Posts by gozalien

I think your cat will be fine.  It may have some intestinal problems, which will come out in the litter box. I caught my daughters cat chewing on my protein bar, so I think it will be ok.  Our new cat was fed off the table by my mom who thinks her cats are babies.  It is hard to break them to just eating cat food.  My other cat broke into my fish food and ate all my algea tablets (she is crazy for algea tablets).  I was not concerned since it was mainly plant matter, I figured she would be ok.  She also ate my spider plant to the ground.  Cats have a habit of eating strange stuff. 

Yeah, holding it in does aid your posture and abdominals.  I think that the purpose of it is trying to get your posture correct, because usually a sloucher has both incorrect posture and usually higher body fat.  I think I would suck it in, if I had a large stomach.  The stomach will decrease with exercise and dieting, but remember for a man it is the body's fat storage area so it leaves slowly and with persistence.  If you cut your calories too much it will sag more because the muscle tissues need a certain amount of calories to function.  So you don't want to burn muscle to try to rid yourself of fat.  When I drop weight, I notice my stomach starts to sag more.  However, if you watch, the XMA fighters of TV, when they cut weight or drop a weight class you can see their fat jiggling when they are bouncing before they start fighting.  Don't be discouraged, it takes time.  Keep sucking it in to help your posture.  Good luck.

David

I do think society in general places more emphasis on a thin woman than a thin man.  A gut on a man is sometimes overlooked and well I think women have a harder time.  I think that anyone who can not fit in the jeans they used to wear is disappointing.  My weight flunctuates regularly.  I hate to not be able to fit in my Jeans.  I remember my mom trying to squeeze into her jeans.  She must have felt horrible in those tight jeans.  Plus I would think that men have a preconceived notion that a larger wife will not cheat.  Maybe his reluctance to accept your dieting, may be the result of his own insecurity.  Remember it is your body, granted you are his wife, but it is important for you to feel good about your shape.  Good luck on your weight loss.

David

Original Post by irishmum:

Original Post by clusterz:


What about taking a few month to lose weight and then resume a normal "thin and sportive" life? ...
And if you love to eat out, it is surely better to eat out when you're at your goal weight and have a huge margin that allows you excess, than "spending years eating out but not really because you're in a diet and must think of whatever your order" which doesn't seem all that appealing to me. But, well, it's your life.

 Why on earth should we put our life on hold for a 'few months'?? For me anyway, I'm not cc-ing because I'm 'dieting'- I ultimately want to lose weight, but I'm more concerned with learning and living a healthier way of life in general. I want to be able to go to a restaurant and have a meal like 'normal' people, or have a few beers if I feel like it. Its all about learning about food, and knowing your limits.

 I do think there is a balance on what we eat and living a healthy lifestyle.  When you say you are having a few beers you are putting unnecessary calories into your system with very little nutritional value.  I do not see anything wrong with controlled drinking, however, I do not consider it a healther way of life.  I would think that knowing your limits is a good thing.  Also how your body responds to certain foods.  I do think it is a good thing to be a picky eater.  If someone is happy with their weight, I don't see a reason to calorie count.  I have the tendency to gain ten lbs a month if I am not calorie counting.  I live in the United States and I see the average person carrying large hips, huge waistlines with several chins and a huge waist line.  The average restaurant does not care about the size of your hips or the amount of food in their serving or the nutritional value.  They are pushing taste and sales.  If you get a small plate that is a rational portion, most Americans are not going to come back.  I would suggest looking online if you know where you are going.  A salad with a fat free dressing (as long as it is not loaded with bacon and cheese or other fattening toppings)will be fine.  I think the grilled chicken sandwich is a fairly safe bet, plus there is nothing wrong with asking how it is prepared, or leave off the sauce.  Substitute the fries for a healthier option.  Most restaurants have nutrition information on their website.  If not the restaurant may have it upon request.  Usually restaurants with heavy foods are not going to post it has 1200 calories, 70 grams of fat, or etc.  If it posts the nutrition information on the menu it is a good sign.  By no means give up your life, just ask questions about the food, order conservatively, and make healthier choices I think you will be ok.  Besides if you order a triple decker burger with chili fries and strawberry shake or another unhealthy meal nearly every day, you should not have much difficulty in wondering why your jeans don't fit anymore. 

There is a Chinese restaurant close by that does that.  It is like steamed veggies and white meat chicken with rice.  The rice is white because their brown rice is fried.  I do not like white rice,  but if I go there I eat the white rice.  I add a little soy sauce for taste.  I am not a big advocate of soy sauce, but since my blood pressure is low, my doctor told me to add more salt to my diet so I am not too concerned with sodium since I regularly avoid it.   I think if you can get the selection you stated.  I say enjoy.

David

Mercy Bobcat told the truth.  Too much cardio burns muscle and not fat.  Try to eat lots of protein and do some weight training.  I work a fast paced production job and I will tell you.  Fast work can burn muscle and it is hard to gain muscle mass working my job.  Make sure you are spacing your meals out too and eating the right kind of things.  If you eat a meal of 1500 calories instead of small meals that equal 1500 calories.  The large meals are worse for you.  I hope what some of this helps you.  Several of the people here have already offered some good advice.  Good luck.

David

Some Ideas for you.  Maybe try a protein bar for some diverstiy.  Add lots of fresh fruits, which I bag and take to lunch all the time.  Whole Grain Bread and sandwich meats make a low calorie option.  I have seen these vegetable steamer bags (I bought some).  Basically you can throw some fresh veggies into a bag and microwave it for steamed vegetables.  Another Ideas I found on an info-mercial - Make homemade chicken salad sandwiches.  Take an apple and slice it up take a chicken breast and cut it up add fat-free Mayonaise blend it together and it makes a great chicken salad sandwich.  I know it sounds bad, but it is really good.  Also you can snack on dry cereal instead of snack food from a machine.  Good luck, hopefully you can use something that I said. 

ibez gave  you the best answer go with it.  You should probably subscribe to men's fitness, men's health or something like that.  If you get advice from people the bag is so mixed you will be more confused than you already are.  If someone is not in good shape it is not a good idea to ask their advice.  Find someone you know that is exercising and ask them questions, if the person is a nice guy or girl, i am sure they can give you some pointers.  good luck.

david

I would wait, your body is weak because it is trying recover from your sickness. Make sure your body is ready to exercise before exercising. 

Are you allergic to eggs?  I have read that food allergies can cause swelling.

Yeah don't let the scale fool you.  Your body and intestines can hold excess weight.

Well, to be honest with you, I think it is a kind of emotional and mental abuse that is overlooked by society.  Being a large kid, my mom often told me.  "You are fat as h*ll, when you going to lose some weight?"  Being a fat kid, I did not know how to lose weight.  In 8th grade I quit eating.  I lost weight to the concern of the school that they thought I was dying. I went from 185 to 132 in a month.  I several times went to the point of nearly passing out. I got sick when I tried to eat again.  As an 8th grader, I did not know how to lose weight appropriately and I did know that losing weight had to do with eating. I do think it is emotionally damaging for a parent to harp on the weight of a child, even if the child is grown.  I think the world is going to tell them they have a weight problem.  They don't need to hear that from the people who are supposed to love them.  I read once that for every negative comment you make toward your children, you have give them 7 or 8 positives.  That is because the positives are expected and the negatives hurt.  I do harp about healthy choices, but to embarrass them at a function is not a good thing.  However, I look at both of my kids as being healthy.  I started my son off differently than myself, he has no cravings for candy or sweets.  I read somewhere that if you make it readily available from birth until adulthood, it would not be anything special....and most of the time he passes on the sweets by choice. 

The thing you have to do is figure out a way to ignore him if you can, if you can't ignore him, you need to confront him and let him know that it hurts your feelings and you are sensative to comments about your weight or feelings.  Sad but you have to tell some people. 

As a heavy kid, I was held down by several people and they spit in my face and called me names that related to my size. I ended up as an adult having to go to counseling to deal with a lot of the issues of my childhood.  Some were weight related issues included verbal and emotional abuse related to weight.  To this day, I can lose weight and I am criticized, If I gain weight I am criticized.  So therefore, I just ignore them until I have to confront them. 

Either way, I wish you good luck on your weight loss. 

David

I snack all day as well, however I am trying to eat small meals and snack.  I think a constant flow of calories, as long as you stay on goal is not a bad thing. 

David

If you need the calories, use a protein shake or energy bars to supplement.  They are a lot more healthy than the candy bar.  Try Musclemilk...the cookies and creme and bananas and creme are both really good.  They are roughly 300 calories per glass.  Blended with ice they almost taste like ice cream.  I wouldn't starve myself too much...you need enough calories to keep your metabolism up.  1400 for a guy your size is way too little.  It is best to eat small meals too...so maybe eat an energy bar and a shake later. I would not think you need the sugar or fat in a candy bar.  Good luck.

David

I would think that most restaurants place nutrition information online.  Usually if a restaurant does not place the information in the customer's view is because they are ashamed of the calories and fat content.  I would suggest doing your research or getting a book that includes restaurants. Also try to get an up-to-date book. Keep the book in your car.  That way you know what you are eating before you put it in your mouth.  I seriously doubt the waiter will care about your calorie count.  I have seen a calorie counter book at a drug store, so I would suggest going there first, but maybe a good bookstore would have something.  Some restaurant's have a lean menu, I would suggest that anyone reading this show their patronage, by ordering from the light menu to let the restaurants know to create a light menu....because we want it.

David