Posts by swoodho1

It sounds to me like your thinking too much about what other people are feeling and in the end, what they think of you and your stance in the situation.

 I say stand up for what you feel is right..it's not about sides, or blank vs. blank, it's about what you think of the situation.  Take a stand.  That doesn't mean it will be right or that it will be wrong, but you've got to base the aftermath on a belief, a decision.

Alice and your boyfriend getting together and discussing a situation - that neither have fully told you yet - is a bit fishy, not right, and annoying.  Is their bond stronger than your bond with your boyfriend?  It better not be.  That's YOUR boyfriend, and he better start acting like it.

So take a deep breath..clear your head of all their words and feelings - and find out what YOU think of the situation, and what YOU think so and so should do and stick to it!!

-S

Dude, I agree..your boyfriend is WAAAAY TOO skinny.  Trust me, he needs to gain.  And please, do your thing! and if mr. lankly can take it, kick him to the curb and find a new big strong protective bo to hug you and your soft sexy curves!

 -S

maybe if you know this is happen..save up your calories to be eaten from 8-12.

Also, prepare legit healthy but desirable snacks.  You can make them your "thursday night snacks" and look forward to them.  that planning can also mentally satisfy you..knowing you've indulged in your thursday snacks that you've been planning on eating, waiting to eat all week - hopefully that will stop you from digging any further into your fridge.  

It's not silly..some times we need outside help because we're stuck in situations and can't see things clearly..but the answers are simple..save up calories, prepare healthy, satisfying snacks, and feel content after finishing them!

hope that helps!

Thanks for the info!  How long did it take you guys to rid yourself of "cravings" or "splenda habits" - I've made this attempt before and I've failed. :(  But I REALLY want to do this.

That sounds perfect for me!  Thanks for the help!!

Dude, I totally hear you.  I share the "all or nothing" personality trait, as well.  I know ALL about the hating on yourself after you binge, and you know you're going to hate on yourself, but you do it anyway.  I honestly think, before anything else, you've got to relax.  You've got to take a breather.  It sounds like you have pressures coming from all angles, your family, your dance teacher, and of course yourself.  You need to focus on the pressure that comes from you, because ultimately that's what matters.  The pressure you put on yourself, the hatred, self doubt, all those attributes contribute to allowing yourself to a. feel pressure from outside forces and b. not believe in yourself and not accept the slow paced lifestyle change you're working for.

People say it all the time, and they are right..there is no "breaking a diet" - there's getting distracted.  So you over ate, do not think about that, you've got to learn the concept of forward thinking.  You need to understand that this is a process.  I totally know where you're heads at, probably wish you can chop off all that extra flab - you feel trapped.  but you've gotta slow down, take deep breaths, and start getting in touch with the person you know you are inside.  find a peaceful place, maybe it's with dance, reading - for me it's music and the movies.  you've got to be okay with failure.  I used to binge, then get so frustrated that I kept eating for days.  now i understand if i binge, i binge, and i move forward.  That attitude has helped me.  I don't focus on the fact taht I have binged, but I focus on my "recovery" period.  used to be like days - now it's the next day, I'm okay.  You've got to love yourself..every part of yourself - even the part that gets frustrated and slips up during your lifestyle change.

That's the only way you could ever do this.  Yeah, you can plan out meals, eat low cal, whatever they say to do - but it all comes down to if you like the inside you.  Maybe try some yoga, write, you've go to have that peaceful escape that brings you to you.

this is just how i feel - you can take it if you want..but know, you're already doing something great by joining this site, and reaching out for support.  You should be proud of yourself.

-S