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| The Lounge | Exes | Mar 08 2009 15:55 (UTC) |
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Not often. but when he does I get a little pang. Silly really, because obviously they broke up for a reason and she lives thousands of miles away, but now and then I wonder if he wishes they were still together - based on nothing at all, except that they still have an amicable relationship. He doesn't hide the fact that they email each other occasionally (he shows me the emails, they are not flirty at all, just how are your parents, the dogs, what is the weather like etc). I guess the difference between us in that respect is so glaring because his comments about his ex are mostly positive and my comments about my ex are the opposite.
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| The Lounge | Spring Forward, Day Light Savings time, Change your clocks! | Mar 08 2009 15:07 (UTC) |
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I don't care about that at all today. |
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| Health & Support | Relieving burns inside your mouth | Mar 07 2009 17:11 (UTC) |
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geeze my mum used to give me that for sore thoats ... it works but tastes god awful. the good thing is mouths tend to heal fast, you should only be uncomfortable for a day or so. |
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| Fitness | how to get rid of "lovehandles" and get a flat stomach. | Mar 04 2009 16:33 (UTC) |
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I believe the answer is to reduce your overall calorie intake (count calories, measure and weigh your food - don't guess) and exercise more. And not specifically "ab" exercises either. Cardio and also moves that challenge your whole core, such as lunges and planks and squats and anything to do with balance will make you stronger. Doing all of the above should eventually cause overall body fat loss (at least that is the theory). So many people have this exact problem but sadly, it is just not possible to reduce fat from only one area of your body. Good luck. |
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| The Lounge | Stupid Diet Tip #47 | Mar 04 2009 16:20 (UTC) |
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Gahh! my site blocker at work wont let me see this... what was the tip? |
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| The Lounge | how did you decide on your login names? | Mar 03 2009 23:36 (UTC) |
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mine is the town I used to live in in UK , Glos (short for Gloucester) and then I moved to LV (Las Vegas) with my lully hubby. |
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| The Lounge | Attention Young Ladies (a rant) | Mar 03 2009 23:09 (UTC) |
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Original Post by nomoreexcuses: My thoughts exactly. Me, as a teenager with barely A's and now sporting (natural) DDD's (that dont fit into anything) As you get older, a lift and maybe a reduction might make them pretty and perky again... Surely not augmentation (even more size) |
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| The Lounge | Recommend or Review a Movie (or do both) | Feb 27 2009 16:55 (UTC) |
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My old favourite - "Born Romantic" Set in UK. Several story lines woven together. Characters are good and watch out for the taxi drivers, their "talks" are so funny. Surprise recent like: "Snow Walker" Set in Alaska. Pilot does a favor for Inuit family but disaster strikes. Based on true story (I think). Characters played by actual Inuits, which brings real authenticity. Scenery is breathtaking. Another old FAVE: " Lock Stock and Two Smoking Barrels" Awesome UK film. Another with many story lines, tightly woven together. Pay attention, they talk fast! Watch out for the dog too. I get something new out of this every time I see it. New-ish, recently seen:"The Duchess" Also filmed in UK. True story. If you get this on DVD, be sure to watch the special features after the film. Don't be put off because it is set in 18th century (I think). The story is riveting and the costumes are beautiful. I have visited Chatsworth Manor, the stately home where this was mainly set. Awesome house and humongous grounds.
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| Weight Loss | Smaller thighs? | Feb 26 2009 21:08 (UTC) |
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I Second everything Spiro said. Will add that SPRINTING may build thigh muscles (look at runners who do 100 yards) but LONG DISTANCE will make you lose fat for sure (look at marathon runners - not one chunky thigh among them) Also at 16 you are still growing (if not "up" then internally) and should be careful not to restrict your calories too much. |
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| The Lounge | Aaaaaarrrrrrrggggghhhh! | Feb 25 2009 21:53 (UTC) |
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OMG, that must be just heart breaking! All your work! Fingers crossed tight that the geek squad can save it. ((hugs)) Reminds me though, of something I heard a while back. A home was robbed and vandalized. The vandals/ robbers stole jewelry, money, all the usual..and trashed the place, throwing stuff around and breaking things... but, they also stuck a screwdriver into the computer and fried the entire memory, they lost everything on the computer, was simply not retreivable. Photos .. everything... why, oh why would someone do that? Why? It just boggles my mind! Just the thought that someone could do that to our computer.. my wedding photos, photos of my children from babies to adult... i would not be able to bear it... The day I heard that story, I went out and got a separate hard drive and put everything on there. I have a reminder on my calendar to back it all up once a month. Now, if some vile, theiving, vandal gets into my home and destroys my computer, at least I will not have lost everything. |
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| Fitness | Arthritis in Knee and Hip, suggestions please for cardio, so as not to aggravate? | Feb 25 2009 20:58 (UTC) |
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Bump !
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| Fitness | Red face after running! | Feb 24 2009 21:20 (UTC) |
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Yup same for me too. I also have low BP ..Exercise = red face for me (and i mean SCARLET) people always ask if I am ok/ am about to pass out. Sweat profusely during and after too. I am very fair (typical English coloring) wonder if that has anything to do with the redness? Lots of exertion makes my whole head pound and I usually feel dizzy by the end of my 60 minute workout. And my face feels kind of itchy / tingly in an unpleasant way. And I also get dizzy standing suddenly... i really hope the extra water works then! |
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| Foods | Butter/Margarine/Yellow stuff in a tub??? | Feb 24 2009 20:55 (UTC) |
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Could be an urban myth.. but I've heard that margarine is only one molecule away from plastic. Even the possibility that was true, put me off the stuff for life! I say, go with butter and just don't ladle it on (for toast and the like). In cooking, subsitutes work very well (such as apple sauce) and for those recipies that must have fat of some kind I use olive oil. I think always, keep it as natural as possible. |
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| Young Calorie Counters | Should I get a dude on line? | Feb 24 2009 16:10 (UTC) |
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Original Post by josna: Me too! I was very shy in school and rarely spoke to boys... I did not have any boyfriends until I was 18 (then I married my first one, big mistake BTW). While at school I thought that I was un-fanciable (although I look back at photos of myself then and I looked nice and was slim). Still I would not exchange that for the confidence I have now, confidence adds something extra, don't you think? Anyhow I went to a reunion a while back and since it was a small school there were several years there (not only my graduating class) and then I was told by several of the (really nice looking in school) older guys that they fancied me in school but I was so shy it put them off... if only I had known. |
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| The Lounge | National Pancake Day! | Feb 24 2009 15:43 (UTC) |
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YEAH pancake day is here! I LOVE pancakes. When I was growing up the only day we had them was on this holiday (I was pancake deprived!) But we always had them european style, with lemon and sugar (horribly bad for your teeth but sooo good) No time this am for anything other than my usual scrambled eggs, but I shall be heading for IHOP for my dinner tonight! |
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| Foods | Fish and chips | Feb 20 2009 23:18 (UTC) |
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Wow good challenge. But if you are going "English" take away then "e" simply must be indian curry. Now more popular as take-out in England than fish and chips! Chicken korma, Tikka, Biriani, or Vindaloo depending on how hot he likes it. Spot of olive oil to cook (instead of Ghee) Use fat free creme fresh or plain yogurt to make your sauces creamy. Challenge yourself to making healthy naan bread to go with it (garlic pitta bread anyone?) or pappadoms (grilled tortilla?) with onion relish... mmmm yummy. Ahhh indian curry.. the joys.. the pain! EDA: use cumin powder for that smokey indian taste and chili's for heat. |
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| Foods | a question for the oatmeal gurus... | Feb 18 2009 21:21 (UTC) |
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1/4 cup regular oatmeal, 1 sweet and low packet. pour on plenty of boiling water, pop in microwave for 45 seconds. Perfectly fine, does not boil over. If you add fruit such as raisins, they plump up real nice. Alternate option (works just as well) soak whole deal overnight in water/ milk. put in micro for 1 minute. |
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| The Lounge | Online Dating??? A curse? | Feb 18 2009 20:47 (UTC) |
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Eh... you can have just as much luck or not online as in the real world I recon. Dating real world I met some idots/ slobs and players but my friend talked me into chatting online once ... the guy I met then, is my hubby now. He and I "dated" online for 6 months before we met (him in States me in UK) and six months later I was living in USA and we were married. We have been married five years now. Chemistry is called that for a reason it's a physical as well as a mental thing. You can laugh at the same things but if you don't wanna get into his pants when you meet then forget it (not saying you have to, just that you should probably want to). Told my friend, I'll know when I kiss him. And I was right. He obviously felt the same way, asked me to marry him two days after we met and had the ring with him!
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| The Lounge | Doing the Hokey Pokey by yourself | Feb 18 2009 20:19 (UTC) |
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Where I come from it's called the hokey COKEY (as another poster said, this name also has less odd connotations) And to confirm general opinion.... "IN" is directly in front of you (into the circle) and "OUT" is directly behind you (away from the circle). I would like to ask how do you form a circle by yourself? I might pay to see mentioned video of you performing this solitary ritual. And finally I would also like to mention that if the hokey cokey IS what it's all about... that is very, very scary! |
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| The Lounge | Update - for anyone who might be interested... | Feb 16 2009 21:04 (UTC) |
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Udokier, First of all, REALLY brave of you to give an update here, considering the 3 pages of (mostly) slating you got for it! Ouch! For the record, I don't think there is anything wrong with going out for lunch. Looking for emotional support from someone that may understand how you feel is perfectly reasonable (especially since you made it clear on here that it was talking and NOT a hook-up.. some people just don't read posts properly). I'm guessing you don't have any family or other close friends you can confide in right now. Jewls is right, if your post was from a girl wanting to talk to her girl friend about an emotional problem, no one would have a problem with it. I also do not see the harm in being somewhat financially prepared for a break, since you cannot be sure how your wife will react when you tell her. I AM glad that you plan to tell her soon though. And as your immigrant status is dependant on her and her situation would be made so much harder if you are not in the country to support her, you are mutually dependant at least for now. Be aware that your new social schedule may alert her to the fact that something has changed. She may be more prepared than you think to hear what you have to say. You know my history, I hope you learn from it, and the mistakes my husband made. Be wise, make mature choices and when the time comes, don't lie about your reasons for wanting a split, it may be painful for her to hear but getting it all out in one go is more kind than telling her piecemeal. Well, that's what I think. I'm a "rip the band-aid off quickly" type of girl... not un-stick it slowly. Good luck. Hope you will keep me posted. Email me? take care, T |
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| The Lounge | Virginity | Jan 30 2009 18:35 (UTC) |
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What ever way you look at it she is lying to herself. IMO If preserving her virginity is so valuable to her, then she should be sticking to first and second base. No one has mentioned the health risks she could be taking by behaving this way. I hope she is playing "safe". STD's can be caught just as easily (maybe even easier as condoms are more likely to tear). |
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| The Lounge | Terrified of VALENTINES..........eeek :0))) | Jan 30 2009 18:18 (UTC) |
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OMG... R E L A X! Seriously ONE meal will not ruin your whole plan. Enjoy your date and eat what you want to. Make it your "cheat meal" for the week, so you can eat without guilt. No one says you have to stuff yourself until you are bursting, but enjoy it. Share a dessert with your guy if that is your failing..then you wont be tempted to eat the whole thing and it is so much more romantic anyhow. So rare to find a guy that thinks ahead like this for "special" occasions. Most do something rushed the day before, IF we are lucky. Your guy is making an effort. Don't spoil it whith panicky whining about "should be eating salad". You can get back on track the next day, with lovely memories to enjoy. ETA: Remember it takes 1000 EXTRA calories over maintenance to gain only ONE pound. You will be FINE for just one meal. |
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| The Lounge | I got dissed by a three year old... | Jan 26 2009 21:36 (UTC) |
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How about this then.. My eldest son had just turned 3 and we were meeting my brother-in-law. We hadn't seen him in ages and we all noticed that he had gained quite a large belly in that time (tho no one dared to say anything). Anyhow, my son eyes his uncle up and down, and pipes up with, "hello Ajun, you've got a fat tee shirt!" Now immortalized in family history forever. |
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| The Lounge | The VENT | Jan 23 2009 20:23 (UTC) |
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Sorry, but I have a list.... I haven't been home in 2 years.. too far and too expensive (England) My entire family lives in England. I miss my family. My daughter-in-law just found out she has cancer. She's in England too and I can't even give her a hug. My DH hates his job and told me he is only sticking it out coz we are married. Now I feel bad for him AND guilty. We work at the same place. Everyone at work is blaming ME for his bad mood and he won't let me say why. We have no savings left. I am scared something will go wrong and we will go under. My M-I-L is nagging us to refinance our house so we will be at a lower rate. Great idea except we can't afford the closing costs and my DH wont tell her. I worked really hard last year and lost 30 lbs. Stress and overeating, I gained most of it back. Only myself to blame. Also, bitten all my nails down. Jeeze I'm a mess. Edited to add more ranting: Mum, quit being mean to Dad. He did not slip on ice and break his arm just to piss you off. Yes, this means you can't go anywhere for six weeks coz he can't drive and you don't either. Get over it. Sister, You are not the only person in the world to have more than one child. You'll be too busy until they are 18. All parents are sleep deprived. We warned you. It's not all about you anymore. Stop being a drama queen and buck up. M has CANCER for god's sake! Brother 1. for goodness sake make your daughters call or write thank you notes. Mum keeps whining to me about it. Teach your girls good manners. And stop being so bloody selfish. Maybe your wife and kids would like to go out on a Sunday afternoon with you, instead of being home while you are out flying your model planes (are you FIVE?). B-I-L if you mention my accent or the "funny" words I use one more time, I swear... you are gonna get an earful. Just coz you haven't heard a word before does not mean it is not a word. Read a book sometime, dumb@$$.
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| The Lounge | I slept with my best friend's girlfriend, need advice, please help! | Jan 22 2009 19:39 (UTC) |
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These special flip flops helped me to lose weight. I am lifting 5 and 10lb weights every day, worried...will I get giant muscles? I lost weight with diet, now I just started exercising but am gaining weight, WTF? how can I lose all this big nasty muscle on my legs/ arms/belly...it's not fat, honest!
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| The Lounge | The Absolute Worst Song in Existence | Jan 22 2009 18:59 (UTC) |
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Original Post by coffincritter: OMG this song and all it's dreadful lyrics, jumped into my head as soon as I read this thread. It irritates me beyond belief! I'm not normally a channel changer but when this song comes on I have to! |
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| The Lounge | Lovesick and no appetite. (Gay and in an unhappy marriage) | Jan 22 2009 18:38 (UTC) |
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Udokier, I can see that you are struggling with this and trying to do right by both you and your wife. Unfortunately, the culture you live in, where a divorced person is stigmatized, makes things even more complicated for you both. However, I lived through a similar experience from the other side (I was the wife) and we had three young sons. My husband struggled privately with these feelings for many years, before he finally confessed to me his real feelings, but the length of time between his own realisation and his confession, allowed resentment and hate to develop between us. He was acting abnormally, rejecting any closeness, our sex life dwindled to zero (not for lack of trying by me). He was angry for no reason and there were many resentful silences, but I could not figure out why. Yet he was also paranoid and obsessive about my actions and motives with everything. The whole situation did not make sense, since I had not given him reason to doubt me. I tried to talk to him about it many times but was only stone-walled. The dots were all there but I could not connect them. Of course, all became clear after his confession. I could see then, why he might resent and then hate me as time progressed and he saw me as the reason he could not do what he really wanted. I might have been more able to be understanding if I had known sooner. If I had known sooner we would have separated then. Giving us both the chance to begin again and actually be happy, instead of miserable. I am not being flippant when I say I considered suicide because of his behaviour before confessing. When he finally told me, I felt cheated. All that time he had lied to me and made us both so unhappy. So pointlessly. Maybe I will never get over that, because I still hate him for it (though I have tried not to) and mostly, I struggle to maintain indifference to him. Please tell your wife sooner, rather than later. Even if she has suspicions of your feelings, (which is likely) trust me, your non communication will freak her out more. Give her the time to learn to deal with this. However you end or continue your relationship with her, telling the truth about your feelings now, will help you both to build a new style of relationship for the future in which your connection to your children will remain strong without resentment from her. I wish you the courage to be true to yourself and to your wife.
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| The Lounge | Your Top Beauty Secrets Revealed..Do you dare? | Jan 07 2009 21:13 (UTC) |
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Best beauty tip ever... stay out of the sun and don't smoke! Your skin will look younger for longer without those damaging rays and chemicals. Nivea Soft. on face, neck and hands at night, rich, but soaks in fast and leaves skin so soft. After shower in AM, Vaseline intensive care lotion mixed with spf 55 on ALL exposed skin. (I live in Las Vegas... sun protection and moisture are essential). Eyelash curlers before mascara, every day! (incidentally putting vaseline on eyelashes might make them soft or whatever but is not a good idea if you wear contact lenses). When I am dying my hair at home, I wrap my dye covered head in cling wrap while waiting for it to "take". I found it helps to stop drips, inadvertent rub off on clothes and makes the dye work faster (due to head heat?). For dark dyes, smear a little of the conditioner from the box around your hairline. No tide marks! When my kids were small, I used undiluted teatree oil for getting rid of head lice (was an epidemic of them at their school). Pour it on, smother it all over the roots (where the lice are) leave overnight and wash off in the morning. It's cheep, effective and much more safe than the chemicals they sell at the pharmacy/ doctor's office. |
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| The Lounge | Am I the only one going to hell . . . | Dec 09 2008 18:02 (UTC) |
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Original Post by andie-joe: Now this is a good idea! My response to this type of email depends on how much time I have and how many emails I have in my inbox. I'm not supersticious at all, you can usually tell what the email will be from the subject, so if I am busy or swamped, I just delete them without reading them. And I don't feel guilty for doing it either, it's just junk and supposed to be fun (I simply ignore the threats and insistance on forwarding, and guess what...so far nothing bad has happened as a result, which proves the dire predictions are false.) If I have time, sometimes I read them for fun and then delete. Then if I really like it then I will alter the text, deleting the "forward to 9 people now, or else" stuff, (sometimes I ADD my own thoughts at the end, such as "if you read to the end of this you will know I care about you, I hope you have a wonderful day!") then forward to only a couple of people I think might like the pictures or sentiment. I am not forwarding threats to my friends and family. I hadn't thought of the virus aspect though, so that is something I should watch out for. |
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| The Lounge | Secret Service Code Names | Nov 11 2008 20:07 (UTC) |
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oooh.. the game gave me 'Sundance'..I like that one~! |
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