Those darn stick girls...

I was wondering if anyone had stories to share~ I feel the need to get this off my chest, as it has been bugging me for a while. I just signed up, so I'd like to say that it's nice to meet everyone here! This is going to be very long....^^;;

I started to diet back in April 2008, when I started to notice that I was over weight. I was 5"4 and 150- which may not see like too much, but since I am and was only fifteen, I thought it to be too much. Through out the the entire time, I was tormented by my ex-friend who was naturally very tiny and slim. She is 5"6 and 98 pounds. :\ She would eat whole large pepperoni pizzas with brownie sticks and not gain a single pound. Not only did she do this, but she would grab at my flab and call me a whale and other hurtful names that slowly ate my self esteem. We would always joke around and call each other silly names, but it soon got under my skin. Not only that, but the constant " I'm fat " from girls with similar figures, if not dangerously unhealthy. I, losing weight for the first time in my life, really wanted to be like them. I wasn't in the right mind set. My other friend, of which was very tiny, did not tell me that she developed an eating disorder, mainly because of the girl stated above. She was bulimic for three years. I just recently found this out. She is still trying to build up her metabolism

So, after losing about 20 pounds, I was still incredibly obsessive. I was afraid to gain it back. I couldn't eat any sweets, and if I did I would run for hours to burn it off. My family began to believe that I developed an eating disorder, and one pick on me all the time.  I looked at all my naturally thin friends with speedy teen-metabolisms and frowned at myself. This went on for months, until this summer when I started to get more support from my new close friend, who is 5"4 and weighs 103.  She will stuff her mouth with cookies and then go play video games for hours, but at least she doesn't ridicule me. She is also a C-cup. I was a 36C, until my weight loss brought me down to a 34B.  I know it's silly to pay such close attention to those sorts of things, but I can't help but be a teenage girl. 

However, I am now 128 lbs and have gained muscle. I look at these girls and laugh, because I know they wouldn't be able to make a four hour bike ride in the Texas summer sun. I'm still trying to tone up, but now I feel more confident about myself after so long. That's my story. I hope for others to share. :) 

Plaaahhg! I HATE twig girls. I like bigger girls myself. Well, not BIG girls, but girls who look like they are healthy. Normal. Something does not seem right is a girl is too thin for me :/

Then again, I like girls. Go ahead and call me a perv, but a female body is always beautiful, no matter how they are built. But I digress.

I have a skinny-twig-girl story to share!

At work, there was this girl who came in who -to make a long description short- looked like a poor-man's version of Pamela Anderson. I.E: Super-duper tiny body, HUUGE fake... 'assets'. She thought she was hot stuff, and didn't let anyone forget it. She came in for some piercing or another (i don't remember what, really), but when she was waiting for her turn, she was SOO obnoxious.  She was talking about how she could eat anything and how she never had to exercise and blah blah blah. There is a girl I work with who is, to say the least, a bigger girl, and when this girl spoke, she kept looking back to my coworker like she was trying to get a reaction out of her.

Well, my coworker, and friend, was so zen about everything, where I wanted to haul off and slap this girl. She just simply ignored her and let her talk, occassionally piping in with a 'uh-huh' and 'you don't say'.

My Coworker is the best, I swear an earthquake could happen and she would be as cool as a cucumber.

I was thin throughout my teen years. I had short thick legs and no chest. Most of my friends were bigger girls (taller, larger-boned and a bit curvy). I was jealous of their athletic ability. I was a wimp.

Anyone who would "grab at your flab and call you a whale" is NOT a friend. Her poor food choices will catch up with her... someday.

I'm 35... and believe me, the stick girls are usually hit hardest by an aging metabolism.

I am also 5'4"... and you are at my goal weight!!! Great job!!!

You don't have to laugh at people to make yourself feel better you know.  That is the exact same thing your "friend" was doing to you when she'd call you a whale--laughing at people who aren't fit.  You could be making someone feel the same way you felt, and I know you don't want that.

Ohh, your story reminds me of middle school.  I was bigger when I started middle school (about 5'1-5'2 and 130 lbs.) and the first couple of months of middle school were really hard, because everyone was so thin and I felt out of place.  I joined the swim team and actually lost about 15 pounds without really trying, and that felt great.  

Anyway, I can see why your friend is an now an ex-friend--anyone who calls you such names and makes fun of you really doesn't care.  Just be proud of your accomplishments, and love your body for what it is.  You've worked hard for it!

Thank god for someone who's happy to be at a healthy, normal weight. I'm glad you're focusing more on staying healthy and fit rather than being stick-thin. There's about a million threads here made by [mostly] teens who want to be underweight, but don't let it get to you. They just don't realize what they're in for.

I can't think of any stories at the moment (i'm TRYING, key word lol, to finish my online statistics homework  and I am fiddling around this site) but I can definitely relate to your topic, that even though losing the weight is a DIFFICULT process, the BENEFITS and the feeling of ACCOMPLISHMENT to withstand running, weight training, cycling, ANYTHING is by far the BEST feeling ever!  

You are totally right about those girls; there is NO WAY that they could do what you are doing.  You are PHYSICALLY FIT and there is not a THING in the world that should ever let you think or feel differently.  You got off of your toosh and achieved a body that I bet you thought wasn't achievable, am I right?  Heck, now that I think about it, I used to ALWAYS look at other girls an WISH I could have their body and NOW, I DO--I am about to start P90X and I am Ooooooh so excited!!  

Sorry for not having a story, but I just wanted to let you know that you made a dream become reality. Great job, girl!

>However, I am now 128 lbs and have gained muscle.

Great! :) Being physically fit is the best feeling, in my humble opinion. I'm currently trying to gain muscle too and even though I've been doing training/weight lifting for only 2 weeks I feel a bit stronger already.

P.S. A note about those stick skinny girls who apparently can eat all they want:

It's not unusual for many kids and teenagers to have very efficient/fast metabolisms, and combined with exercise, it's no wonder when they stay thin.

However, as we stop growing, for most of us the metabolism slows down slightly. I am 20 years old now and find it a lot easier to gain weight now than when I was 15 and ate a lot without ever getting into the overweight range.

See i used to be one of those girls, there aren't actually many of them around by the time you're 17/18. I continued to eat like that and last year my metabolism packed in and on came the weight. The girls that i know who still are stick thin will eat junk but if you're around them all day you realise that they're not actually eating that many calories. Sure they'll have pizza and eat a whole lot of it but that will be it for the WHOLE day.

That's exactly how all my best friends are anyway and they're all tiny 8 of them all either a 0 or 2!

I hate skinny girls but I have to say I would be one of them if I did cardio instead of weight training when I was 5. And if I had done that I would be a size 0 with a D-cup chest...so I'm just a little happy about how that worked out...lol...

just a few weeks ago i told my best friend, "ew. i can feel my rolls."

then she said said "ew. i can feel my skeleton. i'd much rather be youuuu."

( i have pretty large breats and a large butt.)

Original Post by huggitbear:

You don't have to laugh at people to make yourself feel better you know.  That is the exact same thing your "friend" was doing to you when she'd call you a whale--laughing at people who aren't fit.  You could be making someone feel the same way you felt, and I know you don't want that.

My sentiments exactly.

this is really inspirational :) i lost so much weight because of my stick thin friends.. thinking i was overweight unless i was like them! now i'm underweight, it is miserable. i am working on gaining the weight back! much better athlete before.. :( and had some curves. so glad there's some teens with the right mind set for their bodies!

Yeah, one of my best friends was "that girl." She's super-tall as compared to short ol' me, and has always been lighter than me. I think she weighed 80 - 90 lbs at 5' 1", or maybe less. I don't know for sure. And I've BEEN around her, believe me, and she eats like a **** pig ALL the time. It's so frusturating. And then she calls me chubby. Of course, I sort of used to eat like a pig, too, which was normal for a 12-year-old.

And then I noticed. I really was bordering on overweight. Although based on growth charts, I was maybe a little bit heavier than I should have been, based on BMI I was overweight. I joined a gymnastics team and started counting calories, and now I'm in the middle range, although for me it's probably closer to the low end.

My friend? She's still super tall and super skinny, but she's not my friend anymore. We went our separate ways, although not due to weight issues. I suspect she will always have a supergood metabolism, which makes me super freaking mad. If I'm at the height of my teenage metabolic years, and my recommended intake is 1600 Calories to MAINTAIN weight...I'm scared of being 18.

"'m 35... and believe me, the stick girls are usually hit hardest by an aging metabolism."

I respectfully disagree. Many of my friends are my age (42) and look like they're in their late 20's. I have also seen women in their early thirties who look older than I am. Every human's metabolism is unique in their own way and there are many many contributing factors relating to the aging process. To make a generalized statement like that is ridiculous. 

Original Post by 105forchristmas:

See i used to be one of those girls, there aren't actually many of them around by the time you're 17/18. I continued to eat like that and last year my metabolism packed in and on came the weight. The girls that i know who still are stick thin will eat junk but if you're around them all day you realise that they're not actually eating that many calories. Sure they'll have pizza and eat a whole lot of it but that will be it for the WHOLE day.

Agreed.  My roommate in college was a tiny breakable thing, the type that everyone would say was "That girl," and all she ate was Papa Jon's Pizza, yogurt, Chipotle, and MORE PIZZA.  She was "vegetarian" but didn't know how to cook and didn't have an interest in food at all, so she just ate anything that didn't have meat.  Aka - cheese pizza.  Every.  Day.  However, that would be it.  She ate so little when you started to actually add it all.  A thing of yogurt (100) in the morning, then run to classes all day, come home and have another thing of soda (300?) and 2 slices of pizza (600) and breadsticks (300).  That was it every day.

Original Post by peacelovehominy:

just a few weeks ago i told my best friend, "ew. i can feel my rolls."

then she said said "ew. i can feel my skeleton. i'd much rather be youuuu."

( i have pretty large breats and a large butt.)

Now THAT is a good friend! 

wow i have a great story for this!

my "best friend" (still a good friend but it's complicated as you will see) is the same height as me, 5'7" but she is about 95-98 pounds. not only is she SUPER skinny, but she is gorgeous. and she eats soooo much junk.

she once put on my smallest pair of jeans (size 27... i think she is like24) and walked around my house saying "omg these are HUGE, LOOK at these on me, i really need to gain some weight"... another time, i bought a sweater for my mom and when i tried it on and asked her if it was cute, she said "yeah that looks great, it makes you look skinnier!"

i basically vowed to lose weight, felt SUPER self concious all the time--- i was 133 pounds and 5'7" haha i looked fine, just a tiny bit bigger than my normal weight!

then i got so annoyed that i stopped hanging out with her, and steppping back from her life i realized that she has a pretty bad life! she is annorexic (the ice cream she had for lunch would be the ONLY thing she ate all day)-- her boyfriend made her crepes for breakfast one morning, before he came over she ran 5 miles. she has an alcoholic father who she never sees and a rocky relationship with her mother. she is trying to be a model, but it's pretty much just a way to get people to compliment her looks.

basically, i don't envy her anymore. and that makes it easier to be her friend (she is nice and fun, and people with problems need good friends)---- but the funniest thing about all this is that after i stopped worrying about looseing weight and hateing myself, i lost weight because i started taking better care of myself :)

=D I'm so happy to hear this! It's nice that you're able to accept that being stick thin isn't always the best. You have strength and muscle, but you also have developed your mind. You make healthy choices. Their unhealthy might not reflect at the moment, but they will someday. You'll come out the winner in the end. I was so intimidated by my thin friends that I became anorexic in junior high school and starved to become quite thin. But I had no strength, and no curves. Now that I've toned up and gained back some of the weight healthily, I can appreciate how nice it is to have a functioning, attractive body. Starving isn't beautiful.