Posts by lanaberry

Sunday Night Dinner is usually also my cheat meal for the week...this week I made Meatloaf, Mashed Potatoes, and Greens :D All other days I have large breakfasts and lunches so my dinners are like snacks. Everyone is sounding nice and healthy!

lunges, squats, and the stepper or stair machine!

Thank you, ladies! Both very good advice and reflections. I do believe that while my man is a Southern gentlemen, that he also loves me at any size. In fact, he's a little unphased by my weight loss to this point, which is kinda nice because it creates less pressure to obtain my goal and stick to it...there is enough of that within me, and I think having a man who is overly pro-weightloss leads to self-sabatoge for me (which occurred with my ex).

Thanks!

Momof2funykids, I really think it boils down to some females thrive on the attention from random guys and others despise it...and others are indifferent; they don't like it, but they don't let it bother them.

I think I'm going to try to be more like that last mindset. I think you have a quality that many others wish they had, which is that you feel good enough about yourself within--you don't need random men hitting on you, or to fish for compliments from your husband and friends, to feel good about yourself and your "new" you.

I'd hold on to that, and slowly try to accept that even still, there is a world out there packed with people that are completely obsessed with looks and surface appearance.

And as an aside, I have a friend who I've known for a few years now--we met at my old job at a music mag. She moved out here from Ohio to Los Angeles and has lost a significant amount of weight. She went from average, and even a bit chunkier in college, to stick, model, Hollywood thin. And she absolutely LOVE...I mean LOVES the attention she gets from guys. She waves and smiles back, flirts, makes sexual innuendo comments and jokes, totally eats it up. It's fun (ok sometimes a little annoying) when we are going out. But I also see that she really craves that validation and attention from men to let he know she's "doin something right". It's a different kind of "confidence" than the way we (all of us on this thread!) react to the attention. Different strokes for different folks :)

just wanted to reply again cuz wow--halizabeth you really hit it on the head!

also r4eboxer, i agree about the females cuz none of my girl friend have commented on my weightloss at all, even though i've lost 30lbs that are obvious...grammas at the gym and my family does...but not my peers.  i don't really want them to talk about it a lot cuz it's ackward...but i think it's definitely a nod to female insecurity...will be interesting to see how this goes, esp livin in L.A.

and themonbon--yeah i'm right there with you...even when i was heavier i still DESPISED getting hit on by randoms and pretty much act like a total b!tch when that happens...so i guess it shouldn't shock me that i'm annoyed now and might after more weightloss too...

jennylaw, really good point about not liking the attention because we don't like the "suface judgements" from others. that's a big one too...i'm such a inner-beauty lover that shallowness makes me ill. i bet a part of it definitely is my disguist for that in general and everytime i hear a comment or an obvious gawking, i'm reminded of it.

gi-jane, good point about dressing. i definitely have a curvy hourglass figure but that doesn't mean that i need to dress provacatively. well--the same tanktop on me and someone with a smaller chest obviously portrays two different looks, a constant challenge. but still--i think we should take that into account. don't hide our figures with baggy clothes but keep ourselves looking respectful so we don't send the wrong message. or, if we do wanna dress a bit on the wild side every now and then, be prepared for the attention!

and about that butt Mrs Dagle and Mom, stairmaster, stairclimbing, stepper machine, squats!!! that should round it out nicely! i would be devastated if i lose this butt...but i know the affect that those exercises have. it's a major mission of mine to have a very toned, shapely bod, not just lose the weight.

for a few of you who have mentioned this, as far as the men in our lives who may or may not stick by our sides while we do this--my bf rarely comments on my weightloss...altho i can tell he notices because of the way he touches me and where, and he loves picking me up too. i like that he doesn't obsess over it because it makes me know that IF i were to regain, he'd still love me for me. i think that's hugely important to our motivation, to feel that safety with that person. my ex was more into my weightloss than me and needless to say it hurt.

lastly, Mom--it sounds like the word "hot" really got to you and also being called that by your hubby's friends. i'd be pissed too! but that's more an issue with your hubby's friends and respect, try not to let it reflect back on you, have you talked to your hub about it? i love the fact that you're hot and look amazing...i think eventually your mind will accept the fact. heck--i will LOVE to be  "hot" mom! have you felt or been called hot before at a time in your life? or is this all very new to you? do you you feel you shouldn't be looked at in a sexual way because your a mother or because of your age? maybe ask your husband to use other words that you really like...such as beautiful or amazing or great?

hey there! just wanted to check in :) i was the original poster and wanted to report my progress!

i have been without the drink for about 5 and a half weeks now and am loving it for a zillion reasons.

but mostly, i've lost 10lbs!!! so when i posted this post on June 2nd, i was at 190 and i'm currently at 180...yay!

it feels good to know i'm not the only one with drink-weight...and most of the people who share the problem seem to be ladies! very inspiring to hear your stories. and yes--i was recently more of a 4-10 drinks a night (7pm - 7am sometimes!?!) drinker. i usually would do that 1-2 nights a week.

of course in college it was more like every night (not till 7am), or at least 3-4 nights a week. UGH I would say I gained about 40 pounds or so after highschool which was due to suddenly the only activity being riding bike to class or walking to parties + drinking all the time + 420 + munchies caused by both and hangover remedies that include greasy foods.

it's been 5 years since i graduated college...so about 9yrs of that party-lifestyle. i'm excited to see what happens. and i do feel SO good already! I love knowing I will NEVER be hungover, saving all kinds of money...and that I'm not counteracting all my weight loss effort!

it's really cool to see those of you who now incorporate drinks into your daily calories! my problem is i have to be all or nothing at this point, there is just too many "open bar" events (i work in music industry, tons of networking!) with free booze, i have too many party friends, and i don't have the desire to have "just one". so i'm over it right now.

i do plan on eventually entering red wine into my maintenance plan because it's my favorite, but probably only at dinner parties, dinner out to eat, or special occasions. for now--i just don't have enough control to do that...but i feel great being in control by NOT drinking!

I will definitely update everyone if I see major changes...my heaviest was 215, I'm at 190 now, having lost 20lbs since Winter 07...and my first goal is 160...then hoping to be about 130 or so life (I'm 5' tall, but am so curvy I don't want to compromise the T&A too much...I have no desire to be "skinny" just fit, tight, and curvy) .

that could make sense, where would interval cardio fit into that?

kaffwynn...yeah???? that's inspiring! my plan is to stop till i get down to my ideal weight and then will give in to my love for red wine on "special occasions" and/or factor it into my maintenance plan...kinda like you susieq76!

wow--i could see losing at least 30lbs given the results i saw that one time

lucky for you mortalmonkey!!! sometimes i feel like i'm living the Lohan/Spears/Hilton lifestyle and i just woke up one day and realized that, and realized that there IS another way to live life, so i'm going to discover that :)

any one else notice results when they stopped drinkin?

- def get a hobbie or some kind of focus for yourself in the evenings/night

- try to work the foods you like to overeat into your daily calorie plan by planning in advance using the calorie counter thing

- i think a lot of losing weight has to do with needing a certain mindset. for me--i tried to do this so many times, but it's like i was setting myself up for failure. i didn't have the strength, will-power, or proper support team to really be *good* at what i was trying to do. then finally one day it snapped and all the sudden my focus is on point. let's just say this...i gained a ton in college, have been trying to lose since ~2002...it's 2008 and i'm finally "ready" (despite trying for years..). anyway, be easy on yourself...and help yourself get into the proper mindset of why you want to lose weight and your actions will follow. i think if it's just for looks, it might not be the best motivator.

i think it's good to switch up machines if you need variety, have access to them, etc. but if you stick with one (or even if you switch with you rotation of 3), then it's necessarily to increase speed, incline, resistance, length of time, etc..something to keep challenging your body as it adjusts to your workout :)

SAME PROBLEM!!!

Mine was so bad that I think between "cheat day(s)" and partying (booze)...i gained back all my efforts throughout the week! I changed it for 1 weekend and lost 5lbs! Amazing!

But it's still a major challenge. In thinking of how to stay on track--I think I'm going to do what I do for the week, but for the weekend.

I'm going to go shopping Fri morning and buy healthy breakfast, snacks, lunch, and dinner depending on plans. That way--since many days I'm home working on projects all day, I will be prepared! Preparation really is key...

i LOVE the creative shapes!! hahah :)

i'm definitely "hourglass"...can't wait to get back to the super shapely/curvey hourglass shape, cuz they are dangerous!

i saw the "hourglass" melding into an "apple"...def time for a change!

dang--you are all SUPER inspiring and congrats!

i can't believe most of you lost ~40lbs in 4months...i mean--wow! thing is, i've been trying to lose weight forever (anti diets or diet pills or diet anything), but this is the first time (this month) that i've started counting cals.

my now even more gorgeous friend lost 15lbs counting cals and i'm inspired to do the same. so we will see--maybe soon i will be back talking about losing 40lbs this summer!

:)

haha, that's funny cellphane!

i did go to coachella the year before last and you're right--it's so hot and sweaty that i didn't think much about food. and you're also right, there are healthy options at the food vendors! i think i forgot cuz last time i was all about "festival food".

but yeah, since we have a booth onsite with a cooler--i think i'll just bring some of my own stuff and put it in there...(i also wanna save money! hehe).

thanks EVERYONE...great tips. and you're right, i will be running around that huuuuuge field for 3days!

k--i think i'm ready, i will be thinking of all this tips/motivation while i'm there =)