NO Dead line... Wear healthy not a swim suit.. Support GROUP.

Hello everyone.

This is an join in anytime support group. No topic off limits. You are welcome to share your day to day challenges, and personal goals. I'm looking for people who has no dead line.

I'm sick of this dead line weight loss talk.

I want to release some weight, and gain some new friends to walk this journey with me.

Here's what you have to do.

Join in..
Share your name.
Your reason for losing weightg.. NOT CLOTHING RELATED PLEASE...
And what was your wake up call to get on the right track.

This is a new start.  I don't want any weekly weigh ins here. I just want conversation.. Congrats if you have good news.. SHARE! If you need to vent.. Go a head.. If you need to cry.. Shoulder's are right here..

This is a support group.. No more fashion dead lines.. Let's make this a non dead line.. We are going to get to healthy. That's the goal here. To make it to healthy...

I hope to hear from a lot of you.

I hate deadlines, and I also hate the nit-picky calorie discussions (oh no, I ate 100 extra calories, what should I do!?), so thanks for the no nonsense group idea.

Strangely your question of why I want to lose weight is surprisingly hard to answer - I want to see if being lighter makes working out easier, I want to look great in photos, I want to be as healthy and fit as possible because I'm not getting younger, and yes, I want to look good in clothes.   Really, I'm just tired of feeling soft and pudgy. 

My wake up call at the beginning was seeing 200 on the scale.  I started counting calories etc, and got down to about 185.   But I don't want to count forever, so now my goal is to eat when hungry and only until I'm full enough (and do a sanity check on the calories once in awhile).   I eat pretty healthy food, I just tend to eat more than I really need to - because it is tasty.  I work out quite a bit, but want to add some more cardio in the form of jogging.

Hi was128 oddly.. I was 128 before too. Never thought of that as a name. I love it..

Anyway.. My name is LYNN, I was just about to jump on and tell my reason why I wanted to lose weight.

Well, I've been yo yoing for damn near 10 years. I would say 14, but what does a teenage knows about diet and exercise.

My wake up call was. I was small some years ago. I was never fat as a child, and why should I be fat now. Just because I gave birth to a few kids, and gainned a little weight. HELL! A lot of weight doesn't mean I have to live the rest of my life at this size now. I've always lost weight good after the birth of my children.

I'm just so sick of this dead line crap. 90 days to do this, and I must say. I was pushing the same crap. This is the deal here.. I had to get real. Get honest with myself. I yo yo.. And these dead line are yo yo factors.

I want to look good in a swim suit...
I want to look good on my wedding day. Who don't.

Right now.. I just want to wear healthy. Yes! I want my clothes to look good on me.. But I just want to wear healthy. I know what it looks like on me.. I've had it before, and I yearn to have it again.  That's my reason to release weight. NOT LOSE IT! Everytime I lose it.. HELL! I go right back out there and find it again. OR relpace it with new weight gain. I was 148 a few months back.. Now I'm currently 155.. Coming down from 166, and I feel I need to get off my butt and put myself into check.

I love lifting weights, and that ripped the weight off. Lifting weight and cardio. I can't find time to do both.. BUT! I can find time to do the wrong. Drinking and having clubbin' with my GF's ever once in a while.

I just need order. I need order to get to healthy. My children loves to go walking with me. IT's summer, and they say. They have my back.. I know it.. I love them. Going to ride bikes with my children in the yard now.. For an hour.. I hope to hear my chit chat from you all.. ADVICE IS WELCOME.... DO SHARE!

Hey there. I like this idea. I recently had the revelation that I think it's silly of me to set deadlines for my goals. I mean, I'm going to have to live like this for the rest of my life anyway, so what am I really counting down to?

Anyway. My name is Victoria. I'm 18 and a rising sophomore in college. I'm in NYC when I'm at school and near Philly when I'm at home.

I come from a fat family and was up to 200 by the time I was in 8th grade. Yikes! Senior year of high school, I went from 220 to about 185. By the end of that summer, I was 180. Then I gained 25 of those pounds back freshman year of college. So I'm currently 205-210 at 5'6".

My wake up call was that I got back up over 200 when I promised myself I never would. Also, first thing my father said when I got home for summer, after hello, was "You've gained a lot of weight." Also, my oldest brother has lost 130 pounds in the past 2 years, and he keeps saying I need to be more disciplined.

I don't want to be self-conscious anymore. I don't want to hide from cameras when I'm out with my friends. I want to be as confident about my body as I am about my personality. Ideally, I'll end up at a healthy 140-150. But I'm not too concerned about that. I just want to be healthy. I plan on not even weighing myself until Thanksgiving. :)

Hey - I'm not going to join your group, but would like to just add my support for it - when I started, I set arbitrary dates to reach milestones... and I missed every one of them. And then getting to that weight wasn't as sweet, because I had missed my date. Which sucks, because I worked damn hard to do it, even if it took me a little longer than I had hoped.

I put it in my profile, to remind myself - I don't set goal dates, just goals.

Amethystgirl, Thanks for sharing if you are still around. Thanks.....

Hi, Victoria....  Glad you stopped by and shared your reason why. It's one of those things you get sick of doing you know. Losing weight... You just want it over with you know. I know I do. I've been at this way to long. Setting dead-lines and dates.. And I tell you what. One happen to me as a joke.. 30 pounds on my 30th b day and I wasn't looking for it. It just happen. I call it a joke because.. The day after my B day party. I had put on 5 pounds. To eat or not to eat was going on all that night. I gave in... And I ate and ate... Looked good, but felt like a fool a week later when I saw I had gained 5 freaking pounds..

I find myself now.. I'm more adult about it.. I have nothing to prove to anyone.. I think that had a lot to do with my weight gain and yo yo's in the pass..

You tell your friends.. I'm going to be in such and such in so many weeks. Or do this in so many weeks.. And when it don't happen. You kinda hide.. I did anyway.. Then when they see you again.. You are much heavier than what you was when you started out. Well in my case a few times..

I get sick of the head games I play with myself. It's like.. You are on a mental war path with yourself and weight all at the same damn time.

Then you look for groups to carry you.. You come up with a group of friends to meet with you 3 times a week to go walking. Then you end up there  a few times alone and not walking at home. Going home. But on the way home.. Stoppin in a store for a bag of chips or something. That was me.

It took me 7 years to start this on my on, and not look for support. I had to learn how to support myself, and I'm still learning how.

I'm currently 155.8, and my lowest weight has been 148.. My heaviest since starting to lose weight has been 200-278..  It took me 2 years to get to 148. Starting in 2007, and now I'm working on year 3 of this.. I should have been at my goal weight by now. But it doesn't make any sense to beat myself up about it. Things happen.. But I have to learn how to let this be life and not a comp. or something.

hi I'm Rachel and the reason i need to lose weight is that at 41 I am walking with a walking stick and may need surgery for ankle and foot problems.  kinda think the extra weight might not be helping.  Not only that i have a gorgeous grandaughter, lulu, who i want to be able to spend time with and play with not just sit in a chair and get old too soon!!   I have a love hate relationship with food.  I will think stuff it I'm fat and happy and just eat and drink what i like for a while then its like this little voice keeps nagging at me to conform and lose the weight.  Up and down.  Have tried alsorts of diets and they are fine for the first two weeks when i am motivated then it all goes horribly wrong.  i want to lose about a pound a week if i can.  No big diet plan just eating good stuff most of the time but then eating cake or going for a few drinks with my husband and friends if i want to.  i love the idea that i can just dip in and out of this group and there is no pressure to tell how well its going or not.  i just want to get on with my life and let the food issue be a side issue not vice versa.  At 41 I have dieted on and off for more than half my life and i think i have to say there is definately more to life!!

Thank you for starting a place for me to feel good. I can never meet my goal I sabatoge myself or if I try and don't make it I give up altogether.

Here I have a place to say I want to be healthy, feel good about who I am again, live a long time with my husband and children by my side, without the necessary  how many lbs in how many day's... it's just too much pressure for me.

good luck to everyone here on your journey to a healthier happier you !!

You all are welcome. I get so sick of the word. Diet, Pounds, how many this week.. Weigh ins.. I just want to hear good healthy conv about today- each day, and what you did different today.

SO today.. Me and my kids went walking again. My oldest children went with me and my nephew. My baby girl wasn't feeling good at all and she stayed behind. That day 2 of walking with my kids behind me. I'm showing them health is the key here. Before.... I would not let them do a whole lot with me. Just the work out DVD's, but I trust them on the open road. We put 3 miles in again. Pushing for 4 miles this time. Oooooweee that's going to hurt.. But I love the hard deep hill walks, and I love doing it with my kids.

Hi Lynn!  I'm gonna jump on in here!  This is a good group you have going on here.  The other girls gotta get in on this too! LOL

For those who don't know me, I'm Tammy and I'm disabled. I started out in Oct '07 at 240 lbs at 5'6" and now I'm at 180 lbs.  I was at 170 for a few months but I gained 10 lbs.  But I'm having problems getting rid of the weight now.  I have bad back and leg pain and do what I can each day. 

I use to walk 4 miles, sometimes more when my leg was ok.  Lately, I'm not sleeping anymore.  Just about 5 hours a day.  That's it.  Not good for the weight either. 

I'm really trying to watch what I'm eating and I feel I'm doing my best, for once. 

I stopped setting goal dates.  I never met one!  I don't know how many challenges I have done.  I have one now, but mostly I feel I'm there for everyone else.  How sad is that???  But I do have goal pants I have in my closet I try on every now and then. 

Good luck to you all!!! 

Hi Lynn! This is a great idea.

I am here because I am trying to lose about 15 to 20 lb. My reasons for wanting to be here are really less to do with weight and more to do with confidence and health. I am an emotional eater, and I really want to feel more confident about managing my eating habits.I want to feel like food will not overwhelm me when I am vulnerable. I love cooking and eating, and I eat pretty healthy most of the time. 

The bingeing and mindless eating is really what gets me, and I am trying to change that. Most habit change takes time and effort. I am already beginning to see that I can make conscious choices in times of emotional stress or boredom, and it feels great!

I also want to wear pretty dresses and look great. All my life (I am 33) I have had a distorted body image and mostly worn shapeless unisex clothes even though I am not extremely overweight. I married the most wonderful man in the world two years ago, and I feel like I am attractive. I want to look well-toned and sleek and smart so that both he and I will be proud of me.

I recently had my annual medical exam and everything was great! My doctor was really happy!

Hi Tammy, and Isami.... WELCOME!

Hi girls, I just ate something for the first time all day.. And the total came out to be 560 calories. NO big deal you know. I'm not freaking. I'm going to bust my ass in a little while anyway.. A long walk is ahead of me. The 4 mile buster today. It looks like ran.. SO me and the kids are going to play pass off. With the ellipitcal. We haven't done this in a while, and we stayed we was going to give it a shot. SO! I'm going to start it off. With So many mins.. Then pass off. We got that from the BL you know-when they was doing the miles on the stationary bikes. We use the ellipitcal and the bike and see how many miles we do..

Well, I'm not blending myself out of shape today. OVER a few hundred calories. I hit the gym late last night. In there with hubs and friends at 12 until 2. I could not rest. I've been having sleep issues too Tammy. Finding it hard to sleep at night since I've been working a lot of nights other people homes. I hate that. I can't rest when I'm there to take care of someone. Even at night. I just can't do it. The other girls do it. You know.. Go right to sleep. I just can't rest. I'm cleaning up the people I watch place. Dusting and stuff. OH WELL!

My feet has not stepped on the scales since Monday. I don't care to see. You know.. I think I became a slave that some time ago. Then after the number started to go up and up.. AGH! It became a matter of whats the point.

I'm here for ya.. WE CAN DO IT!

HELLO EVERYONE.. HOW'S IT GOING?

I'm doing fine. Just feeling okay.. NOT 100% cheese happy, but what I'm feeling right now is going to have to do. I've been busting my butt all week. You know. I just want to say.. WHAT FOR.. Keep on working out and busting my butt because I know this all comes with a healthy life you know.

The scales moved for me this week. NOW! I have monday's weigh in.. Now here it is in my head.. I'm staying off for a few more days, and I hope it stays.. I'm eating around the same, but as of now. I feel like I'm eating less..

Not going to sweat it. I just have to get pass these problems.. DAY BY DAY! This is life. I hope to hear from each and every one of you..

Hi Lynn and everyone else,

I am okay, just so. For some weird reason over the past week my body clock has shifted and I am waking every morning at 5 am or earlier. Since I sleep only at 11 or 11.30 thats not nearly enough sleep and I am constantly tired and irritable.  I am SO ANNOYED because I feel like I am completely jetlagged.  Too tired to do much, and my house is a complete mess.

Have been working out regularly (1 hour on elliptical at 5.6 mph two days in a row; 45 mins of bodysculpting class earlier this week). But today I was too tired to do anything but walk an hour a little slower than I do normally.

Going to try buying dark curtains for my bedroom.

Nice little support group we have. x3

My name is Kalyn, 18 years old and a rising freshman in college.

My reason to lose weight is college.

I look at all the beautiful college girls and their perfect figures and me with a 20-pound tummy and ask: "Why can't I be like them?"

And my wake up call was when I looked at a video of myself making a large chocolate chip cookie cake. My stomach was the main focus of it.

>< I was so appalled by it.

And my boyfriend and I also vowed to lose weight together and be each other's support.

I'm currently 3.5 pounds away from my goal. Wish me luck!

Only 3.5 lb! Thats GREAT Kalyn! So close!

Keep up the great work!

2.5 pounds now. x3

Original Post by twilitwing:

2.5 pounds now. x3

Keep going, your so close!!!!  ;) 

Hi, my name is sophie aka pwndbyagirl  Hight 5 ft, age 24, start weight 205, current weight 195, goal 150-140ish

Oddly enough I wanna lose weight because I want to have babys. I am 24 and plan to have babys when im 30, I want 3. I have 6 years till my life changes, to a mommy and I wanna live these few young years healthy. Im studying to be a nurse, and after spending clinical time in maternity clinics I learned the risks for obese mothers. I also have been big my whole life and want to feel free of this fat. I want to be able to look in a mirror and go yay healthy Sophie!

I also am a hard core wow gamer, I want to prove that not all of us are fat slobs.

So there it is, wake up call was that if I dont change now, im going to live unhealthy forever, and obese moms are not helping their babys... its almost as bad if not worse then smoking while pregnate.

Nice to meet you all.

Pwn, Having your family the healthy and right way is a blessing. I know you are going to lose this weight. I feel you have an unselfish reason. It's a mother's reason. You are a mother at heart, and you want to have some healthy children, and you want to be health 100% in order to do that. I love that. That's nice. I'm a mother of 3.. Those our my children Girl, boy Girl, and then my God Son/ Nephew. His mother loves him.. But he's mines most of the time.. Always with Auntie Lindsay, and I don't mind it at all.. He's the only child, so I don't mind having him with my where ever I go.

Enough about that Gab.. Congrats on the new life. Keep moving forward..

Twill, You go on and do it. you are so close.. I'm so happy for you.. Keep it moving.

Tam, how's it going? Is everything okay in your life. I'm heading to the gym in a little bit. Late I know,but this is a part of my new program.. I've lost some more weight. So far.. I've dropped a total of 9 pounds so far. I'm working on it. I'm still rooting for you. I just upped my training, and added the protein in heavy. I and cut back 5 days a week, and enjoy myself 2 days a week. Sun and Wed.. I pig out.. No limit there.. I eat what I want.. 5 days during that week. I give my body a work over and hell. I have to stay focus in order to win this.

You know what. It's funny when you have to go on a diet to fit the clothes you didn't have at first. I mean. I gave all my fat clothes away.. And when I started to work my way back into them. I had to catch myself.. SLap myself in the face, and go back on a diet. The freaking world is to messed up for me to buy new fat clothes. I mean really.. I had to give myself a good talking too and get a grip on it. Then I came up with this plan to have it all just 2 days a week.. I eat some of this stuff until I get sick.. The good thing about the have it all. I work out during the day and at night. I do my double programs on these 2 days and normal one during the 5 day 1200-1400 calorie days.. AGH! It's almost 11 my time, and I need to get my A moving and in the wind. I will talk to you all about this plan I've been profecting later..

Bootser, Nice to meet you. I will get back and chat with you all. .You are going to get to your goal weight. This is  a nice support group. I don't want no one to really worry about the scales you know. The clothes you want to fit in. I just want every one here to think and focus on one thing, and that's there health. Clothes comes later my Older God Sister always would say to me.. Clothes come later.. Health comes first.. 

I will chat you all later, glad you all are joining me one by one.. I hope to read more from each and everyone of you.

Later GIRLS!