My dad still wants me to lose weight!

I can't believe him! We'll pass a new restaurant or something and he'll be like, "Hey! When you lose five pounds I'll take you there!" The other day I was eating a burger and he was all, "Well, you're never going to lose weight eating like THAT." Obviously I DO want to lose weight, but I know that I shouldn't. I am basically recovered, as far as weight goes, but the eating disorder stunted my growth, so I'm in the middle of a growth spurt right now and I need those calories.

How can I get my dad off my back? Even though I went to UCSF with a temperature of 96 degrees, heart rate below 60, and no period for two years, he refuses to accept the fact that I have/ had an eating disorder! We went through treatment and he shoved food in my face, but the minute I gained any weight he told me to start cutting my calories!

"We went through treatment..."  I guess he wasn't fixed. huh?  Your Dad has a big problem.  No wonder you developed an ED, but you are validated!  His words will have to go in one ear and out the other.  Discuss his crazy words with you counselor.

Ugh...I'm so sorry.

I can relate because my parents we not understanding about my situation, either.  As Mary suggested, I would definitely talk to your counselor.  Keep in mind that even though your dad knows about the issue and came to the doctor with you, he  1. probably can't understand it AT ALL and  2. Has guilt issues around it himself because maybe it means he isn't the perfect dad.

Part of my therapy (at 28!) was to admit to myself that my dad wasn't going to change and suddenly become able to understand my problems.  This was really hard and took a long time to grasp, but today, almost 4 years later, I have a better relationship with my dad and I am in MUCH better shape than I was then both mentally and physically.

Remember, your body is NOT who you are!