I had a cupcake yesterday and I gained a pound :(

JK.

I didn't even weigh myself yet. But doesn't that sound like one of those posts people put up on the motivational forum?

It was a great cupcake and I still had an A for the day, with 1770 in cals, so no regrets. Life is too short and it was calling my name.

There was this guy @ the pool when I went swimming last week, and he was lying on the grass by the pool reading a book. The old me would have been snobby because he was a bit overweight and only had on shorts. But then, I caught myself.

It was a beautiful day, he had a book in front of him and looked at peace. First off, it was none of my business where he sat or what he wore. He was simply enjoying the weather with a good book, and not worrying about how he looked at each angle. He was living his life. Furthermore, he seems like a pretty friendly guy because I was walking my dog the other night and we spoke briefly.

Perhaps he is trying to loose weight, but in the meantime the shape of his stomach was secondary to his desire to be out and to enjoy the weather. And he really wasn't even that large. I thought of all the people I have met on here who have such low self esteem and figured I would rather be that guy: enjoying a good book on the grass by the pool and not worrying about weight for at least 1 hour of my life. Not worrying about what every stranger thought about me.

I realized that part of my initial reaction was because of the fact that I was wearing shorts over my swimsuit because of my thighs. How often do we project our insecurities on others without realizing it? Why should he stay in doors or feel badly about himself until he loses weight? Granted, I will keep the shorts on for another 15 lbs or so, but my upper body was looking pretty decent if I do say so myself .

That would of been one hell of a cupcake. XD

I do that often myself though. :0 If I see someone large like myself in shorts or something "skimpy," I automatically think, "What are they doing? Have they no shame?" And then it hits me, "No, they have confidence."

Taste wise it was one heckuva cupcake.

I'm sure it was. <3 Cupcakes are wonderful little creatures~

You pulled a trick on me.  I had my fingers all ready to type "you can't gain a pound from eating a cupcake, even the 900 calorie ones.  Body weight fluctuates a lot."

Shame on you.

Man, I want a cupcake right now.  Actually, a blueberry muffin with a crumb topping.  Good thing I don't have any in the house.

And I agree with the rest of your post - even those of us who complain about being judged for our weight are guilty of the judging.  Like when I see morbidly obese people at an all you can eat buffet, filling up their plate with salad.  I automatically think "If they'd not put so much fattening stuff on their salad, it would help their weight".  And I don't even look at their plate to see what they are actually doing.

Cutting other people some slack is probably the first step in cutting yourself some slack. 

Glad you enjoyed your cupcake.

Edited to add:  And at the buffet I am the one filling my plate with desserts, though not as many as before.  Can we say hypocrite?

Original Post by cellotlhicks:

How often do we project our insecurities on others without realizing it?

Very often! It's crazy how dieting can (while giving you healhty attitudes etc) can also put you in a certain 'mode' of thinking. You end up judging people on first glances, and sometimes when I've done that I've thought, five seconds later, what are people thinking of me?

Or, another thing is when there are celebrities/friends/other people who are pictured looking really gorgeous or slim and you end up telling yourself "Oh look, THERE'S a flaw" and point out a minute, non-existant error in the photo. The thing is, I guess if we have insecurities and suffer from low confidence then we'll always feel we look/are worse than other people see us.

Aww. I wish I was a happy old man reading a book now. :)

High five to you!

I actually wear shorts over my bathing suit.... not due to my thigh size but because whenever I try to wax my bikini area I end up getting ingrown bumps if you know what I mean. I know, too much info/off topic :P

I have a bear gut and I have been in a bikini in public plenty of times. Why be a social hermit due to it? You only live once damnit.

hahaha when i read your title i was going to say 'was that a 3,500 calorie cupcake?'

i think the way you processed out your feelings over that incident is great. i catch myself doing it all the time. but the weird thing is i truly don't dislike anyone because of weight, i dislike myself because of weight and i need to work on that but i love my friends no matter what their weight...

attitudes and feelings towards weight are soooo bizarre.

sorry to post two in a row but i just thought of something!

i read this blog on psychologytoday.com that was like a lightbulb for me. it was talking about how any advice that starts with "just..." doesn't work. as in:

"just say no to drugs"

"just put down the fork"

"just eat a sandwhich"

how often do we do it though? i know i do-- to myself and others (although others are usually in my head). i definitely think its anger at myself for not having control being projected onto others who i suspect of not having control.

You are probably right.

Sadly, anger and disappointment don't burn away pounds, or else most of us would not be on here...

I believe I am finding success this time becuase I decided from day 1 to be proud of myself simply for getting on here.

And I find self control easier since I am no longer abusing my own ego by getting mad @ myself for not having it. An emotional waste of time if you ask me . I'd rather search for more information and tips, wouldn't you?

Original Post by sabbitha:

sorry to post two in a row but i just thought of something!

i read this blog on psychologytoday.com that was like a lightbulb for me. it was talking about how any advice that starts with "just..." doesn't work. as in:

"just say no to drugs"

"just put down the fork"

"just eat a sandwhich"

how often do we do it though? i know i do-- to myself and others (although others are usually in my head). i definitely think its anger at myself for not having control being projected onto others who i suspect of not having control.

 

 

Ack, that sounds all too familiar. My skinny skinny roomate loves to bring home loads of junkfood. And whenever we'd get into an argument about it he'd say "Well, just don't eat it!" Which always felt like such an insult with me being overweight, kind of like saying, can't you even do something as simple as NOT eating sweets?

Anyway, love the post, good for a laugh and an injection of positive thinking! That's always welcome with me lol

i was always so insecure about my appearance growing up.  i think part of it was contributed to the fact that my school was predominately caucasian and i was adopted by a caucasian family so i never embraced the idea that i could be "pretty" because of my asian features.  i remember having bitter thoughts towards anyone who looked too "pretty" thinking to myself "they must be shallow/vain/ect"

but really it was just because i felt i was so ugly and it was envy.  nowadays i just say if you want to flaunt what you got, go for it!  if someone else doesn't like it, they can look the other way!

I love cupcakes.  And cookies.  And dark chocolate with the toffee in it.  And I won't gain weight because I eat all of these things in moderation.  Yay for treats!!

cerealaddiction, you look so cute in your pictures!

Kfirth-me too.  I am trying to decide if it will be feasible one day to add a handful of reeses pieces into a child-size popcorn at the theatres one day...an old favorite. I might have to settle for a handful in a 100 calorie pop bag. (weird, I know)

Original Post by cerealaddiction:

i was always so insecure about my appearance growing up.  i think part of it was contributed to the fact that my school was predominately caucasian and i was adopted by a caucasian family so i never embraced the idea that i could be "pretty" because of my asian features.

I'm the exact opposite, lol I envy asian features! I've always wanted that delicate kind of bone structure. So all along you were something to be jealous of as well!

Hee Hee!  What I began to notice in late high school, and developed into a steadfast theory in college, is that everyone wants someone else's features.  Mostly, I noticed it about hair, curly vs straight, but also things like skin tone and eye color.

There are so many different varieties of beautiful, and what they all have in common is a vitality and joy of life.  Beautiful is an attitude, girls!

mmm cupcakes. yesterday I baked brownies (from scratch), cookies (with pecans, raisins, and chocolate chips) AND 2 loafs of friendship bread. Tonight I plan on having one of each. And If I gain a pound, so BEEEEE it. I'm really just after that brownie.

Original Post by x17star17x:

mmm cupcakes. yesterday I baked brownies (from scratch), cookies (with pecans, raisins, and chocolate chips) AND 2 loafs of friendship bread. Tonight I plan on having one of each. And If I gain a pound, so BEEEEE it. I'm really just after that brownie.

Man, I need to be where you are.lol. Can we be friends?