Posts by trina_bambina

I would go with friend, just because the chances of it actually being emoitional are higher. Although, the chances of giving me VD are higher with a prostitute since we don't live in Nevada. LoL. Wow, it's a toss up...

What the heck... I say friend. Cuz then I would be minus a husband AND a friend.

A carb (or sugar) with NO CALORIES.

Or a real Tardis.

I have been a little scarce because I am preparing for my SIL, her kids (my nieces and nephew) and her boyfriend to come visit! Lots to do! I am a little worried about the visit just because it's hard to keep track and resist temptation when your life is crazy, and adding 5 MORE people to my two person household qualifies as crazy! I am committed to sticking with this, though!

I am still finding eating enough in a day (and spreading my meals out properly) difficult. I did remember to eat breakfast this morning (YAY ME!) but here it is 2:30pm and I haven't eaten lunch. I am really really just NOT HUNGRY. It's very hard to make myself eat when I don't want to! I don't want to start hating food and dreading eating, kwim? I also don't want to get that "oh crap I didn't eat enough today" feeling at the end of the day and get the urge to sneak extra food in the evening/at night in the hopes of avoiding starvation mode either.

To all of you who have found a balance with your eating schedule already, wicked props to you! I NEVER thought that THIS would be the hardest part of all of this. 

Original Post by m_c_85:

Hey Trina,

I love breakfast, so I can only sympathize. However, I have a friend who wouldn't eat in the morning as well. She had a tough go of it too because it really hindered her weight loss process. The problem was that she wouldn't eat all morning, which is the time of day that you're likely to burn a heck of a lot of calories, but she would chow down an hour or two before bed. (I don't know if you do this or not but she did)She would wake up feeling bloated and/or sick and/or just not hungry. What she did to alleviate the symptoms was A) She made sure that there was ALWAYS at LEAST 4 hours in between her last intake and bedtime, and B) She threw in a vitamin packed breakfast bar or meal replacement shake in front of her purse or on the hall table etc. Basically any place she was unlikely to miss it. It doesn't feel like you're eating very much, but you're still getting good nutrients. Anyway, after a couple of weeks of this, she found herself waking up a little hungry, started buying cereal, making toast in the morning, picking at fruit and now she's fully reformed!

Your friend actually sounds a lot like me! I am going to take your advice! I am going grocery shopping today, so my mission is now to find nutrient rich things for breakfast. Thanks for responding!

Thanks Beena!

I would have to say around 5000 as well. Between drinking regular soda and eating Mexican food they can really add up! Now that I am aware of how unhealthy some of the things I used to eat (and think were healthy) actually are, I can imagine I really racked up the calories when I wasn't eating healthy! I found out today that the chimi that I used to order at my favorite restaurant is 1700 calories all by itself!

Original Post by scarter1:

Trina - Good Luck with the MIL. I have a friend that is sort of like that to me. I like to go out with her for social time and then I find I eat crappy just because she is eating crappy. I have been trying to help educate her on health and wellness but she doesn't want to listen. So what I have started to do is make sure I order something overly healthy when we go out to eat to show her that I can do it and so can she. I am starting to think that she doesn't like me to succeed because when we do go out together and Iorder something really healthy (salad with grilled chicken and no dressing or a tiny amount of oil and vinegar) she tries to talk me into eating dessert with her. And the other day we went for a walk and while we were walking she offered me some left over easter candy, while we were walking! I took the candy, didn't say anything and when we got back to her house I put it back in the candy bowl when she wasn't looking. It is very challenging to go out to eat with people who don't care about eating healthy, but I have realized that you can get a salad with grilled chicken at pretty much every restaurant, so that is what I fall back on if I can't look up the menu and nutritional info before I go.

That is exactly what I did! I ordered their grilled chicken salad, which is only 300 calories, and then I put a serving of salsa (Mexican restaurant) which was 25 calories and a serving of their cilantro lime vinaigrette (which is 74 calories). I only ended up eating half of it, so I didn't do too bad! My MIL was actually really impressed with my effort, and the restaurant we went to is a family favorite so it is nice to know that I have a healthy meal I can order there when we go next time!

It is hard to go out to eat with people who aren't concerned with eating healthy. My MIL ordered a greasy meal AND a cheese crisp which is RIDICULOUSLY packed with fat and calories. When she ordered it I thought I was going to have a hard time turning it down, but once it got to the table it gave me even more willpower to eat a healthy meal instead. It was soooooo greasy and I knew how bad it was, so it just did NOT seem worth it at all.

I am proud of myself.

Thanks for the warm welcome!

punkrockriot ~ ABSOLUTELY! For a little while there I would go into stores like Torrid and Lane Bryant and even the big sizes didn't really fit. At this point I have lost enough weight I that don't even KNOW what size I am in those stores! What I do know  is that for that first time I have felt like I could actually look cute in girly stuff and not just like a big blob. Got a little ways to go before I will show off any cleavage or wear a shirt that isn't a long as my hips, but I am getting there slowly.

scarter1 ~ That's exactly how I feel about it. I may not be able to prevent it all, but I am going to try. Your family sounds like my family in a lot of ways! When my mom died it was devastating for me and threw me right into denial because the things that she had done that broke her body down... Yeah, I had done them too. She was a recovering addict, had been clean for four years, and her dying AFTER she quit was just unbearable for me. My uncle that just had two heart surgeries had a quadruple bypass. I wasn't too freaked out by the initial surgery because he did really well, although knowing that they actually cracked his chest open was shocking. It was when they had to go in to repair the sternum and muscle flap and couldn't finish the surgery because he was bleeding too bad. He spent three days in the ICU in a medical coma and hooked up to a ventilator and his doctors weren't sure he was going to make it. He finally had the sternum successfully repaired on Tuesday and is doing well now, finally out of the ICU, and probably headed home this weekend but... I am sufficiently scared.

Today for me is going to be... interesting! My MIL is coming over to bring me some mail and visit with me and she is a BIG road block to my success. The woman LOVES to eat out. I am hoping that she will give me a heads up on where we end up going today so that I can hop online and check out their options before we go, but she usually has no idea until we are on the road. So, this will be a real test of my willpower! Wish me luck!

I am a married woman that has found that being married is a struggle all its own when it comes to my weight loss, too! I gained the bulk of my weight before I ever even met my husband, so I can't really blame it on him , but keeping it on and even adding to it... That he had a part in. We have been married six years and although he has made it VERY easy for me to stay overweight, he is also completely supportive and doing his best to keep me on track now!

With him, these are my struggles...

1. The man is a stick figure. He can eat whatever he wants as much as he wants and still lose weight. That brought on a lot of guilt because I felt like if I made him give up his favorite foods because of my weight issue he would be missing out and it wasn't his fault. Great way to justify bad behavior huh?

2. He doesn't get it. He tries, he really really does, but he has never been even an ounce overweight so he just can't connect it all in his head. It's just not a big deal to him in the same way it is a big deal to me. It isn't a daily struggle for him like it is for me. On one hand I am happy for that because I don't want him to experience it himself, but on the other hand it gets a little frustrating.

3. He doesn't think I need to lose weight. He loves me just the way I am. In fact, there are certain body parts he would probably be sad to see shrink. LOL. He wants me to be healthy and happy, but he married me plump and never had a plan to thin me out even enter his mind. That makes him a less than enthusiastic support system at times.

4. He is LAZY. We have a deal... One night a week is HIS night to make dinner. He is already struggling with his own laziness issues, and then add cooking a meal on top of that? Forget about it. He would rather take the easy way out. Unfortunately, we are both stubborn. I don't want to give in and let him get away with ducking out of his ONE stinkin' night of cooking, and he doesn't want to actually cook. LOL.

Overall though, he is a wonderful man who just wants me to be happy. Someone earlier up in the thread said that their one piece of advice is to be honest with your husband... I can second that completely! Ever since I stopped worrying so much about him feeling deprived and spoke up and told him that he is hurting my chances to lose the weight (and added in a BTW honey, just because you are thin doesn't mean you couldn't stand to eat better yourself) he has been completely on board and the going has been MUCH easier. I have a 50 lb weight loss under my belt since then!

1. Calorie Count Name (user id): Trina_Bambina
2. Name you prefer to be called in discussions: Trina or Bambina are fine.
3. Age & Sex: 29 year old female
4. General Location: Phoenix Metro area
5. Married? Single? Married for 6 years
6. Kids? Furbabies? Four female feline furry monsters... Tessa (5), Koko (3), Lola (2), and Seven (2).
7. Favorite color? RED!
8. Favorite movie? Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy
9. Hobbies? Photography, WoW, the internet... I am a dork.
10. Favorite Snack? Grapefruit!
11. Favorite Beverage? Coffee
12. Biggest Obstacle to Getting Healthy? Motivation! I am lazy!
13. Weight/Fitness Goal? Save my own life... and wear cute clothes.
14. Least Favorite Household Chore? The shower!
15. How did you find Calorie Count? Through a friend.
16. Anything Else You'd Like To Share? I am a big geek!