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A Course in Weight Loss: 21 Spiritual Lessons for Surrendering Your Weight Forever


By +Diane Petrella on Dec 02, 2010 10:00 AM in Dieting & You

By Diane Petrella, MSW

A Course in Weight Loss: 21 Spiritual Lessons for Surrendering Your Weight Forever, by New York Times bestselling author Marianne Williamson, is probably the only book you need to help you lose weight permanently. This brilliant book boldly speaks to the fundamental truth about weight loss: to release excess weight from your body you must release the toxic weight from your spirit. And Williamson, whose works are based on the concepts explained in A Course in Miracles, shows you how.

A Spiritual Solution 

Williams’ spirituality is of the New Age kind, but this book would help almost anyone who believes in a higher power. I think it’s like an angel on your shoulder guiding you to weight-loss heaven. If you’re not oriented to spiritual matters, you may be put off by this book, but please give it a try.  Williamson offers twenty-one spiritual lessons that will help you make the shift from merely changing your diet to changing your consciousness.  You will finally release the weight from your body because you will learn how to release the weight from your mind.

This is not a diet book about what to eat and how to exercise. It’s not that Williamson doesn’t promote these, but she does so within the spirit of self-love.  When you connect deeply with yourself, and listen to your inner wisdom, you naturally are guided to eating nourishing food and to feel inspired to move your body because it uplifts your spirit and it finally feels natural to do so.  A Course in Weight Loss offers you this pathway to self-love.

Working Through Fear

Williamson refers to self-sabotaging beliefs and negative thinking as one’s “fear-mind”. The fear-mind holds onto those subconscious beliefs that relentlessly sabotage weight loss efforts. The best diet plan in the world can’t outsmart the fear-mind. That’s why so many programs fail. It’s not that the programs in and of themselves aren’t sound, but they are no match for a subconscious arsenal of self-sabotaging strategies designed to protect the fear-mind.

Williamson also addresses the subset of dieters who were damaged by childhood abuse and neglect.  The effects of those experiences, especially sexual abuse, remain in one’s subconscious. Williamson asserts that what those dieters most fear is not that they won’t lose weight, but that they will become beautiful. Until one is healed from the emotional effects of earlier abuse, one cannot effectively lose weight because it unconsciously will not feel safe to do so.  According to Williamson, what needs to be healed isn’t the diet, it’s the spirit.

A Course in Weight Loss offers spiritual lessons to help you emerge from the darkness of self-hatred and expand into the lightness of self-love.  Powerful visualization and writing exercises accompany each lesson. An elegant process, these exercises are meant to be savored. Take your time. Trust this process. If you become impatient, recognize this as the fear-mind tempting you to give up with taunts of “it’s not working anyway.” Take the time necessary to release the fear that has burdened your heart for so long because with this comes the promise of releasing excess weight from your body forever.


Your thoughts....

What beliefs do you need to release from your mind so you can release weight from your body?


Diane Petrella, MSW is a psychotherapist and life coach. Earlier in her career she co-founded the first child sexual abuse treatment program in the state of Rhode Island. She offers her clients a spiritual approach to weight loss and helps them develop a loving, respectful relationship with their bodies. Receive a free copy of Diane's Seven Easy & Effortless Weight Loss Secrets by signing up for her monthly e-newsletter, Living Lightly and learn spiritual insights and tips to release weight with ease. To contact Diane directly visit her website at www.dianepetrella.com.



Comments


I purchased the audiable of this book this week.  So far they book is directing you to go thru one lesson a day.  However, I am opting to do a lesson a week.  This week I am focusing on the layers fat or bricks I built around me that has not be allowing me to move forward in my weight loss journey.  She gives you a list but I have come up with my own.  I definetly understand why I have not connected my spiritual self with my physical self.  But of course I also listen to Eat, Pray, Love and it too had a profound affect on my spiritual being.



I've actually been wondering about this for the past few days~ Since spirituality's a part of most of my life, I was wondering how it would connect to losing weight. That's pretty cool that somebody's come up with a book for that issue as well as tapping into your psyche C:



It is important to deal with issues of low self-esteem and self-identity. For those with a spiritual bent, the approach may well be helpful; It was not for me, at least not in the long run, though I was NOT using this book, just a  "spiritual/religious" approach. 

I lost weight and was really into the approach -- for about 4 months... then it just sort of dissipated, and I regained the weight. 

IMHO these are two separate issues.  If you are dealing with depression and self-image problems, then spending time with a competent therapist can be invaluable.  If you are dealing with weight and fitness issues, spending time with a competent nutritionist or trainer is likewise invaluable. 

Eating is not an emotional issue, per se.  It is an inappropriate choice as a response to stress (and studies show that it is probably an effective one,which makes things harder.) Dealing with emotional or spiritual issues will make you a happier person, but it may not change how you eat.

I would rate myself as a 9 on the happiness/emotional/spiritually-content scale, but still need to log my food and step on a scale, and kick myself to the fitness center, if I want to keep my weight down.

If the book helps folks get their emotional/spiritual lives together, that is a wonderful thing.  For most of us, getting to and maintaining a healthy weight is going to require other tools besides, and for that, thank you CC!

 

 



[quote]This brilliant book boldly speaks to the fundamental truth about weight loss: to release excess weight from your body you must release the toxic weight from your spirit.[/quote]

 

The only way to "release" excess weight from your body is to expend more calories than you consume.  That's it.  The only weight this book wiil help you release -- is weight from you wallet.

 



Just for the heck of it – could we have a conversation here that focuses on YES – This Works For Me!!  ? ? ?         

IMHO – this works for me – happier-ME makes better health choices including working out and eating good foods in a moderate way.  I am an adult survivor of childhood sexual abuse and have spent years/tons of time+money with various shrinks/therapists/etc/etc/etc/...  Out here in the world is where the rubber-meets-the-pavement and I put these new coping techniques into use.  I'm glad to have Calorie Count + community available to do this with me.       

More conversation please!  I’m excited to get input from other like-minded and health conscious folks on this journey!  Smile  



Original Post by: sjack827

[quote]This brilliant book boldly speaks to the fundamental truth about weight loss: to release excess weight from your body you must release the toxic weight from your spirit.[/quote]

 

The only way to "release" excess weight from your body is to expend more calories than you consume.  That's it.  The only weight this book wiil help you release -- is weight from you wallet.

 


 You forget though.  We're women, we can't understand those concepts. 

Only through our deep spirituality can we possibly overcome the demons that lead us to being overweight.  Mainly perhaps, lack of nutritional education, being bombarded with books that explain to us why we're not as good as we should be, or just being talked down to in general. 

We can only be our true selves once we get rid of the aspects of our personalities that retard our progress--and by that I mean the aspects that make us unique. 

They're right you know.  This is ALL we need to lose weight permanently.  I can feel my soul ascend and the pounds fly off already.



I was hoping to read an article rather then an advertisement. I felt this posting was an advertisement for the book.

I do agree that you have to be spritiually/mindfully ready before any weight loss change will work. I started calorie count over a year ago, and only recenlty have I started to lose any weight. I only started to see change in weight when I changed my thought pattern.

Good luck to all fellow calorie counters.



It would be nice if this self help book really helps.  I'm skeptical.  For most of us, there isn't an underlying emotional problem. 

You have to put in the hard work that is necessary to maintain a healthy weight.  We know what to do.  It's just not easy to do it.



Original Post by: miskwaabigoons

Just for the heck of it – could we have a conversation here that focuses on YES – This Works For Me!!  ? ? ?         

IMHO – this works for me – happier-ME makes better health choices including working out and eating good foods in a moderate way.  I am an adult survivor of childhood sexual abuse and have spent years/tons of time+money with various shrinks/therapists/etc/etc/etc/...  Out here in the world is where the rubber-meets-the-pavement and I put these new coping techniques into use.  I'm glad to have Calorie Count + community available to do this with me.       

More conversation please!  I’m excited to get input from other like-minded and health conscious folks on this journey!  Smile  


Amen! 

And the first comment did just that so, who else has had success with this book or is, at the least, in the middle of it?

My husband and I lead a God-based health and wellness group and the ideas within this book are intriguing.  Anyone else read it and have something to say about the book and not about what else we should be doing instead?



Original Post by: cynsop

It would be nice if this self help book really helps.  I'm skeptical.  For most of us, there isn't an underlying emotional problem. 

You have to put in the hard work that is necessary to maintain a healthy weight.  We know what to do.  It's just not easy to do it.


cynsop -- Anyone who says there is no underlying emotional problem to being overweight is in denial...we ALL have some emotional issue.  Even those these words are harsh, please read on...

That's not saying it has to be something huge like past sexual abuse or some crime against us.  We have used food as an emotional comforter, sometimes without even realizing it. 

When I have the flu, I tend to want to comfort myself with food!  (I didn't know this for years!)  Thinking about that, there must be some reason why I do that.  Putting in the hard work is being done but hard work goes out the window when I get the flu.  However, I can learn the emotional reasons why I want to use food to comfort myself, along with the hard work and thus become successful.

We all need and use tools to be successful.  As a triad human being (physical/emotional/spiritual) all sides need to be equal in order to be successful...therefore, we must look at the spiritual side of our overeating as well as what we put in our mouth and how many times we exercise each week.

Thanks for listening :)



I consider emotional eating normal.  Food is legal comfort.  It's easy to obtain & socially acceptable.  Most of us only need to lose 10-30 lbs.  We need all of the tools to help us.  I'm not sure everyone would benefit from this book.



Original Post by: cynsop

I consider emotional eating normal.  Food is legal comfort.  It's easy to obtain & socially acceptable.  Most of us only need to lose 10-30 lbs.  We need all of the tools to help us.  I'm not sure everyone would benefit from this book.


I absolutely agree.  That's why there are so many different books out there.  Each one of us is her own individual!  I'm not even sure this book is right for me but I'm researching to make an informed decision :)

Blessings to you!



More please - anyone else this book resonates with?  Anyone else who has or is exploring these ideas?  I'm listening for:  YES – This Works For Me!!  LOL   

Thanks! 



This is all new age garbage and It's not for me.



Here is a free online course that focuses on the spiritual side of weight loss (and finally being freed from the sin of gluttony). I am taking this course now and it has done wonders for me! It's called 'The Lord's Table' and it can be found at www.settingcaptivesfree.com (they will even assign you a real-life mentor. It's been extremely helpful).

Merry Christmas everyone! :)



I just finished the audiobook this week, and started listening it again yesterday, because I wanted to process the information before starting the exercises....I already did the first lesson and it feels amazingly good to process those feelings for the first time. It has lifted a lot of weight from my heart.   Fridgelight, maybe it didn't have anything to do with you because you have other issues not related to your emotions or your spirituality, but for many of us it does. As with any approach to weight loss, not everything works for everyone. 



Oh my. I read some of the comments and I see pleanty of folks who are moving through thier life in a curious and open way. There is a small number of people who are stuck and living in fear. Blessings on you all for where ever you are in your life journey.

Personally, I do now see the mind/body/spirit connection. It's powerful and this sounds like a book that would be a delicious read. I like the idea of examing a chapter a week and savoring mulling over the concepts and how they fit with me personally and my weight loss and more specifically maintenance.

We are all connected. I wish you well, blessings. K 



Original Post by: skjaldmeyjar

Here is a free online course that focuses on the spiritual side of weight loss (and finally being freed from the sin of gluttony). I am taking this course now and it has done wonders for me! It's called 'The Lord's Table' and it can be found at www.settingcaptivesfree.com (they will even assign you a real-life mentor. It's been extremely helpful).

Merry Christmas everyone! :)


Thank you for the link!  This too looks like a fantastic move in the right direction.  And it's FREE! 



junie79, sigletsig, kimbahley, alexndria, skjaldmeyjar, lisamariezayas, kyfox - - - Thank you for your positive and uplifting contributions to my day.    

 

My cultural teachings are Native American and tell us that we are made up of 4 parts – spiritual, emotional, physical and mental.  To be a whole and well person, I strive to find balance in all 4.  Some people (not my Indian reservation so much) relate these to the Medicine Wheel which is present is all, for example the 4 directions – East, South, West and North.  I believe we can have a supportive and loving conversation here and respect all beliefs.

On the other hand – I will attribute yoga will contributing a great deal to the quality of life – my home practice is my morning meditation time.     

In general, I am often repelled rather than attracted by condemnation and that language.  This causes me to read postings with care – if the conversation turns into snipes and keyboard banging, it’s downer for me and time to turn my computer off.  So this is leading into my lazy way of asking if anyone is aware of a spiritual forum on CC that is open and welcoming of all? 



Original Post by: cynsop

I consider emotional eating normal.  Food is legal comfort.  It's easy to obtain & socially acceptable.  Most of us only need to lose 10-30 lbs.  We need all of the tools to help us.  I'm not sure everyone would benefit from this book.


I agree, but then I don't benefit from the articles posted here about how to lose your baby weight (given that I've never had and don't intend to have a baby). Still, I accept that there are people out there who WOULD benefit from this book, and I don't begrudge them that, as some of the posters about this article seem to be doing.

Skepticism is healthy. Denigrating a tool because it might not work for you, and thereby discouraging someone who might actually benefit from it, is not so much.

I began to gain weight because my emotional/spiritual life was thrown out of balance through a terrible change at my former job and, finding few other ways to deal with it until I got my new job, I started to answer it with food. Even at the new job, I was struggling not to answer with food while my stress levels were equalizing. I figured that out and was able to work on correcting the emotional triggers that led me to gain weight, and now I'm doing much better.

Balance is good.



This book is amazing-I am reading it now.  It has helped me so much, and I'm only halfway through!  I have it on loan from the library, but will be buying it shortly!



Regarding this book, I don't think many people have read it yet because I just came out - but it is Number 4 on The New York Times Hardcover Advice & Miscellaneous Best Seller List this week.  I see it as in the same vein as other spiritually-based programs, like the Jesus-based programs, Overeaters Anonymous, Geneen Roth's books,  etc.  I see these holy ideas as spanning most belief systems and nicely augmenting what Calorie Count offers.  You know, we have so many dimensions: physical, spiritual, intellectual, social, emotional, and occupational that we have to mind to reach self-actualization. I’ll always remember a question asked by one of my patients, a female minister, who said, “Why is this weight loss’s dirty secret?” (meaning the spiritual and emotional aspects.)



The best book I've read on diet to date is "Good Calories, Bad Calories" by Gary Taubes. It's based on actual science not diet fads or emotion. It's a thick, "hard" read, but a long overdue wakeup call to doctors, the health industry and to all of us who follow their advice. I guarantee it'll become your bible, if I may be allowed to use "spiritual" terminology.



You can read the first chapter free on Amazon.  This is a good way to see if you relate to the book.



 Here's a quote from the book:  "The love that will free you is a love that comes from beyond your mortal mind.  It is a Divine intercession from a thought system beyond our own.  Placing your problems in the hands of God, the situation it represents will be recreated.  That which is imperfect becomes perfect".  

This runs so contrary to almost all other Calorie Count articles. The success story titles are always written in the first person, as if to emphasize that our actions are what counts, and that our eating is something we have full control of.  So, why is it that whenever the word 'spirituality' is brought up in a CC article, we're expected to jump for joy at the sentiment that weight-loss is not actually something we can do through 'mortal' means.   Of course it is! 

This book emphasizes in the vaguest terms imaginable that our habits are both in and out of our hands.  Maybe that's okay to think about if you're reading 30 diets books.  However, surely if there were a definitive book for weight loss to recommend, it wouldn't be a New Age, wish-washy, Oprah-approval-seeking, talking points exploiting, misuse of the female psyche self-help book based off the author's interpretation of another book, which itself is a reinterpretation of Christian religion.



Save yourself all of the time and money of reading this book, and read Eat. Pray. Love. It will give you a feeling a spirituality and wholeness that no self-help jargon will ever.

If you cannot understand that there is a connection between your mind, body and spirit than you might as well live life as an emotionless robot. Losing and gaining weight can be as equally tramatic to your person as cancer - think about it that way. Would you call someone out for connecting to their spiritual being in order to battle cancer (If you have, you're probably a huge jerk)? Well then, we need to be in touch with who we are, who we need to be, and why we have become what we are before we embark on such a life-changing event.



I went to the website that was mentioned in an earlier comment.  I read a few lessons before deciding it wasn't for me.  It's great that it is helpful for those who use it.  I prefer help like calorie count over something that's connected to religious beliefs.

I consider myself spiritual.  However, I know & understand the reasons why I've gained weight.  A lot of it has to do with having multiple sclerosis.  Even though I always push myself; I move less each year.  It's more science than spirit.

 



I soooooooo want his book. I do believe that if the mind does not shift the weight will always be regained! This is on my christmas list now, I hope its not all hype though. I think I need to release the idea that I'm not good enough. But that seems to be a common belief among many people and often times things like over eating, alcohol abuse, sex addiction, procrastination, reclusiveness, addictions/obsessions etc. are outward results of the inward feelings. lol as you can see I love anything new age and spiritual Laughing http://fullbodytransformation.wordpress.com/

 



I am one of those people who observes, studies, and tends to analyze the behaviors of others. I do this so that I can better understand and interact with them in a positive fashion.  In doing this, I have learned that people, their personalities, their beliefs, their emotions, their actions, their thoughts are so very diverse.  We are all so different that it's hard to predict who or how many might benefit from a book like this. 

I say that if the topic and spirituatlity based concept appeal to you, go for it.  I don't yet know if I will pick the book up, but it is definitely something that I will consider. 

One of the things I like about Calorie Count is that there are people on here from all walks of life, from all sorts of backgrounds and cultures, beliefs, feelings, etc... The one thing I think we all have in common is that we care enough about ourselves to at least try to find a way to make ourselves healthier. 

Those of us who are "emotional eaters" need to go farther than the concept of calories in must be less than calories burned to lose weight.  I am so happy for the people who do not struggle with the true emotional eating issues for they are truly fortunate.  For those of us who are emotional eaters, we need to find that other key component that what will help us to put the calories in/calories burned concept to work for us.  I imagine this book may do that for at least some. 



One's body weight and dimensions are the result of many factors, some over which we have control, and others which we do not. Let's not forget some people have hereditary conditions, glandular disturbances, and poverty which severely restricts food choices. All of the picture must be addressed, and it is in a constant state of change. What worked for me when I was 20, did not at age 40, and may even put weight on at age 60. The good part about taking your spiritual dimension into account is that it is one more tool to use to be your optimum best, in terms of body size and in happiness.



Original Post by: chefness

Save yourself all of the time and money of reading this book, and read Eat. Pray. Love. It will give you a feeling a spirituality and wholeness that no self-help jargon will ever.

If you cannot understand that there is a connection between your mind, body and spirit than you might as well live life as an emotionless robot. Losing and gaining weight can be as equally tramatic to your person as cancer - think about it that way. Would you call someone out for connecting to their spiritual being in order to battle cancer (If you have, you're probably a huge jerk)? Well then, we need to be in touch with who we are, who we need to be, and why we have become what we are before we embark on such a life-changing event.


I have read Eat, Pray, Love and yes it does open your mind to a feeling of wholeness.  HOWEVER, I am reading 21 Spirtual Lessons too and I know it is making me more aware of 'why' I shelter myself with food. 

I can not believe that anyone would think that your body does not connect with your mental when losing weight.  This is why I have failed in the past, I never connected my mental health with the reasons as to "why" I over ate.  No I was not abused, I grew in a single parent how LOVED.  However, somewhere I was called fat in elementary and I never got underneth that word. *side note* that is why we need to be careful what we say to children.  Also I was not taught portion sides and I recently found out that my Mother had body-image issues that reflected back on me.  She was 132 lbs @ 5'1...healthy but she thought she was over weight.

So again do not tell me your mind has no dealings with why and how you are.

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Spirit/Soul and Body Connection is very important.  This Link shows a good picture to explain how they are inter-related, as well as a video.  I found this on the internet, and it is a good explanation.  I had also gotten a book many years ago ~ from Avon (who knew ? lol) that also explained some of this, with scriptures that related to eating/overeating etc. It really helped me at the time ~ can't remember the name of it but it was an easy read and interesting. I like to thank God everyday for me; and I always pray and ask . . . " that the layers of fat continue to be removed from my cells.  This is my "Mountain" and I am speaking to you, and I am telling you to go in Jesus Name.  You are not wanted or needed any longer.  Thank you Jesus for releasing me from it's hold in my life."

You can do what you want in your life ~ this is working for me Spiritually speaking (regarding the Prayer above ! ).  In my Mind, Will and Emotions ~ I have made the commitment (finally) to watch myself and lose weight (not try to but actually change things so it will happen).  And as a result my body is responding.  I am losing weight.  I have lost over 50 lbs since March of 2010.  I will soon be ramping the "Body" part up, to include doing some exercise now that I am lighter as I find my muscles need strength.  The whole thing is so integrated and infinite.  So many layers and things to consider and become aware of and do.

Not intending on a long speach ... so here are a few thoughts ..       

Embarassed

Mostly I am tired of wearing single colored, or large printed "tents" for clothes. I want style, I want Life, I want to be included in the Human Race, I want to Travel, I want to walk the Beach with my Husband ...I want to Dance again.... How about you ?



This makes me think about a weight loss program called Lose it for Life.  It was Christian based and I went through it with some friends before finding Calorie Count.  I only lost about 20 pounds but it helped me deal with some of my long standing beliefs about myself and feelings that I didn't even realize I had.  It is very important spiritually to realize that God wants us to be healthy so that we may better serve Him with our minds, bodies and spirits. 

 

You really do have to lighten your spirit before you can lighten your body.  I think that this sounds like a really good book (I looked at it in the bookstore yesterday) and would be very helpful for those of us struggling with our weight.



I know that I am afraid to be beautiful. I was abused as a child also, some physical abuse that I don't remember and some early sexual awareness that was abusive. I know this affects my weight loss. As soon as people start telling me how great I look, I stop losing. I lose all desire to continue. And the kicker is that I still have 100 pounds to go, so it's not like I am close or anything!  The mind is so stinkin powerful!



Original Post by: cynsop

I went to the website that was mentioned in an earlier comment.  I read a few lessons before deciding it wasn't for me.  It's great that it is helpful for those who use it.  I prefer help like calorie count over something that's connected to religious beliefs.

I consider myself spiritual.  However, I know & understand the reasons why I've gained weight.  A lot of it has to do with having multiple sclerosis.  Even though I always push myself; I move less each year.  It's more science than spirit.

 


I always say "Whatever works for you."  We are all working our own program and at this time, this is what is best for you.

Thank you for sharing!



Original Post by: katiebkh

I know that I am afraid to be beautiful. I was abused as a child also, some physical abuse that I don't remember and some early sexual awareness that was abusive. I know this affects my weight loss. As soon as people start telling me how great I look, I stop losing. I lose all desire to continue. And the kicker is that I still have 100 pounds to go, so it's not like I am close or anything!  The mind is so stinkin powerful!


Dear katiebkh,

Thank you for sharing such personal, sensitive information.

From my professional experience, I know there are many women and men who can relate to what you have shared.  As a child you, and others who experienced childhood sexual abuse, had reason to fear unwanted sexual attraction. As adults, those fears remain in the subconscious, merging the past with the present. Becoming beautiful and thin then becomes associated with vulnerability to further unwanted sexual advances.  The conscious mind wants to release weight; the subconscious mind holds onto the weight for protection.  And our subconscious mind always wins.  This is a very powerful force preventing weight loss progress in some people.

I strongly suggest to anyone struggling with this to consider psychotherapy, or some other healing modality, to help neutralize those subconscious fears. These issues can be resolved, allowing you to have the kind of life and body that you want and deserve.

I wish you well, katiebkh, and blessings to you and to that little child inside of you.

Warmly,
Diane



"Not to Late" slide show by Ralph Marston ... A Reminder of one's Journey.  Laughing



Diane,

Thanks so much for your understanding words and thoughts. I have thought about all that before and even tried self-hypnosis, but as of yet, to no avail. Don't you think hypnosis would help with my stupid subconscious? :)



Original Post by: katiebkh

Diane,

Thanks so much for your understanding words and thoughts. I have thought about all that before and even tried self-hypnosis, but as of yet, to no avail. Don't you think hypnosis would help with my stupid subconscious? :)


Hi Katiebkh,

I've been trained in hypnosis and I know it can be a helpful tool. But not knowing how you used self-hypnosis, I can't speak to why it wasn't helpful to you. For the issues you described above, however, I believe that hypnosis, in and of itself, is only as effective as the practitioner teaching it and how skilled that person is in working with abuse issues. For issues regarding childhood abuse coupled with weight/body image concerns, I don't believe that hypnosis alone can be as effective as if used in conjunction with other healing modalities. I think the important thing is to find a skilled practitioner, who may or may not use hypnosis, that you can trust and with whom you feel safe to share what I imagine was a secretive part of your life for a long time.

I believe that A Course in Miracles offers some powerful techniques that may be very helpful to you, with or without being in therapy. Perhaps reading this book and following the exercises could be a start for you to address those deeper issues.

And please don't stop searching for help and support! It's out there. Have patience, be persistent and trust in your ability to create the kind of life you want.

All best wishes to you~

Warmly,
Diane

 



Thanks again, Diane!

Have you read A Course in Miracles? Is there a safe sight that tells you reputable practitioners?



Original Post by: katiebkh

Thanks again, Diane!

Have you read A Course in Miracles? Is there a safe sight that tells you reputable practitioners?


Yes, Katiebkh, I read A Course in Miracles - as I mention in my review above I think it is a brilliant book with powerful spiritual lessons and exercises.

A reputable way to find a psychotherapist in your area is to use this therapist finder link in Psychology Today. Just see who you resonate with by reading the different therapist profiles. Call to speak with several people until you find someone with whom you feel very comfortable speaking with even just on that first telephone call.

I'm not familiar with other sites but if you have a primary care physician you could ask him/her for referral sources as well.

I hope this is helpful to you, Katiebkh!

Warmest wishes,
Diane



Great, thanks Diane, I will check those sites out!



I have not gotten this book, in fact today is the first day I've heard about it.  I think I'm going to look at the library and see if they have it though.  But I have to say, not just because I'm spiritual, is that what this book seems to be about is right!  I say this because I for one am a person that munches when I'm sad, depressed, stressed, what have you.  The more I feel down, the more I munch.  I'm also bad about munching when I'm bored.  This all started when I lived at home, in an abusive situation and was left at home alone frequently.  Working on healing from past history and/or finding a new outlet for your feelings will help with weight issues for sure.



katiebkh you may wish to check into a book by John Bradshaw called Homecoming, Championing You Inner Child.  It helps you to learn about your inner child - the person that seems to come out in us when we have high stress situations. 

For many who were the victim of various types of abuse as children, mylself included, the development of coping skills to comfort ourselves almost always happens.  Some develop addictions to alchol, drugs, sex, etc... and for some it can be something as simple as food.  It was probably readily available to us as children and continues to be the go to thing in times of anxiety and dis-ease.   

Just gaining the understanding and the work I've been doing on "championing" my inner child has been helping me.  I'm still going through the exercises in the book, but it has already made a positive impact on me during those moments of boredom, fear, anxiety, upset, and even physical discomfort.  I'm learning to notice when the desire to eat comes as a result of hunger for something else versus actual hunger for food.  It has given me a new hope for the future.



4photochick...that is awesome, keep updating me on your progress. I do think this is definitely the root problem...!



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 Here's a quote from the book:  "The love that will free you is a love that comes from beyond your mortal mind.  It is a Divine intercession from a thought system beyond our own.  Placing your problems in the hands of God, the situation it represents will be recreated.  That which is imperfect becomes perfect".  

This runs so contrary to almost all other Calorie Count articles. The success story titles are always written in the first person, as if to emphasize that our actions are what counts, and that our eating is something we have full control of.  So, why is it that whenever the word 'spirituality' is brought up in a CC article, we're expected to jump for joy at the sentiment that weight-loss is not actually something we can do through 'mortal' means.   Of course it is! 

This book emphasizes in the vaguest terms imaginable that our habits are both in and out of our hands.  Maybe that's okay to think about if you're reading 30 diets books.  However, surely if there were a definitive book for weight loss to recommend, it wouldn't be a New Age, wish-washy, Oprah-approval-seeking, talking points exploiting, misuse of the female psyche self-help book based off the author's interpretation of another book, which itself is a reinterpretation of Christian religion.


All these comments make me want to check out this book even more but I find your comment very thought provoking.

Surrendering to a Higher Power is a very difficult concept for a lot of people, especially here in the 'can do' society of America.  We are raised with a puritanical belief in taking responsibility, doing the work - we are mostly Martha's to the Mary's of the AA, NA, 12 steps, Course in Miracles and other New Age or spiritually oriented paths.

Surrender doesn't mean giving up or giving over to an invisible ghost or Man Upstairs.  Surrender means realizing that we each have to open our heart's and minds to a broader/deeper awareness and resource to have the inspiration, insight and energy to transform.

I'm not a robot who gets programmed to change my behavior.

I'm not a pet that someone else feeds or controls.

Surrender doesn't mean giving over control to someone or something outside of one's self.

It means allowing one's tremendous inner reserves - which some of us myself included consider our spark from God - into the process.

Without this intuitive and inner reservoir of strength, I couldn't make it step by step, day by day. Kudos to those who feel otherwise and succeed.

For me, I know that surrender to the Divine within is powerful.



I don't think losing weight is always this complicated.  A few pounds doesn't necessarily mean you don't like yourself.  I agree that it could be the case; not always.

 



"A few pounds" yeh...not so much. But a hundred pounds? The same ten or twenty pounds over and over? I find personal failure, discouragement and loss of hope are repeatedly sabotaging my efforts to improve. Just "doing" the right thing is not enough for me.

I am blessed in having a local library to call on and a little money to spend on books as well. I love these recommendations and the positive comments.

My counselor also recommended Eat Pray Love, and I read it, but really didn't get much out of it. Still, many people may...it can't hurt! And that is what I believe about all the kinds of therapy, counseling, spiritual programs, Twelve Steps, and Calorie Count's many amazing articles, blogs, forums and success stories. They cannot hurt!



I have practiced A Course in Miracles (ACIM) intermittently for a few years, so I understand the author's premise.  In fact, I own this book.  One of the early exercises involved purging anger, which I am certain that I need to do.  I quit when it became uncomfortable, so the problem is mine--not the book's.

The ACIM text is quite difficult to follow, and the daily lessons are likely to seem absurd at first.  There really is a purpose, though.  It can be easy to become mired in the language, and for my own purposes it has been helpful to make small modifications.  For example, the idea that everything is "an illusion" frustrates me.  I am better served by asking myself, "How important is this?" The idea that I give people/things power by the definition I apply has been helpful.  I have not found any good on-line ACIM discussion sites, and my local area does not offer groups or meetings.  There are some in larger cities, though.

I agree with the posters who wrote that we are all different.  In my own life, emotional eating has not been healthy, and I seek far too much comfort in food.  That may manifest in eating too much or too little.  I appreciate the reminder that I do, in fact, own this book, and perhaps I have not given it a chance.

For those interested in ACIM I recommend Marianne Williamson's book, Return to Love.  It helped to jump start my ACIM practice, and I think of it as sort of a primer.  Thanks to whomever began this dicussion:  I needed the direction.



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