Posts by marekat

hells yeah. :)

i like to ride a stationary bike when watching tv or playing video  games

try that!

:) ok, thank you

Original Post by eglatt:
We're all here for you :)

thank you :)

I will try... AHH I can't just feel sorry for myself...that won't help anything >.<

>.< it seems so much harder than before

Original Post by tebunie:

Sure :D

:D schweet beans!!!!

Original Post by scarredbeautyjulie:

I freak out when people get too close to me.

I yelled at my boyfriend yesterday for called so much, then immedietly started crying and apologized.

so you're kinda like my opposite.  i always want to be close to people...but when i get close i mess it allllll up

I DO SO MUCH BUT I AM TOO SHORT DX (5'2)

and you're kinda showing older models, who are established and can afford to put on a few extra lbs with their fame >.<

Ok Gooby (may I call you Gooby? ;)  the gain is ALL IN YOUR HEAD!  Anything that is not is just water weight/bloaty-bloat.

It's supermegaawesome that you're overcoming your ed!!

YEY! <3

But i think you should eat about 1500cals of mostly PROTEIN and FIBER.

you won't gain weight, but you'll get healhtier, if that makes sense :)

Original Post by misschicago:

I'm the same way. It's awful. I had a massive group of friends in HS, but now in college... I don't. Because I don't drink I don't go out with anyone. I had a group of friends last year but my lack of partying caused us to drift. I also had/have an eating disorder, so I really pushed away all my friends. I was sick of people asking about me and thinking they could help me, when they had no idea what was going on. Now I have aquaintances, but all I do is study. I have to work 6 days a week to pay for school and I have a minimal social life. I really hope this gets better after I graduate.

Sorry if that sounds sad. I generally life my life. I just wish I had a group of friends.

Ugh, right?! I'm like YOU HAVE NO IDEA WHATS GOING ON, DON'T ACT LIKE YOU DO.  :P

Original Post by emurph93:

I'm sorry to hear what you're going through with your friends and teachers and it must suck to have them betray your like that. I know this is something very different but I went through something completely opposite and I think that you're going about weight loss the right way, by NOT by having an eating disorder. Its sad that you're friends see your weight loss as something bad and how nowadays teens losing weight "automatically" have eating disorders. I went through some bad things with an ED for a few months at the beginning of the school year, so I can understand on your friends' part their worries because bulimia is such a real and possible thing everywhere. What I definitely disagree with is that they had so little trust in you or in themselves as your friends to approach you about it properly or actually believe in you. 

Having had an eating disorder is absolutely a terrible thing and I realize now that what I did was horrible. You're friends shouldn't have told everyone lies about you (some friends lol) and even if you did have an ED they shouldn't have told people! My friends were the reason I started to lose weight in a healthy way, because they supported me by not telling me I was "disgusting" or telling my parents. Now my goal is to eat healthy and not worry about weight but state of mind and body. I'm sorry to mention my problems here, and if you take offense to any of what I'm saying or you feel that its inappropriate I'm sorry to bother you.

I hope things get better, and that you find people to support you in your life. Remember that true friends don't judge you or question you, the try to help you first.

:O I don't think you are offensive and bothersome at all!!  I'm really sorry about what you've been though though :(  But I'm glad you have such supportive friends!! :)

Original Post by asdfgirl:

That's pretty much all they care about. Honestly, I've met plenty of guys. I used to be super chubby and I barely ever got attention from guys. Come next year, 30 pounds lighter, and I'm getting asked out by different guys all the time. Obviously, it's not personality.

They may SAY they go for personality, but everything is much more appealing in a nice packaging.

This is pretty much the exact same thing for me!  I went through most of my life without a smidge of male attention (okay, ONE boy in 8th grade)  but as soon as I dropped 30lbs, BOOM.  Haha, well not really.  It's more like these 2 guys I'm not interested in are all over me.  Ick.

But yeah, to them, everything is more appealing when it's wrapped in a nice box with a bow, not wrapped in the morning funnies. =/

Original Post by miss_independent:

Hi

That happened to me after the summer.

I took up running one summer and lost some weight. When I got back to school my friends started saying how thin I was, I'm not thin I'm healthy.

A girl who hung about with us made fun of me and some boys joined in about how I didn't eat at lunch, I was accused of having bullemia after I had a cake one day at lunch.

I no longer see these people as I felt intimidated that they attacked me as a group, even my best friend did not stick up for me when she saw me eat almost every night of the summer as she was always at mine for dinner and sleepovers. Personally breakfast is my fav meal  If they seriously thought there was a problem I would have rather they would have spoke to me

Admittedly I did not eat alot at school which did not help my case but I swear I did not have a ed.

However the following summer , the one there, I did develop an eating disorder which I am still struggling with. I don't know if these people influenced me to do so, but they did put me in a weak state of mind.

People say hurtful things and they don't understand the consequences. I know most people would never deal with the situation in such a silly way like me but I just wanted to state how serious things like these can turn out.

Congrats on your healthy weight loss and never let anything like this influence your decisions whether that is eating more to shut them up or an ed like me. I can't believe I did this because some unhealthy people were nasty to me.

You seem like a smart girl so go eith your instinct and I am sure your actions will be the right ones. x

 

:) that's what I'd like to believe, but they just keep saying how "worried" they are about me!!  UGH I don't know who or what to believe anymore and I don't want to deal with anyone anymore, haha.

but yeah, i'm going to do my very best to be happy.  I missed school and a party tonight because of them. I'm ashamed of myself for being so influenced by them! >:O

Original Post by neslis:

I am soooo glad someone said this! Marekat - That's a good idea to make a joke out of it sometimes to show that you are aware of everyone's suspicions and how absurd they are. That was rude of whoever-it-was to report you as bulimic without getting his/her facts straight first. (And also, it's probably the nurse and guidance's job to check out every case that's reported to them, just to be safe). The same thing happened to me in high school, except I really was anorexic, but didn't know it, so I deceived everyone and even faked a much higher weight just to get everyone off my back (I did realize my problem on my own, eventually, though and recovered :])

I have experienced the same accusations for a long time, too, so I know how you feel. I can't even eat anything at work anymore because the other girls suspect that I'm bulimic or using drugs. They think that's the only way I could possibly be as thin and energetic as I am.

Maybe if they would compare the way I eat to the way they eat, they would understand. They might eat pasta, bread, and a salad with hi-cal dressing for one meal, whereas for me, I would eat just the bread, a meatball, and an apple, for example. Huge difference in calories! Also, I work out at least three times per week and they don't work out. Just the fact that I am always aware of the calories in everything I eat (or could potentially eat) and they think regular ranch dressing is "healthy" goes to show that they aren't even aware of the concept of high and low calorie food, so how can they judge what it is that I must be doing to stay thin?

Sorry for the rant, but I am not bulimic or using drugs and I never have! To be accused of these things is just ridiculous and proof of their ignorance. As a result, I have to eat very little or nothing at work just so no one follows me into the bathroom. No problem, though, cause that's fewer calories for me!

 

Ugh!!!  That sucks!!! :(  people need to CHILL!!  and you're so right, all my friends eat like crazy! It's like, sorry that I am eating a perfectly portioned meal that seems small next to the hard roll sandwich, cookies, and who knows what else that you are eating. 

And don't be sorry, ranting is all i seem to be doing too :)  And i'm pretty mad that your coworkers have made it so that you can't even eat in front of them, but like you said, it's better for you, and too bad for their ranch dressing-filled behinds ;)

Original Post by miss_independent:

Hi

That happened to me after the summer.

I took up running one summer and lost some weight. When I got back to school my friends started saying how thin I was, I'm not thin I'm healthy.

A girl who hung about with us made fun of me and some boys joined in about how I didn't eat at lunch, I was accused of having bullemia after I had a cake one day at lunch.

I no longer see these people as I felt intimidated that they attacked me as a group, even my best friend did not stick up for me when she saw me eat almost every night of the summer as she was always at mine for dinner and sleepovers. Personally breakfast is my fav meal  If they seriously thought there was a problem I would have rather they would have spoke to me

Admittedly I did not eat alot at school which did not help my case but I swear I did not have a ed.

However the following summer , the one there, I did develop an eating disorder which I am still struggling with. I don't know if these people influenced me to do so, but they did put me in a weak state of mind.

People say hurtful things and they don't understand the consequences. I know most people would never deal with the situation in such a silly way like me but I just wanted to state how serious things like these can turn out.

Congrats on your healthy weight loss and never let anything like this influence your decisions whether that is eating more to shut them up or an ed like me. I can't believe I did this because some unhealthy people were nasty to me.

You seem like a smart girl so go eith your instinct and I am sure your actions will be the right ones. x

 

This actually really struck a cord with me :(  The day I found out, I went home and just started eating, I felt so bad.  And today too, I started out really well, some Special K for breakfast and turkey pita for lunch, but then my brother came home and was all "dont you have any friends? its friday night, go do something."  truthfully I did have plans with the girls who have been talking about me, so naturally they were no longer coming over.  but i started feeling worse and worse and i just started eating cookies and frosting (xD).  Then I thought 'ugh, i'm so pathetic. maybe i should just go throw it all up now like they say i do"

and then i almost did.

but i came on here first, thank God. :)

I'm so sorry what your friends did to you, it was truly awful and i totally understand why you reacted the way you did.  People are mean. >:P

thank you though, everyone.  :) I'm so glad I still have people I can talk to <3

Only four days?!  Hunny, if your mom is making meals with that high a fat/calorie content, you're going to have to make her understand that you want to loose weight, and that might mean you can't be eating her meals anymore.

Cos it's going to get harder, and worse, and you're not going to like what happens to you meantally or physically.

Tell her early on.  If you need, make your own healthy meal, or try to help her too.

:) I agree. Media means close to nothing to most teens.  It's all about our friends, and those super-skinny girls in school that everyone loves.

Original Post by samgonzo:

im so sorry you are going through this. I know how it is being a teenage girl and having to deal with them on a daily basis. Do your parents know what is going on? If i were you, i would refuse to go to that school because what they are doing must be hurting you so much. Well at least you know what kind of people your "friends" are. So are you hanging out with other people now? Hope everything gets better soon

Ugh!  I wish I could :) But they're not the type to let me miss school unless I AM throwing up (ironic, isn't it?)  And yeah, I'm deff finding myself a new lunch table. >:(

Original Post by geektasticxx:

People do the same exact thing to me. They always say I'm anorexic and act like I never eat. Um, I definitely eat. I eat in front of 'em every day. If I pass up a candy bar or chips or something they start going at it, saying I need to go to the doctor and stuff. I always whip out my diet talk and tell them my BMI is in the healthy range, and just because I don't want to eat half a day's worth of calories in one sitting doesn't mean I'm anorexic.

Yeesh.

Ugh!!! Right?  Just because I try to give away some pringles or whatever at lunch, I  must not be eating a thing. Sorry I prefer healthy foods!  But you are so right.  The people I eat with plow right through something at least twice the size of my lunch.  I geuss THAT'S what's healthy :P

Original Post by littlebeep:

What your teacher did (reporting you like that) was inexcusable.  Demand an apology and stand up for your rights.  Have something read on the announcements, maybe?  Telling people the whole calorie shpiel?

And if it was really your friends who said that about you, find new ones (or just get a serious apology). 

I wish I knew what teacher it was!  The guidance counselor said she could not reveal the identity, so I went and directly asked all of my teachers (except the scary one ^^;;) but they all said it was not them, and i do believe (most) of them, because I never really suspected them anyway.  But the stupid guidance office is so lame, they just told me "not to worry about it" but how could I not?

And I don't want to draw more attention to myself, so if I do have an announcement said, I think I'll submit it anonymously.

And I don't know what to do about the girls, because they won't apologize cos they "are only worried about me" which is a great way of showing it, btw.  But I hate to burn bridges, you know? =/

But thanks, everyone. :) It's nice to know I'm not the one overreacting here, and that I have some support!! <3