Posts by cypris

I found the biggest problem with rewards that I have was sticking too them.  By the time I reached the goal, I no longer had interest in the massage, or, it was winter time and I didn't feel like spending the $$ on a pedicure only I would see.  My hair is down to my elbows because I hit a plateau, and I ended up having to buy more clothes anyways because my pants kept falling down.

I found the best motivates were skinny-people things that I wouldn't use or need until I was thin, and things that I always wanted to do but couldn't because of my weight.

*Skinny leather pants (Right now they would make my hips look rediculously big, but, 10 pounds from now, maybe not)

*A Belly shirt (I've always wanted one)

*Navel Piercing (when I can show it off)

*Gymnastics classes (I've always wanted to, but always been too fat and unfit)

*Sexy Photoshoot  (same as the gymnastics)

That way I can't cheat.

yea, being in art school I've modeled and drawn from the model.  It's a good way to make money, and you can even bring some props if they'll make you feel more comfortable.

I remember that there was a lot of gossip around the classrooms about the models, but not about their bodies.  It was always "I don't like her because she moves too much in the pose." or "He always takes the same pose over and over, I'm bored with it." nothing like "she is chubby and I don't like it."

HAHAHA

That happened to me too, only it was my Dad.  I tried the technique of not friending him, but then he called me and asked me why I wasn't friending him.

Total guilt trip . . .

Long and short of it, he is now my Facebook friend.

I bought the book a while back, (Technically the Abs Diet for Women), and have been on the diet ever since with a smattering of the New Rules of weight lifting for women.  I want a more than just subtly toned figure, not a skinny figure.

It is actually really really helpful.

I found that when I stuck to it, I lost two pounds a week steadily.  Unfortunately, it's hard to stick to to the letter every day, not because you're hungry, but because you hang out with friends and eat what they eat and such.  My friends, however, (most of whom are overweight) love my new 'eat every three hours' scheduale . . . for them it means an excuse to order a big mac every three hours.

::sigh:: . . . I wish they would eat more veggies.

Thanks guys, you're really a big help.  I am sure plenty of you are dealing with the same problem of suddenly bringing sexy back (some of us, like me, from the grave).

I think I figured out my problem, I think I am just hot enough to attract the sketchy ones who think they dont have a chance with the women that are perfect 10s in the waistline department. 

So . . . I'm not exactly dealin with the most girl savvy guys. 

I've had flowers left on my car, at 10:30 at night in an abandoned parking lot, (which scared me half to death, seriously guys, don't do that.)

I've had DVDs given to me. 

I've had to listen to countless rants about armageddon, wrestling, and comics. (actually, I don't mind the comics, I love comics, but seriously, comic girl boobs is not my idea of engaging)

I think my problem is that I have a lot of gamer guy or Otaku friends, (they dont mind hanging out with 'the fat chick', its great!) that I am close to and see making the same mistakes.  I see how it hurts their feelings, and I don't want to snap like most of the other girls do.

I really do want a boyfriend though.  I don't even want to admit how long i have been single, it's so pathetic.  I guess I just don't want to be objectified.

When I am thin . . .

I am going to sew a totally awesome bare-midriff cosplay costume and go to a con and everyone will want to take my picture.

(I feel that this is kind of dorky, but it's something I really really REALLY wanted to do as a early teenage nerd and never could, so I'll be damned if I don't make up for it now, even if I am a bit old for it and will feel like a total loser. 

It's the principle of the thing.)

Hahaha, I know what you mean Calorie Countess, I could feel a difference in Xena and Gabby, there wasnt enough surface tension, and too much jiggle.

I know I'll catch up, its just . . . dude, not cool, I mean, guys dont go on diets and lose inches on their man bits! Not fair, I am going to have to go down to an A cup if I lose any more off em!

But thanks guys, I guess I was just hoping to lose some belly fat first.

I always had this theory that whenever someone asks a man what size he prefers, he always says somehthing along, "A size twelve, I like a girl with a little meat on her bones." but as a man, he does not know what a size twelve looks like.

I mean, I could not guess a man's pant size by looking at him, and I expect its the same for them.

So they THINK someone is a size 12, or they picture someone curvey and assume they are a size 12, when actuality they are like a size 6 with T and A.

That's my theory anyways, because I hear the "size 12" answer so often.

I hear Mederma is good, I also heard that the Avon streach mark smoother works well, shea and coco butter are good, really anything with the Vitamins B and E, I know I got them on my stomach from the freshman 15, and it looked awful to me, a bunch of red lines around my bellybutton.

Using the Jergen's Tanning lotion on them in the summer helps to stop them from sticking out when you have a tan.

But they will never go away 100 percent, I know, I tend to stress and obsess over mine, and I have resorted to getting a little ink over them. 

Hahaha, this reminds me of the quote from Kathy Najimy

"If youre not blonde and thin, you develop a personality real quick."

Yea, for the most part it seems like guys like large chest-small waist-large hips, which, if youre a heavier girl with a large waist, it all looks 'thin' to you.  All men are different though, and some do have fetishes for obese women, some are attracted to big girls, some(most) like the "all american" fit girl with t&a, and some like the Xylophone ribed girl who has a 'fast metabolism'.

I'm sure if every man made a 1-10 list in chronological order of what physical characteristics they noticed first, they would all be quite different. I dont understand the bone thin attraction though.  I know I dated a boy for a while who had the boy version of the stick bug figure.  I never asked but I would guess he was never a pound over 115 or 120, and it was actually rather unpleasant that he was so thin. 

Nobody likes a rib bone suddenly jabbed into their breast while youre. . . cuddling, or a pelvis bone jutting into their inner thigh while you're . . . cuddling, or vertibres digging into your side when youre . . . cuddling.

But girls, what I have learned is that if you think youre hot and you act like you think your hot, men will beleive you.  Everyone will beleive you. Look up, take your eyes off the floor of shame and look around, I bet you are more appreciated than you think.

I'm really lazy too, I think it's the fact that I speant my hard earned money on a gym membership that really keeps me going.  But what I found helped break out of the cycle of being lazy was picking up an active hobby that I always wanted to learn.

Maybe if you think of something you always wanted to learn, like ballroom dancing, or horseback riding, or surfing, or martial arts, something thats fun, but active, that you will want to go back to every week.

I like to use splenda, but I am not sure if that is good for you, does anyone know if its worth saving the calories?