Posts by blakthorn

Original Post by mommakitty:

I don't know if it varies from state to state, but there is NO statue of limitation for child molestation in Oregon. 

It varies. An example:

http://www.ncsl.org/programs/health/genetics/ dnasexoffen.htm

It's an interesting list of how different states treat the SoL issue when DNA evidence is involved. 

Identically worded statutes on the list can lead to different results depending on how the law interacts with the rest of that state's criminal code.

I'm sure it wasn't an overnight change for you.   I don't know how you might have gotten to this point.  I know a lot of people can get so busy that they forget to eat for very long stretches of time.  Do that often enough and your body stops signaling.  It doesn't have to start with full days of starving.

I had mono and was literally too tired to cook for myself, order a pizza or do much of anything.  Yes, at first I was hungry.  But eventually my body got used to not having the food and stopped whining at me.  I dropped to 120 lbs which, at 5'7" is extremely bad.

Once I was able to eat even a little bit more I gained a lot of fat. 

As my mom says to me, "I know you're not hungry.  Eat it anyway."  Today for instance, I had a migraine so felt sick all day.  I totalled up my cals and came up with about 800 - and I'm not hungry.  I'm currently 3/4 of the way through a glass of chocolate milk, just because I need the calories.  It's not pleasant, but it's necessary. 

I believe the advice says 1 - 2 lbs per week.  That extra lb is pretty damn significant, makes me think you're going too hard. 

I messed up my metabolism doing what you're doing, though it was unintentional from undiagnosed mono.  If you get your body used to being deprived, it will stop telling you that it feels hungry.  That doesn't mean you're eating enough.

I have to deal with this all the time.  I don't feel hungry when I should anymore.  Then I forget to eat.  Then I get so hungry I feel sick and start to gag on food.  It's not pleasant.  I'm sure that over time I'll be able to feel hungry again.  But I didn't know what I was doing to myself for 5 years and I've been trying to correct for the past 6 months, with limited success.

exfoliate!  for my face, I tried an insane variety of cleansers.  Eventually, I figured out that all I needed to do was scrub well with hot water.  The sweat is probably making your dead skin cells cling to your body & clogging pores.

lol, I suppose so but I'd prefer to have trouble eating than go off the pills.  I'm on a generic version of seasonale so I only have my period 3 or 4 times a year.  I won't give up the drugs for anything short of certain death.

I told my doc about the dizzy spells.  I forgot to mention the problems with eating. I don't usually think about it except when it's happening. My diet doesn't change much.  I've never been a big fan of fluids but I've been trying over the past few months.  I know, I'm a freak.  I hate drinking water.  The smoothie is a good idea, I'll give it a shot if I hit a full cycle again.

It really seems related to being hungry, but I don't think I should be feeling sick to the point where it's difficult to eat, out of hunger. 

For example, it hit me on Monday after I got home from playing soccer.  I'd somehow only eaten about 550 and it was 8pm.  I went to the store to get food and just looking at some of the vegetables and thinking about eating them made me gag.  I got home with my taco dip and chips, still felt sick, ate them anyway and no longer felt sick.  Which, yay, solution for the problem.  But even that one evening of over-hunger has me feeling a little hungry/sick every day this week.  I'm hoping that if I concentrate on eating my maintenance it'll go away.  It really interferes with motivation to cook. =(

I'm surprised you even survive on that. If you eat more you'll gain weight because your body is in starvation mode right now. That's in the short term. Eventually your body should adjust to a normal metabolism and fat will come off.  At least, I think that's what's happening based on what I've gleaned from these forums.

"a meat, corn, mashed potatoes w/ gravy and biscuits-3 starches-"

Sadly, a lot of people don't realize that they should count fresh corn in the carb column instead of veggie.  

The culture thing can run very deep and be hard to shake, even if you know intellectually that you should eat differently.  My mom is from a small town in WA, lives in WI, and is 65+.  I try to get her to eat my healthy foods.  She indulges me when we eat out somewhere and usually enjoys it, even if she calls it "yuppie" food.  But it doesn't feel homey to her.  She actually gets weepy sometimes when we talk about menus because what I want - lots of veggies with herbs & brown rice or pasta - couldn't possibly satisfy a person and she feels like a bad mother if she cooks it for me.  Fortunately what's homey to her is still fairly healthy, even if it contains a bit more meat, gravy and/or cream sauces than I would prefer. 

I'd say exercise extra but don't try for a greater deficit.  You might be able to prevent your body from storing those extra cals as fat.  But that's just a guess, I have no expert basis for the opinion.  If nothing else, the hypothetical person might feel less bad about binging.

It's an intramural group through the University rec department.  We're quite awful but it's fun.  Today most of our team was down from injuries.  We only had 2 girls & 3 guys for the first half making us 2 players down.  I couldn't rotate out at all. 

This was my first time playing in over a year - I had a back injury for the past two weeks that had me on bed rest during our first games.

My advice would be to dump him because he sounds too controlling. But then I'm quite jaded about men and relationships. 

He can't force you to eat the dessert.  If he drags you off to whatever place, don't order anything.  He might order something for himself.  He might even order something for you.  Just sit there and watch him eat whatever it is.  Hopefully, this will embarrass him enough to listen to you.

If that's too extreme, at the ice cream place you could ask for just the fresh fruit toppings without the ice cream. 

Might I ask, why did you take meat and eggs out of your diet? 

pretty much nothing.  I generally keep my place empty of things to snack on.  I made some tater tots and had some chili for lunch.  I may try to convince myself that cereal is just as good as fatty salsa con queso.

I can never seem to do the tumble turns properly so it's nice that I have an excuse to not make the attempt. Good thought on mixing arm & leg strokes.

It's only on the one side but I don't think it's an infection. I've been having problems there for years.

ETA:  I saw the doctor and am no longer allowed to exercise for a month.  Except I can swim in 3 or 4 days. 

She gave me vicodin though so I'm happy.

Your link didn't work =(

Either she is super petty & has a low self esteem or she's oblivious to the feelings of others.  Both are highly unattractive qualities and will likely make her marriage less than happy. 

As for fixing the immediate problem, can you ask her to ditch the uniform dress style idea?  I've always thought that weddings where the bridesmaids wear the same colors in different styles looks far classier.  Also, the bride looks more considerate for not requiring them to purchase a dress they also will only wear once.