I would have suspicions of both people.  I would then watch carefully until I was sure one way or the other.

This would just have caused me to start watching things a bit to see what else goes on.  Take it as a wake up call and see if there are other things going on.

Vegtables are boring and lack the taste that most food items have.  I eat them but I would rather have something else.

Hmm yes I will have that piece of broccili over that really tasty piece of bacon.  Why cant vegatbles taste like bacon or cake or anything that tastes good?