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| The Lounge | At what age did you move out of your parents house? | Dec 06 2008 21:33 (UTC) |
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Original Post by blackthorne: I was exactly the same way. I decided senior year of high school that I didn't want to go to college right away, which completely freaked my parents out as I have always been a very academic-oriented person. For fear of having no place to live while I finished high school, I stopped talking about "taking time off" and enrolled/moved to school that gave me the best financial aid. After my first semester I dropped out, and moved 350 miles and a state away from my family. I really just needed to get away and do some hard thinking about what was important to me in my life. That was December 2006. Including that move, I have now moved 6 times to various areas of PA and NY. All of them have been with my boyfriend, whom my mom blames every problem I ever have on. Now I am back in school, and will finish up my Associates in May. I live in my hometown in a house with my boyfriend these days. We recently adopted a dog. Also coming in May 2009 is the end of our current lease, at which point we are going to be moving in with my dad. He has agreed to let us stay with him if we pay a portion of the bills, do all the grocery shopping, and cook at least half the meals. He's not making us pay rent, so that we can save some money. It'll be the first time I've done anything more than visit with either of my parents since I moved out when I was 17. In July or August 2009 we'll be moving to Chicago. I'm transfering in to a school there next fall, and I want to get there to "learn" the city before I am bogged down with school work. My dad has consistently given me some money at the start of each month since I started up with school again, which has been a HUGE help. It's not a ton of money, but it means that I can afford to work only 30 hours a week and still pay the bills. I hope he continues to give me money when we move to Chicago, as I am planning to drop down to part-time work so that I can start to focus on school more. And.. That's my story. I say don't feel bad about still living with your parents. My boyfriend tried moving out when he was 19 (before I knew him) and ended up spending his entire savings and moving back home within a few months. He didn't try again until we decided to get a place together, at which point he was 21. If my boyfriend and I ever broke up, I would likely move into a dorm for the rest of my schooling. Then I would probably move back with my dad and work a crappy job that pays well for a while (like working the 3rd shift at some factory somewhere) to save up money and try to pay off some debt. It would suck for a while, mostly because I wouldn't be able to get a career going, but in the long run it would likely be for the best. |
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| The Lounge | Clock Ticking? | Dec 06 2008 21:02 (UTC) |
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I am fully convinced (after 3.5 years of dating, almost 2 years of living together, and now 6 months of dog ownership) that my boyfriend is going to make an amazing husband and father. And even though I know it's going to be a really long time before we seriously consider having a kid, I am VERY excited for when we do. We picked out our engagement ring at the beginning of this year, and I had really hoped that he'd "pop the question" before the end of this year.. but then he lost his very well-paid job (b/c of how much money he made) and now he claims he's waiting until he can "provide" for us again. He hasn't been able to find a full-time job since he was cut back in the summer, and now I make about 3x his income, which I suspect may secretly bother him a little. At his previous job, he made enough money that I didn't need to have a job (I did, though) and he probably could have paid for my schooling if he really wanted to (but I'd never ask him to do that). Either way, it's going to be a while now until we are engaged, or set a date for the wedding, and even longer yet until we can finally plan to have a kid. I have been taking the "scenic route" to my various academic goals, and likely will not even finish with my Bachelors for another 2 or 3 years (and I've already been in school for 2.5!). After that I'm either hoping to go straight to law school, or get my Masters in Arts Management and THEN maybe go to law school from there. It really depends on exactly what career field is most appealing and will be best in the long run. I fully expect to be in school until I am 30, or maybe older than that. I am 105% sure that I DO NOT want a kid until I am done with school and have established a career for myself. *sigh* Life is so difficult! Sometimes I wish I could rent a movie of the story of my life, so that I can watch and see where I end up. I definitely do not want to pass the next ten years by (I'm only 20 now, the bf is 23), but it'd be cool having a little glimpse into the future. |
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| The Lounge | My new band! Let me know what you think! | Dec 06 2008 18:21 (UTC) |
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Original Post by silentdeadlyrose: Thanks! It's not typically the type of music that I listen to, but I think they're pretty good too! |
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| The Lounge | My new band! Let me know what you think! | Dec 06 2008 18:20 (UTC) |
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Original Post by alibsam: The vocals in the first song a pretty weak, I agree. They need to be doubled over. And the "pop punk" sound is exactly what they're going for. Think The Ataris, Blink-182, Jawbreaker, and (on songs my boyfriend writes) some Screeching Weasel thrown in. |
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| The Lounge | My new band! Let me know what you think! | Dec 06 2008 18:17 (UTC) |
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Original Post by monarch777: I don't like the name either. I agree, it is not memorable at all. My boyfriend is the bass player. He sings in the second song, "23 Years". Apparently a lot of people are having problems listening to it though, so they've taken it down for now. I think they're going to try uploading again later. Also, there's a picture up now. It's really terrible though. Haha. |
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| Weight Loss | Weight Loss and SSRIs | Dec 03 2008 14:49 (UTC) |
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Original Post by vmp0514: I've been in and out of therapy since I was 15. I was diagnosed with depression in high school and took Zoloft for a little over a year. When it finally did kick in it helped a LOT. Then again I also met my current boyfriend right around that time, and I've always credited him for helping me pull out of that tough time. I weened myself off when I got to college. Which, thinking back now, is when my mind started messing with me again (if that makes sense). These days the only meds I take are for allergies. I see my therapist once a week, though lately I've been considering stepping it up to twice a week. I'm depression free, but I've got some SERIOUS anxiety issues. My therapist suggested that I talk to my primary care doctor about possibly getting back on Zoloft again. I'm terrified that I will get a bad side effect. Or that I will gain back the 25 pounds I've worked so hard to lose. Or that my boyfriend will finally realize just how crazy I am. Or that my mom will get mad at me and take me off her insurance again and I won't be able to afford the meds on my own and then I'll have a tough withdrawl. But then again, I have issues. My boyfriend said yesterday he'd think I'm crazy if I DON'T try it as he knows how much my thoughts of doom and gloom and catastrophies wiegh me down. And my therapist says I shouldn't like my anxiety keep me from trying something that could potentially subdue it. So.. I guess I'll make an appointment with my primary care doctor next week and see what she says. |
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| The Lounge | How Do You Rate Yourself? | Nov 27 2008 00:40 (UTC) |
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Hmm.. I'd say I'm at about a 65 right now. My new eating habits are going over pretty well, and I like that I've started to fit into old clothing again. But the rest of my life feels like it's at a standstill right now. I know that there are a few good things to look forward to within the next year, but I still find it extremely frustrating. |
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| Weight Loss | best birth control for NOT gaining weight? | Nov 18 2008 03:48 (UTC) |
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My first birth control was Othra Evra. I hated it. Like another person said, a little piece of the patch would flap up and get stuck to my clothing. Also I was allergic, or something, to the glue used to hold it on and would have a red square of puffed up skin where I had removed my most recent patch for over a month after. I didn't gain any weight or have any bad PMS reactions, but either way I would not recommend it.
Currently I have no birth control. My boyfriend and I are simply trying to avoid sex. If we do have it, we use a condom from the very start. On Thursday I'll be seeing my new GYN and hopefully he will agree to let me have the IUD, Mirena. However I'm only 20 and haven't had any children, which I know some doctors are concerned with. The nurse that I spoke with at the office today also seemed very concerned that my boyfriend and I aren't married, or even engaged. But we've been together now for over 3 years, so I don't really see what the problem is. I am paying the doctor for a service, and NOT to pass judgement on my choices. |
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| Health & Support | S.A.D Seasonal Affective Disorder anyone out there feeling blurrrrrrhhhhh | Nov 08 2008 02:00 (UTC) |
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My boyfriend suffers from seasonal depression. We as a couple have had a hard time dealing with it. Two years ago he even got so down and out on life that he broke up with me because "there wasn't any point, we're all just gonna die any way, you can do so much better than me" etc etc. We'd only been dating for just over a year at that point, but I wasn't about to give up on him. We got back together about a month later. This year has already been REALLY difficult, as we moved from southern PA to northern NY (my home region) and it rains and snows a LOT more here than it ever did there. His depression started up earlier this year than it has in the past, and I'm worried that it's going to last longer than usual. I'm a naturally upbeat person and having him be so gloomy all the time honestly kind of annoys me. |
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| The Lounge | Voting Experience | Nov 04 2008 21:01 (UTC) |
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I live in Upstate/Central NY. I voted via Absentee ballot. Sent it in two weeks ago. It was nice because I got to take time to research all the downticket candidates and make a throughly educated decision. Plus, I didn't have to get up ridiculously early today to go wait in line! I cruised by my designated polling place earlier today on my way for a run; the line went nearly three whole blocks down the street. I think I made the right choice. |
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| The Lounge | Where are all these ticks coming from? | Nov 01 2008 17:05 (UTC) |
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I live in Syracuse NY, which is Upstate/Central NY. Everyone I know who has pets has had a VERY bad year for fleas and ticks. I found a tick on my dog last week. We go for walks in a field down the road where deer frequent, so I brought her to the vet just in case. And she's on some anti-whatever meds for the next 30 days. Our vet said that he sees a lot of pets come in with Lyme Disease in our area, so we are going to have our dog vaccinated as soon as she is done with the meds. My vet said there are a few things to watch for that are syptoms of Lyme Disease: sluggishness, appetite loss, fever, "depression", lameness/severe pain, joint inflamation. |
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| Fitness | Started Couch to 5k today :) | Oct 27 2008 22:24 (UTC) |
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Original Post by jesmeeker: I am going to do my final week 3 run tomorrow. It has been VERY tough for me so far. I think I am going to repeat this week, or at least do it one extra time before moving on to week 4. That final 3-minute run is rough! |
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| Weight Loss | Hooray! I'm overweight! | Oct 19 2008 00:34 (UTC) |
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| The Lounge | laptop help!! | Oct 18 2008 22:06 (UTC) |
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Original Post by cassie_bee: That's great news! So glad we could help. |
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| The Lounge | This is why you don’t buy dogs from just anyone... | Oct 13 2008 22:50 (UTC) |
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I adopted my dog, Maddie, from the Col. Potter Cairn Rescue Network. Her first owner was an old cat lady who fed her people food and soda. The dog wasn't potty trained and apparently oftentimes didn't get along with the cats. The old lady ended up having to go into a nursing home and obviously couldn't take the dog with her. She asked the vet to euthinize her because she didn't want to give the dog to a shelter. The vet said no, and found the rescue that I got her from. Now Maddie eats dog food, goes potty outside, and is currently running the Couch-to-5k program with me. In August we graduated from Basic Training at Petsmart. She's a very happy little dog. And I'm a very happy and proud pet parent. I'm thankful that her previous vet refused to euthinize her. She only just turned 4 in May, and has no major health issues to speak of. I can't believe her first owner had the audacity to ask. |
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| The Lounge | laptop help!! | Oct 13 2008 17:57 (UTC) |
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Original Post by amethystgirl: Yeah. Definitely wait another day or two........ |
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| The Lounge | Average bra size? | Oct 12 2008 17:50 (UTC) |
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Original Post by drea99: Holy crap. I'm a 40C and I have a hard time finding shirts that fit both my boobs and my torso. Most of my shirts make me look fatter than I am because they fit tightly on my chest and are just baggy everywhere else. At one point I was trying to dress more professionally at work, and literally spent an ENTIRE DAY shopping around for button up shirts that fit. I can't even fathom how bad it must be for you. |
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| The Lounge | Alaska panel finds Sarah Palin unlawfully abused her power... | Oct 12 2008 17:42 (UTC) |
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On the Ayers issue: 1) Wasn't he active with the Weather Underground during Vietnam? And wouldn't that have made Obama a child during that time? 2) Also, I gather that Ayers has become a quasi-respectable citizen these days and given that he and Obama served on a committee for a non-profit organization, I'd say any attacks on Obama for his association with Ayers are just plain silly. On the Sarah Palin issue: 1) There are a couple of EXTREMELY conservative people at my job whom I regularly discuss politics with. Both of them are planning on voting for Obama this election. They are quite literally afraid of what would happen if the Republicans won and, heaven forbid, something happened to McCain leaving Palin as President. 2) I've heard a lot of arguments that "well, she's just like normal people so she'll fight for normal issues" or "she's just the average mom who happened to go into politics".. Which is great if you want to be Governor of Alaska I guess. But given that current state of our country and the downward spiral the global economy is in, I've got to say that I don't want an ordinary person in the White House. I am NOT comfortable with someone of the same intelligence level as me being the person making decisions. I want someone extraordinary. The leaders of our country should be the best and brightest. Calm, cool, and collected even in the more dire situations. It seems pretty clear to me that McCain/Palin simply don't fit that description: from the most recent strategy for the campaign, to his conduct during debates, and his failure to call out the people who are yelling innappropriate things such as "kill him" and "treason" and "terrorist" at rallies. The possibility of them winning is just plain scary. |
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| The Lounge | laptop help!! | Oct 12 2008 16:55 (UTC) |
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Supersized, my boyfriend and I just got Airport Extreme too! We also bought the Western Digital external hd that the Apple store sells. It comes with a 5-year warranty! Now we can back up everything on our computers, and share iTunes libraries, and access each other's files if we need to. It's great. I agree with all the Mac users/supporters here. Definitely look into getting a Mac. You can go to the Apple webiste and make a "personal shopping" appointment with one of the Specialists there. And if you ever have problems, there's always tech support at the Genius Bar when they're open and I've always been very happy with their help. Also, don't worry about being swayed by salesman-type talk. All the Specialists (people in blue shirts on the floor who ring you out) are only paid hourly; so it's not as if they are going to try to sell you more than what you actually need because they make no personal profit off of it. (My boyfriend works for Apple, which is how I know.) |
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| The Lounge | can you get sick from going to "third base" with BF | Oct 08 2008 01:33 (UTC) |
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Original Post by pgeorgian: I have tried this on a few occasions. Only once I was successful. The other times we ended up in the backseat of the car before driving home from wherever we were. Haha.
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| The Lounge | Anyone homesick? | Oct 08 2008 01:08 (UTC) |
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My first school wasn't far enough from home; I took a Leave of Absense after my first semester and moved 300 miles further away. This past June I decided that I missed my Dad and sister way too much and now live in a house about 15 minutes away from them. |
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| Health & Support | Ladies! Does anyone have an IUD for their birth control? | Oct 06 2008 04:00 (UTC) |
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New Question: Are IUDs "fitted" or is it more of a "one size fits all" kind of deal? I mean, will I go in to talk to my doctor about switching and be able to get it put in at that initial appointment, or will have I have to make a second appointment? Just trying to figure out if I need my boyfriend to go with me right away;I'll definitely want him to drive me home after it's put in.. |
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| Health & Support | Ladies! Does anyone have an IUD for their birth control? | Oct 06 2008 03:52 (UTC) |
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Original Post by repenthea: Yes! That's exactly what's happening to me! I've got a pretty short temper all the time as it is, but in the 13 months I've now been on Yaz it has been getting progessivly worse. There are now seriously 5 days a month that my boyfriend literally tip toes around the house and won't talk to me unless I say something to him first because he thinks I'll bite his head off. And then if I DO freak out for no reason, I end up crying a few minutes later because I feel bad. It's terrible. As soon as I get my work schedule for next week, I am going to call my doctor to make an appointment. The gyn I have has always been pretty open minded, so hopefully she'll be happy to give me Mirena. I'm keeping my fingers crossed! |
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| Health & Support | Ladies! Does anyone have an IUD for their birth control? | Oct 06 2008 02:26 (UTC) |
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Original Post by cosmographer: Really? That can't be true. I think alle0299 said she's got Mirena, and she hasn't had kids. I get hives when copper touches my skin, so I can't imagine what it would do if it were inside me; copper just isn't feasible. Plus, the reason I switched to Yaz was because I get REALLY bad cramping (as in, I get waves of pain bad enough that I sometimes pass out) and Yaz is supposed to help. And it has, but the other side effects are making me go crazy. So getting Mirena and hopefully just stopping my periods all together, not to mention that it's one of the most effective methods out there, seems pretty good to me. I really, Really hope what your doctor said isn't true or that there was just a misunderstanding. |
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| Weight Loss | My bf likes me FAT! Help!!!! | Oct 05 2008 19:15 (UTC) |
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My boyfriend likes me "soft and squishy" too. However I've gained about 50# in the 3 years we've been together and this past summer decided that now is the time to lose it. He's gained weight in the past 3 years too, but not as much as me. I've lost about 20# since I first started on CC, and am planning to start with the C25K running program next week in an effort to relieve stress, lose weight, and reignite my love/hate relationship with running. When I first started losing weight, my boyfriend wasn't exactly supportive. He straight up told me that he thinks that if I lose weight and gain self confidence that other guys will notice me more and that he's worried I'll leave him. Which of course is absolutely ridiculous. Now that I'm 20# lighter though, he's seeing that I really am happier the closer I get to a "healthy" weight. We've continually had dialogue about each of our self confidence/security issues, which I think has helped. He recently joined CC, and wants to come to my gym with me next week to give it a try. Apparently my weight loss and newfound healthy lifestyle is motivating him to get into shape as well. |
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| Health & Support | Ladies! Does anyone have an IUD for their birth control? | Oct 05 2008 18:13 (UTC) |
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Did a forum search and found other established threads about this. Thanks everyone! |
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| Health & Support | Question for anyone using Mirena | Oct 05 2008 17:25 (UTC) |
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I'm also looking into getting an IUD as my bc method. I had posted a different thread of my own earlier today, and was told that there have been some recent other threads that I should look for. I had to actually search "Mirena" to find the threads rather than "IUD" but I'm glad I did. Lots of informative posts! And everything I'm reading is making the IUD sound better and better (other than the severe cramping upon insertion). |
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| The Lounge | Job interviews and visible tattoos.. | Oct 03 2008 18:01 (UTC) |
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I've got three tattoos, though they're all in places that are covered up by workplace attire.. I'd say cover them up at your initial interview, and then after you've been offered the job ask about their tattoo policy.
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| Weight Loss | Yes, I really weigh that much!!! | Sep 09 2008 19:28 (UTC) |
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I'm just under 5'7". I started CC at 223lbs and a US pants size 18/20. Right now I'm down to 204lbs and a US pants size 16 (perfect fit). I'm reeeeally hoping I can fit into a 14 by the time I hit 180lbs. My (current) final goal is 170lbs and/or a US pants size 12. *keeps fingers crossed* |
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| Weight Loss | The Trouble with Husbands | Sep 01 2008 22:33 (UTC) |
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The problem for me does not lie with my boyfriend. He's a brilliant cook and has been very supportive of my lifestyle change. We cook healthy meals together all the time. And every once and a while he'll bring home some chocolate ice cream for a treat. The problem for me lies with my father. I'm 20, and spent the past two years living 300 miles from home. This past June I moved back to my hometown, and since then he has been calling me up once or twice a week to go out to dinner or to the movies or out for dessert together. Mind you, I love spending time with my Dad because he's seriously the best parent out there, but I feel like 90% of the time I see him it has to do with food! By next June I plan to move a solid 800 miles away from home, and only recently told him of these plans. I've a feeling he'll be inviting me and my boyfriend out to dinner more and more often as our moving date comes closer! Being a "daddy's girl" has a lot of awesome perks, but it sure has been rough on my self control. |
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New journal post starting over.. again by sykosomatix 08:17 |