Posts by belladonna69

i hear what you guys are sayin Shiny and GI, but i get what Pen is saying. although it is exciting to lose weight quickly in the beginning, it is important not to freak out and get upset when things start to slow down. If it truly is a lifestyle change we need to stay away from the scale every single day and worrying over the occaisional treat. For first timers it is difficult, but for those of us who've been doing it for awhile we should know how to just let it flow.

when my kids were smaller i noticed the same thing when they came back from my parents after a day or a weekend. i dont know that my parents spoiled them exactly, but i do think that there were some things they were allowed to get away with, that i certainly didnt get to do when i was their age.

is it possible to limit the time they spend there? is it possible to find out what exactly goes on over there and have a chat with your in laws about your concerns? tho i will tell you it probably wont be easy; grandparents feel a god-given right to spoil their grandchildren! maybe it would help if your husband was the one to pick your son up, or have him closely observe your son in the days after coming back from the inlaws. i find that sometimes husbands think we exaggerate things because they are not as close to it as we mothers are, being the primary caregivers.

hope things work out....

it has been scientifially proven that attractive people get more attention...they've done it with babies: show them pictures of "traditionally" pretty people and "traditionally" ugly people. The pretty people win everytime. They've done studies that revealed that attractive children tend to get better grades in school because they get more attention from their teachers. We all know how it goes...prettiest girl in class gets all the guys and the girls wanna be just like her.

well, to someone who had a question about eating out, i've suggested eating from the childrens menu (if that restaurant had one).

thx for the concern joestephens, but its not as bad as i might have made it sound. we've gotten together a few times over the summer, and had a drink of two. But this past week was unusual because hubby and i got together with a couple of friends about 3 times this week: monday was a labour day bbq, wednesday was just for fun (kind of still feeling good from the bbq) and saturday was a birthday party. This was out of whack for me to drink so much because we dont usually have so many events in one week, and i dropped my internal guard.

but i will keep on eye on the shots, and no my friends wont push me too far if I say no, i'm out thanks. i gave into the call for more because i felt like it. Please dont worry that i'm out there getting drunk nightly or weekly cause i'm not like that. like i said i dont like alcohol that much, and i know how too much makes me feel later on!

thx for all your help everyone.

thx warbler....i  do set a goal for each day, and like i said, if i know ahead of time that i will be drinkin later i leave lots of room. as i think about it, tho,  i realize that i 'm jsut making excuses for myself. i've sort of been in a mood this summer to jsut be free and have a good time cause i've done so well taking care of my health and losing the weight. like i'm celebrating and enjoying life like i've never done before. I've let my guard down because its been up for so, so, so long. But you're right, its a sign. and i've seen cases on talk shows of people who were hooked on food and lost the weight but picked up something else thats why i used that title.

i need to give myelf a shake and pull in the reins a bit. its really not worth it. i know i can be wild and fun without drinkin everytime.

LOL!! i like your question laurensking!! esp the nose picking!! i guess the further up you go the more cals u burn!!  how bout sneezing...brushing teeth...And contemplating the meaning of life!! ROFL, that's priceless!!!

that's the key, isnt it? who said a lifestyle change means never eating fun foods again?? why should people who dont struggle with their weight get all the fun??

i've reached a point in this journey where i will not place guilt on myself when i eat something fun. and as you say, chasingjames, there will always be some celebration and party and get together, and no way to avoid the foods that bring us down. but with a good game plan and a bit of leeway now and then, and the knowledge that this moment does not define us, we can live like everyone else and enjoy life!!

"For me this is a lifestyle change so I know that going back to my regular every day life will get me back on traick."

That's the spirit, e'bear!!!!

i'm getting ready for a bbq----i love to entertain but i hate the preparation and clean up!!

As an observer from a very safe distance (Canada), and one who's Jamaican friends and relatives have recently wethered this hurrican, my heart goes out to those in New Orleans and the other areas hit by Katrina. I really hope help is sent to them in timely fashion this time around!

no fear, it happens! this week i was way of my game, in spite of my best attempts and intentions.

Monday: canadas wonderland--shared a burger and fries for lunch, then later a hot dog and a slurpee

Tuesday: shopping at the mall had Chinese for lunch (more rice than i ususally have)

Wednesday: husbands office bbq--snacks and then veggie burger (high cal buns)

Thursday: parents and out of town relatives came to visit, brought take out for dinner---more rice!!

And because of the crazy schedule i didnt get to my workout as often as i should have.

I've gained 1 lbs since last week...not much i know and its probably just water. But in the last couple of weeks i would have freaked out, esp since i had a month long plateau. But i realize now that the weight battle is not a straight line downhill like a kid on a skateboard. Its a rollar coaster with some big hills and some little hills.

Dont sweat it and dont beat yourself up just get back on your horse and ride!!

Some woman put it best on a call in show;

she said: 

If Obama want to win the presidency he will have to earn it on his own merit"  and then she added something about if they were concerned about getting enough votes to win the presidency they should have picked Hillary.   

I agree that he will have to earn it on his own merit. I dont think he would want it any other way. But i do think its very silly of her and others like her, to say he should have picked Hilary. Its so childish. Its like saying if you wont pick my friend to be on your team i dont want to be on your team either! I'm glad he didnt pick Hilary. Not because i dont like her, or dont think she would be an asset, but because Obama has to choose the person he feels the most comfortable with, who can will be able to work with and make decsions with for the next 4 or 8 years.And quite frankly, i dont know if anyone should have to live with Bill Clinton lookin over their shoulder!

hey there...i'm a 42 D and i've found that size at Zellers ( if you have that store where you live). I've also found it in Plus Size stores. Those fancy places like Victoria Secret and La Senza seem to be only for "smaller" ladies.

Wow! So ok, if i ever travel to any of these places i should walk with my own healthy stuff!!!