Christians In Premarital Sexual Relationships

I just do not get it.  I see it everywhere, and never, ever get over the shock that so many think it's acceptable Christian behavior.  

You mean christians engaging in premarital sex? I didn't think it was wrong to have a relationship before you got married, lol. 

lol you need a premarital relationship for there to be marriage... no?

No min, we Christians do arranged marriages now.  Hadn't you heard? ;)  No offense to the OP, just kidding around...

Its ok, they just confess after they are married and god forgives them. (You can do that after murdering someone too! Its really a handy loophole!)

Ok, let's not make this into another bash on Christians thread.  I'm so sick of seeing those!!

Indeed 

I wasnt bashing! Its the truth! Its just what they believe!

Its like you coming up to me and saying "You believe the world is round", its not bashing...its just stating how it is.

Didnt even say if it was good or bad, just said that it was handy (ok, that sounds like i thought it was good.... but it is good! It really is handy! Otherwise after someone did something bad, they would have to find a new religion or commit suicide...and that would get messy).

It sounded more like mocking to me...

But then it is hard to know HOW someone says something when it's on the computer =P

Pfft, you would probably think its mocking if i said.

"They believe jesus is the son of god... and will come back to earth someday to kill us all"

Pfft, its just the belief system, im not doing anything but re-stating what is already written down (just in less words).

See lorik, the thing is, the sarcastic comments have a tendency to make people feel like they are being attacked (not me mind you, I don't know you well enough for you to tick me off and based on many of your posts bet I would like you IRL) then these people come out and defend their beliefs (because they feel they have been attacked).  Then more people come in to say how stupid those beliefs are(with or without supporting their statements), which causes more people to come in and defend (with or without evidence) and BAM, full on Christian bashing debate...

It's happened many times.

Ohhh, I guess im just the fuse...not the bomb :/

Then maybe to avoid christian bashing, they should post their beliefs on christian forums rather than weight loss forums. 

Or we could try to be accepting of the fact that many people have beliefs that they hold very dearly, that we don't/can't/won't understand.  I'm sure you don't mean to suggest that we should segregate all Christians to Christian forums, but I think everyone, Christians and non-Christians could do a bit better at realizing that people aren't always gonna think the way you do.

Sorry, I know I sound like Miss Mary Sunshine trying to save the world right now but I get sooooo sick of all of this non-stop drama.  Everything seems to desolve into a heated debate meant to tick off or put down one group of people and validate another.

It's the nature of the beast (for Christianity to stir up controversy wherever it goes). If people can't hack it, they shouldn't get involved in online conversations. You can't tell people what they can and cannot say and HOW to say it. Just like you can't make someone NOT feel offended even if what was said was not MEANT to be offensive. We are ALL privy to our OWN perceptions and interpretations.

I guess the original post was meant to discuss premarital relaTIONS, as in sex, not relationSHIPS. I'm not a Christian but I never get over the shock myself. I went to church when I was a kid -- I know what religion and Christianity are all about. But people interpret the bible in many different ways, some do it to suit their own lifestyles ... I'll tell you one thing though -- I always thought a person should KNOW you are a Christian by your ACTIONS. Of the people I know, if I didn't already know they were Christians, I'd NEVER know. They are some of THE WORST people out there. I know people that talk about God one minute and the next they're drinking and drugging and sleeping around -- HOW is THAT ok??? Like Lorik said though, they think all they have to do is ask for forgiveness when they're done. I REALLY DON'T think that's the way it was MEANT to be. Yes, it can be done and supposedly you are forgiven but it's WRONG to blatantly do wrong and know you can just be forgiven ...

Monie, it's the Lounge.  They can talk about whatever they want.

You see it everywhere? Relations, or relationships? Because if you're seeing relations everywhere, I'd like to know where you live.

 

And so can I. It's not really the thread that bothered me so much as everyone chiming in not to "christian bash". If they can post their beliefs in a public forum, they should also realise that many others believe differently and as such can post. Just seems like a weird site to post stuff like this and not want an negative response to it.

Anyways, it's not a big deal. It's the lounge, it's meant for random stuff. There's no need to get upset over internet forums. : )

And I too am curious as to how you are seeing so many people having relations, I hope you mean knowing they are having it rather than walking in, as that can be rather awkward I imagine. :P

nods

Somebody posts that premarital relationships (whatever that means, sex I guess) are shocking and unacceptable, and that's ok. It's intimated that idea is shocking and unacceptable and all of a sudden we're Christian bashing and that's not ok? Whatever.

Ok, perhaps I should explain myself.  I think pre-marital relationships are terrific.  Pre-marital relations, also fine.  I would have said so myself.  Bash away on that issue all you want.  My thing is people tend to go off the issue and spiral into "well Christians in general are stupid because they believe this and that and the other thing" (obviously paraphrased, but if you've read some of the threads I have you'll know it's not that far off base)  You can't tell me that that's not inflamatory and intended to hurt somebody.  I didn't say anybody was Christian bashing, but I have seen many threads that start this way go that route.

By the way, what I assumed the OP was looking for, just based on the way the post was stated is how Christians justify the behavior to themselves while still calling themselves Christian (since it's supposedly against the teachings of the church)  Not an all out condemnation of it.  Maybe I'm giving too much credit.

Ok, sorry, I didn't mean to tick everyone off and cause more drama, was trying to avoid it actually.