Posts by tennislove98

I agree with what GI Jane says.  Not only is it a problem if someone goes through extremes (like massive amounts of exercise or constantly restricting) to maintain a BMI of 19 or below, but if there are any disordered eating habits involved with maintaining BMI of 19 or below, then that is unhealthy.

sounds like you a good concerned friend, but the best thing you can do...walk away.  i agree with fidget, because you can't jeopardize your recovery.  its not fair if you're the only one being a real friend, because he should be considerate enough not to drag you into this game.  people who get sick together don't get healthy together.  just keep that in mind.  i have had to walk away from so many friends.  When he gets better, he'll naturally be a better friend, so don't worry.  i know exactly how you feel, because i am going through the EXACT same situation right now.  its so hard to just let go, but you're not alone.

Original Post by carmenxox:

wow, i cannot believe this post.

your preoccupation with your own weight and diet obviously has a huge impact on your daughter... you are ultimately setting her up for various self esteem issues and potential eating disorders

when I was 10 I never thought twice about my weight... this is very disturbing to read that someone that young thinks about this stuff

what you need to do is STOP talking about weight/food/calories/dieting and everything related to it around her. Don't tell her that losing weight is "good" or makes you "better". Don't put these thoughts in her head, and stop with the eating behaviours around her... children are greatly influenced by their parents, (this can be good and bad) but if you continually cut out foods and pick at things, she is going to pick up on this and begin to think that this is normal and (X) is bad for you, so dont eat it.. blah blah blah. This can lead to malnourishment and irregular growth. KIDS NEED CALORIES TO GROW

I can't believe that you actually asked how you could help your 10 year old lose weight/thigh jiggle!! there is so much wrong with that, i don't even know where to start...

i completely agree and cannot believe you actually asked this.  you need to keep her away from weight loss shows.  stop talking about weight in front of her.  guess who she's copying?  you.  don't tell her any foods are fattening or bad, because she's not going to be able to learn to use her hunger and fullness to determine when to start and stop eating.  guess what that sets her up for?  yep, an eating disorder, which is something that will haunt her for the rest of her life.  you need to stop picking at your food, so she doesn't pick at hers.  when you talk about weight and saying whats fat or that you're fat, she gets the idea that the fat on her makes her somehow flawed.

instead of letting her go to a gym class, put her in a sport that doesn't revolve around weight (aka cheerleading, gymnastics, dance).  she'll learn teamwork, build self-confidence, and get stronger.  it'll be about her performance vs how she looks.

Are you binging at night, because you're not eating enough during the day?  Also, part of recovery is learning how to reconsider what "binging" is, esp if its fulfilling your meal plan.  One thing I recommend and works for me is following my meal plan better during the day ot prevent binging at night.  If you really plan out your meals with an outpatient program, it could really help you.

Authentic Chinese food is actually really healthy and delicious.  Its flavored with garlic and scallions, etc..  Also, real Chinese food revolves around veggies, which is great.  When I went to China, I ate authentic native food and came back lighter and healthier.  Now I want to go.  Haha.

Original Post by swirlything:

I'm 5'7" as well.  8 years ago I weighed 262.  I got down to 172, and stayed there for about 6 years.  I was a size 12 at that point.  At 172, I was very happy with my body.  I did (still do) perform as a bellydancer, actually I teach now too.  I have plenty of energy.  Even though my stomach isn't flat, I still wear bikinis.  I get hit-on too. 

3 years ago, I went back to school.  I crept up to 178, and hung there for a year or so.  Then up to 184, and hung there for about a year.  Then up to 192.  Which is why I'm on here, back down to 184 now.  I can get into most of my size 12s, but want to get back to the 172 where I was for years, and was quite happy.

So, I say, 170 is a fantastic goal.  You will love the changes in your body.  150 may be unrealistic for you, I think it is for me.  But I don't have to be 150 lbs to be happy and to be ok with my body.

Absolutely fantastic advice.  You don't have to be 150 to be happy with your body.  Own the weight you are at, and know the only person who can overwhelm you is yourself.  Hang in there.  =)

i am 5'5" and am a little less than 110 (110 if its TTOM), but i thought i'd help out anyways.

1.  size 23-24, 00 or 0 bottoms,  xs in tops

2.  1600-2000/day

3.  honestly, i haven't worked out in almost a year.  i'm pretty much sedentary.

if you are really low, i'd reccomend going to see an endocrinologist, because he or she will be able to help you with thyroid problems.  your thyroid is really important, so take good care of it.  go get it looked at if you think something is off.

Original Post by tblover900:

i didn't mean to make it sound like the end of all things. its good that she doesn't do this on the days she works out. however...i still wouldnt drop that low even on days when she doesnt work out. im not saying eat 1500 all the time, but maybe just 1300 on off days.

i think tblover's advice is really legitimate, especially if you want to maintain a healthy metabolism long-term.  its really important to keep yourself eating well, because your metabolism doesn't get faster as you age.  you really have to work on keeping it up by eating enough on non-workout days, because you don't want eating too little catch up with you before you hit 30.

just to warn you though 5327, better n' peanutbutter doesn't taste anything like pb in my opinion.  i bought it once and threw it out after one taste.  some people like it, but i'm not a fan.

i think fidget might be onto something.  are you feeling a little low or depressed?  having 2 children is really a big change and can be overwhelming.  if something just doesn't feel right and you feel off emotionally, i suggest talking to someone about it while you're still ahead.  it can really help a lot, because you don't want your body image influencing your children later on.  putting yourself first is just what you have to do sometimes, and its perfectly okay to do even if you have 2 kids.

Hyperthyroidism is something you might want to look up and get checked for.  Its definitely a possibility, so you want to get a bloodtest just to be safe.  Even if you were never malnourished, your metabolism still might be overactive.  If its something worth posting over, its definitely worth going to a doctor just to be safe.

Original Post by tijen64:

What if one has 1 cup of regular for 360 calories and sleep happy that night?

agreed!  big fan of letting myself have what i want if i'm craving it enough to debate portion size.  better to have a cup for 360 instead of 1/2 cup and be thinking about having more for the next week.  thats just how it works for me, but it might be different for a lot of people.

what irenakat said is exactly what i was going to say: cook!  my boyfriend eats nothing remotely close to healthy on a daily basis.  He refuses veggies (except for maybe one or two baby carrot), eats fast food everyday, etc..., but still maintains his weight.  if i tried to eat what he eats all the time, don't even think about it.  haha.  so guess what i do...i cook.  very rarely, i'll even cook him a meal and make my own separate meal.

i say cook.  cook what you want thats also delicious and he's bound to want a bite.  cook some pasta, make a salad.  you can serve it in a certain portion and he's less likely to eat, eat, and eat.  talk during your eating time.  ask him to tell you about his day.  etc...  make him slow his eating down, so he realizes when he's full.  also, you can always prepare things the night before and just pop it in the oven or stove.  get a grill.  whatever works.  grills are great for making paninis and more, so it can be super quick and convenient.

instead of going to the bars, go for a walk.  bring some gym clothes and head to the gym together.  join a fun class together that doesn't involve drinking and eating.  even something silly will work.  the key really is to do something together to get him interested, because he's less likely to make changes on his own.  the secret is don't nag; instead, invite him.  makes things a lot less complicated and much more argument proof.

if nothing works, sit him down and have a talk about your concerns.  if he loves you and cares about whatever you're going to have in the future, he'll most likely listen.  just remember it takes a bit of patience.  eating right for a guy, sometimes doesn't come easy and feels like he's not being "manly" enough.  its always really hard to face our own demons of bad habits.

First off, you're eating a good amount of calories, because you're starving from all that exercising.  If you're burning that much, you're obviously going to need to eat 3000 cals.  First thing is you need to mellow out the exercising, because thats the reason your body is screaming out for food.  Try that, because unless you stop the exercising, you're going to have a hell of a time trying to eat less.

If you are exercising as much as you are, 2300-2500 calories wouldn't be considered a binge, but considered healthy.  You're going to have to put it into perspective.  A female at 5'4" and 108lbs (and 21--saw in your other post), is literally just a few ounces away from being underweight.  The number one thing you need to do is to cut your running and exercising down.

I'd reccomend you going to talk to a therapist about this, because they could really help you with your compulsive exercising.