Those darn stick girls...

I was wondering if anyone had stories to share~ I feel the need to get this off my chest, as it has been bugging me for a while. I just signed up, so I'd like to say that it's nice to meet everyone here! This is going to be very long....^^;;

I started to diet back in April 2008, when I started to notice that I was over weight. I was 5"4 and 150- which may not see like too much, but since I am and was only fifteen, I thought it to be too much. Through out the the entire time, I was tormented by my ex-friend who was naturally very tiny and slim. She is 5"6 and 98 pounds. :\ She would eat whole large pepperoni pizzas with brownie sticks and not gain a single pound. Not only did she do this, but she would grab at my flab and call me a whale and other hurtful names that slowly ate my self esteem. We would always joke around and call each other silly names, but it soon got under my skin. Not only that, but the constant " I'm fat " from girls with similar figures, if not dangerously unhealthy. I, losing weight for the first time in my life, really wanted to be like them. I wasn't in the right mind set. My other friend, of which was very tiny, did not tell me that she developed an eating disorder, mainly because of the girl stated above. She was bulimic for three years. I just recently found this out. She is still trying to build up her metabolism

So, after losing about 20 pounds, I was still incredibly obsessive. I was afraid to gain it back. I couldn't eat any sweets, and if I did I would run for hours to burn it off. My family began to believe that I developed an eating disorder, and one pick on me all the time.  I looked at all my naturally thin friends with speedy teen-metabolisms and frowned at myself. This went on for months, until this summer when I started to get more support from my new close friend, who is 5"4 and weighs 103.  She will stuff her mouth with cookies and then go play video games for hours, but at least she doesn't ridicule me. She is also a C-cup. I was a 36C, until my weight loss brought me down to a 34B.  I know it's silly to pay such close attention to those sorts of things, but I can't help but be a teenage girl. 

However, I am now 128 lbs and have gained muscle. I look at these girls and laugh, because I know they wouldn't be able to make a four hour bike ride in the Texas summer sun. I'm still trying to tone up, but now I feel more confident about myself after so long. That's my story. I hope for others to share. :) 

Original Post by lolafied:

I hate skinny girls

Why? I'm pretty sure you wouldn't be ok with anyone saying "I hate fat girls"... after all, that would be blatently unfair, right...?

Original Post by merylwhite1:

Original Post by lolafied:

I hate skinny girls

Why? I'm pretty sure you wouldn't be ok with anyone saying "I hate fat girls"... after all, that would be blatently unfair, right...?

 Agreed. It's kinda rude to group every single skinny girl into one stereotype. Some of my friends are stick skinny and most of them are very nice and they understand people's different problems with their weight.

Despite their support, I still feel kinda uncomfortable when we are together. I'm always the one who wears a t-shirt and shorts at the pool, or I'm the slowest one to the finish line at the end of a race. And since most of them are healthy or only a little bit overweight, then I feel really left out. 

I guess my only bad run-in with the "skinny" girls was during elementary and middle school. It's usually the guys that make the loud comments. The girls usually just giggle behind your back.   

I understand that you were insulted, but please don't generalise.

Most of those girls can help but be stick-thin.

I know how people who're jealous of us say that, 'They have no lives!' 'The only eat rabbit food!' 'Guys prefer curvy girls anyway'.

I live life to the fullest just as much as anybody else, I'm happy with my body shape and I don't insult larger girls. I eat like a pig, I eat a tonne of red meat. I can do push-ups, sit-ups, I can even do as many chin-ups as the average man. And I don't date guys that are that superficial to say that they only like curvy girls.

And guess what? I'm 5'7 and size 0. So please don't stereotype!

Wormyeyelid, obviously I don't know you or really much about you, but from your previous posts it looks like at 5'6-5'7 your goal weight is 105 pounds and you think your 19.5 inch thighs are fat? That doesn't sound like someone who is happy with their body shape and lives life to the fullest and eats like a pig. It sounds like someone with an eating disorder.

It's really mean people who suck at any age or weight.

worm, I am SO jealous of your height! I'd give anything to be your height-120 and 5'7! I'm 5'6. I have ALWAYS wished I was as tall as you...good for you! And from what I can gather, you're beautiful, too!

True, but I'm in recovery now and part of recovery is learning to accept who you are and to stop looking for perfection.

Mypuppymylife: Haha, well it's only an inch! You're probably in better proportion than I am. Really, my proportion is a mess.

If you don't mind me asking, why did you think I was beautiful??? I'm not sure where you'd get that idea! But everyone's beautiful in their own way, you know!

hi worm-

Haha-I really don't know. Call it a sixth sense? But an inch makes a big difference. And I don't think I could do a push up if I tried!

[generalization] Those darn fat girls, always bitter about skinny girls who can eat whatever they want without gaining weight. [/generalization]

Body superiority, in any form, is stupid.

Well said.

Original Post by lovegrowsontrees:

[generalization] Those darn fat girls, always bitter about skinny girls who can eat whatever they want without gaining weight. [/generalization]

Body superiority, in any form, is stupid.

I think that a lot of you are missing the point of this post.  The bottom line isn't about bashing naturally skinny girls, or naturally larger girls.  The point is that the poster, who used to feel self-conscious about herself around her skinny friend, has grown to love and accept her body.  And I feel like some of the people posting on this thread are too wrapped up in their own self-consciousness to notice the real point here.  Bottom line, a teenager has learned to love her body as it is, and that's pretty rare at such a difficult age.

I have a friend who scarfs down everything in front of her, and more, just so she can gain weight...she's 90 pounds and always complaining about it.

There are times when I feel like hitting her ^-^. Hard. I'm 115, which is fat for my size (in fact, my BMI calculator says I SHOULD weigh 90 pounds.)

Original Post by linz1990:

Original Post by lovegrowsontrees:

[generalization] Those darn fat girls, always bitter about skinny girls who can eat whatever they want without gaining weight. [/generalization]

Body superiority, in any form, is stupid.

I think that a lot of you are missing the point of this post.  The bottom line isn't about bashing naturally skinny girls, or naturally larger girls.  The point is that the poster, who used to feel self-conscious about herself around her skinny friend, has grown to love and accept her body.  And I feel like some of the people posting on this thread are too wrapped up in their own self-consciousness to notice the real point here.  Bottom line, a teenager has learned to love her body as it is, and that's pretty rare at such a difficult age.

The point went way over my head, obviously.

Yeah, it's great that she's learned to love her body, but that doesn't mean being all "lulz I can bike 4 hours and my thin ex friend can't" is a particularly healthy attitude. How is a thread entitled 'Those darn stick girls' promoting positive body image as a whole? That's the bit that annoyed me, and for the record, I'm not thin. It just irritates me when people, however indirectly, say negative things about people of other sizes. Generalizations and misconceptions piss me off. Why can't we all quit looking at each other's bodies, making assumptions, and judging?

Original Post by lovegrowsontrees:

The point went way over my head, obviously.

Yeah, it's great that she's learned to love her body, but that doesn't mean being all "lulz I can bike 4 hours and my thin ex friend can't" is a particularly healthy attitude. How is a thread entitled 'Those darn stick girls' promoting positive body image as a whole? That's the bit that annoyed me, and for the record, I'm not thin. It just irritates me when people, however indirectly, say negative things about people of other sizes. Generalizations and misconceptions piss me off. Why can't we all quit looking at each other's bodies, making assumptions, and judging?

I suppose you're right, it's not healthy to compare oneself to others. However, I don't know very many people who don't compare themselves in one way or another, whether it's with bodies or something else.  To me the post was specifically about her two thin friends, and she probably knows very well whether or not they can bike for 4 hours.  And it goes beyond just "thin" friends, I think as adolescents we all had friends who had physical traits we envied.  I know some skinny girls who wish they had curves, curvy girls who wish their breasts were smaller, and the list goes on.

I would love to live in a world where we stopped comparing ourselves with others, making assumptions/generalizations, and judging each other.  Once I find a place like that, I'll let you know.  

My best friend is a natural twig. I remember my first memory of her was when I met her in the dining hall at orientation of my first year in college and while I had my plate of salad, she also had a plate of salad in addition to five more plates of regular food (macaroni and cheese, bread, fried chicken, you name it). And I'm not exaggerating about the six plates. We counted.

During finals week, she ordered a medium Domino's every night to help her with her all nighters. She goes to the gym maybe four times a week when I went five or six, and while I'm working my butt off, she's just putting minimal effort into biking for twenty minutes, laughing at the TV monitor. Yet she's my height and fifty pounds lighter than I!

Life is unfair! But whatever, I love her.

Original Post by linz1990:

I would love to live in a world where we stopped comparing ourselves with others, making assumptions/generalizations, and judging each other.  Once I find a place like that, I'll let you know.  

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Neverland

Possibly? Hahaha.

haha! that made my day.