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| Pregnancy & Parenting | What are the silliest names you ever thought to name your children? | Oct 20 2009 04:05 (UTC) |
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KELLY - Sorry, but I agree with your hubby! I love the name Winter! LISA - That is the best set of names! I think it would take people a while to get it which is perfect!
THANKS to you both! |
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| The Lounge | My life in just six words. | Sep 26 2009 04:35 (UTC) |
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A good woman trying to rise. |
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| The Lounge | I slept with my best friend's girlfriend, need advice, please help! | Sep 26 2009 04:33 (UTC) |
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What if the guys who wrote the Bible were just a bunch of drunken frat boys playing a joke on the world? |
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| The Lounge | just say a random comment. | Sep 26 2009 04:28 (UTC) |
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Original Post by santonacci: Ugh! I am hundreds of comments too late, but I was TOTALLY going to write that! |
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| The Lounge | Do you ever get weird/bad vibes from people? | Sep 26 2009 04:25 (UTC) |
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Trust your gut! Just becuase he seemed normal doesn't mean a thing! Remeber the BK killer & all these other murderers/pedophiles? "He was such a nice man." BLAH BLAH BLAH! Trust your gut! |
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| The Lounge | How to get the butterflies back | Sep 26 2009 04:23 (UTC) |
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Nope, but we are starting counseling next week. Hope that will give us some clues. Good luck with yours! |
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| The Lounge | 2012 | Sep 26 2009 04:17 (UTC) |
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My 11 year old is PETRIFIED of this!!! Then my nephew who is 2years older than him started talking about the Myan and their calendar of prediction and my son started bawling!!!! When we brought it up to my Mom she reminded him of a very important fact...the Mayans are all dead. Guess they weren't so great at predicting things! P.S. I hope my Mom is right about that! lol |
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| Pregnancy & Parenting | How do I breastfeed in public? | Sep 26 2009 03:42 (UTC) |
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Original Post by magicalmoon: Word! The closest I have come to is if the bathroom also has a sitting area attached. But, yeah, ew! |
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| Pregnancy & Parenting | How do I breastfeed in public? | Sep 26 2009 03:37 (UTC) |
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Original Post by bier: Screw other peeple! Unless I am popping it out for all to see then it's none of their business if I am feeding my child by breast! If my baby is hungry then she gets fed. I bring a blanket with me everywhere we go (I have 3 other children whoare in school so we go out ALOT) to cover the actual boob. But if someone has a problem with that then they can walk away...to a grocery store to buy some expensive formula if they are so concerned! Lol. Seriously, it's a beautiful healthy thing that I feel no shame for. I remember being 20 with my 1st baby and popping it out on the train at the zoo!! Covered of course |
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| Health & Support | Is This Normal? | Sep 26 2009 02:57 (UTC) |
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Lol! you guys are all awesome for making me foeel so normal! Thank you I mentioned it to someone prior to this post and they acted as though I were from another planet. I am glad I asked! P.S. You are killing me with the asparagus pee! |
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| Pregnancy & Parenting | When did your LO start teething? | Sep 24 2009 03:09 (UTC) |
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Original Post by raynebair: My first child didn't get his first tooth until 14 mos too! They say that babies who get teeth very late are supposed to be very intelligent. He's 11.5yrs now and I think it's true...but I am SO biased! Lol! I have so many pics of him walking around with a sock in his mouth. He would take off a sock and gnaw the crap out of it when his teeth finally started coming in! It was the cutest thing to have this toothless baby giving me the biggest cheeseburger smile with a sock hanging out of his mouth! My 4th baby is almost 14 weeks now and she has been drooling for about 2 weeks. NONE of my other children drooled when teething so this will be new for me. I always saw other people with bibs on thier babies for the drool but never had to do that...until now. Her behavior doesn't seem to be too bad so I don't think she's in much pain or discomfort. She's got some snifflies and a bit of the watery poo (she's on mostly breastmilk with some formula). I don't know...we'll see! Good luck with all your teething babies! |
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| Pregnancy & Parenting | Old Wives Tales: Baby Gender | Sep 24 2009 02:52 (UTC) |
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I just had my 4th and people were constantly doing the ring test on me before we found out the sex. The test kept saying boy but she was a girl!! With both my girls I carried them in a way where everyone thought I was having boys (low). My first daughter (3rd in line) was a surprise! I already had 2 boys and if I was having yet another boy I wanted to keep the fantasy of a little girl alive for 9 mos. What an emotional birth that was! I didn't even see her face when she came out...I went straight to the nether region to see what she was. We all burst into tears of such extreme joy that the doctor even commented on it. He said he hasn't experienced that in a while. Ok, back to your topic! The only old wives' tale I found to be true from all my pregnancies is the one where they say that if your pregnant with a girl she takes all the beauty from you. You just feel ugly, not fresh, blah. This was COMPLETEly true with mine!! When I was pregnant with my boys I had practically no symptoms beside some mood swings. With my girls I had body acne, ance on my neck and oily hair. My body hair got darker and grew like I was drinking Rogaine! I just never felt pretty. I thought I looked lke my 80 year old grandpa the whole time!! Lol! Have fun with all the "tests" and maybe even keep a cute scrapbook or journal of when people test and the result to look back on later! |
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| Pregnancy & Parenting | Hippie name UPDATE ! | Sep 24 2009 02:42 (UTC) |
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I am big on origional names! Honestly, if I had known how popular this name was before we picked it I might've changed my mind. I found it maybe a week before she was born and added it to a list of about 9 names. Once she was born we went down the list & this one fit the best. Then I got scared that we weren't pronouncing it correctly so I looked it up online. That's when I found out it was in the top 70 names! My name, Rhiannon, and my oldest daughter's name, Kavai, are less popular or common than Nevaeh's but I still love it! She is completely unique from the rest of our family (so far) so it's okay if her name is one of the top 70! Lol! |
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| Pregnancy & Parenting | diaper disposal & dogs | Sep 23 2009 07:33 (UTC) |
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I am WAY to frugal to use a diaper genie. I have never had one. We stick to the old method of hanging a grocery store plastic bag on the back door knob (on the outside) and fill it with the poopy diapers until it's a little more than half full then throw it in the garbage bin & start all over. When the diapers get bigger...and messier then it's one bag per poopy! |
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| Pregnancy & Parenting | Hippie name UPDATE ! | Sep 23 2009 06:28 (UTC) |
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It is pronounced nuh-vay-uh. Some people keep it 2 syllables...nuh-vay. |
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| Pregnancy & Parenting | Hippie name UPDATE ! | Sep 22 2009 08:53 (UTC) |
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Thank you! She was born June 19...same as my brother |
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| Pregnancy & Parenting | Help!!! | Sep 19 2009 06:03 (UTC) |
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I agree with Mollie. Try reading a book to him right before bedtime so he's nice and relaxed. Playing soft music in the room might work too. Also, the hour before bedtime keep prepping him that he's going to bed soon. But, once he's in bed he should stay no matter how loud he screams. If he gets up, just put him back. Don't say anything after the 3rd time. Just pick him up and put him back in bed and walk away...then cry in your room but wipe the tears before you have to put him back again! Lol These are the hard times of being a parent (I have 4). But it's for thier own good. He is not the authority...because he's just 2.5! Love him, hug him, kiss him and tell him you'll see him in the morning. Good luck! :O) |
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| Pregnancy & Parenting | End of school day fits and fights... | Sep 19 2009 05:51 (UTC) |
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Wow! That is a long day for a kindergartner!! Of course she's tired! Which means it's harder to adjust to the change of a new person in control of her day and not being around Mom & sis. Maybe it is taking longer for her to transition to the 2 different environments. Or maybe she is having issues with some of the kids in class. Ask her teacher if everythings ok. Fighting should be nipped in the bud. You need to put your foot down on her behavior. Be nice and remind her that you've been missing her ALL day and that you don't want to fight with her now that you have her back! Plan some mommy & kindergartner time when you get home but be sure to warn little sis and find something to keep her occupied. With walking home from school, maybe big sis can pull the wagon since she's a big kindergartner now. Or, bring a bucket or plastic bag with you for the girls and have them "treasure" hunt for the walk home. My kids love doing this. I let them find pretty rocks, shiny metal things, whatever might be considered treasure. You can just throw the stuff away when you get home (keep the Earth clean!) or have them make an art project at the end of the week with what they find! Odds are that this will all be a memory within a month or two of school. Good luck! :O) |
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| Pregnancy & Parenting | What's the chance? | Sep 19 2009 05:38 (UTC) |
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I think this is a "time will tell" situation. normally, your body can go wacko after stopping BCP. Some women get a period right away and some skip a month or two until thier body kicks back into natural gear. OR, you could be pregnant! I got pregnant with my 2nd the same month I stopped the pill. My doc said it was just the pill but I was pregnant. Give it some time and see. But be responsible until you know just in case you are in fact preggers! Good luck :O) |
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| Pregnancy & Parenting | dont want children my wonderful husband does | Sep 19 2009 05:21 (UTC) |
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My sister was in a realtionship for 6 years hoping her boyfriend would change his mind about kids. He never did and they didn't work out. Wasted years and wasted tears. While I totally understand your feelings about your parents foster situation and your role in it...that is NOT raising your own child. Babysitting for a night or watching/raising "siblings" is completely different. Sure the tasks are the same but the emotions behind why you do these tasks are coming from 2 different places! I do things for my kids that I never would have done for any other kid OR adult for that matter. I would suggest counseling before making a final decision on babies & the relationship. Good luck :O) |
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| Pregnancy & Parenting | Weaning | Sep 19 2009 05:14 (UTC) |
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My short nursing & weaning history: With my first, he weaned himself around 6 mos.. I guess he's not a boob guy! With my daughter, it just fell through the cracks with work & being seperated from my husband, My second boy....he is 6 1/2 now and would still be nursing if he had his way about it!! I had to wean him at a year too. There was no way I was going to be slapping a 2yr old on me...I am not that Mom! My plan was simple...start nursing him just once a day and then POOF no more after birthday. He didn't really seem to care or notice since he was only getting some once a day. I am currently nursing my 4th who is 3mos so we shall see how long that lasts! GOOD LUCK with your goal :O) |
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| Pregnancy & Parenting | mother-in-law/grandmother | Sep 19 2009 05:08 (UTC) |
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The relationship you have with your MIL may not be the same relationship she will have with her grandchild. Chances are she'll be nicer to the baby than she is to you. Take it one step at a time. She is the grandmother and deserves a chance to be a part of your childs life and your child deserves a chance to know thier grandma. If things start to get dangerous then you can intervene. Teach your child about poor behavior without slamming your MIL. My MIL isn't the best either but the kids are oblivious to her bad adult habits. They have unconditional love for thier Nana. Whenever her bad behavior comes into question and they ask "why" I tell them to ask Nana about it. But I never badmouth her or keep them away. |
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| Pregnancy & Parenting | Overwhelming advice | May 21 2009 02:13 (UTC) |
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After 3 kids and having my first when I was single & 20 I can garauntee that your child will be perfectly safe in cheaper brands. If this weren't the case then Target & WalMart would be out of business!!!! I didn't & couldn't spend a ton of money on baby products for any of my children & probablly wouldn't even if I could (except for that cool Orbit system that swivels!! It's just neat!! but $900..NO WAY!). I am about to have my 4th & she will be sleeping in the same cradle bought at Sears 11 years ago when I had her brother. She will then go on to the same crib to toddler bed set that my mom bought for me with my 1st. So go cheaper but not incredibly cheap. Take a look at the quality of the product in person. That can tell you alot about wether or not you should buy it. And, remember that part of the quality of use in a product relies solely on your knowledge of operating it. Ask yourself if you really NEED all the bells & whistles on these baby products too. Some of the newer models of bouncy seats, strollers & entertainment centers make me dizzy with over stimulation with all the toys & gadets cluttering them. Good luck! |
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| Pregnancy & Parenting | Do you have a "hippie" name? | May 21 2009 02:04 (UTC) |
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RAINSONG, I think that is beautiful!! Especially because of the meaning. What an honor!! Do you embrace the name? I went to school with a girl named Lovesong but no one really made fun of her name due to the fact that she had a "hunchback" issue. She is an awesome person from what I remember and her name fit her! |
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| Pregnancy & Parenting | Are affectionate children a dying breed? | May 14 2009 02:05 (UTC) |
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HUggit....I agree witht he adult aspect of it because then sexuality comes into play. Obvious boundaries need more attention than when your in kindergarten. i believe at this age that there should be small if no uncomfortableness witha friendly hug. UPDATE: I have been watching extra close to the goings on with this situation. I think it's just to make sure I am not over reacting and giving the parents & families a fair chance. I think I have noticed a different take on the situation. It all comes down to gender. If my son were a girl I firmly believe he wouldn't get the same negative reactions. The reason I feel this way is becuase I watch my almost 4 year old daughter hug almost every kid in the class, boys & girls, to which they welcome her with open arms! All of them! the teacher doesn't even discourage it. I also noticed the other day that when we passed a classmate of his (female) my daughter said goodbye to her and was recieved with a friendly, high pitched "Goodbye!". My son followed suit and said goodbye to which he was greeted with a very unenthusiastic "Goodbye." that was about 5 octives lower. I felt hurt for him but didn't say anything becuase I wasn't even sure if he noticed it. Sure enough, 10 seconds later he turns to me and says, "Mom, why does my firend like my sister more than me?". Ugh!!!!!!! So hard to explain to him!! I told him that sometimes kids go through phases where they don't like boys or girls. That he should still be friendly and not let it hurt him and that his friend will eventually come around. There is one family that I really have to control myself around. I just want to scream at the mother!! I understood when the little boy didn't want a hug but now it's to the point where the kids will flat out ignore my son when he is just saying HI in the morning. He will have his back to him & not turn around while my son tries to greet his "best buddy" and his mother just stands there and watches!!!! And it's not just him, it's his younger brother too. When my daughter tries to talk to him or say hello he ignores her & mom is there just watching! I don't care what anyone says...being rude is nor should be accepted as a personal choice. If my son did that I would encourage him to respond and teach him that it's rude to ignore his friends. Maybe it's the fact that I am 35 weeks pregnant but I really want to give that woman a piece of my mind! |
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| Pregnancy & Parenting | Should I have a baby? | May 09 2009 06:22 (UTC) |
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As the mother of 3, soon to be 4, my advice would be to wait. Maybe until you are done with college. I had my first child when I was 20 and I was a single mother. I wouldn't trade it for the world but I can now see the value in having all or most of those things people say you should have before having kids. Now, I want to stop working (I am 31) and would love to spend all my time being a mother. But, since I wasn't ambitious with career or school, we can't afford it. I am married now and he makes really good money. However, with the size of our family we still need 2 incomes and are struggling to buy a new car let alone a house. Every situation is different. CAN you have a baby right now & be happy, of course. Will it be hectic with or without going to school, yes. Personally, if I could do it all over I would want to do all the things and get all the stuff I needed to before I had my kids. That way it might be just a bit easier to enjoy it all. So, if you can wait, then do that. If it is this burning desire then go for it!!! Good luck!! |
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| Pregnancy & Parenting | Are affectionate children a dying breed? | May 09 2009 02:22 (UTC) |
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Original Post by sarahbluebelle: Thanks for your reply :O) We live in No. California. It's a fairly small community (for California). but, I have lived in middle America too & am pretty sure that CA is more open minded to this subject. Maybe not anymore... My son has calmed down at school with his affection. I think he got the hint or just tired of the rejection. Positive note about that is now he focuses all his lovey-ness on me!!! Yay! More kisses & stares into my eyes as he tells me how beautiful I am! |
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| Pregnancy & Parenting | Are affectionate children a dying breed? | May 07 2009 07:47 (UTC) |
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He did go to preschool and only had "girlfriends" but it wasn't as developed as it is now. I may have given you the wrong impression of his actions. He doesn't do this on a daily basis as far as being affectionate with the children. It's sparatic...much more so now than in the beginning of the year since he has gotten the hint from his friends. i think in the beginning he was so excited to have friends and just assumed they would express themselves the same way he does. Now, it's just when he kisses me or his sister goodbye for the day that they react or scowl at him. I never see any of the other kids kiss thier parents or siblings. They are all getting along better because he has adjusted HIS behavior. I was just sad to see so many families that aren't affectionate in a normal way. It's just hugs and kisses! Aren't kids this age supposed to be innocent & loving and not act jaded? I thought the whole "cootie" stage happened later on...maybe 1, 2 or 3rd grade? Changing schools is a really unnecessary action. I enjoy the hugs, kisses and "I love you"'s! I encourage my kids to show there affection (appropriately) and will never stop showing them mine. Not a day goes by that my kids don't tell me "Your the best Mom in the whole wide world.". I hope they approach all thier relationships with that honest emotion & that thier friends grow to be more comfortable with the compliments. |
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| Pregnancy & Parenting | daycare | May 07 2009 06:27 (UTC) |
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I have been working nights since my oldest was 3 months old. That was almost 11 years ago! One of the reasons I did this was to save money on daycare and so that only family took care of the kids. I have nothing against daycare professionals...they have more patience then me I imagine!!!! It's just that I grew up with a religious cult worth of family (insert sarcastic overtone on that one)members but when I had my own children I was relocated and barely had any family around. So we clung to the ones who were here. I love working nights. It has it's drawbacks...sleep isn't as easily aquired so coffee becomes a necessity and my husband and I not having as much time together. But the perk of spending all day with my kids all day while only missing a few hours of time with them before they go to sleep is golden! If I worked days I would only get 3-4 hours time with them during the weekday. Working nights isn't for everyone, though. I arrive at work between 4 - 5:30 and can work as late as 3am. If you can find a part-time (I am full time) job that doesn't last as long as my shifts it might owrk for you! Good luck! |
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| Pregnancy & Parenting | How do I get sleep? | May 07 2009 06:18 (UTC) |
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Try wearing her out an hour before bedtime. Play with her until she can't keep her eyes open. Stimulation is the most powerful tool for kids to sleep a long time!! Or try oatmeal flakes either mixed with water & spoonfed or mixed in her bottle before bedtime. Good luck!! |
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And I just took a flight with my then 2 month old and still breastfed with out giving anyone a heads up. Different strokes I guess.
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