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Have you been cleaning your washer every few months with the recommended cleaning discs?  You can buy them at department and grocery stores.

We spend so much of our youth looking for "the one" that we sometimes overlook great mates because they didn't meet everything on our checklist.  I don't think you are ever too young to settle down.  Sometimes we meet the right guy early sometimes it takes us a little longer.  Just remember, there isn't one guy out there that is "the one".  There is a guy out there that is a great life mate though! Don't sell yourself short but don't expect perfection either.

Original Post by goldfishfireworks:

Hey guys~! I'm a new member posting for the first time!

I've been wondering..

Was there ever a point for anyone where friends and/or family have told you that you look great the way you are, even though you haven't exactly reached that ideal number on the scale? If so.. did you ever want to still lose weight regardless of what they said, or did you listen to your peers and began to maintain whatever weight you had?

As for myself.. I've been dieting for a little more than a year now. I was 5'5 and was about 180 pounds according to my scale at home. Now, I'm currently 5'5.5 and 120 pounds. However, my aim from the start was to get down to 115 pounds.. although people have been telling me to stop losing weight because they assume that there is nothing left to lose and that I'm fine the way I am.

I understand that it is only a five pound difference.. but I desperately want to reach that number, being the perfectionist that I am. Should I go through with that or do people have a good reason in telling me to stop?

Basically, are the opinions of others a good indication of knowing when to stop losing weight or is that something you should decide for yourself based on how you feel about your own body?

Thanks for your help~!

Congrats!  Going from 180 to 120 is a dramatic change and I am sure your friends and family are just concerned you might go overboard.  Is everybody telling you to stop or just a few people?  Ask somebody you trust and go 1 lb at a time.  Take a picture of yourself, it's really hard to tell what you look like by looking in the mirror.  I for one know I couldn't maintain a weight of 115 and 120 is more realistic for me but everybody's body is different.  I am in no way skinny, my husband would tell me if he thought i was.

Original Post by kathygator:

Any help your mother might give should be graciously appreciated, but not expected, OP.

 You are absolutely right.  I am seeing that i am a spoiled brat.

Original Post by amethystgirl:

Did she volunteer to come help out, or to keep you company while your husband was away? She might have had a completely different two weeks in mind than what you expected.

Also, is your dad still around? Does she still take care of him? Not wanting to assume anything, but this might have been her attempt at a vacation from him, or to do some bonding with you, and didn't plan on it being a chore-filled trip.

 She volunteered.  But maybe you are right, maybe she thought she would just keep me company.  By the look of all of the responses, I would guess that her idea is the same as most peoples, and that she shouldn't have to help out.

She and my dad haven't been together since I left home.

Yes, actually I do.  But that's different I guess.  I arrive with two kids and I don't expect her to have to cook and clean for all of us. 

Original Post by starlitocean:

Original Post by trying_:

but she just stays in the house and reads all day.  She has always been a stay at home mom, so it isn't a matter of her vacation. 

 

 for some reason, this part just irks me. 

do you actually believe that as a stay at home mom, she just sat around and read all day while raising you? 

 What I meant by that is that she is a retired stay at home mom.  She hasn't had to look after anybody for 20 years.

Is there a particular reason why this obsession started when you got married? 

I am 5'5" and 122 lbs and maintain on 1700-1800 with only a pound or two fluctuation either way.  I workout 4X a week for 45 - 60 mins (running and weight lifting).  I have lots of energy and have never felt better!  I was nervous about upping my calories too, just do it slowly and you'll be fine.

The exact same thing happened to me.  I was 4 pounds away from my goal and not budging.  I decided to just stay at that weight and maintain.  I ate maintenance calories for a couple of weeks and then lowered my calories again to 1200 and lost 3 pounds in 7 days.  Maybe you should just take a break for a while?

There must be some truth to it, vitamins and minerals are absorbed differently based on this aren't they?  For example, calcium needs vitamin D. 

I used live with three doctors and they explained to me that my IBS diagnosis meant that the doctors weren't clear on what was actually causing my problem.  They explained that IBS is usually a diagnosis you get AFTER the doctor has done tests and ruled out that something serious is wrong.  Don't self-diagnose yourself, there are an array of things that cause your symptoms that could be life threatening if not caught in time.  I fortunately had IBS (after many many tests) .  Once you are diagnosed with IBS, you will have to track everything you eat (which you are probably already doing since you are her eon CC), and a brief summary of your day (stressful, early morning, late night...).  You will then be able to determine what your triggers are and work with it.    If you look after yourself and pay attention to what your body doesn't like you will eventually heal your bowel.  I can eat practically anything now, although I still have the fear of a flare up.

I am on the pill, so I actually see my best results when I am on my period.  The pill must make me retain water so I don't see my progress until then.