People say men want something to grab hold of, they like a woman with curves. So why is it that every man I know goes on about women who are stick thin? Every thin, female customer they see, they lust over. Never over a woman with "curves" And what's worse is they talk to me about them. It's "Wow she's fit isn't she? wow look at her behind" It does my head in.
When I was thinner (too thin really for me) I got loads of attention from the opposite sex and now I get none (none that I notice anyway)
So I think that maybe people only say men like women with "curves" because they think it will help stop women getting eating disorders. I don't think they really mean it.
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I have had my share of men come up to me and I'm in my 120's.
I'm not thin or fat.
Although I would be described as curvy, I have a D cup and a 26 inch waist (natural, I would never do the breast implant thing) so I guess that would classify me as curvy..but I figure I'm at an average weight for my height.
I have never been stick thin, and probably couldnt without doing it un-healthy since I do have natural curves. Then again I would never want to be stick thin.
So from my experience guy's dont like "fat" but they dont mind average or thin, and having some chest up there seem's to be a plus for them.
That's just in general though. People like different things so you cant put everyone in that category.
I have to disagree with one comment about how 'guys can't help who they're attracted to'. One of my best friends is a guy. When he was younger, he was always dating really skinny girls but cheated on most of them with chubby girls. Not curvy, but chubby to downright fat gals. Now that he's older, I've noticed his choice of women are always chubby. When he was younger, he would say how he couldn't stand fat girls and now he says he loves girls who are bigger. I think society makes the younger guys and the insecure guys gravitate toward the skinny minnys. All the men that I am close to, my brother, my dad, my best friend, and my boyfriend are good men. I am blessed to have them in my life. The one thing I notice about them are they love their women regardless of the size she is. My brother's wife gained a lot of weight with their baby and my brother seems to love her body more! I always see him touching her and as much as she screeches for him to not touch her 'fat rolls' he does not seem to even notice. I am also curvy by definition. I've always been very active in sports and working out and have lots of muscle plus I did gain weight in the last few years. I have a round butt and have been told my whole life, even when I was really skinny, I have a 'ghetto butt'. My boyfriend is always telling me he loves my body and he tries to get me in a bathing suit as often as possible even though I feel very self concious wearing one. So I say...find a good man who will love your body no matter what.
Also, I am crazy attracted to the stalky, big, muscley guys. If they have a bit of chub even better! I just love big men..makes me feel small and safe I guess. But my friends are into either the slim, runner type guys or the tall skinny ones. We all are attracted to something different which is a great thing or we'd be in big trouble.
i think girls are more confident when they reach that point of thinking "im skinny!" thats what all girls want mostly right? so therefore guys like that confidence. OR it could be from the media, you see all these acters and male singers marrying supermodels, maybe thats a connection?
i think it all depends on the guys "type" too
I agree with you.
I was appalled to read all of the comments here calling the men you work with shallow, among other things. Shallow? I doubt it. I also doubt that a man can change the type of body to which he is attracted.
My friend is a few pounds underweight. Our other friend is "curvy" (on the fatter side of healthy). The curvy friend had lots of personality and confidence, while my underweight friend did not.
While at first, the curvy friend had plenty of male attention and my underweight friend did not, once the thinner friend developed her charming personality and confidence, there was just no contest. Men (friends and strangers alike) seemed to adore her, and the curvy friend just kind of shrank into the shadows over time.
So, confidence and personality make a difference--but between two girls who are confident and have personality, the thinner one seems to win hands down.
Just my thoughts.
Oh, and by the way? I really resent when all of you start calling thin women "ten year old boys". I love my thin body a lot, thank you, and I take care of myself.
Don't be hating. =)
<3 Sophie
All men only ever look at women with hot thin bodies.. they dont do a double take or nudge their buddies for a curvy women.. unless she is very thin....
Thin bodied women get attention.. period..
a man might settle for some thing else.. but they are checking out the skinny women... trust me
Original Post by rainyvenne:
All men only ever look at women with hot thin bodies.. they dont do a double take or nudge their buddies for a curvy women.. unless she is very thin....
Thin bodied women get attention.. period..
a man might settle for some thing else.. but they are checking out the skinny women... trust me
I know plenty of men who don't fancy women who are "too thin" - and I'm not talking emaciated models here, I mean normalskinny. People vary. Women generally seem a lot keener on skinny than men though.
I agree with bairn. Girls are more hyped up on the importance of being thin than men are. > . <
I find that men say things like "curvy" and "natural" with a different image in mind than women. Often I hear my male friends profess a great love of natural beauty, and when they point it out in a girl, they are pointing to someone who quite obviously is making ample use of cosmetics and hair-styling. They are confused.
Similarly, I think that when a man refers to "curvy" he is referring to the curve of large breasts, the difference between the circumference of the hips and waist, and the curve of a toosh viewed from the side, whereas girls picture a girl that is, well, chubby/fat.
There are discrepancies here.
I think the bottom line is that whatever shape your body is, there is every reason to eat properly and exercise enough.
=) 'Cause we should all love our bodies. They are temples, after all!
I will guarantee you that almost all of the men/teenage boys I know who I have ever discussed the so-called beautiful women of the world prefer "curvy" women. Celebrities like Scarlett Johansson, Jessica Alba, Jennifer Lopez, Fergie, Carmen Electra, Ana Ivanovic, Shakira, Kendra Wilkinson, etc, etc, etc. are all "curvy" women who look healthy but don't look like stick-thin women.
Ok, so stick-thin women, who are genetically aberrations, such as Kiera Knightly and Kate Moss, make millions in movies and advertisements. That is the persona put across the big-screen or Tv-screen. The bottom (no pun intended) line is that given a choice, most males with whom I have discussed the issue prefer curvy women and would choose those women as the ones they feel are most desirable (to look at--not to touch, of course.)
I admire women, personally, who are healthy and fit their body builds nature intended. There is nothing wrong with being stick-thin if that is what nature gave you. There is nothing wrong with being curvy as long as you are healthy.
Original Post by jayd294mp:
Girls, the whole time you're being snotty and pissy about some guy drooling over another girl wearing smaller pants than you, there's a fantastic guy who thought your bodacious ass was fine and was considering coming over to talk to you... until he caught a look of your scowling, miserable face.
SPOT ON!
A good example of how a woman might fall into the "I want to be a model and I am willing to almost kill myself to look stick-thin" mindset would be Helen Alfredsson. Alfredsson is a professional golfer in her 40's. She is very successful and very fit, but her body is now the body that nature intended for her to have. She tried being a model for a while and underwent basically a starvation diet to try to get a stick-thin model's figure. She was definitely not living a healthy life. She then became a professional golfer and has had excellent results while maintaining a healthy life. (She also flew with The Blue Angels and rides a motorcycle.)
My point is that some men somewhere probably preferred her stick-thin look, but most of us older dudes prefer her current curvy healthy look.
Hey everyone,
Just bringing some of the knowledge from my field of study into this discussion:
One study that discovered women's misconception of men's preferences found that women completely misunderstood what men prefer in ideal mates. When women were asked what they thought men preferred, they thought that men preferred skinnier-than-average women. When men were asked about their preferences, they replied with average weight women. The reason from an evolutionary perspective: Men in the study preferred a certain amount of body fat in the women so that they could reproduce, since the goal of life is to be able to propagate one's genes.
When we view men's preferences cross culturally, we find that those who are being viewed as most attractive are those with a waist-to-hip ratio of 0.7 - and this is regardless of body weight. In one study, researchers looked at the waist to hip ratio of playboy models. Since changes in body type of playboy models reflected a trend in changes of men's preferences. They discovered while models were getting thinner and body fat was decreasing over time, the waist to hip ratio of the playboy models remained the same (Garner). This study showed the importance of waist to hip ratio in men's choices for mates.
A third study also outlined the importance and preference of waist to hip ratio over body weight. Researchers obtained real world images of women in which their waist to hip ratio varies, as does their BMI. Men were exposed to photos of women where their waist to hip ratio is lower but their BMI was higher or their waist to hip ratio was higher but their BMI was lower. They were asked to rate the sexiness. In essence, the researchers wanted to determine what was a bigger factor in choosing mates: was it body mass or was it a waist to hip ratio? The results showed that regardless of BMI, men always preferred the women with a lower waist to hip ratio (Singh & Randall).
Going back to the OP: men prefer curvy women over stick women - stick thin or stick fat, curvy women almost always win!
