CHEATERS....What is America Coming to?

HEHEHE..so check it it people…

 

I knew America was F’ed up, but DAMN!!!! When you are married…that’s it man…no more chasin’ booty.  They have a site where married people can go on and cheat on their husband or wife.  WTF.  And get this….ohhhhh you’re gunna love this...the site: AshleyMadison.com is named after the guy’s daughters…and they are like little kids.  I guess this really is the home of the free and brave where people can profit off of cheating spouses.  Not only that, but he even made the slogan “Life is short…Why not have an affair”…hahahaha.  I gotta give it to him though…he is exploiting something that will make him rich….QUICK!!!!!.

I told my girl if she ever saw me on that crap … that she has the permission to shoot me in the eyeball and rip off my balls.  I mean what do you think seeing a site like this? By the way…some women might want to check and see if their husbands are on there…you might get a RUDE surprise!!!!!!

The idea of a homewrecker is very old fashioned and really quite silly. The home wrecker is the one who cheats. Very few people go out and try to break up a marriage. And if those who do are successful, then the marriage wasn't so good in the first place.

I think the reason some men & women are attracted when they see a ring on a finger is for ego-feeding, pure and simple. They want to feel that THEY are so desirable and hot as to lure someone away who is already spoken for. I think this because guys who hit on me ask if I have a man, I say "yes", and they start to insist "Well, I'm better than your man" or "Your man don't need to know", etc. I'm not saying this is always the reason people do it, but there is definitely a sort of person out there who I think sees it as a special triumph.

Others though will see a ring and think it's not worth the hassle, or be morally opposed to adultery, so for them you could say it repels.

As far as people being judgemental...at what point do you feel someone is unfairly judging another? I'm asking sincerely. I think it's only natural for people to have opinions and judgements on -not just cheating, but anything really.(You know the old saying on what opinions are like I'm sure!) At what point does it cross the line?

 It's dishonorable. Period. Regardless, of anyone's attempt to justify it to ammend their actions or that of others. Imho. From the inside going out or outside coming in. Either way. Dishonorable form.

What entertains me is the "variables" people come up with...like, "What if the sex is "dead" and the husband is otherwise happy?" "Doesn't want to "mess up" his current relationship...so he justifies lying.

My 17 year old had the same thoughts last year, he talked to me about it. He was dating a girl a few years younger..and she wasn't ready for sex. He is. He really cared about her, but she wasn't "putting out"...so he talked about meeting up with a random girl who was willing...but that he was not dating. He felt since he wasn't getting what he felt he needed and deserved in his romantic relationship...he could have a little something on the side without telling his girlfriend. Of course, I couldn't tell him what to do..but I did tell him that if he was going to screw around, that he needed to break up with his girlfriend first. NOT to lie to her. That it was ultimately deceitful and mean. If he wasn't ready for an actual girlfriend yet, that he shouldn't have one.

This is how I feel about marriage. If you aren't ready to be managomous...do not get married. Do not lie to someone for your own selfish gain so that  you can ultimately hurt the other party in the end. No matter how convenient it seems. Be honorable. To yourself and to others.

Original Post by coffincritter:

I think the reason some men & women are attracted when they see a ring on a finger is for ego-feeding, pure and simple. They want to feel that THEY are so desirable and hot as to lure someone away who is already spoken for. I think this because guys who hit on me ask if I have a man, I say "yes", and they start to insist "Well, I'm better than your man" or "Your man don't need to know", etc. I'm not saying this is always the reason people do it, but there is definitely a sort of person out there who I think sees it as a special triumph.

Others though will see a ring and think it's not worth the hassle, or be morally opposed to adultery, so for them you could say it repels.

As far as people being judgemental...at what point do you feel someone is unfairly judging another? I'm asking sincerely. I think it's only natural for people to have opinions and judgements on -not just cheating, but anything really.(You know the old saying on what opinions are like I'm sure!) At what point does it cross the line?

Well. I believe there is a realization that we can judge an action by someone without casting judgement sending them to " hell " or whatever. We all have opionions on circumstances, but we aren't judging the person as a whole. ( That's their job or whatever God they believe in...ect. )Everyone has things about them we like and dislike. Things that we deem honorable or dishonorable actions. That doesn't mean that they we're deeming them a good or bad person. I consider it placing judgement on the action itself not the person.

i always thought that the reason men will go after a married woman was because they DON'T want anything long term, and with her being already taken, the most they can get from her is a fling, which is what they want anyway, and adhering to no ethical system that would require otherwise, they go for the married booty

it never occurred to me that these men just wanted to demonstrate their superiority at boinking

*considers*

Haa. There are so many different theories behind the reason. I find it odd when they play the confused victim as to ' why ' they do/did what they do/did. 

It's just the same blah from either stand point in my view.

Women, as well as Men...go after married people. Why? Not sure....I think women like men in a relationship because they see that he is capable of a relationship...plus..I think women are far more competitive than men are. They want to see if they can "steal" a man away from someone else...temporarily making themselves feel superior. Until they are stuck with a schmuck that they know someone else is fully capable of stealing from THEM.

The sexiest person is one that loves their partner...and everyone KNOWS that no one else could possibly steal them away. That's attractive.

Original Post by monarch777:

Women, as well as Men...go after married people. Why? Not sure....I think women like men in a relationship because they see that he is capable of a relationship...plus..I think women are far more competitive than men are. They want to see if they can "steal" a man away from someone else...temporarily making themselves feel superior. Until they are stuck with a schmuck that they know someone else is fully capable of stealing from THEM.

The sexiest person is one that loves their partner...and everyone KNOWS that no one else could possibly steal them away. That's attractive.

 Exactly.  That's what I was saying earlier. A lot of women/men have self worth issues so it's a form of validation. They actually compare themselves to the spouse. If they ' get ' their man or woman that makes them superior or the same level. It's like a competition to feel better about themselves.

There shouldn't be any chains holding your spouse to you. I agree. They should be with you because that's where they want to be. Period. That's how I feel about my relationship with my husband. It seems like people make it complicated and difficult when in reality it's that simple. If not, let each other go.. I'm a firm believer that if you're with the right person it is that simple.

 Too many people seek validation through others when they only place they had to look for it was within. I'd rather be alone than with someone that wasn't faithful to me. It meant something to me when I made vows to my husband. I'd rather be alone than option:

a) with someone that cheats on their spouse to be with me

 or

b) with a spouse that cheats

People are too caught up with being ' with someone ' to realize that sometimes it's not in their best interest. Either way. Alone is just better in my view. At least when you're alone there is the ' idea ' of someone right for you out there. Someone faithful that's actually with you because that's where they want to be, ect.