Posts by corduroyfirekills3

I am such a sicko... My first thought is to rig up a counter surprise.

when your friend takes you from drinks to the party say your last drink is really going to your head and act suuuuuuuuuuuper drunk when you come in, slur something incomprehensible, and "pass out" on the floor. Then when they come to your side roll over clear-eyed and yell DOUBLE SURPRISE!!!!!

Better idea to just let him have his fun though. What a sweet bf!

it has to be a combination of the two.

like, for each person, imagine you have some span of ability for running (or whatever, really) and if you were overweight you'd be not so great, and if you were emaciated you'd be not so great, and somewhere in the middle is your personal peak which combines health and strength with being lightweight and agile. I personally am a faster runner when I have less ass to cart around with me.

So it's up to each person to find their personal peak physique (if they want to optimize their ability). Then of course, each person's peak performance is different. Some people have the potential to be world-class athletes if they maximize their ability. Other people, for various reasons, are just not built to be elite athletes.

So how you stack up to someone else is a combination of what the (predetermined) best possible you is, and how close to that ideal you are (a combination of finding the right physique, working on your form, hydration and nutrition, and training).

Everybody here has pretty much the right idea (except one guy who i think wrote his quote backwards accidentally). Bottom line, don't compare yourself to others. Make you a you you love (hopefully including many more qualities than just body image), admire others for their strengths, and live a happy life. Easier said than done, so get crackin!

Some kind of noodles from the magical land of asia (lo mein, ramen, soba, pad thai, drunken noodles, etc), probably with some dumplings or crab rangoons to start. yum!

ask him out?

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oh my lordy girl, please. go wear your suit and have fun at the beach. if it makes you feel better, get the advice of a good friend. a bit of good self tanner makes you look just as better as dropping 5 does, anyway (i like the hard-to-mess-up jergens natural glow, the one you put on every day like lotion and eventually get a tan)*.

my bf and i both agree that the cute girls at the beach are the ones who don't seem to be thinking about their bodies, because they are enjoying themselves playing in the water or playing catch or sports, talking or reading with their friends instead of sunning like a centerfold or (obv) visually fretting about their rolls (real or imagined) and trying to sit so their stomach will look the flattest.

Oh yeah, and also cute are the ones with fantastic ta-tas. Sigh... a great attitude will get you so many things in life, but certain others still only come with god's permission... Have fun on vaca!!!

Cordie

*sorry if you're un-pale... no profile pic, and i feel like my black/asian/latina friends never worry about swimming suits like my white/pasty white/extra pasty white friends do, especially not if they have your height/weight...

agreed. are you missing a zero or something? cordie is cornfused.

Original Post by allison7305:

Alcohol does not make you retain water. Alcohol inhibits ADH (antidiuretic hormone) which normally acts to make your kidneys keep sodium and water in your system when your blood volume is low. So when ADH is inhibited, you pee a lot and actually lose a lot of h2o from your system.

nice work lab partner. here's something cool you might not also know ---

vasopressin (other name for adh) rebounds when it is suppressed (the body releases more of it into the blood), so during hangover you have even more of this hormone in your bloodstream than normal (hence the water retention). high concentrations of vasopressin affect not only urine concentration in the kidneys, but blood pressure as well. this increase in blood pressure caused by increase (rebound) concentrations of vasopressin causes... BINGO, the hangover headache. neat, huh?

Original Post by bier:

From the Planned Parenthood website:

Each year, 2 out of 100 women whose partners use condoms will become pregnant if they always use condoms correctly.

Each year, 15 out of 100 women whose partners use condoms will become pregnant if they don't always use condoms correctly.

The problem with statistics is that we don't know how many times said couples had sex during that one year period. Those 2 or 15 women who became pregnant may have had twice as many sexual encounters as those who didn't.

they are probably actually expressing risk ratios in a way that does not scare off people who are bad at statistics/number comprehension. meaning, i'm sure they corrected for amount of sex in some way and the group risks are directly comparable.

Original Post by geturdone:

Original Post by chicanamama03:

Alcohol makes you retain a ton of water!  Try drinking more water to help flush the impurities out of your system.

 what, I thought alcohol dehydrates you?

I have heard both that it's a short term/ long term thing AND that individual bodies vary. I think it also has to do with what type of booze you drink, what you drink mixed with it, and how much salt you chomp when you get the drunken munchies.

Anyway, OP, i think you are being too all-or-nothing about this. If you become, in your words, one of the "people who fail," it won't be because you had some drinks over the weekend or because it goes on easy and off hard, or because of some wall. It will be because you're making an action flick out of what should be a nature documentary. You have to take the tension down a notch. You have to adjust to a horizon-view attitude. Stop counting days and cals and how long it took to put it on and how long to take it off.

Make long term, lifestyle changes. Celebrate when you hit a milestone, and shrug when you stumble. This is a long long long journey, to lose weight and to keep it off, so sit back and try to relax. I somehow doubt that so many people "fail"... (at what?? at reaching set-in-stone goals at breakneck pace?), but if they do it's probably because they do not figure in time for human error, patience for biology's nonlinear reactions to our efforts, and wiggle room for fun here and there.

If looking closely at the numbers helps keep you focused, use this as a data gathering opportunity, not a self-bashing fest. See how long it takes you to recover from this fun weekend, and compare it to the next weekend. Stroek your beard (real or imaginary) and say Hmmmm, Verrrrry EEnteresting. Cordie's first commandment: thou shalt be chill and kind to thyself.

best of luck!

Cordie

scallops are shellfish though, and i know they have more cholesterol than fish fish, so more cals too would make sense.

These stink. His response that it's ok with him to just be friends translates to "yes, please stay around me because I'm crazy about you and secretly hoping that you'll fall for me if you spend enough time with me." I don't think there's a good answer, and these rarely end well. If you keep hanging out with him the only good ending is that he'll get over it or get distracted by someone else. It's much more likely to end in an "I cant take this anymore just being friends with you so date me or goodbye" down the road. And those stink.

But whatever, life can't always be roses. It seems like you care about him since you're posting your concerns about him here. So be his friend, have fun, and, eventually, maybe, endure that yucky convo. As long as you don't do something lame and manipulative like act like a bitch on purpose so that he'll lose interest, then you aren't being unfair. 

I saw a man out on the trail yesterday wearing those. He was running in them and his small son was riding along on his little bike... I figured it was the boy equivalent of mom letting juniorette paint her nails and going out shopping with freddy kruger fingers out of love -- ("Daddy wear these shoes! I picked them out just for you!!") I had no idea adults are wearing those by choice. I consider myself very open minded, but those are some freakazoid looking shoes.

Crocs are ugly, but at least they are shaped like clogs, which are a kind of shoes that most people's brains already comprehend. Those vibram things come in slightly less jarring colors, I'll admit, but for goodness sakes, they are shaped like muppet feet, people!

When they make some shoes that are toe-separated on the inside/bottom, but not so egregiously look-at-me weird on top (there's no reason the top has to look like toes too) I'll consider them.

Original Post by trustwomen:

Original Post by corduroyfirekills3:

Original Post by trustwomen

 I have known some animal-rights activists who were among the most internally consistent and ethical people I have ever known.

Faith for the sake of faith (in ANY idea, person, what have you) is not virtuous. It's dangerous.

The belief that non-human animals are morally equal to humans cannot be classified on the stupid to smart spectrum. It's a moral belief that can't be validated or disproven by scientific inquiry, since it comes down to what the person values. It's not a matter of faith. Saying that animals are as intelligent as humans, or that if they were in our position they would be kinder to us than we are to them - that would be a statement of faith, but that's a different story.

It is interesting to see someone so boldly rail against faith on CC. As an agnostic atheist I agree with you, but you might get some responses lambasting this.

You misunderstood my point. This goes beyond this particular issue of vivisection/animal testing and is a reaction to your apparent applause of the quality of internal consistency. You say it doesn't matter if your moralistic friends are right or wrong (we can leave definitions of right and wrong, smart and stupid, etc. out of this too, because they are also irrelevant), but that they are commendable because of the fact that they stick by their beliefs, whatever they are. In other words, they are not hypocrites: their actions match their advertised beliefs, and they do not change their minds for special cases.

I do not find this to be a good quality in and of itself. I am a moral relativist. Whenever anyone asks me one of these moral ultimatum questions my answer is pretty much always "it depends."

I find it weird that in our culture it has become taboo to change one's mind in the public sphere -- the term 'flip-flopper' came about to disparage vote-panderers whose opinions changed with the popular trade winds; only recently has it broadened to become a pejorative toward a person who will (even wisely) revise their opinion in response to new evidence. Iraq anyone? Stay the course?

I thus am very wary of someone who values a person's "internal consistency" for its own sake. I don't care if someone has opinion A one day and opinion B the next, if the situation is changing. Tell me that your friend is a level-headed, analytical decision maker with excellent reasoning skills and I'll be interested. Tell me they're internally consistent and I'm more likely to avoid dealing with them. Especially if that's the best thing you have to say about them :)

And last, the issue does have to do with faith. Your friend has faith that animals have feelings and suffer. This is the principle that guides her internally consistent actions. You laud her for maintaining that faith when you say she's internally consistent, right or wrong. I had a friend who had faith that Milli Vanilli weren't really a pair of no-talent lip-synchers and that they'd be vindicated for the unfair rumors leveled against them and restored to their rightful place among the music royalty of our time. He held that belief strongly and guided his words and actions according to it; he was a model of internal consistency. Should we hold him in high regard, too?

Faith can be very useful. It can carry people through terrible situations, cause people to drop their defences and be there for their fellow man. It can unite us in common action, and drive us to do more than we thought possible in the face of daunting odds. When faith is invested in a worthy cause or ideal, it's an invaluable facet of human nature. However, since it by its nature requires the suspension of doubt and skepticism, it can very easily be abused or misplaced.

So it's not good enough to say faith is a virtue, that internal consistency is a virtue, and leave it at that. Faith, internal consistency, can be virtue or vice depending on what it's ascribed to.

That commercial came on and my bf and I let out a simultaneous "BWAAAA HAHAHAHA"... which is a typical reaction for me, but he is an unabashed eater. Orders two breakfasts when we go out (one sweet, one savory), finishes a whole pizza on his own, and I've seen him finish his own dozen donuts, but apparently Dominoes has found his threshhold for ridiculousness.

I too am surprised by the calories... surprised and suspicious, actually. My guess was 1600.

Original Post by ajumma:

 so apparently, yes a lot of the time the package will say 300g when it's actually more like 370 g...the reason being that they know pple might not buy if they knew how many calories were actually in that thing...

so they cheat...which is why it's better to weigh yourself

Like GI Jane says, they have to overestimate. The laws were put in effect in a pre-obese america (and the UK, it seems), when people still remembered when food companies scammed the poor by selling them non-nutritional food waste... they ate and ate things like "potato flour" but were starving because the "food" they were eating had no calories. Because of that, they're required to feed you at least as many calories as the label says - thus underestimating cals on the label is safe from a legal standpoint, but overestimating is illegal. So now that calories are cheap and we are all fat, it's just annoying.... but if you want to offload some of your anger and understand why such a law was important, read "The Jungle" by Upton Sinclair.