Does this comment ever bug anyone else?

When reading about healthy weight loss and whatnot, one of the little tips I read was to tell everyone you knew that you were trying to lose weight so it would keep you accountable.

So I did just that!  If someone asked me what I was up to these days, I told them straightout that I am losing weight by eating healthy and exercising.  I always get some variation of "that's great"  "good luck" and so on.

Yet when I see these people a few weeks later and they ask how I'm doing with my weight loss and I announce that I'm down 13 lbs, the first thing I get is "oh it's just water weight-it won't last" and the like.

I don't give a darn if its "just water weight".  The fact of the matter is the scale now reads 13 lbs less than it did four weeks ago.  I am not bragging about this and I only say it when directly asked about my weight loss goals.

I just don't understand why people can't be supportive instead of always trying to drag you down.  Just curious if anyone else ever hears this.

Perhaps those people also need to lose weight and they are jealous you are doing so well. Keep up the good work and ignore poeple who don't have enough sense to support you!

I seen the lady that I used to work with for the first time in three weeks.  She has been trying to lose weight as well, but does not want to change her eating habits.  Last night she did not say anything to me, but I overheard her talking to another girl about how hard she tries and is not losing anything.  She was almost in tears.  I did not know what to say.  I did not say anything about my weight loss to her. 
When I worked with her all she every said to me was that I ate to much.  Funny I am still eating too much and I have lost a size since I worked with her.

I was pleasantly surprised today (I'm down 12 pounds so far) that my co-worker at work said that she can tell I've lost weight. And I don't think she said it to be nice either. :).   And, yeah- I agree- when people tell you that it is only water weight- I think they are jealous so just try to take it with a grain of salt!

Oh my!  Where did they think your body was hiding 13 pounds of water?!  There are some people in the world who are just negative, ignore them.  Then there's folks who feel guilty because they know darn well that they should be trying to be healthy too, so they make stupid justifications and comments.  Ignore them too!  The folks saying stupid things about water weight after your weeks of hard work will just have to eat their words as you continue to change the way you look and feel.  I agree with the tell everyone theory.  I find that the people who matter to me will be supportive, and the fact that I'm trying to lose weight is out in the open really helps me stay motivated.  Yes, there will be the occasional naysayer.  Don't pay any attention to them.  Pay attention to the folks who do support you and pay attention to your own self.  You'll have the last word when you are as fit and healthy as you want to be!

the only people i tell about my weight loss goals are the ones closest to me. Anyone else i feel might not know me well enough to care and i dont except them too. I think that in our country where weight has become such an issue the word weight loss has been thrown around so much people just really dont take anyone else seriously unless they actually see the actual weight loss. (excuse my bad spelling) but yes its frustrating when people are not supportive or feel happy for us but i think CC has helped me a great deal by talking to people who are supportive and are in the same boat as we are

I can't stand the "it's water weight, it won't last" comment. My mom and boyfriend are particularly bad at giving that comment, but some of my friends do as well. At first I would get angry at them for saying that, but now I just repeat to them that I drink over 100oz of water a day and I still weigh X amount less than a month ago, so a lack of water is not what's behind my weight loss :p

Seriously, some people are plain stupid and rude. You could ask, without being rude: "Really? How do you know? Do you have any experience with that? Please tell me about it, I want to hear!"

Let them explain themselves and if they can't, oh well.:)

See, we are not all doctors here, but we are all focused on the same goal. Don't let some rotten ignorant ruin your day. 13 pounds is an impressive number! I'm trying to lose a total of 19 pounds and let me tell you, it IS an accomplishment to lose weight, any weight, specially if you are keeping yourself healthy.

Cheers!

Well said Brisa.  It always amazes me, that people will come out and say you have gained some weight and you have actually lost some weight.

It's funny how people use projection to repress the reality that they need to lose weight as well.  It's quite an awful self-destructive defense mechanism if you ask me.

" I just don't understand why people can't be supportive instead of always trying to drag you down." -- Jamie79

It's the "question" I've been asking all of my life ... I suppose some reasons could be ignorance and/or jealousy. I think it CAN be a good idea to let everyone know -- it can help to keep you accountable -- but you have to be willing to endure the bad with the good (e.g., UNsupportive people). Personally, I'd think of a good comeback ... one that was sugar sweet so that you are not stooping to their level, yet you're letting them know that they're unsupportive comments really aren't appreciated. Actually, why don't you just come up with a cookie-cutter response for all of those naysayers: "Thank you for your support." Say it with a smile! :)

There was a woman in one of my running groups who was an evangelical South Beacher, and was convinced that it was impossible to lose weight without cutting out sugar.  When I mentioned that I had lost 8lbs (this was last October) and still indulged in the sweet stuff, she insisted that I would never lose abdominal fat if I ate sugar.  I told her that I had lost almost all the weight off my midsection.  She paused, the said "Well, in a few months when you plateau, you'll have to read South Beach, and find out that eliminating sugar is the only way to go."

It's been a few months and I've lost almost 24lbs, and I still eat sugar (in fact, I had apple pie and ice cream for dessert tonight).

There are people out there who, for whatever reasons, will rarely accept other people's weight loss (or other successes) as "real".  But I'm sure that you know from the fit of your clothes and the way your body feels that those 13 pounds were very real.   Continue on with what you're doing, and as your body continues to transform, they'll either shut up or maybe find some inspiration.

:D   ok I'm sitting here picturing someone's body holding 13lbs of water.

jiggly jiggly 

I get that too...I've lost 12.6lbs since jan 2, and if I hear that "water" comment one more time.....

hang in there!  you can post here and never hear that water comment, that's why i keep coming back.

yah, seriously, unless you are a KoolAid mascot, there is no way that 13 lbs is water weight! Don't listen to them. You gotta be able to filter the comments from bad remarks to constructive criticism.

People are strange about other's weight loss. 13 pounds is great. Whatever the source of those 13 pounds...it 13 pounds more healthy for you. (Water counts too..it raises your blood pressure.)

Congrats on being 13 pounds healthier!

Maybe this has said already, if so forgive me.

My reply: "One might think so, but I drink nearly a gallon of water a day!"

I was watching Dr. Phil last week, and he talked about something very similar to this.  I liked what he said so much, I wrote it in my journal.

It's called leveling.  It's when someone either cuts another person down, or inflates themselves to get everyone on the same "level."  He said it's something that people who are lacking self-confidence or are jealous may do.

Hope that helps....  PS.  I really doubt that 13 pounds is water weight... so CONGRATULATIONS

I don't know how sympathetic the room will be to this one, but as a guy losing weight, I am sick to death of women telling me "Oh men can lose weight much easier than women can". 

Yep.  I just lounge around all day eating bon bons and watching TV and the pounds just fall off!! 

I know for quitting smoking I told everyone I knew I quit.  When I first started to diet and exercise I didn't tell anyone.  NOt even my family.  It wasn't until the weight started falling off me that the comments on how good I was looking happened.  I guess I was hesitant to say anything just in case I couldn't stick to it. 

Keep up the great work for yourself.  Don't listen to the nay sayers.  Do it for you and if you don't see these people for several months they will have a jaw dropping experience the next time they see you - trust me.  This happened to me and even now even though when I quit smoking I put back on 25 lbs I see people who just can't believe its me and some who don't recognize me and I had only origianly lost 55 lbs.

I think that if we would all just think about what we say before we speak, the world would be a much better place....When my children were young we would watch Bambi and I've always quoted thumper...If you aint got nothin nice to say, dont say nothin at all!  The world needs to be a better place so lets all try and do this!

Splitrail....I think its not easy no matter your sex.  I like the bon bon comment...I think you should use it! Ha!