Posts by marceleric

I think everyone is different so don't try to compare yourself to all the fertile Myrtles that have responded...:)

I personally have never had normal periods--even in high school I would skip several months at a time, so I was started on BCPs very early--like 16, I think.  When I went off the pill, it was when I was in school and we were poor.  (I was doing the Master's program and I never saw my husband so it was kind of a waste of money!  Ha ha!)

When we finally decided to stop trying to prevent--my periods were still not normal and my OB checked me to see if I was even ovulating--which I was not and so she ended up putting me on clomid to help my body do what it was supposed to do.  We had already been "trying" for I think around 6 months.

I have two beautiful children now, but making babies isn't always so cut and dry.  Let your OB know you've decided to start trying.  And if it doesn't happen as quickly for you as it did for some of these ladies, don't stress about it!  (Stress is the worst thing IMHO for baby making.) 

Most of all ENJOY the process!  I think it was the most enjoyable that it had ever been during that time because my body didn't have any foreign hormones in it (BCP) and we didn't have to worry about getting preggers!  Good luck to you!

And the crowd goes wild.... "applause"

You hit the nail right on the head.  I've been so frustrated the past couple of days because of one poster in particular who posted in a forum that they have been working out to the point of passing out, eating like a bird and not losing weight....Hmmmmm.

And they don't want to count because they think it's an obsessive trait.  I have just wanted to scream "THEN GET OFF THE CALORIE COUNTING SITE AND SIT YOUR BUTT ON THE COUCH!!!!"

So I'm so glad you are ranting--because you are NOT alone.

You need to do some serious reading on CC.  You obviously haven't been paying attention to the valuable tools and insight that are on here otherwise you wouldn't be starving yourself and working yourself to the point of passing out.  I understand sometimes slow progress is frustrating.  But it sounds to me like you are causing the slow progress. 

If you lose a pound a week--even if it is in 6 weeks, you will be six pounds lighter than you were before and healthier to boot.  You say you don't want to feel great, you just want to be skinny.  That's what sounds like rubbish to me.  There are super skinny cancer patients out there who want nothing more than to feel great out there. 

Count, count, count.  Make sure you are taking in the correct amount of calories for your burn.  Then come back in 3 months if you still aren't losing weight to ask for advice.  If you aren't willing to put in the work, you aren't going to lose weight.  There is no magic pill.  There is however a magic formula.

Calories in < calories out = weight loss.

A "normal" weight for an 18 year old girl is whatever looks and feels good on you.  Bone structure, height, etc can all factor into what your natural weight should be.  Don't worry about what other girls your age weigh--just focus on you and try to be the healthiest you possible.  You look gorgeous--so if you're not happy with your body, I would suggest weight training.  It's the best way to feel comfortable in your own skin. 

Coming from a girl who was always devastated in high school because I weighed about 150 and I felt so fat compared to all my girlfriends who weighed anywhere from 105 to 120---and then as an adult, realized that 150 is what looks best on me because of my bone structure.  I look at pictures, and I was skinny--I just wasn't toned. 

Hope that helps!

Well, first I want to say...I can't WAIT to have that problem...LOL!  But seriously, I did have a friend who I had started talking about CC with, and at one point she told me I was obsessed.  It hurt my feelings at first, but then I started thinking...I'm not obsessed.  I'm ACCOUNTABLE.  For every bite that goes in my mouth.  And honestly, I remember being in her shoes where the metabolism is starting to slow and you can't figure out why you are gaining weight eating less, etc, etc, etc.  And pumpkin was dead on---it makes us feel better about ourselves if we talk about the skinny girls as if they are anorexic. 

YOU know you are healthy and that you eat.  YOU know how good you feel exercising and eating right.  Just weather the storm, eat as you normally do, and eventually those people will realize that you are fine.  And if she prods you again, just gently reassure her that you eat several times a day and that you are fine.  If she won't let it go, then you may have to take other measures.  Congratulations on your weight loss--hopefully I can be called too skinny soon too!

Welcome back!  It sounds like you have had a rough time, but you have overcome so much already.  You can do this.  I am so proud of you for taking control!  Anytime you need support, we are all here!

Starting Weight: 213

Goal Weight: 150

Last Weigh in: 195.8

Current Weight: 194.2

This week: 1.6 lb

Total Lost: 18.8

Weight Remaining Until Goal: 44.2

Medium frame, 5' 5"

I went to NC a couple of weekends ago and have been trying to fix what I broke ever since....I finally got the weight to come back down--it just took some perserverance.  So, I'm back on my game.  Whoo hoo!

Oh, and wants2bhot...that is AWESOME.  9 lbs down feels soooo much better than 9 lbs up, huh?  Way to go!

And where are my future_tadddei and kim79??? Just checkin' on you guys!  Hope things are going well!

Oh my gosh, I think diapers were my absolute favorite!!! My little girl is now almost 5 months old and we STILL haven't had to buy a pack of diapers!  It's awesome and I will be so sad when that last pack is gone (we are on the last one right now).

But I wish you had been my friend here--I would have LOVED anyone who made dinners and brought them over after my c-section!  (Not that I was cooking---it just would have been nice to actually have some home cooked meals)  That is a phenomenal gift in itself!

Ok, breathe....it's ok.  You had a binge.  Move on.  You are not a circus freak.  You are a beautiful girl.  Please don't tell yourself otherwise.  Anything that you wouldn't say to your best friend, you should not say to yourself.  Try to say something nice about yourself (in your head) every time you look in the mirror.  When you hear that evil terrible voice saying you are ugly and that you suck, etc, etc, etc, you tell that voice it has no power in your life. 

That negativity is self perpetuating and I promise that you will one day wake up at 34 and realize how much time you wasted when you were so young and beautiful beating yourself up for absolutely no reason. 

As far as your mom is concerned, I'm sorry she isn't considerate to your needs.  We parents are human too.  And while it would be nice if she made sure your dinner was prepared at a certain time--you live in her world and not the other way around.  See if you guys can come to a compromise as far as eating habits are concerned and if she won't budge, then you just need to figure out a way to snack and have meals that fit into her schedule until you move out.  I know that stinks, but unless you want to start taking charge and handling the meals in your house, I suppose that's just the reality of it.

Again, you are a beautiful girl and you should take the time to appreciate yourself and your body.  I know it's hard to do but just like anything else, with a little work and practice, it can be done.  My body is nowhere near perfect now---but after having my little girls, I have realized what an efficient machine it is and how when I work out I love the strength that I possess.  And looking at my little girls makes me look at my body in a whole new light.  I would NEVER think the things about them that I used to think about myself!  I hope you can find the strength to appreciate your body!  Good luck to you!

Don't overdo it---ease your way in, because if you try to keep up the first time, your gonna feel like crap unless you are in great shape already!  Oh and your butt is gonna hurt.  Mine felt bruised the first few days, but you get used to it and then it doesn't hurt anymore. 

Most of all, have fun--you may become addicted, I know I have!

It doesn't sound stupid at all.  Do you think it's fair to them to lose their mom if his violence gets out of control, though?  You obviously are working very hard toward this degree.  You can always go and talk to the dean of your school.  Often they have what they call hardship scholarships.  You might be able to still attend school.  He hasn't hurt them so far--but how long before he does?  He sounds like a ticking time bomb to me. 

I know food stamps and welfare doesn't sound better, but your well being is worth so much more.  You are worth much more than that.  I would say the closer you get to obtaining your degree, the more aggressive and violent he will get because he will know that you no longer have to depend on him.  I know you probably think I'm being dramatic, but I just don't want your graduation to take place on the same day as your funeral.  Please know that I will pray for you.  Anything is possible--regardless of the remote area you are in. 

kim79my---just keep plugging!  You will break through it! 

I have not entered my weight for this week....we went to North Carolina to a beer pong tournament and I drank beer and ate barbeque...and came back 3.2lbs heavier...mind you I realize that I did not eat and drink enough to gain 3.2 lbs.  But I have TTOTM....AGAIN and all the sodium and stuff is really kicking my butt.  I just couldn't even stand the thought of entering 198.8.  I'm back down to 196.6---but that's still up from the previous Monday.  BOOOOOOO!!!!

Anyway--great job future_tadddei!

And STAHLY: that's typically what my weekly weight loss is as well (when I'm not boozing it up the one time a year...)  You aren't doing anything wrong--it's just harder coming off than it is going on!  To add to what future_tadddei said, I liken it to walking up a really really steep hill.  If you look at the top of the hill and how far you have to go, you will get discouraged.  But if you just look down at the road and put one foot in front of the other, at some point you will turn around and realize how FAR you have come because those small numbers really do add up!  Good luck and don't lose faith!  You can do this.

That was the one thing I wouldn't give up during either of my pregnancies.  I think 300mg was what I read, too.  I was a little more careful with it during the first trimester. 

Both of my girls slept through the night early, too.  I think it's actually AFTER you give birth that you have to stop caffeine (if you are breastfeeding) because babies don't process it as quickly so it can build up in their system. 

Just use your head and you'll be fine--I think most things are ok in moderation.  Congratulations on the new baby, btw!

Don't let his being an ass define who you are or how you feel about yourself.  I'm not a teenage girl, but I have been there.  I promise, while it truly is devastating right now you will move through this.  And if you can come out on the other side triumphant and self esteem intact, you will have just gotten a little stronger.

Crappy relationships happen to everyone--it's what you do with them that matters.  The next guy, maybe you will know the signs and be able to get out if things don't seem right.  I had a ton of crappy relationships--they were just paving the way for me.  All of those **** I dealt with before make me sooooo appreciative of the wonderful man I am married to now.  We've been married 12 years and we still don't take each other for granted. 

Take time and mourn the passing of this relationship--(give yourself a time limit) and then when you are done, go and have sooo much fun you will say "John Doe, WHO?"  Your friends are what count at that age---enjoy them! 

Original Post by safiyah1:

Ok guys, today was my weigh in for my challenge, and I found myself laughing at myself again today.  (Does laughing count as exercise?)  I went to the bathroom, weighed myself, didn't like the number, jumped back in bed cause I knew I wasn't REALLY done peeing, I know my body too well.  Sure enough, 15 minutes later I have to go again, I pee AGAIN, go to the scales and weigh.  This time I liked the number so much better.  179.8  Cool.

Well before I could take a shower and get ready I had to go poo.  Yippee!!!  This is great!   I'm all excited BEFORE I even go, and it was what I call a "good, solid poop"  (lol, I can NOT believe myself sometimes)  and went rushing back to the scales.  I fully expected to see a lower number, just from the size of the poop.  Instead I was SHOCKED to see 180.6.  WHAT????  Oh no, I'm taking the lower number, I like that one better.

But then I found myself wondering if the straining to poop caused me to build .8 lbs of muscles in 15 minutes.  LOL, am I nuts or what?  I mean logically it doesn't make sense but all the same I told myself "no more straining." 

Goofball, that's me.  But I'm a 179.8 pound goofball, thank you so much!

Safiyah

 Ok, Safiyah...I think I peed myself laughing.  Iwonder if I weigh less now....hmmm.