dating a heavier girl/lighter guy

Guys, would you date a girl who was heavier than you?  Girls, would you date a guy who was lighter than you?  Would height matter?

I've dated guys lighter than me but won't date a guy shorter than me. I'm 5'8. That is my minimum requirement. I have a friend who is about 5'3-5'4 and he keeps telling me he likes me but his height is an automatic turn off even though I find him attractive.    

I am attracted to big men- not necessarily fat, but muscular and wide.  I am so turned off by small, weak looking guys.  My husband is 6'2, muscular and has a little extra weight..... he's the sexiest man alive!!!  As for short- as long as he was built, I'd be ok with it.  I've dated only 1 shorter guy than me though.

Married now...but I have to say that I am interested in the person, not their size. 

During my marriage I did get heavier than my husband which was a little upsetting for me but that is because he is 6'5" and I shouldn't have weighed more than him.  lol.  I fixed it though.

i would most definitely date a guy lighter than me. i'm a big chick, and for a guy to weigh the same/more than me, he'd have to be a fatty or really muscular. and i don't like fatties.

that being said, i feel kinda guilty when i do go out with a normal-sized guy sometimes b/c i feel like i don't look good enough in comparison. but i still go out with them. and height? as long as we aren't eye to eye when i'm in flats, i'm good. so yeah, i prefer taller than me.

I dated a guy who was a stick compared to me and by the time I married him, I was a stick compared to him.

Weight doesn't matter to me.

that being said, i feel kinda guilty when i do go out with a normal-sized guy sometimes b/c i feel like i don't look good enough in comparison. but i still go out with them.

haha I agree!

I'm six feet tall, so I don't think I have much choice with height. It doesn't bother me much, but I do admit giving a guy extra points if he is as tall or taller than me. I would date a guy that was shorter than me, which could lead to him possibly being lighter than me. It wouldn't matter.

As far as weight, I would just want him to be healthy. If he is obese, then that would most likely mean that he is not healthy. Same goes for if he were deathly skinny.

When I met my husband I was around 187lbs, he was barely 165. He's 5'11", I'm barely 5-even. I always felt self-conscious around him, but he didn't care about the extra pounds on me. Since he moved in with me over a year ago, he's up to 180, I'm down to 161. Role reversal :)

I asked him if there was one thing that he could change on me, what would it be. His response? "Smaller tummy". Guess where he gained the weight? Tummy. I told him "If I lose mine, you gotta lose yours. I loved his tight abs when I met him, and I want them back, dangit!

I don't think I'd date a guy shorter than me. People already tease me for my height, I wouldn't want major stares wherever I go. Then again, I married a black man, so I get stares anyway :P

I'm 5'6", 172.5 pounds (as of 6:30 this morning haha)

My boyfriend is 6' and 131 pounds.

Answer your question?

(and yes I hate that I weigh more than him :( But I still love him!)

I have never, in the 7.5 years I've been dating my boyfriend, been lighter than him. This is soon to change. At my highest weight, I was about 110 pounds heavier than him. Now I'm pretty sure I'm only 5 or 6 pounds heavier. (I'll find out). I will be smaller than him eventually. =)

Would I date someone smaller or larger than me, obviously yes on the first one and yes on the 2nd one. But now, I think I would have to put a limit on the healthy factor for someone else because I put in so much work.

I would not, on the other hand, date someone shorter than me. I'm almost 5'10" and I have a complex about it.

sidenote: rebepi-- you look absolutely amazing!

repebi, you look awesome! and i love the newest haircut. excellent job w/ the weight loss!

I've weighed the same or bit more and been taller (about 2") than all guys except 1 and my current bf I think. I wasn't very overweight so it didn't bother me all that much (I mean would prefer not to be of course lol, but no huge deal), part of it is my body type anyway. I actually find it common to see a heavy woman with a thin man.

rebepi you do look awesome!!

i've never before dated a guy shorter than me...but lately i've been hanging out with a guy who is my height 5'8, maybe a tiny bit shorter. and honestly...i think i'm having an issue with it! i wish i didn't, i don't think i'm generally a shallow person. i suppose i'm just insecure when it comes to that for some reason.

i would never even consider it.

but then again, most guys out of puberty are way larger than me so the issue's never really come up.

i don't really care about weight. if i'm attracted to the guy i'll date him. i've liked really skinny guys and guys that have had a little extra :)

Couldn't care less either way. My dad was 5'6" so I know the trials that short guys can face. That said, I wouldn't date anyone shorter or lighter than me because I'm married to someone 8 inches taller and 60lbs heavier than me. ^_^

I am 5'3" so it would be hard to find a guy who is shorter than me.  With that said all the guys I have ever dated including my husband have all been taller.  The closest guy to my height was about 5'5"-5'6".  Also with the greater height comes greater weight... my DH weighs about 200 lbs give or take, and I have never been close to that weight either, thankfully.  When we started dating he actually weighed more than twice what I do, but he has lost weight and I gained so now he only has about 60 lbs on me. 

Long story short, I've never really thought about it because it would be rare to find a guy who was smaller than me.  However I have seen a few and I don't find them attractive at all.  I definitely prefer larger guys.

I feel silly for asking, but what does DH mean?

I don't particularly find myself attracted to really small guys.  For one, I'm 5'2, 127-ish, so most guys who are smaller than I am are actually children.  I find that since I've become a healthy and fit person, I am only really attracted to other healthy and fit people.  Part of this is that I do not want to be involved with someone who lives an unhealthy lifestyle, because it's a slippery slope for me, lol.

My boyfriend is 6'5, and weighs more than twice what I do (he's not fat, he's built), it's a little ridiculous.  Sometimes I feel guilty because it seems like I should have left the tall guy for a taller woman and taken a smaller guy, that most women avoid, haha.