who should be in charge of weight gain??

Hi everyone! So, after months and months of attempted recovery from anorexia, during which I gained approximately 8 pounds in total in about 9 months, with a lot of ups and downs.  My BMI is very close to healthy, it is about 17.7, yet I am not menstruating.  After a day treatment program, trying to gain weight on my own, monitoring of meals, my parents have decided on the Maudsley technique. I've been doing it for the last week or so, but not completely obeying when I am not with them. My mom is again too frustrated and is handing the managing of my meals over to my dad, who is much harsher on me, and who will be very severe and strict. if i do not obey, i will be going to a residential treatment program. is this realistic? I'm too scared of gaining any more, though I want my period so much. it's just so hard for me to eat so much, i lose all will power to do anything. i know thats ED, but i dont know what to do. thank you for listening.

also, what are the best foods to incorporate more of to begin menstruating again? my parents are following a 2800 cal meal plan, but it ends up being around 24-25 when i completely obey it, but its very little fat.

for real??

u said u cant do it urself SOOOO i guess, someone else

unless u dont want to recover

i'm sorry i guess i didn't mention: if other people are doing the recovering for me, why won't i just relapse when I get my period? how do i stop these awful feelings and disgust

How old are you?

Only you can 'do the recovery'. Only you can relapse. It's your responsiblity; your parents are getting involved because they are petrified for your health. Your BMI is no where near healthy yet, either.

Do you have any doctors supporting you?

It would be great if you could recognize that the best option for you is to go into a residential treatment centre.

It won't matter where your BMI is or whether you get your period -- you are not in recovery and are using the eating disorder as a control issue against your parents.

And so, you will find every way you can to drag it out and keep on manipulating because you are an addict and that's what addicts do -- they manipulate all their loved ones so they can keep abusing themselves with the drug of choice (in your case, starvation).

And we've recently had another poster who has been completely kicked off these forums for similar "I'm the victim but all the while fighting, lying and manipulating to avoid any real recovery" posts.

So consider this as kind a warning as I can offer: you need to be in active recovery to be on these forums. You will receive tremendous support here once you take responsibility for that recovery.

Well, it sounds like at home, you're still incharge of the weight gain. Which won't work. Your body is not the only thing that's malnourished... but your brain is, too. Thus, you're unable to make rational decisions. It's integral that someone else makes important decisions (such as food/weight) for you at this time...

Apparently, this scenario isn't able to work at home. Thus, residental sounds like a solution. Once you reach a healthy weight, things will be easier to cope with. You have to get there first, and if residental is the only way of getting there, than you should go.

I know this isn't what you want to hear, but it's what you need. I had to be hospitalized initally (not residental or inpatient even), on bed rest, for three months. I hated it, but it saved my life. Hopefully this can save yours too...