Dating and self esteem

Last time I dated I was 124 lbs. That was four years ago. I was in a relationship that ended 6 months ago.

Although the most important thing in my life right now is getting back in shape and healthy again, there is a part of me that would like to start dating a bit.

I've definitely changed my outlook on the type of man I would be interested in as I understand that life hits you with a bucket of Smarties sometimes to ease the pain and the next thing you know you've packed on major pounds.

I never thought it would happen to me or last as long as it did. I have never been so big in my life and it's difficult to feel comfortable socializing and running into people I used to know, let alone think about dating.

Does anyone have advice or experience in this area that might like to share?

Thank you

What it boils down to is time. It takes time and hard work to get back to that old weight. It takes time and hard work to find someone you feel comfortable dating. It takes time to get through life and once we are at the end guess what? Times up.

My point is; I wouldn't be waiting around to get back in shape to date and socialize. You certainly want friends, dates/mates and people in general to like you for who you are yesterday, today and tomorrow! We all go through self esteem issues and believe it or not there is someone out there who thinks you're beautiful no matter how much you weigh.

The important part is you are making changes now to get back in shape. The lucky guy who loves you as you are now will feel even that much more connected to you by seeing you through your lifes challenges.

My advice would be to keep doing what you're doing by trying to get healthy again. But don't put off doing things with friends or dating. All the socializing leads to more socializing and thats when you meet more and more people and then one day Mr. Right may pop up. Go on dates but don't put any expectations into it. Just look at it like fun socializing, when the right guy comes around it will be obvious. That can happen regardless of your weight.

Also, forget what people think about you. YOU know you are making positive changes and when the changes start to show you'll feel great!

i totally agree with stuperprohero... he could not have put it better!  Self esteem issues come at any size or shape, but when you focus on the things that really matter you realize that all you have is one life to enjoy.  So go out and enjoy every moment of it.  It will happen when it happens, i always say.  Dating/not dating... enjoy it!!!!