Comparing Frustation

My God. I have this huge problem. I always watch what everyone else (who is thin) eats, I try to eat less!. I compare myself to them!!! And that is killing meee! Becuase each time that someones less than me... I come to a trauma, literraly! And I began to beocme anxius,,,

I was woderign if any of you also do this? Do you have some advices for me to stop making this??

yes yes yes, all the time.  We need to learn to listen to our bodies though and not watch those around us because of course we all have different matabolisms and we all eat differently.  You never know they could have just eaten before you saw them or maybe they had a huge breakfast and are therefore having a smaller lunch.  Ya never know, but I def know what you mean!! The ED does it to us all.

Oh!Its feel good to know Im not theonly one who compares with everyone!!

I hope we could ignore evertyone that  ED does to as...If you manage to stop comparing, please let me know how you did it!!

I used to do it. Then I reminded myself I am me and I am who matters, not what the people around me are eating and doing. Who cares if they're eating as they are, because it's their body. But do not let it affect what you are doing and your own recovery. Focus on yourself. Love yourself!

Disclaimer: I am probably the logical dunce here, but I just have to say...

Who cares who eats what?!  Isn't the point what are your goals and what do you need to get there?

I need 4000 calories to gain weight.  I need to gain weight to get the most out of my life and have the best potential long term.

My sister needs 2000 cals to lose weight. I won't get into reasons why because that's besides the point BUT....

Why should I limit my self and where I can be because of what she's....eating?  I'd rather eat comparable to her than get to my real goals?  I don't think so!

I thinks tons of people do that. i use to do it. but you know everyone here think the same thing. YOU are YOU!  if we all were the same, look the same or eat the same, then where is the fun?.

and by the way spunkysmiles i totally agree with you who caaaaaaaaaaaaaaressss ! :D

So Camilita, just think what is the best for YOU, not for the person next to you. and if you can handle this thougths then you'll know you can control your mind and your life (:

OMG. I doooo

I compare with my Mom. She is much smaller than I am. She doesnt have to gain weight but I try to like make her eat more than me. But since I am bulimic, i basically throw up my food and she still consumed it. SO my mom gains weight while I either lose or maintain.

I try to eat more to gain but then I freak myself out. I am 5'5 and 104 pounds. I want to be 115, but I get scared to put on a pound. UGH. I get so frustrated thinking that i would try harder the next day but my mind is so weak. =[

twirler, some of the ways you phrase stuff is really triggering for other people. just a heads up.